₦airaland Forum

FuckYeyeMods:
Wetin I know be say, I can't heal with my wife still leaving together.
I made a very big mistake but I sincerely know that my children need her right now.
I won't give her custody of the children or any of them. But I also know that I'm not really ready to take that responsibility alone right at this moment. What about my career. Will I shuffle between work and cooking, bathing and taking full care of the children. All those question keep coming up in my mind.

And you think you are a good father or husband yourself bah?
I won't give my parent any of them and she can't go with any of them.
She can't make a man out of me, how on earth will I allow her to have my children.
Sincerely, my wife is a case study and not a good woman. She's a very bad example of inter tribal marriage.
Unfortunately, her family are no different from her.

letskeeptalking:
I'm not sure what is making all the men here angry!

letskeeptalking:
But I have other kids, and even though my oldest is fragile, I worry about about the kind of example I'm setting for the younger ones too. My 7-YO told me that she's never going to get married, that when she's grown and rich, she will just buy kids



I don't think he cares too much about her 'state of mind' . . . He's just one of those men that just don't care about ANYTHING. I don't really want to pass any blames because I know I'm not the best person to live with, but he has said on several occasions that if I leave him I will raise the kids alone. He even told them that if I divorce him, they won't get to see him anymore. I know he's weaponizing them and I didn't care when I left the first time. But he twisted her mind so much that she physically fell sick from anxiety. A lot of things came out during counselling, that I don't want to talk about here, but I strongly believe that he doesn't care about the kids, even though he pretends to, and puts up appearances for appearances sake.

And no, I don't have a son. . . just daughters!

And no, cheating is not the problem. I gave him the go ahead to do that because he wanted a son and I didn't want to have anymore kids . . not for him anyway!



Like I said, I have my issues, but at least I'm aware and I'm working on them. He is refusing to face his, and I can't help him with that. I almost lost myself trying.

My family is aware and they support any decision I make. The first time I left, he went back to Nigeria and went with his family to "beg" for me to return . . made a lot of promises. I think I forgave too quickly.