Cavenchy:
OP why? After reading this post I now want to get Married! Not for all the reasons posted but for the fact that none of them seem to apply to me, therefore I should be ready to settle down. Just need to find the right Mrs.

Oh u dint want to get married bfor reading? . Wat part of d post made u change ur mind? And ar u d right Mr?
Ans all oo.

emusmith:
Nice thread gospi

Thanx dearie . I knw u .....









Thankssss

jamex93:
na wa o

this your points contains bad reasons than good oo

Ehn na Most people marry for "bad reasons" n dats y we hav mor "bad marriages" dan good

lordyugo:
Its a lil bit of everytn u mentioned.everybdy dt has ever gotn married since d beginning of time got married for sm selfish reasons ,all d talk bout luv romance etc is jus to gloss over it and make it appealing, if not u wont hear for better or for worse cos d knw both parties r coming wit different selfish reasons

Yes ! Dats d word "selfish reasons"

Yayyyyyyyyyyy! FP

tpiadotcom:
What is with nairaland and nutjobs.

This one even named his or herself, gossip.

Shame nor dey.

I know u ar not blind
Its "gospi" not gossip

initiate:
Aint these reasons good enough for you?

U mean if a lady tells u "baby d only reason I am accepting ur proposal is cos my mum won't get off my case.." U wll b like " ok no prablem let's go ahead" .
U havnt said y wana get married

I broke up wit her cos she cheated...
Na everytime dia X dey "cheated"...and wen u meet d X u go hear d real story.

People get married for various reasons. A lot of reasons people get married for won't be revealed to their partners even wen asked trust me, cos wen u know d real reason ur partner is marrying or agreeing to marry U, you mite not just wana go ahead.

You would hear reasons like, I need a companion,because I love him/her bla bla bla...

While these mite be true ,deep down are som reasons u don't want to hear...which are possibly d main reasons she is accepting ur proposal or why d guy is proposing...
Here ;

1.For Ladies ;THE WEDDING CEREMONY

Hmmmm. This happens especially wen ladies attend dia friend's wedding ceremony, they love the whole paparazzi..wearing wedding gowns, people gathering for their sake,reception,everybody is looking at me, snapping pictures.d whole PARTY TINGy... Forgetin dat d weddin ceremony lasts for A DAY and d marriage is (suposd) to b forever .Take dis out and a lot of ladies won't be so eager to get married...

2.Guys:THEY NEED A HELPER ( Especially a house help)
Hmm. 90 percent of African Men get married for this reason. A guy goes to work comes back and there is no food .. He tells himself "mehn I need a wife" No dear.. U need a cook. Most guys will propose when they seee u as someone that can cook very well, sweep d house, wash dia clothes,wash dia plates...name dem...all oda tins are secondary to dem...
Guys untill you stop mistaking the word "HELPER" for "HOUSE HELP" ,I guess we hav a long way to go in marriage.

3.For both guys and ladies : THEIR PARENTS WON'T LET THEM BE.
This reason tho... If not for parental pressure a lot of singles won't be so eager for marriage..
You hear singles say "my mother has told me that if I don't want her to die bfor her time den I should get married",So dis guys goes out searching for Her for dat reason,not like dats wat he would hav done if left alone by parents.
D lady also accepts d guys proposal and inside her she's like very "Wow at last my mum won't die bfor her time "!!!
Marriages like dis do not last.As much as we Love our parents let's be careful not to let them push us into tins we ar not ready for.

4. For guys and ladies: KIDS
Minus kids ,like 80 percent of singles wll still remain Singles for life but because they want kids and they want them to grow up wit a mother or father ,hence dey want to get married.
As much as I acknowledge the fact that kids are very important,that shouldn't be the topmost reason for getting married...What if the kids don't even come?

5.For guys and ladies (especially guys);SEX
We all know that a lot of guys don't joke with sex,for so many if not for sex they won't get married. For ladies who love sex so much :they want to get married and have legal sex.
Yea I know a lot of people hav sex dese days witout getting married..But som feel guilty after d act cos they know its not right.
So to hav sex and feel good about it they want to get married.
Sex shouldn't be ur top most priority for marriage, U would hav lots and lots of it wen married and with time u wll understand that there is more to marriage than just sex.

There are several other reasons like
All my friends are getting married,Menopause getting close to menoSTOP(lol)...,money etc

Like I said earlier don't expect to hear dis reasons from people when you ask..
Very few people marry for companionship,for love or because of what they want to give.
Almost everyone is about what they want to get from the other person and what marriage offers.

If I think about WHAT I WANT TO GIVE in marriage and you think about WHAT u want to give ...Why won't marriage work?

Selfishness kills try being Selfless at least sometimes.

So for singles ;Why do you want to get married?
For the married: Why did U get married?
Abeg talk true

lalasticlala:


Sweetheart, hope you no de curse me ooo

Lalasticlala ...this looks like it wld b good for frnt page. Warh do ya tink?

AgapeCharis:
Such persons obviously go for the wrong reason and hence, it leaves them(their life and persona) the way they are.

True

Krismart:
Mine bought me children perf and small card and reminded me DAT her own bday is coming soon

Chris95:
See as I rush open thread tinkin sey na shekau wey dem kill

But they haff killed Shekau bfor na...



Just that he resurrected

Instead of killing yourself u should hav just committed suicide....

kandiikane:
This topic does not make sense at all. You are talking of Africa where majority of women are brought up in settings that does not allow the same exposures that men have growing up. The topics up for discussion would not be the same, it does not mean women are less knowledgeable or less intelligent, just that each gender is knowledgeable in different fields. If more women are exposed to the same things as men, the interests will be the same. When the women are in the kitchen cooking for the house, the men are in the sitting room watching football, how do you expect women to have interests in football? If a girl was sat with a boy amongst men discussing news or politics, who will they send to go do errands? The young girl. Girls are told to keep quiet when they put mouth in male conversations, with statements like, "what do you know?" she would probably be called lazy. Those who even have knowledge in such mostly do not sit to discuss it.

Question is, how can you be knowledgeable in politics or football when you are busy learning how to make a home or learning how to be a "slave" for a man you have not yet met?

The same way more men are knowledgeable in politics is the same way women are more knowledgeable in fashion or whatever you say they gossip about. They all impact the world just in different ways. The topic can go both ways. Intelligence is not by discussing topics men normally chit chat and scream their heads off over(that is mostly what these so-called intelligent male conversations are. Men sat somewhere, drinking and screaming about who will win what.
I know many men who are not interested in politics or football, yet you won't see anyone saying they cannot hold intelligent conversations. Your interests in politics or football does not make you intelligent.

Wish I cud click d Love button but I only saw Like. U have sense! . U ar Wise...

MzNelly:


She just had to ruin the moment.

AirborneLacer:


Take a closer look at the Op's observations.



The emboldened statements only goes to tell us how the female folks have decided to indulge in trivial topics and fancy interests.

Oh really? because it is trivial to men dosnt mean it wld b trivial to women.
Most Men lov football and dey can kill talking abt it.most women see dat as trivial..so lemme sound like u by saying "men also decide to indulge in trivial topics"

MzNelly:


[size=15pt]Everyone shut up!!

This is the answer to the thread.

This is the ONLY intelligent male on this thread, IMHO [/size]

So I should come and start arguing to show I'm "reasonable and knowledgeable?"

Ain't nobody got that time.

I'm a lady dear

missclasssy:
This question has really been bothering me for quite some time. From my observation, it seems guys tend to me more versatile and knowledgeable in a lot of areas than ladies.

In public settings, you hardly find women making reasonable arguments and discussions, its just mindless chit-chats and gossip, unlike guys who argue important facets of life like philosophical concepts and politics.

I stayed in the girls hostel in school and I hardly ever witnessed a reasonable argument or discourse.
Even here on Nairaland, I have noticed the same thing. On the religion and politics section for instance, you rarely see ladies involving in intelligent discourse and arguments. Just few.

I stay in lagos and I listen to the radio a lot.
There are particular programs I enjoy listening to such as,
~ Chat station with Nelly
~Morning crossfire, both on Nigeria info 99.3.
A lot of intelligent and educative discussions on various topics are being held on these programs but you find out that 95% of the contributions are made by men.

Why is all this so?. Is it that ladies are scared to share their opinions or they just aren't as wise and knowledgeable as the guys?

Missclassy. Oh well. This thread is really insulting I must say. But like u wrote.. Its based on ur observations...

Wen lawyers meet to discuss topics in dia field ,how well do you think an accountant wld contribute? Can u now say the accountant is not intelligent cos he can not discuss intelligently in d field of Law?
My point is .. It all comes down to d Topic of interest... Okay...
Wen ladies talk abt cooking ,how many men can give meaningful contributions? Should we now say they ar not intelligent cos they can not giv reasonable contributions in a matter they are "perhaps" not wired for?
Most ladies are not dat interested in politics, so u won't expect dem to know so much,but engage them in somtin els that catches dia interest I bet u ,alota men won't stand dem.

2ndly.. Most ladies won't contribute cos they hav allowed people( especially men) deceive them into believing that its not "lady-like" to argue especially in public..so for dat reason dey tend to keep dia opinions to demselves..

3rdly.. A lot of times Most Men argue to Win .. They feel intimidated wen a lady is "winning" them in d discussions... So wen they know u are saying somtin reasonable they resrt to insults...which a lot of ladies avoid... So many reasons jareh.
Nobody is mor intelligent or knowledgeable dan d oda.

Aminat508:
Sex, I hate sex Gan.....

Wow. Y

Hello nairalanders..
As singles,u knw,wen we hear marriage talks everywhere,we get som kinda feelings.....
Somtimes good ,somtimes cold feet..
U hear som good tins dat com wit marriage and u ar like ...awww I can't wait to get there and u hear som oda part and u ar like... Gosh I don't like dat part...
For me I like so many parts..Like having kids,making love and som oda tins sha.
But wat I don't like abt marriage..
I hav to cook weda I like it or not cos society says its d mothers role ..or I get a help that mite kidnap my children..

I hav to b more careful abt d way I dress cos I'm now a mother... U knw? It sucks
So let's talk abt the tins u don't like abt marriage..

sexyseun:
If this defines your lady, then I am an ideal lady because I posses all this good characters

Funny world!
A 20yr old girl was dating a rich 65yr old man, and she was used for rituals.....
Comments;
...A; hahahaha. Good for her ladies wl never learn.
B; Ladies and money.
C; Lesson to all d ladies...
D; Ladies learn, money is not everytin

Now
Guy meets girl for the "FIRST TIME" and had sex with her...

A; Its gono use vitamin c
B: awww... Go to the doctor
C; I hav bin there bfor ,call me and I wll. tell u wat to use.

Hmmmmm. Just watching. Truth is "THIS IS HOW "MOST" guys dese days live dia lives.
Sex,sex ,sex sex and nothing but sex.
I feel like saying " good for him" but lemme not just say it...

My father dares not shout at my mum wen I'm around,let alone beat her. A lot of us sit and watch our fathers(who only had sex to bring us to dis world) do dis crap to our mothers who carried us for nine months and almost died just to hav us.
To d women:Shame to the women who put up wit domestic violence.
To d men: Avoid what u do that makes her insult U.
To the women again: please tink bfor u talk; as a lot of women don't,they do it d oda way

Sometimes I understand how bad men feel when they hav wives that do not know how to use their tongues. As much as I advise women to be careful abt how they use their tongues I also advise men to avoid doing the things that make women abuse them verbally. No sane man wakes up and starts to beat his wife for no reason( but unfortunately we hav very few sane men in Nigeria) and no sane woman abuses a man that hasn't done something to deserve it. Shame to the women who put up with men that beat them.

pinkyruledworld:
Seeing what our ladies do in tertiary institutions, wch man go like marry? Who wan say "i do" to olosho. #okbye

And dey do the olosho with men..
So seeing what men do with oloshos...

So ladies should love and take nonsense wen/becos they ar 25 or above? Welldone!

So ladies should love and take nonsense? Welldone!

Then they should stay single na.. As d days go by they bcom younger right?
They wish

Hope she took the letter to sambisa forest