₦airaland Forum

1bkaye:
I'm joking around, no problem though

1bkaye:
Lool madam Giel, how may I help you?

247frolicboss:
The Emir of Kano, Muhammadu Sanusi II, has called on Nigerians to stop birthing more children than they can cater for.

‘’for you to have kids you must make sure that the responsibility of their education, health, and general up-bringing both morally and otherwise are part and parcel of what a parent should do’’.

He said "it is not only giving birth to the child that matters, but how to take your responsibility as a parent to bring-up that child to grow and be a benefit to the society in general’’ saying ‘’if people are aware of this they will not even have many kids that they know they cannot take care of’’.

Vorpal:
@gloryisaac

Speaking about online, isn't there a disparity between how they are offline and online?

Talking about anger issues, i think that's individual thing.

GloryIsaac:
Hey Giêl....

Well, the anger issue associated with intros isn't necessarily true.... Most people think intros have anger issues due to their (these people) inability to be sensitive to others feelings... Getting an intro angry is like filling a cup with water, there's a limit to which that cup can hold water, and if you keep pouring water into it, it'll spill... Same goes for the introvert, when you piss one off the first time, there's a high tendency that he'll ignore you even if he doesn't like it, it keeps going like this until the day of judgement when the slightest mistake will make him jump in rage and want to tear you apart ...... The offender will obviously be dumbfounded b'cos he/she will be wondering why this guy got super angry at this little offense, unfortunately, it's an accumulation of all the ones committed in the past.... And in the end, they start recommending anger management classes for the individual.....

These days i'll tell you if you piss me off (if it's online, i'll just ignore you forever) b'cos it eliminates accumulation of anger and i can always keep my cool....

DonOms:
Okay, I think I understand you a little better. And of course, yes, we're all learning.

Firstly, I think the whole idea of associating introversion with anger may be a perception of extroverts and/or the way introverts react to misconceptions/disappointments.

I looked online and found, for example, the result of a study (Boddeker, I. & Stemmler, G., 2000) on who would respond when and how to anger which showed that introverts reported feeling more anger than extraverts. Now, the explanation is not too far from the Introvert's mood and sensitivity to irritation. Just as GloryIsaãc mentioned, Introverts tend to be sensitive to change, irritation, displeasure (all especially in other people) but try to bottle emotions up - including anger - until the "cup" gets full and a burst of anger over trivial issues occur.

On the other hand, the extrovert perhaps hardly notice little irritations and more so, never bottle them up. So extroverts are more likely to get angry over big issues instantaneously unlike introverts whose anger is somewhat an accumulation of small issues.

Also, from my observations, introverts are more likely to get that feeling of disturbance from people who mean no harm but encroach on the introvert's space. And because society partly supports this invasion, the introvert shies away from complaining (or avoid complaining over and over) and then react in anger.

In my opinion, these supposedly unnecessary bouts of anger (as perceived mostly from an extroverts angle) make it appear the introvert is overly irritable and angry and hence needing anger management. And while that may be true, I think ultimately, the introverted person needs to become aware of the self and avoid bottling up negative emotions to avoid "unwarranted" anger and passive aggression. This comes with maturity though.

DonOms:
You're welcome.



Hmm... I'm a little surprise you think most introverts seem to need anger management. Firstly, I doubt introverts are susceptible to anger due to their introversion. On the contrary, logic dictates because introverts are recluses, they would have less interactions to evoke anger and even if they want to get angry, the turbulence and emotions required might be unbearable and therefore avoided.

However, it is possible that due to the quiet nature of introverts, they may easily be cheated (or easily feel cheated) and hence react in anger because of this. But that'll still not a case of most introverts.

This is just my opinion though as I haven't read anywhere or researched about the link between anger and introversion.

DonOms:
It's great you thought to join the lounge. It's understandable when an introvert refrains from joining an Introverts' Lounge. As a 'gbeborun' extrovert once mockingly asked on this thread, "doesn't this lounge contradict the idea of introversion?" The idea of the lounge (all the thanks to @olarewajub) is to learn more about who we are and share experiences from similar people. How best can we do that other than have a quiet room where all that is said, or not said, is about introversion?

It's lovely you're working on your people and social skills by joining a group in your church. Participating in small groups doing activities of interests is perhaps one of the best ways to improve social skills as an introvert. And improving people skills is important in this age - introvert or not.

So, a big welcome to you, @grocery, @missuniverse and everyone just joining; and more importantly to those who follow quietly around the edge but haven't walked in.

Olarewajub:
.

toseen7:
Another goal from Batshuayi de Batman!!!! 5-1

#Chelsea Best Team In Da World

Fadman4real:
To me I believe virginity is between you and God has nothing to do with your husband. It is your body you are keeping yourself for God not for any man.

FrankGiel:
Giel come and beg ur friend

fallout87:
Why won't they say this? Since of these are racists who hate anything that isn't white, but some are saying the truth.

I was attacked in a thread for saying an Igbo woman shouldn't make fake gucci and versace shoes. They were mad at me because to them it is okay to make bootleg items.

With trash like that why wouldn't Nigeria be backward.

shadrach77:
She was rude hence the beating

Explorers:
This guy is trending o.




http://m.independent.ie/entertainment/banter/trending/everyones-trolling-rapper-lil-bow-wow-for-lying-about-flying-on-a-private-jet-35700103.html

http://perezhilton.com/2017-05-09-bow-wow-twitter-commercial-flight-private-jet-photo-instagram

Lalasticlala Mynd44

Toks2008:
House wives and full house wives are two different things.

toseen7:
Nice shots mahn! .....
Dominique goan hug the nearest transformer..

toseen7:
You're Welicomuuu

toseen7:
Yes!

toseen7:
Full Time: Chelsea won 3-0!

#BluesArmy

Trina0936:
But when Marvis wore only bra and pant these same silly haters where gushing stupidly! ThankGod she doesn't even know you lots exist!
I wonder how haters sleep at night with so much vile in them. Hate her or like her,na for ur pocket!