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PrimadonnaO:
Please, pay no attention to those people saying you're desperate. You never can tell...they may be people in your fiance's situation, so they are indirectly justifying themselves.

I don't know why you went into that relationship with a man like that, in the first place. But that's absolutely pointless right now.

For 35/40 year olds to still be dependent on someone else, forget it. They are both entitled and lazy. Don't even rationalise staying in that relationship. You'll end up being miserable. Take a walk, baby girl... and don't look back.

Thanks ma

dododawa1:
women and story story,she no even once mention (MONEY) the guy has spent on her till date,just looking for FAULT to leave the guy since the guy is BROKELEY.WOMEN WOMEN and WOMEN.

What if there's never money left to spend on me?

Viciyke00:
Awon any male that is "25 and below" don't near me Geng

You go soon turn Lord of the rings dear

Don't go and learn a skill and be useful to yourself, Keep hoping on marriage helplessly.

#ode

Boy, I can feed you for the rest of the year, just take a chill pill and troll on some other thread.

rozario01:
Is this jennifer?

Who's Jennifer?

Tamakay:
The age at which you are showing this level of desperation is disgusting. 24yrs, probably you don't have anything to offer rather than opening only your legs. Mtcheeeew....a bunch of a liability!

So, I shouldn't worry about his plans after engaging me? I wish your sisters end up with the same man, peace.

Thanks everyone
My family's not aware of the living arrangement, I never told them cause I know they wouldn't support the union if they knew
I'm a graduate, I'm working and equally run a business, to everyone saying I want him to throw his family out, I don't know but how do you want me to be comfortable living with 34-40yr Olds? And they don't seem to be bothered about having a bearing in life, sorry but that's the highest height of irresponsibility, sometimes, he doesn't have money and I have to support him financially and shouldering his family's responsibility, I find that very awkward, I can take care of someone younger but definitely not a full blown adult.

UyaiIncomparabl:
I hope you'll learn to see that he's really not into you like that. A man who hasn't made plans to leave and cleave definitely has no business getting married. That he is 31 doesn't mean he's ready. You cook and tend to his family whenever you are around them, right? You'll do worse when you get married. You'll become head chef and senior nanny to his siblings and aging Grandmother.

Have a serious discussion with him, tell him to give you a time, set your own time too since you're the one whom the shoes hurts. If he still shows signs of unseriousness and unwillingness, then I see no reason why you shouldn't start extending your search outside. This is your future. Don't ruin it. The partner you marry is liable to make or mar you.

In the end, it's all your brunt to bear. Choose wisely now to avoid coming to the front page of Nairaland tomorrow seeking for marital advice.

Ladies, even if you date a douchebag, please endeavor not to marry that douchebag. Please, see it as an importance to marry a man that has sense. You're Queens and Queens do not eat debris nor settle for less.

Thread wisely and carefully.

Thank you ma.

Winneygirl:
Those siblings with live-in partners, they and the partners are irresponsible.
He should help his siblings become self-sufficient and move out of that house.
He caters for their every need, that's why they keep bringing more and more responsibilities.

He tried helping but they usually end up squandering the money on irrelevances, mostly virtual games.

dominique:
In addition to chef and nanny, she would also be housekeeper, dishwasher, errand girl and mai ruwa (in case there's no running water there). How can a young girl open her eyes and jump into a relationship with a man with this kind of family baggage on his shoulder? Even if he eventually marries her and moves away from that family house, his siblings will still continue to pile up demands on him and if he's unable meet the demands, she will be blamed and resented.

She's lucky she's got age on her side, unfortunately she may have gotten pregnant. If I were her, I'd pawn off that ring to those aboki gold buyers in Yaba market and flee from marrying into such family.

He moved out once, but they came visiting and saw there were vacant rooms, before we knew what was happening, they'd moved IN with him fully cause the former house rent expired, now, he thinks I'm trying to separate him from his family.

Gaggi:
Why did you accept his ring with all these observations? I know Nigeria is hard but living with a crowd and wanting a woman to join you there is insensitive. Some women don't mind and because you accepted his proposal, it comes across as you don't mind.
You are just 24 and shouldn't fret too much. If he isn't serious please move on. Discuss your fears first and if he still doesn't show seriousness, take a decision. As for being pregnant, I'm sure you did biology in school. Unprotected sex leads to pregnancy.

Thank you for the contribution, I accepted his ring because I thought he was going to "change" and perhaps, start living on his own, obviously, he doesn't look like he's moving anywhere, he has chased off other eligible suitors off me.

Good evening everyone, I've been a guest for quite a while, created an account cause I need advice from the audience.

How long should an engagement ring be worn for? I've been engaged since last year May (dated for 4yrs), my Fiance hasn't talked about proceeding to do introduction or marriage, it's like he just proposed to me because he felt like.

This man has refused to be on his own, his Grandma and 5 siblings (younger and older) live with him and he takes responsibility for them all, two of his siblings living with him also have their partners living with them. It's only a 3 bedroom flat. I feel like quitting the whole thing cause I don't feel comfortable going to his house. When I do, he wants me to cook for everyone which gets me strained.

With the look of things, he has no plans of moving out for them cause he rented the apartment, neither do they have intentions of moving out on their own, it's more like a family house. My period is two days late and I'm scared to the marrow.

Please advice me on what to do cause I can't live with him if they're still there after marriage, he's not even talking about marriage, I've not asked him yet so as not to sound desperate but why propose if you don't have plans of doing the next thing after a max of 6 months?

He's 31 and I'm 24

Thanks.