Thanks bigfrancis21 and chijiblaze,

So it seems much of the grammar I have found is central (or so called standard Igbo?) but in regards to proper pronunciation it seems I will have to go with whichever native speaker I can finally get ahold of (using a few online language sites as all of the dvd and audio cd material seems to be quite poor quality Eurotalk products with no information on the spearks or which/what accent/dialect being used..if it is all actually the same dialect which I am not able to figure out anyhow)

Thanks again, and I'll definitely follow up here as I uncover more mysteries in the near future that I can't seem to find answers from other sources aside from Nairaland. There doesn't seem to be very much online or even textbook materials on Igbo.

Thanks again!

Yes, I posted this already in the translator thread but haven't received any responses yet so just wanted to try here

Just working on some basic grammar and I can't seem to figure out the difference between:

"anyị chị anụ" and "unu akwọghị anyị"

I understand the difference in unu, anyị etc, but why use akwọ instead of chị ? for the negation in the second sentence would "unu achịghị anyị" work as well? or am I misunderstanding chị vs akwọ in the use of the meaning 'carry'?

In addition is there any reason why ọ is used instead of o? such as in this example sentence? "ọ na-esi anụ"

Still just trying to grasp the basics so I'd appreciate any assistance, also trying to figure out which dialect, Onitsha vs. Owerri, I am actually trying to focus on, since alot of material and books do not seem to indicate which dialect they are explaining..making it overly difficult to figure out verb stems etc

biko, achị m wink

Just working some basic grammar and I can't seem to figure out the difference between:

"anyị chị anụ" and "unu akwọghị anyị"

I understand the difference in unu, anyị etc, but why use akwọ instead of chị ? for the negation in the second sentence would "unu achịghị anyị" work as well? or am I misunderstanding chị vs akwọ in the use of the meaning 'carry'?

Still just trying to grasp the basics so I'd appreciate any assistance, also trying to figure out which dialect, Onitsha vs. Owerri, I am actually trying to focus on, since alot of material and books do not seem to indicate which dialect they are explaining..making it overly difficult to figure out verb stems etc

biko, achị m

blueseacats:
She's really pretty, in my opinion, but the best of all? Naaaaa!

yes, I agree, she is quite beautiful but to say the most is pushing it shey

Thanks MizTyna, Fabulocity, and Sashishalom, I know this is the case I've just been having a hard time actually moving on. Been going over this too many times in my head.. I'll be letting her know I wish her well and I will move on, been spending way too much energy and hope on this woman lately and I should accept the situation for what it is. Those who provided helpful feedback, you know who you are, thanks greatly.

TrapQueen77:




I swear I read it but I really don't get what he wants...

Some insight into her thoughts, as I can't connect what she says and how she acts. And I am hoping to see her this weekend and just see how she is and maybe start anew. I get it though, I have been trying to move on.

Well, this is my first time posting here, been on here alot mostly for looking up random pidgin or igbo words and phrases. Basically I am hoping someone might offer me some insight or perhaps clarity on my situation. No, I'm not Nigerian, I'm Canadian.(family is Irish-French and very Catholic)
Long story short, I have had alot of close friends and family friends who are nigerians since I was in my younger teen years. I'm mostly familiar with Igbo culture because of a close friend who was a priest and an amazing man.
Basically I met a beautiful nigerian lady through online dating in my city in canada. (she is 3 years older than me but we talked about that early on and she said age was not a factor and she felt often that I was more mature than her) We clicked instantly and went on several dates for 3 weeks and everything seemed great and then she texted me and politely explained she wasn't feeling as strongly towards me as she needed to in order to continue a serious relationship(we had discussed what stage of our lives we were in and what we were looking for; settling down, serious relationships etc) so I was really dissappointed but said I understood and told her I really enjoyed the time I was able to spend with her and wished her the best. I respected her wishes and let her be, no calls or texts, nothing. I prayed alot, felt pretty confused as I had felt things were going along well, and of course wish she would have given me a chance. When I returned from a trip to my family, I saw she had texted me saying that I haunted her and that she was hoping I'd see her again and we could give us a chance. Yep, you can imagine how I felt...just unbelievably overjoyed and I agreed of course. We started seeing each other for about 2 months (over the whole Christmas season) We saw each other about every day or second day between work or dates together, I fell in love with her pretty quickly. I have never enjoyed another persons company as much as I enjoy being around her... we have a similar sense of humor and views on a lot of subjects. The only word which I am aware of which could adequately attempt to describe her in my mind would be an Angel. Around January 6th, she basically stopped communicating with me. Period. We had had a great time at her close friends new year gathering/party. We went grocery shopping, spent some time together, watched some movies and then one evening while visiting her we made plans to go to a movie the next day so I bid her goodnight, as I had to return to my apartment to work on some online courses. The next day she ignored my call, and later on in the week texted something about not having the energy or time to do the things she wanted (which was a very confusing statement to be honest) and then basically she texted me once more after I suggested we go for dinner, saying she needed to talk to me...I said of course and called her, she said she'd text me that evening. She never did, so I called a day or so later and she ignored me again, I tried calling twice in the following 2 weeks, she basically ignored me again and that was the end of that. I couldn't understand any of it. That was this past January.

Fast forward to May and I tried to move on, signed up for a different dating site(currently I work a hectic schedule and have little social time/life) and she popped up right away as a top match...wonderful eh? So I attempted to be casual and messaged her asking how she was, mentioned alot had changed recently for me (it did, alot had happened) and if she would be interested in going for dinner or maybe the jazz concert that weekend etc she said sure and also said she was curious what changed but was glad it wasn't my good looks? hmm flirting or I was confused again? Anyhow so we met up after a week or so ( I work 10, off 4 days) and it was a great dinner together, even went for dessert after. I was probably abit stunned as I couldn't believe she was right there in front of me, but I didn't bring up anything from the past, we had a nice time, laughed alot, made lots of jokes and I complimented her of course etc...she looked beautiful as always. I thought the night went well, and as I dropped her home I asked when she might be free again, she laughed somewhat awkwardly and made a comment about how I haven't changed... I was kind of surprised and asked what she meant but she had to go at that point. We texted, she said she had a great time and it was good seeing me again and we could see each other when I returned from my next shift cycle. Needless to say, I was hopeful.

When I returned and called her she ignored me. I finally texted her and asked why she bothered to tell me we'd see each other if she hadn't meant it and also a few things about our former relationship. To summarize her responses she said it was complicated with me, she was sorry she ran off on me and basically encountered a "block" whenever she tried reaching a romantic place with me, although she said she found me really attractive and couldn't explain why that "chemistry" wasn't there. She basically said she'd hoped we could transition to friendship but if I didn't want to, she'd understand. She has never said she doesn't have feelings for me. When I did ask her to simply tell me that she didn't have feelings for me, and that I would understand if she said that, she said she couldn't as it wouldn't be true...

It's been almost 2 months and I finally texted her back as she is still on my heart and my mind. I casually said hi and asked how she is doing, I apologized about taking so long to get back to her on the subject of friendship and I asked if she was genuine in regard to transitioning to friendship and said I hoped things were going well for her...it's been 6 days and she hasn't responded, I am aware she could be seeing someone. I plan on texting her in a day or two as I return from work and there is a festival so I was hoping to ask her to join me in visiting it.
Basically I am mature enough to at least consider friendship with her, or at least attempt to. Yes, I still have feelings for her and would hope for more if she isn't in a relationship or if she is open to a conversation about it.

I know that was alot, I am hoping perhaps someone could provide some helpful insight, something I haven't considered or perhaps overlooked. I hope to talk with her soon and see if I could have a chance to try a relationship with her, She had asked me for a chance and basically I wish to do the same.