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jawalis:
It’s obvious you are a kid. I’ll advice you get yourself together and move on with your life. The nigga doesn’t love you. Get busy and do things that take your time away. And to be be sincere, you have a very very low self esteem. I can guess you are ugly from your write up. Work on yourself abs stop forcing yourself on that guy. How could you stoop so low to the extend on stalking his Facebook, sending messages to the other lady. Damn it. He should have slapped sense into your empty brain. He calls her first everyday and you are still there saying you are this and that. The earlier you realize you are no longer needed; the best for you.

Lol, I am not ugly sir.
And I'll admit I have a low self esteem but it didn't stem from my looks. It all started since she came into the picture.
Thanks for the knock tho, I needed it.

SarutobiEky:
things like this break my heart. You'll be fine baby girl. Keep ya head up.

My hard vice _ remove him from memory he doesn't deserve you.

My soft vice_ I am available. I am not dramatic and I won't cheat on you. Then you get a bonus... I'm a virgin. As well

Lol. You're funny.
Thanks

luwiizy:
MY DEAR, NO KILL YOURSELF FOR ANYBODY.

WITH THE WAY YOU ARE GOING YOU ARE ALREADY GETTING DEPRESSED..

CALM DOWN AND DELETE THAT FACEBOOK APP ON YOUR PHONE. IT HAS ALREADY AFFECTED YOUR MENTAL HEALTH.

GIVE THAT YOUR EX GUY SPACE BELIEVE ME HE'S ONLY USING YOU TO CATCH CRUISE.

KNOW YOUR WORTH.

I've tried deleting the app, I only end up installing it again.
Your last statement struck a chord though.

I've been in a relationship with my man for more than three years now. We met when I was in my third year in school. The thing is he lives in Calabar and I stay in Lagos. I ought to have gone for service but my department hasn't mobilised my colleagues and I cuz of the backlog of older colleagues that are yet to go for service also.
So, I traveled to Lagos September 2020 to be with my family. We do chat on WhatsApp to keep in touch. We have little arguments and he break up with me over flimsy reasons. I always apologize and we get back together.
Now the problem is he met this girl and he had sex with her. From there, a relationship started between the both of them.
He only told me he slept with her, he didn't tell me they were in some sort of relationship.
I came back to Calabar January of this year and found out everything. I didn't leave, I told him to chose between the girl and I. I also insisted he call her and tell her we are still together. He refused. I still didn't leave.
He told me he loves me and just me, that he doesn't have feelings for her. But when I check his call log, I notice she's the first person he always call in a day.
I decided to send her a message from his Facebook account and I told her (using him as a guise) that "I love Ginaios, I'm sorry if I hurt you but I cannot leave her". She didn't really oppose but she made a statement that made me very sad. My man told her I was a sales girl in his shop.( I do assist him most times at his shop). He refuted the statement though.

Now, I'm very insecure when it comes to him, I'll admit I should have left but he's the only man I've ever known and I'm so scared of putting myself out there, I'll be in my mid 20s this March.
I stalk them on Facebook, I check his call logs, all these is putting a big strain on my mental health, I've even lost considerable weight. I really don't know what to do.
Please there's more to this, if u can offer free therapy, please dm.