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How many of you are guilty of looking up someone you just met on the social media? Have you ever gone through their profiles to kind of get an idea of who they are and what they love doing? You haven’t? Well, I used to and did I discover a lot? (Story for another post I tell you)
Do you ever find yourself years deep into your cousin’s boyfriend’s sister’s page and you start to feel you might need no introduction when you finally meet such person?
No lies the social media really does blur the line and there are times we are tempted to feel we know strangers through feeding on their pictures and posts. I read an interesting Instagram bio recently, it read: you don’t know me, you know my Instagram. Really interesting right?
The allure of the social media is unending, from the man that wants to brag about his latest auto mobile to the lady that wants to show off her hot new love or the guy that wants to rant about his cheating girlfriend. However way we act, we all seem to leave a piece of ourselves for everyone to see (and perhaps feast on).
Relationships are not without their natural drama but the social media seems to add a
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My daughter rebuffed me after trying to force feed her. I obviously haven’t been sensitive to her sense of awareness. So much has changed about her in the recent months. She now has an opinion about almost everything, like her decisive turning of the head from side to side and dramatic mouthing of ‘no’ whenever I pick out clothes that doesn’t agree with her mood or how she gives me stern looks whenever I distract her from watching some programs (I have come to recognize are her favorites).

I had better not force her to wear a pair of socks she doesn’t find cool because nothing prepares one for the tantrums she’ld throw. Since her speech is not clear enough for me to make out all she says, Our conversations in my head go like 'Mummy, not the pink ones again' and me saying ''pink goes with the floral details in your dress honey'. I must confess it is very refreshing watching he make all these choices but I am delighted I am there to guide her not all she does is right.

Like most mums, I feel particularly proud that I am raising a child that can find her voice above what others think. I know you are saying what does a 20months old child know but I like to believe I am doing something right. I am respecting her right of choice while trying not to overindulge her (that’s story for another post).
I am hopeful she wouldn’t lose this part of her as she grows up in this society that tries to condition us to think certain way.
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Opinions are cool. I mean what would our world be like if we had uniform ones. Imagine if our thoughts were aligned towards same directions, what a boring world it would be. We’ll probably all use same phones, our favorite color will be the same, probably blue. I need to stop now, it’s unimaginable.

As different as our opinions are, we still fall prey to certain stereotypical thoughts like ‘all men cheat’, ‘all women are dramatic’ and some Christians even think all gays are terrible people, there are so many more but these pages wouldnt let me. It’s kind of hard not to put labels on people but it is the wrong way to go. In my growing years, I would have told a tattooed friend coming to visit me at home, to come covered up so as to avoid drama from my folks. All these stereotyped thoughts hinder our progress as a people.

I love the way the new Coca-Cola advert dealt with the issue. Six men from different walks of life were brought together in a dark room to share bits about their lives and they couldn’t believe their eyes when the lights were turned on.
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I was browsing the web some time ago when I stumbled on a list that summarizes the marital moral code in eight points.It was so on point that I thought it would be a good thing to share with you.

1. Avoid emotional intimacy with potentially attractive people. Do not try to help unhappy people who want to pour out their hearts to you. If someone begins confiding in you about their troubled relationship, suggest counseling and drop the subject.

2. Protect the privacy of your marriage. Do not discuss intimate relationship issues with opposite-sex friends. Do not mention relationship problems to anyone who dislikes your spouse or is anti-marriage. Do not discuss issues that would embarrass your spouse or make them look bad to someone else. Remember that relationship issues are best discussed with your spouse or in counseling.

3. Stay out of situations that could lead to trouble. Never meet alone (for drinks, dinner, or any other reason) with a potentially attractive person at the hotel where one of you is staying, not even in the bar or other public areas. Do not meet them anyplace where there is privacy and a bed or couch, such as their apartment or their office after hours. When you are at conferences or out of town meetings have dinner and drinks in groups rather than one-on-one. Do not do anything with a potentially attractive person that could be construed as a date.
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I was browsing the web some time ago when I stumbled on a list that summarizes the marital moral code in eight points.It was so on point that I thought it would be a good thing to share with you.

1. Avoid emotional intimacy with potentially attractive people. Do not try to help unhappy people who want to pour out their hearts to you. If someone begins confiding in you about their troubled relationship, suggest counseling and drop the subject.

2. Protect the privacy of your marriage. Do not discuss intimate relationship issues with opposite-sex friends. Do not mention relationship problems to anyone who dislikes your spouse or is anti-marriage. Do not discuss issues that would embarrass your spouse or make them look bad to someone else. Remember that relationship issues are best discussed with your spouse or in counseling.

3. Stay out of situations that could lead to trouble. Never meet alone (for drinks, dinner, or any other reason) with a potentially attractive person at the hotel where one of you is staying, not even in the bar or other public areas. Do not meet them anyplace where there is privacy and a bed or couch, such as their apartment or their office after hours. When you are at conferences or out of town meetings have dinner and drinks in groups rather than one-on-one. Do not do anything with a potentially attractive person that could be construed as a date.
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It is hard not be perceived as really weird. Imagine getting notifications on your phone around 1.00am in the dead of the night, of a total stranger liking dozens of your pictures on Instagram. That weirdo could be me.
I couldn’t remember how I found myself on that particular page on Instagram but I was glad to be there and lost in every picture contained on the page. I could be a pessimist at times but at my best, I am a champion of love. The page is jointly run by a couple and the pictures told of their different ventures and adventures. I wondered if they just play dress up or they are always as glam as every picture told. It is easy to be envious of their ‘perfect’ life. It is almost like a fairy tale and you might be right if you say such place doesn’t exists, but pictures are such great reminders of happy times. It is delightful to freeze moments and be able to relive them by getting lost in the details of the day that was.
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I used to be so naïve about many things and too shy to ask questions on issues that could probably save my life. I was that kid that loved to be left alone. I naively thought I had a gentle character when I was very well sleeping on my rights half of the time. As time progressed, I discovered nobody is going to look out for me better than I look out for myself so I made conscious steps to speak up and whenever I am not clear about certain issues, I don’t hesitate to ask questions.

I have applied this philosophy of mine several times and it has helped me a lot.

There are times I get asked questions too and I try my best to answer to the best of my ability.
An acquaintance asked me some time ago if I thought the guy she was involved with loves her. It sounded like a trick question to me at first ‘because I thought it was a no brainer. Why should one think the person that one is exclusively in love with doesn’t share same feelings with one? But this things do happen. Perhaps it is one of those cases where one thing led to another and you are not really sure if both of you are a ‘thing’ or not. It could also be one of those cases where the person you are involved with is hot and cold.
Whatever the case may be, nothing compares to getting mixed signals and wanting to know where one stands.
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I had a chat with a friend of mine recently and we shared a laugh over women that try to analyse a man’s purse from the first date. We all know that could be a wrong analysis, seeing as people set out to impress on first dates but many women are guilty of this.

We try to keep our cool and take things as they come but our analytical minds always take over. We find ourselves taking in every information from the first time we meet a potential suitor and project same into our future to see if such man fits into our big picture.

Have you ever caught yourself saying a prayer to God about needing a partner that is ‘rich’, and then you catch yourself midair and probably mutter to God to forgive your secular mind?
Come-on, don’t be like that. God doesn’t detest wealth.

Really though, who are we fooling.Money is an important factor in a relationship.
If I were to check by a show of hands, I will discover that there are not many people that are interested in taking long stressful walks with their partners especially when the road looks endless.
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People meet, people love, and people leave.
It is just one of the mysteries of life.
Love is probably the most abused emotion. Not everyone we love would love us back same way. Humans are gifted with understanding many languages but one word that defiles understanding sometimes is goodbye.
You’d be surprised how incomprehensible goodbye can be even for some of the smartest people.
Breakups happen for different reasons and in some cases, it isn’t pretty. You’d find some people still holding on to memories that were once shared in the hope of reigniting an already quenched fire. They stay back even long after the other person has moved on.

Not every break up is unpleasant and it is normal to see ex-lovers who make really good friends. However there are cases of ex-lovers who don’t understand when there is someone new and they still want to call in the middle of the night or wouldn’t stop with the endearing words in their messages. They get so carried away that they forget it is not alright to do some of the things that used to be ok.
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No be by force jare... Save your mb

Omololu007:
If i click dat link,mak i turn to goat

hahaha... Just click na... ... The link no dey chop mb

Teempakguy:
Hehehehe . . . . stop.
Just stop.

Reverse . . .

Oyah, come and post it here.

Yes . . . I no fit click that link.

I seek to understand many things. I seek to understand especially how one can be in love with someone that consistently beats and abuses one and vice versa. How does one forgive such person? How does love work in such instance? I know wounds heal but scars are ugly reminders of times we wished we never had to go through. I once asked a friend of mine how she coped with her abusive boyfriend and she said ‘Fisayo, you should get to know him, you’ll realize he is not such a bad person, he just has a bad temper’.

I wanted to scream at her then and probably borrow her my eyes to take a look at her life through but somethings were not so logical. Hers was not the only one, there are so many other cases. While in the university, there was a time we had to break the doors of one of our neighbors to rescue her from her abusive lover.

There was this other time when I was much younger when I witnessed one of our neighbors descend on his wife like a lion does its prey and rip her off every piece of clothing. What was sadder was their young kids cowered in a little corner, visibly shaken from the ordeal. It took the intervention of other neighbors to rescue her and the kids. Sad thing is she stayed with him after that till she almost died during one of those brutal beatings that she decided enough was enough and escaped with her kids in the dead of the night.

Having seen different cases of abuse, I have noticed common traits in the characters of those abused and they are as shared below:
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After you must have ‘finally’ hooked up with a brother and probably must have been seeing the brother for a number of years , it is alright to expect that at some point your status changes from being a miss to a Mrs. In fact if you have no such expectations, the society would subliminally ask you. Your friends and family are going to greet all of your Hi’s with ‘when are we coming to eat your rice’ or stylishly refer to the brother as our in law and building up on ‘your’ dreams for you. It could be a really annoying situation but it is what it is.
Love is a beautiful thing but there is such thing as delusion. It makes no sense that a brother that is of age is dating a sister that is also of age but can’t make up his mind whether or not to put a ring on it. In a subsequent post, we will be discussing how to make a brother make up his mind but this post will be dealing with those signs that will tell you he would never propose.
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The media has changed people’s expectations of proposals. It has gone far beyond a love struck and assured man getting on one knee to ask the hand of the lady of his dreams in marriage. It is so much more fanciful. Although some of us might argue but many of us live for the ‘awwws’ and likes we get from our followers on the social media. Some proposals are even more expensive than wedding budgets. It really cannot get more dramatic than when that “will you marry me’ question is popped. From choosing to propose in dream destinations to overly populate places, we all would agree proposals are so much different from what they used to be.The whole world seem to pause and wait on the answer. Often times, the answer is Yes but there are times things go south and one’s heart is left in several broken pieces.

Bearing in mind that a thousand and one things could go wrong, one needs to be well equipped. You don’t want to be caught wishing you could have pressed rewind and changed things at an already late time. Being a soldier of love, I feel the need to look out for people’s hearts so your enthusiasm about love doesn’t become washed out.

There are many things you need to consider before taking that huge step of asking someone to marry you. It is already established that you are in love with the person and the person checks out on your list of what you want in a life partner. The question you might want to ask yourself is if the person feels the same way.
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Sex is deeply overrated – or not.
We talk about sex in hush tones like it is something forbidden. It was refreshing reading Demi’s post on embracing lust and I couldn’t agree more.

The importance of sex can’t be overemphasized. A study shows that many men prioritize sexual satisfaction in their marriages. Meaning a sexually satisfied man is a happy man. While some might want to argue that men are the only ones that enjoy sex, truth is women do too. So, a sexually satisfied couple is a happy couple.

You’d be surprised however at how awfully dissatisfying the sex life of many married couples are. I have discovered from listening to people’s stories and reading several articles that this has nothing to do with losing interest in one’s spouse. It just degenerates to a routinely chore due to the way it is approached by some couples . Our fast moving society with her many responsibilities weighs on one's mood some times and takes the desire away. Kids come and taking care of them can be very demanding or you might feel it doesn’t hold any surprises any longer. Whatever the reason might be, if not checked, it could lead to a major problem.

If sex in your marriage has become so boring, you could try some of the things listed below to tweak things a bit.

Read more at http://www.covenantrelationships.org/2015/05/for-married-couples-6-ways-to.html

Segun met Sade.
Segun proposed his love for Sade.
Sade feels same way.
Sade marries Segun.
Segun and Sade lived happily ever after.
Who are we kidding? Relationships are never that easy. There are always complicated knots and unrehearsed twists to give the stories totally different endings.
Many of us love to think of ourselves as very independent especially when it comes to decision making but circumstances has since shown this is not totally true.
Our decisions are products of what we think divided by what our immediate family thinks multiplied by public opinion.
A friend once told me she wasn’t going to marry a guy she was in a relationship with for a number of years because she is sure her parents wouldn’t accept him.
My question is how involved should parents be in helping their children choose their spouses. Should they even be involved at all? Does it matter whatever it is they think?
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My heart bled when I read a story about how five children killed and buried another child. All I could think of is where did their parents go wrong? How could those children conceive such thoughts and act so savagely? My heart broke even more because that wasn’t the first I have read of such stories. It just says a lot about how fast our society is decaying. I have witnessed how kids taunt themselves and make life miserable for one another. I remembered being in tears while I watched a programme about children’s brutality where kids bullied and pulled another child’s hair till her scalp fell off. The damage done was so bad that the child affected needed major surgery.

Who are those raising these little monsters? It is so disheartening that these ones that are supposed to be the hope of an already diseased world might even be worse than those before them.

The present society imposes lots of responsibility on the individual that it is almost hard to find a balance between family and work. We shamelessly chase after material success, wanting to drive the latest cars and live in the fanciest houses. We leave these kids to be raised by violent video games and movies. We totally forget real wealth lies in the legacy of goodwill we live behind, the true leaders we are able to raise. We neglect our primary call to be examples to this young ones we have birthed.
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WHAT KIND OF HUSBAND ARE YOU?

Below are few categories of husband:

(1). Autocratic Husband- He is a self-knowledge, self-involved, unbending, unyielding husband. Nobody can correct him, nobody can counsel him. To him, he knows everything. He is very arrogant and stubborn. He has no ...mentor. He does not fear, honor or respect anybody..
(2). Corrosive Husband- He is abusive; hot tempered and a wife beater. He is not in charge of his temper. He is a no-joke, no-play, no-laughter and no-nonsense man. He shouts and barks at home.
(3). Solo Husband- He stays in separate room away from his wife. He is a “single” married man. He prefers sharing his secret with friends; the only time he talks to his wife is when he needs food and sex.
He is self-centered; his common words are “I”, “me”, “mine” and “myself”. He is full of self-glorification, self-justification and stinginess.
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click jare..

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]Thanks.

But not clicking. [/color]

Often times we fan the embers of a flame that has long gone. We reach out for a hand that is no longer there to meet ours. We long for love that has long packed its bags and moved to another house. It is not our fault most times, it is just so hard to accept that what used to be is no more.
I know it is very hard to accept but somethings are not worth wasting one’s time and emotions over. Stop being so naive sweetheart,If a man loves you,you wouldn’t be by yourself wondering what could have or should have been.
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Who made these rules? Even the greatest men have been known to love unapologetically. Not letting a woman know how deeply you care might make her become really insecure and probably create bigger issues. Pretence never helps anything. Being vulnerable is what most men are scared and i think it is wrong to assume showing how much you care would make you feel taken for granted.

publicenemy:
Its not a crime... But showing her how much you do is. Ur friend got irritated becos the man was really being a sissy... Strong mend who really love their wives leave their wives in the dark about it.. But when anything threatens the happiness or life of his wife he deals with it with such ferocity that his wife is shocked at how far he is willing to go for her...when u start making a woman know you would pull the sun for her,they involuntrily start acting up... But when you treat her with absolute respect yet make her feel there are extents you won't go she feels like the wife.

try open am jare.. u fit learn na

temitemi1:
The op won cajole me to open the link abi

Haba... so showing love is feminine.... How will the woman know if he never tells?

xpac01:
He can but he shouldn't show her or she will see him being feminine.

read first na..

Luedave:
Wu can gve dis op a bread and orijin 4 brkfast

I was going through one of the popular blogs when a male colleague of mine who is also a friend bent over my left shoulder from behind to catch a full glimpse of my computer screen. I was reading an open letter a husband wrote to his wife and I was taken by its sentimental nature. The author of the letter shared details of how great his life has been since marrying his wife. My friend joined me in reading and got really irritated in the course of reading it that he hissed loudly and spat out that the man is such a sissy for loving his wife so much. - See more at: http://www.covenantrelationships.org/#sthash.554YhzoJ.dpuf

Has it suddenly become a crime for a man to bare his feelings for his wife to the world?

The one attached now

Naughtysite:
Which post ?

Naughtysite:
Which post ?

I believe love comes bottled differently. Every bride doesn’t have to be long,short slim or whatever specification perfect has in the majority’s brains. Love comes in different sizes so does sexy but I might be wrong.
What do you think? Is finding a husband directly proportional to one's body mass?
Please read post and share your thoughts.

http://www.covenantrelationships.org/2015/05/getting-marriedladies-whats-dress-size.html