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Mekzyzeus:
People like you are the reason guys eventually becomes assholes to other good girls.
"He's not presentable, He doesn't earn much" ?? Oh really ??
If you aint in love with him, breakup already and stop leading the young man on!!
But remember..Karma is real. In the nearest future, you will probably be praying for that "good hard working considerate young man" I pray it doesn't happen to you though

Is hoping to find someone I truly love now a crime

sconp:
There are two things you can decide to do:

1. Brush him up
2. Let him go


1. From your post one could deduct that you don't love him because he's not as presentable as you want him to be. You want a guy who you would confidently present to your friends. A guy that would make them nod their heads in approval and applaud you. Since he's a good man like you said have you tried subtly to make him presentable? If it would be possible, go shopping with him, select clothes that you know would look good on him(clothes that are pocket friendly). Subtly convince him to iron his clothes that it would make him look dapper and that you care about how he looks. etc Certain people at some point of their lives weren't presentable until they were either brushed up by someone or saw the need to look better themselves.

2. If it's too much of a hassle walk away, because he's probably planning for marriage. It's better you tell him early that you aren't feeling the vibe of the r/ship anymore, than waste his time (he doesn't have much of it left according to society).

To walkaway or to work on him is your decision to make.

My fear is that what if I brush him up and still feel the same way

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I am in a relationship with a 34year old guy and I am 25 and to be truth full he is what you will call a good guy. He is caring doesn't demand much from me supports my dream and even kept to my rule of no sex before marriage.
The issue now is that I  am not in love with him. Although I do like him and appreciate the kind of love he has shown me for the past two years, I am not in love with him  like I expect to be with someone I intend to spend the rest of my life with. He is a simple guy , not handsome but presentable . The issues I have with him is that he looks his age and it bothers me at times that I feel as I am dating a very old person. he doesn't earn much  which does not allow him to spend money on himself to dress well and look fsshionable .Also he is not the going out type as he is a Doctor and most times busy at the clinic. 
I had a boy friend before him , whom  I was so in love with that when we broke up becauae he wasn't ready to commit  I felt my world had stopped.  
I want to love  like that again and not settle because I feel he is a good man that almost everyone is searching for.

Do you think I am not wise for trying to give him up in order to find someone I truely love that's closer my age?