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RomanceRe: Hi guys! by Futuristica(op): 9:02pm On Jun 08, 2025
Samantha125:
I don't need to know her to know that you're a bad husband... You're busy portraying yourself as a saint while demonizing her.

How would you feel if you lost your child and balls and she opened a thread about it? Would you rejoice?
Was the thread about her losing her child?
RomanceRe: Hi guys! by Futuristica(op): 8:29pm On Jun 08, 2025
LiveData:
Very repulsive reading this at first!

Help the reader ... Everything was just packed like a can of sardine!
Didn't u get the message? Everyone is not skilled in the art of writing u know!
RomanceRe: Hi guys! by Futuristica(op): 8:28pm On Jun 08, 2025
Mariangeles:
Better go beg your wife!
No be this one wey you dey here dey yarn.
🙄
shocked
RomanceRe: Hi guys! by Futuristica(op): 8:26pm On Jun 08, 2025
Samantha125:
You come from a family that talks in a calm way, but you'd call her names and shout at her for not steaming the meat or holding the knife the right way? Is that your definition of being calm?

And what kind of a good husband brings his wife's sensitive issues on a public platform without consulting with her first? If you had lost your child and balls, were you gonna be okay with her opening a thread about it on this same forum?
So you know her?
RomanceRe: Hi guys! by Futuristica(op): 7:35pm On Jun 08, 2025
Mariangeles:
Na wetin God send me come nairaland come do...to hammer truth inside people head, both men and women. undecided
That truth wey nobody wan talk/hear, I go talk am.
This 'truth' na 'above the bar' lol
RomanceRe: Hi guys! by Futuristica(op): 6:30pm On Jun 08, 2025
Mariangeles:
So, why did you lie against your wife, and allow bitter nairalanders call her all sorts of names?
Did that make you feel good?
A woman you were supposed to protect.




"She's not the type." Now, you defend her! 🙄
That's the truth.. Anything wrong in a husband being Voltron for his wife?
RomanceRe: Hi guys! by Futuristica(op): 6:29pm On Jun 08, 2025
Mariangeles:
So, why did you lie against your wife, and allow bitter nairalanders call her all sorts of names?
Did that make you feel good?
A woman you were supposed to protect.
I didn't lie.Maybe I exaggerated some bits. I was kinda paranoid.
RomanceRe: Hi guys! by Futuristica(op): 6:26pm On Jun 08, 2025
Shalommy:
Op, is that all? undecided
What else do u want to hear?
RomanceRe: Hi guys! by Futuristica(op): 6:24pm On Jun 08, 2025
Mariangeles:
Your wife told you to come and make this confession, after lying against her, and smearing her image, right? undecided




You know why I quoted the post? For keepsake.
So that you won't change your mind and delete it.
You are very wrong. She's not the type.
RomanceHi guys! by Futuristica(op):
This is sequel to an earlier thread


https://www.nairaland.com/8445299/what-saw-wifes-whatsapp-chat



I want to thank everyone for the advise both good and bad even though I did not highlight my own flaws.
I married my wife because she is the only one I've met that wasn't normal. I dated many girls when I was younger. Alot. They were all the normal girlish types. They drooled over me. They apologised and even cried if they went wrong(I de feel like obasanjo.. Lol) . They wrote emotional notes on cards or even sent emotional love messages.If they come to my house, they clean, wash and cook delicious meals. I enjoyed having them.. Some of them even use to sing love songs to me and professed love.. I was a handsome dude with a good job.
You see, my wife is the only girl I've met that didn't do all these. In beauty she wasn't comparable to the babes I dated-She is jusk ok(she always kept a frowning face by default) . She's Tom boyish like. Very independent minded. She couldnt cook or even clean(but has enormous strength in other good areas) . She wasn't drooling over me.So I became spellbound wanting to find out more.
She is a good woman and very loyal. I married her knowing how she is. She has improved in the cooking now tho not 100%. I even taught her most of what she knows but I get frustrated atimes by calling her names and shouting at her especially when I knew she didn't know basic things like steaming meat or even how to hold a knife to cut vegetables.
She was never the emotional type so it's not that she changed(forgive me for saying she has been acting wierd.. She has always been wierd) .
I feel she talks to me anyhow but in truth that's how she talks. In thier family they talk aggressively compared to me that came from a home where we talk in a calm way. I have tried to make her talk with me in a calm way but she can't help it.
She won't cheat on me.. I know women a little. She comes straight from work and she doesn't go anywhere that I don't know(she is a good woman and has a good heart) .
She doesn't make up, doesn't even dress to impress anyone. She doesn't even buy things for herself but for our home. I make it a duty to buy her clothes- make she even de try small.
That message could mean anything but why should I suspect the worst? My wife is not reactive as I am. She's never checked my phone for hints. She doesn't hide her phone and I have access to it anytime.
I won't divorce her.She knows her situation(so she plays attack these days.. Lol) I will Instead show more leadership and care. She is already going through a lot.Imagine losing a child and an all just to be diagnosed with diabetes.. Its a lot to bear. My idea of love is not her idea of love cos she is different and was raised differently.
She believes we should be like friends in the marriage but I hammer on respect all the time.
I even later showed her the former thread and didn't say anything(thats her nature).
If I demand an apology for what she said, she won't give it. She'l by herself think it over for 2weeks and apologise.. (I am not built that way-If in reverse, I would apologise immediately and get it off my chest)

I will go ahead and do surrogacy for her to have her own children.Lastly, She remains my wife and that's final.
RomanceRe: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by Futuristica(op): 3:16pm On Jun 07, 2025
alobright17:
Bros eyes Dey pain you or you’re just joking ? Say you did not see it instead of saying there’s nothing like that on the post . Now see the screenshot .
Don't take what I said.take what is in the picture.thanks
RomanceRe: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by Futuristica(op): 3:09pm On Jun 07, 2025
alobright17:
But the caption below by the friend says, we will miss you so much You mean you read the post without seeing this most important line ? Gosh are you kidding me right now ?
Is there a 'we'?
RomanceRe: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by Futuristica(op): 12:10pm On Jun 07, 2025
KillahPriest:
that message is neither here nor there. Both of you need to see a marriage counselor ASAP and you need to learn to chill out, grow up and try making peace with madam. In fact, when last did you guys go for a romantic getaway even if it's for a weekend ?
She is not the outgoing type..we spent time away from home but she always looks unhappy and I feel she is just getting by..my thoughts sha..because she keeps a frowning face by default..lol
RomanceRe: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by Futuristica(op): 12:01pm On Jun 07, 2025
SmellingAnus:
This is your first big mistake... You don't threaten your partner with divorce, she would get use to it and prepare for such ...
You are right
RomanceRe: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by Futuristica(op): 11:42am On Jun 07, 2025
[quote author=Mxxx post=135657637][How do you react to that? How do you handle the situation?quote author=Futuristica post=135656829]

what can I do?was planning to do surrogacy to have kids with her.we live abroad but now am skeptical about it because once children are involved and if there is no love..that's a weapon against me
RomanceRe: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by Futuristica(op): 10:41am On Jun 07, 2025
Exceed15:
She had left you before now. Move on man better days ahead. No go kill yourself o.
..lol..I strong bro..na clarification na em I need to act o
RomanceRe: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by Futuristica(op): 10:25am On Jun 07, 2025
ARISHEM:
Next time you will not open her phone again
a spot check is necessary bro..better to know what's up than to be taken by suprise
RomanceRe: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by Futuristica(op): 10:22am On Jun 07, 2025
shortgun:
There's nothing much to the message, the friend might as well be referring to herself and not your wife.
With some of the things you've listed about your wife, i see a frustrated woman. It's time for you to look in your direction, the problem might just be with you
Probably.But if love is gone as they say,then what's left?
RomanceRe: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by Futuristica(op): 10:21am On Jun 07, 2025
Zonefree:
You want to know the undiluted truth?


She doesn't want to birth for you. She knows what she's doing.

Women always have plan B, unfortunately their husband or boyfriend are not always in that plan.

Like I said before, the Lord is your strength.
Nope..she lost her womb in that pregnancy
RomanceRe: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by Futuristica(op): 10:12am On Jun 07, 2025
Zonefree:
Nawao.

God is your strength.
even lost our pregnancy due to too much sugar intake against my advice..now she is fully diabetic
RomanceRe: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by Futuristica(op): 10:11am On Jun 07, 2025
shortgun:
A man should always be steps ahead in matters like this with a good strategy.
Most cheating women are not very smart,catching them is very easy if you don't show any signs of suspicion.
You confronted her too early cos you allowed emotions get the better of you.
If she's truly cheating, what you've done will make her to become more secretive and be more careful.
Point is,I don't even want to catch her.But I suspect she had a thing that has ended.whats ur view about the message her work colleague sent her?
RomanceRe: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by Futuristica(op): 10:05am On Jun 07, 2025
Zonefree:
What are the wrong things?
She doesn't cook or cannot and not willing to learn as she was burning food daily.some lies here and there,invested huge monies repeatedly and lost them in ponzy schemes against my advice,she never apologises,talks to me anyhow etc
RomanceRe: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by Futuristica(op): 9:56am On Jun 07, 2025
Zonefree:
If she doesn't do what right?
I meant like is she keeps doing the wrong things or acting nonchalant
RomanceRe: What I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by Futuristica(op): 9:41am On Jun 07, 2025
Zonefree:

When a woman starts to hint on divorce, she's no longer in love with you.





*They won't teach you this in marriage class.
She doesn't have a child for me yet after over 7years and I can say that I started the divorce thing first as I was fond of threatening her that if she doesn't do right,we may have to have a divorce
RomanceWhat I Saw In My Wife's WhatsApp Chat With Her Close Friend by Futuristica(op): 9:19am On Jun 07, 2025
My wife has been acting weird for some months now, like she doesn't apologize if she is wrong, doesnt try to seek avenues for us to reconcile if we have quarrels. Instead, I am the one that always put the foot forward. If I point out something, she shows no remorse. She often says things like 'this life na once' .

Just a background.

I stumbled on this message sent by her workplace close girl friend. This tiktok message talks about falling in love with a married man because the man makes her feel loved etc etc.

But the caption below by the friend says, we will miss you so much.

My mind has been wondering what it means.
I woke her from sleep to confront her to explain what the message means (it's a message sent this January) ..she looked scared or maybe anxious as I asked her if she had cheated on me with anyone recently.. offcourse ,'no' is the normal answer.

I showed her the message for her to explain what it was about . She said she can't remember what it was about and that she doesn't know. When I pressed further, she started gaslighting that if I feel she cheated, I should give her a divorce .

Dear house, what are you views on this matter? I am more concerned about what this message might mean.

Please be fair in your judgement. Thank you.

PoliticsRe: Fresh Crisis Hits PDP As Wike ‘Pulls Out Of All Agreements’ by Futuristica: 7:25pm On May 25, 2025
I keep wondering why the party cannot expel Wike.. E de shock me
CareerRe: As A Banker, Always Wear Good Boxers When Going To Work by Futuristica: 12:27pm On May 24, 2025
Just like this Banker that bought boxers from credit... Lol


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=43qYZR71nSM?si=UflMOMFwJWaLaZRu
CareerWhy Bankers Do Not Have A Career by Futuristica(op):
As a Banker, if you travel abroad then you will know that your years in banking was a waste. No core skill especially if you did all these operations and marketing which is 90% of what everyone is doing.
You won't get promoted for getting ACCA but in a consulting firm ACCA is a must to become manager

This Banker really tried but.....


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=43qYZR71nSM?si=UflMOMFwJWaLaZRu

PoliticsRe: “Obi Is Also A Devil But He Is A Lesser Devil” — Deji Adeyanju (vid) by Futuristica: 9:31am On Dec 03, 2024
helinues:
grin cheesy

Consolation words.

Obi is a motivational speaker not a political leader
Your contract never finish? grin
Christianity EtcRe: Becky Enenche Outrage: No Tithes, Back To Square One - Expensive Fires Back by Futuristica: 7:55pm On Nov 25, 2024
@chidiokay $400..going going
PoliticsRe: David Hundeyin Dumps Nigeria Politics, Accuses Followers Of Not Believing Him by Futuristica: 7:42pm On Nov 25, 2024
PressMyButton:
A glory hunter, liar, propagandist, fraudulent jobber, a narcissist who will never take responsibility for his fraud. This ragtag was also banished from Oxford University for a fraudulent activity. I have always ignored him.
This sounds like reno's CV
Christianity EtcRe: Becky Enenche Outrage: No Tithes, Back To Square One - Expensive Fires Back by Futuristica: 7:31pm On Nov 25, 2024
chidiokay:
You are suppose to be the adult here, how come all your comments are bereft of facts or materials to substantiate your views ... you just dey blahblahblah like woman

differentiate what Ananais and sapphire did in the church from tithe ?? thats the question

Any year you are ready to attempt the question quote me. ciao
I asked you to show me anything that suggest that ananaias and saphira paid tithes,as expected..u come de dodge.guy ok..I will give $300 if you show me anything to suggest say na tithe dem been give.

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