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@Basildon1! Like seriously u r so right, but give them all their credits though, they all tried and everyone had to analyse this issue from their own point, trust me I was confused at some point during the analysis. But it's ok now. Well that combination of coogar,sexkillz,MBJ,Chima, was helpful in a way.still thanks to them.

@sexkillz! Thanks guys, I've got big brothers in here,

@coogar! I feel like u know it all already, u r right u know. Well as for the child, he's 2 years old, from his ex girl who is somewhere in America,while the other girl he stays with is also his ex whom he says they don't have anything going on and she's just assisting on getting his papers,

Really grateful to u all for your advice, at least almost everyone shares the same view, will do just that, thanks guys.

@sexkillz, thanks a lot, I totally agree with u. I just didn't mention some other things. I've just been real scared. 6 months into the relationship he told me he had a son from another girl,they are also in the US! He lives with another girl which I also found out and his reason is that she is helping with his papers and all, I couldn't visit Atlanta whenever I go to the states, we always end up in Boston, LA or NY. I think my mum doesn't like the fact he has a son and says it's good for every girl to start on a clean note. For those asking about my age, I'm 24 and he's 27.
It's not as if I didn't know who he was buh I just thought he was real. The main reason I feel so hurt is because he was my first and I feel robbed. I never felt distance was an issue cos I always travel to see him at least every month. I wanna thank you all for your advice, they are really helpful. It's not as if I am looking for a guy who's a saint, I just found love in the wrong place I guess and found out so much after a long time into the relationship.

Thanks , Noted .

Please nairalanders, I've been in a confused state for some weeks now, I just need help! Ok to my story.
Through the regular group activities most of us do on  BBM, I met a guy who was actually fun whenever we chat and we got so used to each other, he's based in the US while i live in London. He always comes back home during festive periods but I don't. So last year I decided to come home since he was to visit Nigeria and it was a good opportunity for me to come home as well. getting home to Nigeria, I met him and we started a proper relationship, but I was shocked when most of the other girls on the bb group told me they had something with my new bf.

When I confronted him, he didn't deny but told me he saw me differently which I stupidly fell, and all through the holiday was fun for us. Even after we both travelled back to our different countries, I always. Travelled to the states to visit him, but he never came to the uk because of reasons best known to him. To cut the story short, I love this guy I did so many things I can't mention but I can't find a pin I got as a gift from him. Whenever I miss him and need to talk, he's either partying or in strip clubs and when I ask him why he goes to such places, he says to me he doesn't wanna lie to me so he tells me where he goes.and he just loves the sight.
I have cried and begged him several times to show me some respect and love but all he keeps doing is make me cry. Now my mother has promised to cut me off if I continue with this guy and she hates him so much all of a sudden.
Recently, I went to NY with my mum and I tried keeping away from him, but I went ahead to let him know I was in the states just cos I didn't think he was gonn come there since he is based in Atlanta and I had 2 days left to stay. He actually came and has been begging me to forgive him and he wants us to start on a clean slate.
He has hurt me so much, cheating and lying to me and most of all my mum disapproves of our relationship now. But the truth is I still love him, so I'm just confused,  Your advice can actually help, do I stay or walk away Cos I'm scared of getting hurt again! He has been begging and I just hope it's not a scam. Well, insults and advice is allowed, it's nairaland after all,