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Thank you agarawu23
Cc babyosisi, chaircover greatgod etc. Please i would need your input. Thank you.

I had to use a new moniker to do this. Pardon me .
I have been married for 9 years now. By any standard, i have had a very good marriage . Great husband and kids.
I married my husband as a divorcee which produced a daughter. He told me all these while we were dating. He never hid any neccessary information from me.
The child has been living with the mother while my husband has been up and doing in the chilld's welfare. He pays the school fees, gives monthly allowance, medical bills and still visits the child at intervals, spends holidays with us and he has a good rapport with the child's mother. Though the woman still complains he doesn't do enough. That's by the way.
I never wanted to marry a man with a child/children as i saw it as a baggage i will not be able to handle.
But my husband was different and I had to marry him with this imperfection cos i am too.
The issue now is, the child does not want to live with the mother again but us( don't know if the mother planned it) because 2 years ago , the child lived with us but the mother's interfernce was too much.
The mother comes to my house at any time to pick the child for one thing or the other and will even miss school atimes. Calls at any time , discusses with my neighbours and so on.
Now the child is back to my house for a permanent stay on the ground of no interference from the mum since i implored my husband that there will not be repeat of any of the previous incidence.
I do all these because of the love i have for my husband but I am not coming to terms with it.
I find it very difficult to love and accept this child as my own. Whenever she is around me, there is this reverberation of negative energy and feelings towards her.
I have never abused her in any sort.
Please i would need matured contributions on how to deal with this situation, loving and accepting her because it is really affecting my emotions which translates to affecting my sex life, business and relationships etc.