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My Grandpa's wife (my Grandma) passed
away in january after battling brain cancer.
Losing the love of his life has been
devastating, and he's going through
depression, loneliness, and grievance. I can
only understand the loss he is experiencing,
but as a result – he is about to do something
very rash that has my family is very
concerned.
About two months ago, he was visiting my
family, and he was going on
and on about a senior internet dating site that
he found. While we were glad to hear he’s
considered dating again (no one wants him to
be alone!), the thought of internet dating
leaves us nervous. He’s very vulnerable – he’s
86, not the best health, has a lot of assets that
could be at risk should he remarry, etc. We
didn’t understand why he wasn’t finding dates
through his church friends, local senior center,
gym, etc- but even more surprising, he was
talking to women from all over the country (it’s
Naija after all… women his age EVERYWHERE).
We advised him to be safe, reminded him that
you never know who you’re talking to online,
and stressed that we’re happy he’s dating, but
we want him to go about it in a slow, mindful
way.
Well – he didn’t listen to our advice because
we found out a few weeks ago that he met a
woman who lives in north, he loves
her and he might want to marry her. AND –
he’s leaving tomorrow to go to North
to visit her for a month. (Seriously.) We were
shocked.Completely shocked.
Upon research – we found out this woman has
been married three times, her last husband
just died, she's 20 years+ younger than him, and
seems totally suspect. As we’re concerned
about his welfare – spiritually, emotionally,
financially and physically; our family; and the
legacy of our grandmother – he’s become
unresponsive to our well-intentioned
concerns. His six kids wrote him a well-
thought, loving letter outlining their concerns,
and he went and shared it with this woman,
totally insulted. My dad reached out to my
Grandpa’s pastor to talk with him (my grandpa
has been a devout Baptist his entire life) – and
when the pastor reached out to my Grandpa,
he swore off church and hasn’t been there for
weeks(bad grandpa ). My Dad even found the son of this
woman and asked what he thought of this,
and he told my dad that his mom is essentially
crazy, and they don’t have a good relationship.
We don’t know what to do next. The more his
kids push it – the more it drives my Grandpa to
this woman. Beyond physically stopping him
from going on the plane, we can’t prevent him
from leaving tomorrow and potentially getting
married out of spite of his family.
He’s a very stubborn man, and he’s completely
ignoring the family that loves him – the family
he built. This woman has managed to
manipulate her way into his life – and he’s
falling for it.
What can we do?
Seriously – any advice is good advice at this
point.
Abi conji wan kill ma grandpa ni

Em suppose cut hin JT useless hespacegoat

nickz:
ur nyash

whr u see am

Krystalxxx:
I am confused about what gender you really are. But if you're a girl, you're a really cool girl and if you're a guy, you know a lot about girls and you deserve an Oscar

oscar ko hazard ni
Thanks for ur comment tho

nickz:
warrisdis

wetin u see

Badoo

Gooci:
this daggrin sef

gooci ko gucci ni

cooljoe:
Grin grin grin, boy/gal, u still my padi. I lyk d way u roll

oshe omo iya

LaurelP:
Gringrin gringrin gringrin grin grin

sup

Oahray:
Smh. You truly opened a thread.

shake it well

naijaboiy:
The obvious

www.nairaland.com/1970609/ggrin-ggrin-ggrin-ggrin-ggrin#27521002

Iceberylin come o




Happy bday madame faraaaaaaaaaaaaaano
More something to ur something

naijaboiy:
u cant even defend yourself

and what do u want me to say

I’m writing in detail because this is the 1st time I’m telling it to anyone. I never wanted to be a girl. When I was a kid I used to dress up in boy cloths, I’d tell everyone that I’m a boy. I hated girlish stuff & was never interested in jewelry,
dolls etc. I loved to play outdoor games with my male cousins instead of playing girlish games with my female friends. At 1st day of my school, my mother forcefully dressed me up in girl’s cloths because she knew I would want to wear boy
clothing. From a young age I knew something was wrong with me. I didn’t feel things were right for me. I didn't enjoy my puberty, I hated the changes, I would cry and felt frustrated for it wasn't what I wanted instead I always wanted to be a boy. I wasn't allowed to wear boy clothing when I got admission to secondary school(till now), when I was in secondary school I got attracted towards females instead of males. It was there that I heard the term lesbian, I became scared and felt disgusted, I thought I’m homosexual and it made me more depressed, I'd pray to jesus to turn me into a boy or change me from within. I know these feelings are hard for a normal person to understand and it has nothing to do with my upbringing because my other siblings are normal and happily married but for me it’s like living a life of lie, I hate cooking and sewing, I’d love to have a career instead of female responsibilities, the idea of motherhood, children, family and being a dutiful wife towards a husband fills my heart with grief because it is not what I can do, these expectations of others hurt me, torture me. I have a desire for boy clothes and their accessories, I am not like normal girls, it feels like I have never enjoyed my life, I’m always unhappy. I feel I’m jealous of my brothers because they are males and they are not going through what I am through. It’s constant pain. I know life is hard for everyone, but this logic doesn’t satisfy me anymore. I know even if I was a boy I’d have other problems but still I can’t soothe my pain without this logic but now,am enjoying my life cause old things have past away and most of my stories here are 90%fiction,don't take it too serious and for those of you that are calling/tagging me a guy,your highly welcome

naijaboiy:
Guy/Girl...I no know wetin to believe again o

oga o

FrancisTony:
That you're male masquerading as female.

I know your Fb ID and twitter.

Orisirisi

smh

Oahray:
Without checking profile pics, I nominate every girl watching in viewing centre: marieolae, creamish, ggrin (they say you might be a guy too sha ), mzteemarh, mimiejacobz, lertee, rozzay, etc

Verify before we vex

I think I need to open a new thread

naijaboiy:
Na lie abi na true?

u sef

MizMyColi:
Ggrin?
I don't think so bro

why me

FrancisTony:
Ggrin is a guy.

I knew that before Nairaland crashed.

During former Miss Nairaland.

what's this one saying nitori oloun

Wow

Cute