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soulglo: Maybe you can find someone in the support group that's a little older than you and maybe has been positive a little longer. He/she could be a mentor to you. You might not be able to get to the group but you could talk to someone once a week over the phone or email. You shouldn't have to figure it out alone and being in contact with someone thriving with the same diagnosis can help you. Good luck

K. Tx

fsb: Hello futbol77,

Okay. So the good news is that I have come to know several sero-discordant couples over the years. More recently, I met a young man in his early thirties who got married to an HIV positive lady. So far so good, I am not aware of any issues most especially since the issue of HIV was discussed before they got married. He usually has a rapid test done on himself every 3 months at the hospital his wife receives treatment.

Having said that, I understand what you think and I'm sure that other people may be better qualified to advice you but what I have to say is that you need to overcome that feeling of self-loath that comes from time to time and get on with your life. I say this because I know a few people who prefer HIV to what they are experiencing at the moment.

Digression aside, the support group at the facility you access care can be of help here. You would get to meet others and who knows what can happen from there.

Thanks fsb.
Didn't join the support group because were I live is quite far from where I access help but will consider joining one soon.

Something stopped working in me 2 yrs ago when I was tested +ve for HIV. Didn't know d news would hit me that hard but it did, ever since I've not been myself, maybe its my disposition as a person, I don't know. Not been in a relation after that as I immediately ended the one I was into at the moment. Hope talking about this will help me. I ought to be married by now but how am I going to tell someone i want to settle down with that I'm +ve, well someday I hope I'll be able to put the pieces together and be the dream I have for myself, hope the someday will be soon