Thank you for all your responses,am so greatfull but i must frank here,what i feel for this lady is love and not lust because i know the difference,i am not a man that plays around and i have never cheated on my wife before even before we were married,THE SIMPLE TRUTH IS THAT I AM IN LOVE WITH THIS LADY,I REALLY AM,though i dont to hurt my wife so i guess i have to look for a way to deal with this

Thank you all for your responses but i must be honest here,its not lust i feel for this lady,i love this lady,i know the difference between lust and love so i know what i am talking about but i dont want to hurt my wife so i guess i have to look for a way to deal with this

i still cant belive how i got to this stage,well let me start from somewhere,i married my wife four years ago and we have two boys right now,one is 4 whille the other one is just a year old now,i have always looked at my wife best friend more as a sister than anything else,she was there for us when we were getting married,she really helped out a lot and she was the chief bridemaid to my wife.she is always in our house to see my wife,this whole thing started about five months ago, when my wife asked me to drop her off in ibadan one day,on the trip to ibadan we spoke a lot and i discovered she had so many qualities i like in a woman,needless to say i started developing a feeling for her.one day i came back from work to meet her in the kitchen cooking(she normally does this a lot whenever my wife is not around with the permission of my wife of course)looking at her from the back i was amazed,i had never seen her so beautfull before with such a wonderfull shape she was wearing jeans with a white top,meeen she was looking so sexy and beautfull,it was like i was seeing her for the first time in my life,honestly i tried to supress my feelings that day i couldnt even talk straight with her,before long i couldnt concentrate on my work again,i am always dreaming about her,every thought in my head is about her,i just cant get her off my mind no matter how i try,right now,my wife no longer excites me again,infact nothing else but her thoughts fill my heart everyday,one day i touched her in her buttocks but pretended it was a mistake and she didnt say anything,honestly i want to go further by telling her how i feel,please nairalanders help me out (i am new to this forum,came acrooss it recently and i love the way people are being advised here)i am going crazy for this lady because i love her very very very much now but i dont want to hurt my wife but i cant help myself,i love this lady