₦airaland Forum

andyanders: Listen, in Nigeria, or Ibos, the culture we have here is that you can even tell a girl you love her from day one. Ours is straight and I do understand the culture of yours were you have to start building up relationship for a long time. For him to tell you that he ants to take you to the registry is enough to to even let you know he loves you and not to use as might have conceived.

2legit2qwt: I don't really know what to tell you but something just ain't right about this whole thing. He suddenly tells you he loves you a month or so into the relationship?? That's nowhere near realistic.

The part about returning home is probably a mind game to get you to not see his desperation, another red flag.

These are just my opinion and i could be wrong but take it slow, you seem to be going too fast.

Honeyjay: I have been dating my my boyfriend for a year and 8 months. My boyfriend is Nigerian(born & raised) and Igbo. I was born in the UK, but raised the African way( Sierra Leone). When we met he told me that he loves me within a month or two. I didn't know why he had said it so fast. It scared me. He came here on a student visa but it ran out and he applied to stay for another few years but it runs out in November ths year. On New Year's Day he proposed to me and I said yes, but he didn't ask my fathers permission even though they have met (which is concerning me). My Igbo male friends who were born here have explained how traditional Igbo people are, so I was shocked. And before I caught him toasting babes in his fb messages and I threatened o leave n he begged me to stay. Also hes been insisting that we go to a registry before we even have a wedding. He has friends that are married non Nigerian girls who were Los born here. None of them have partners from their own country(Nigeria) and all have settled with uk women.

I speak with his brother on fb. When speaking he told me that "things are hard in lagos, no wonder Ikechukwu doesn't want to come back". But when I speak with him he's always telling me that he wants to go back to Nigeria to live and that this country is not for him. So I'm left confused.

My family are concerned that I'm being used & my instincts are telling me to leave him. I'm too ashamed to tell them he has asked me to go to a registry. Am I being crazy or is he with me for stay. /


I'm a mixed Scandinavian and Asian girl engaged to a Nigerian Igbo guy living abord. I met him at my Mother country where he living. We are together 3 years now. I've been supporting him every month in two and half years already. He 've been cheating and lies on me.He dominate me to get what he want. I fighte with him. I want to break up and leave him ,but I can't never leave him and he never let me go. He told me he choose me to be his wife and love me so much. His cheated only mistake. I don't believe him. Lately in 6 months we always fight after his dating girl message me and let me know that they are dating.He broken up with her immediately and told her if she disturb me again he will report her to police that what the girl told me and cried with me. I cant trust him any more even he said sorry 1000 times and promise will not hurt me again. He said dont want to see me sad and cry, in 6 months I was in suffered,but I never stop support him. He got nice new mobile phone in 2 Christmas, shoes brandname jeans and nice house where he staying. He told me when he done with his Master he will take care of me in the rest of our life,but Its ok for me I dont need that I can take care of my self. I love him unconditional,but in last month I had enough and tired of fighting with him. I decided to stop and leave him .He told me he will let me go if I want ,but after that families involver his parent and mine don't want us to spilt .And when I look inside my heart I still love him very much.. I told him we move on in life and forget everything in the past. I forgive and give him second chance, but if he do it again we will not discussion just end up. I told him I trust him again 100 % sound like silly, but that 's all I can do I told him I can't stop him from cheating, he have to stop him self. What can I do that I only pray and keep hope he will change and keep his promise. I'm not stupid or bad looking I have a good job and my owned business.. I only follow my heart what I can tell you that listen to your heart and let it be If you doubt about him don't be with him. If you love him give your self a chance, people may be using and hurting sometimes ,but who worth it.. think and choose wisely..

No offence but how is this of relation

xynerise: My dear there is no place like home. Dont you want him to visit his family?
Love can bring you to Nigeria who knows?