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J111333:
You have a loyal and morally upright woman in this millennium and you're here talking about mere 2years difference.

Leave her and go look for 18yr old slay queen with fake boobs, fake ass and heavily made up face mek we and God rest for you here biko.

Olakunleyakub:
You are overstretching the issue...it not that deep jawe..

2 years is not that much..ask yourself this questions and save yourself from wrong decisions
Is she submissive?
Is she neat?
Is she a trustworthy and faithful person?
Is she a real person or just pretending so that she can get marriage and start acting up cos it very common among ladies like that
Is she a accomodating person? Cos of ur relatives especially ur parents
Is she a person with kind and good heart?
See does not need to be perfect but does she has a good character ?
Does she dress very well? Speaking nko?
Are you both a religious person? The power of prayer can't be underestimated in everything we do.

Peace.

adeadeyera:
If you let her go, there's a high likelihood that you'd regret it, especially that no two women are the same.
If she possesses the right things you seek in a woman, shun the age difference and grow with her.

If you have any doubt, make a decision.

But age is not a problem if you don't make it one.

All the best.

Yusufisraelj:
Na small, foolish boy, leave am.

OP

This from my heart, my last relationship did not yield the result I wanted bkos the lady was younger than I was and could not take decisions for herself, her parents took critical decisions for her.

Now not all young ladies will be like that, most certainly. What am driving at is that you have someone who gives you peace of mind, loyal and submissive who just happen to be older, that should not be a challenge.

Don't allow your fears reign Supreme, one of my mentors wife is 11 years older than him, they have the best marriage on earth, trust me, a very stable home, well groomed children and she has never given him headache, in fact I learnt the art of love making from them, very deep people.

But more importantly let God lead you, but for me age is never a factor to consider as far as the fear of God comes first, love, Fidelity , submission and hospitality is there to HELL with whoever thinks otherwise.

debbydams:
u v said it all if she has a small stature u good to go nd if u.are not comfortable with that den let her go, marriage is a life commitment o, choice wisely nd pray so that u wont regret,,.. don't marry because of love alone marry her because u want everything about her.

Oluromantic:
Only 2 years, you dey complain. Go deeperlife church go see where wife take 5yrs from her husband. Husband na hausa, wife na Edo. Husband black, wife use small escape albino. Everything's just totally somehow and they're happy. Small pikin dey do you. No be who you open ur mouth tell about ur wife age go know?

Destinylink:
OP does she know she's two years older than you?

kingreign:
Trash.

Dear Hardtruth01 contrary to your moniker, you don't want to hear the hard truth which is what so ever you decide to do with your partner IS NOT OUR problem, not our concern.
You fail to understand that all manner of folks are here, folks with happy marital union, sad union, violent union, broken union, boring union, no union. Folks who wish others well, folks who are less concerned about others, and folks who wish and are hell bent on seeing others cry and fall.
You may be desirous of sweet words but to your utter dismay and disbelief, I'd never be one who'd sugar coat my words here especially if it concerns relationship or/and marriage because I am married and I have some exposure and experience in that area of life. I'd be blunt with you.
It's rather shameful and sad that you had to bring YOUR PERSONAL ISSUE to public forum for the world to read and react. This show of shame is a huge indication of your gross negligence, immaturity, and subjection of yourself and your spouse to public ridicule and disgrace.

I still stick to my earlier comment, That's not our problem. Id you have a problem with her age, sack her. If you do, it's not even our business and not our problem.

It's your business, your life, your union, deal with it and don't bring it to the cyberspace Biko!

Finally learn to talk to a counsellor or an elderly respected married couple about this rather than bringing such sensitive topics online.

gaius01:
Arrrrrrrh

I don't see anything bad there, 2 years is small .

Is your wife fat?
Have she given birth?
How many kids do you intend giving birth too?

From the question let me say an assuming answer .

- If your wife is small in nature?, forget it she woñt old in time.
- If you take care of her well, without much stress she won't get old fast.
- Hope she don't bleach or apply all those rubbish make up girls do wear on?
- She should be willing to dress in ways that suit you.
- Child bearing makes women old fast, most especially she's the type that get old in time. - - --- Minimize the kids you are to born like 3 is Ok.
- Exercise and eating well can refresh her.

Above all money, money can make an old woman young. Just get money you won't be complaining .


Unless you don't love her as before, because if you love the first choice the second choice won't be there.

NiRfreak:
If she has alot to bring to the table..... plus if she's submissive and respectful. Perhaps two years isn't much. .
If you truly love everything about her, you will need to earn her respext and act mature, and maintain frame to make it work. Otherwise older mature ladies can be very manipulative. You have to be smart....or she has to be respectful, submissive, sensitive and reasonable

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pls don't take certain redflag with levity, especially if she's very manipulative, stingy or promiscuous.

FalseProphet1:
I see both of you fighting in future, I see you feeling insecure and sad. I see you demanding respect from her but she isn't willing to shift grounds. I see you complaining and sad.

kingreign:
That's not our problem. Id you have a problem with her age, sack her. If you do, it's not even our business and not our problem.

It's your business, your life, your union, deal with it and don't bring it to the cyberspace Biko!

mrex911:
Hi Nairalanders, ur advice is seriously needed here. No insults pls.
I've been struggling with Masturbation and pornography addiction for the past 15 years.
I've tried all I could to stop but all to no avail.
I've prayed and fasted so many times with no tangible result. What happens is that;
I'll stop for like six(6) months without endulging in it. But once am down I see myself in the act again.
It has been filled with ups and downs all dis years.
Anytime I endulge in it the aftermath is filled with regrets, guilt, shame and loss of inner power.
I always fill sad and empty afterwards.
I really don't know what to do again, I seriously need help. My relationship with God is as take here.
Pls help a brother.
U advice will be appreciated.