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Samantha125:Was the thread about her losing her child? |
LiveData:Didn't u get the message? Everyone is not skilled in the art of writing u know! |
Mariangeles: |
Samantha125:So you know her? |
Mariangeles:This 'truth' na 'above the bar' lol |
Mariangeles:That's the truth.. Anything wrong in a husband being Voltron for his wife? |
Mariangeles:I didn't lie.Maybe I exaggerated some bits. I was kinda paranoid. |
Shalommy:What else do u want to hear? |
Mariangeles:You are very wrong. She's not the type. |
This is sequel to an earlier thread https://www.nairaland.com/8445299/what-saw-wifes-whatsapp-chat I want to thank everyone for the advise both good and bad even though I did not highlight my own flaws. I married my wife because she is the only one I've met that wasn't normal. I dated many girls when I was younger. Alot. They were all the normal girlish types. They drooled over me. They apologised and even cried if they went wrong(I de feel like obasanjo.. Lol) . They wrote emotional notes on cards or even sent emotional love messages.If they come to my house, they clean, wash and cook delicious meals. I enjoyed having them.. Some of them even use to sing love songs to me and professed love.. I was a handsome dude with a good job. You see, my wife is the only girl I've met that didn't do all these. In beauty she wasn't comparable to the babes I dated-She is jusk ok(she always kept a frowning face by default) . She's Tom boyish like. Very independent minded. She couldnt cook or even clean(but has enormous strength in other good areas) . She wasn't drooling over me.So I became spellbound wanting to find out more. She is a good woman and very loyal. I married her knowing how she is. She has improved in the cooking now tho not 100%. I even taught her most of what she knows but I get frustrated atimes by calling her names and shouting at her especially when I knew she didn't know basic things like steaming meat or even how to hold a knife to cut vegetables. She was never the emotional type so it's not that she changed(forgive me for saying she has been acting wierd.. She has always been wierd) . I feel she talks to me anyhow but in truth that's how she talks. In thier family they talk aggressively compared to me that came from a home where we talk in a calm way. I have tried to make her talk with me in a calm way but she can't help it. She won't cheat on me.. I know women a little. She comes straight from work and she doesn't go anywhere that I don't know(she is a good woman and has a good heart) . She doesn't make up, doesn't even dress to impress anyone. She doesn't even buy things for herself but for our home. I make it a duty to buy her clothes- make she even de try small. That message could mean anything but why should I suspect the worst? My wife is not reactive as I am. She's never checked my phone for hints. She doesn't hide her phone and I have access to it anytime. I won't divorce her.She knows her situation(so she plays attack these days.. Lol) I will Instead show more leadership and care. She is already going through a lot.Imagine losing a child and an all just to be diagnosed with diabetes.. Its a lot to bear. My idea of love is not her idea of love cos she is different and was raised differently. She believes we should be like friends in the marriage but I hammer on respect all the time. I even later showed her the former thread and didn't say anything(thats her nature). If I demand an apology for what she said, she won't give it. She'l by herself think it over for 2weeks and apologise.. (I am not built that way-If in reverse, I would apologise immediately and get it off my chest) I will go ahead and do surrogacy for her to have her own children.Lastly, She remains my wife and that's final. |
alobright17:Don't take what I said.take what is in the picture.thanks |
alobright17:Is there a 'we'? |
KillahPriest:She is not the outgoing type..we spent time away from home but she always looks unhappy and I feel she is just getting by..my thoughts sha..because she keeps a frowning face by default..lol |
SmellingAnus:You are right |
[quote author=Mxxx post=135657637][How do you react to that? How do you handle the situation?quote author=Futuristica post=135656829] what can I do?was planning to do surrogacy to have kids with her.we live abroad but now am skeptical about it because once children are involved and if there is no love..that's a weapon against me |
Exceed15:..lol..I strong bro..na clarification na em I need to act o |
ARISHEM:a spot check is necessary bro..better to know what's up than to be taken by suprise |
shortgun:Probably.But if love is gone as they say,then what's left? |
Zonefree:Nope..she lost her womb in that pregnancy |
Zonefree:even lost our pregnancy due to too much sugar intake against my advice..now she is fully diabetic |
shortgun:Point is,I don't even want to catch her.But I suspect she had a thing that has ended.whats ur view about the message her work colleague sent her? |
Zonefree:She doesn't cook or cannot and not willing to learn as she was burning food daily.some lies here and there,invested huge monies repeatedly and lost them in ponzy schemes against my advice,she never apologises,talks to me anyhow etc |
Zonefree:I meant like is she keeps doing the wrong things or acting nonchalant |
Zonefree:She doesn't have a child for me yet after over 7years and I can say that I started the divorce thing first as I was fond of threatening her that if she doesn't do right,we may have to have a divorce |
My wife has been acting weird for some months now, like she doesn't apologize if she is wrong, doesnt try to seek avenues for us to reconcile if we have quarrels. Instead, I am the one that always put the foot forward. If I point out something, she shows no remorse. She often says things like 'this life na once' . Just a background. I stumbled on this message sent by her workplace close girl friend. This tiktok message talks about falling in love with a married man because the man makes her feel loved etc etc. But the caption below by the friend says, we will miss you so much. My mind has been wondering what it means. I woke her from sleep to confront her to explain what the message means (it's a message sent this January) ..she looked scared or maybe anxious as I asked her if she had cheated on me with anyone recently.. offcourse ,'no' is the normal answer. I showed her the message for her to explain what it was about . She said she can't remember what it was about and that she doesn't know. When I pressed further, she started gaslighting that if I feel she cheated, I should give her a divorce . Dear house, what are you views on this matter? I am more concerned about what this message might mean. Please be fair in your judgement. Thank you.
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I keep wondering why the party cannot expel Wike.. E de shock me |
Just like this Banker that bought boxers from credit... Lol https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=43qYZR71nSM?si=UflMOMFwJWaLaZRu |
As a Banker, if you travel abroad then you will know that your years in banking was a waste. No core skill especially if you did all these operations and marketing which is 90% of what everyone is doing. You won't get promoted for getting ACCA but in a consulting firm ACCA is a must to become manager This Banker really tried but..... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=43qYZR71nSM?si=UflMOMFwJWaLaZRu
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helinues:Your contract never finish? ![]() |
@chidiokay $400..going going |
PressMyButton:This sounds like reno's CV |
chidiokay:I asked you to show me anything that suggest that ananaias and saphira paid tithes,as expected..u come de dodge.guy ok..I will give $300 if you show me anything to suggest say na tithe dem been give. |

