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feaworaoja007:
come on, she's in the university! your friend should let her live her life while he "your friend" gets a life too...whenever they see, they can continue 4erm wheree they started; it's not like they"re married...
which kain immaturity be ds one sef?

So because she dey school mean say she fit dey do anyhow abi?

Menzy86:
I don't know why this is even an issue to be contemplated by this OP. U sound very young (since u r still an undergraduate) hence d dilema. When u have experienced life in full throttle, u will understand that it is NEVER worth it hiding d escapades of a hoe girlfriend from a CHILDHOOD(way back) bro. I will spill it to him immediately and damn d consequences (which I can assure u will be the best fit provided your friend has ANY brain in his head).

It is likely I send him the link to this thread. He should be able to choose the best advice for himself out of the numerous advice here. Thank you for dropping by

Obynolee:
How comes he called you and handed over the phone to his bae?,in the paragraph four or is this a cooked up story?

Lol. The girl went to visit him in his school. This is not a cooked story, it's 100% legit.

Preciousseed:
Op, if this story is true, then you have to honour the trust your childhood friend have in you by asking you for such. Again, it seems your friend is so much into this girl in question. The best thing you can do is to sit the girl down and caution her since you have already made your identity known to her. Though you shouldn't have done that. Be it as it may, your friend is your friend, play a mediator role and save the two ( if possible) but if not, then stand with your friend.

Thank you sir.

invinzible1:
Op are more dangerous to your friend than that LovePeddler, please if you cannot tell your guy what you saw in black and white, then forget it are more dangerous than judas. By now u ought to have to told him and not coming here to quote people's comments.

And if I had dine that, na your type go they tag me 'Relationship breaker'

People are really insatiable.

Obynolee:
U

Is your friend in the same school with you and his bae?,judging by paragraph four of your essay

No sir, He schools in the neighboring state.

SexyStrawberry:
Mind ur business, face ur studies and stop gossiping, after all they are still doing bf/gf ur friend hasn't gone to meet her people to drop a bottle of fanta on her head! So why do u want to be a bad belle? Guys these days dey gossip pass women, see as amebo dey chook u for body, u wan come do confirmation for Nairaland first before going to wag mouth

Common sense they say is not common

TrueHeart365:
i wish i knew that your friend so i ca tell him to avoid you.

you don't sound like a loyal friend.

where does your loyalty lie? your friend or his hoe of a girlfriend.

imagine you pitying the guy and knowing he may be wasting his time and resources yet your only fear is the girl hating you for this.

i pray God doesn't give me this kind of friends

Don't be too quick to judge.

I will let the cat out tomorrow when he comes around, I pray he accepts the outcome in good faith.

yorex2011:
Relationships these days are just becoming too stressful haba
I feel for both the girl and the guy sha.
She doesn't know she's just being used, thats how those so-called student leaders/politicians are.
Eventually things will come crashing down

Tell your friend, then also tell him that he shouldn't say anything to the girl. He should if he likes consider himself single and feel free to get another babe.

The girl has broken up with him by having another boyfriend, which she didn't hide.
So your guy doesn't need to breakup or do anything as the girl has already broken up with him.

E go pain wella, but make him just save himself from the heartache.

Left for me I won't advice or say anything to the girl, experience is the best teacher. Let her learn the brutal way so that she'll respect the next man (prolly her husband) that she dates. She's old enuf to make decisions and face the consequences of her actions.

God bless her and your friend and you.

God bless you too sir.

Ajusshi:
How long will you continue to talk to her?
She's just in 100level, and she's going to meet other dudes after you have left the school.
My candid advise (as a married man) is to codedly let you friend to accept the reality of the situation.

Okay sir.

Thank you for your advise.

harlayoh:
my Man will always say " you don't lose a friend for your girlfriend because your friend will always be there (needed or not) while the girlfriend will move on when the weather is no longer favourable " I get angry whenever he says this but it is true.. if I were you I do tell my friend that night or the next morning cos he trust me that's why he entrusted his gf to my care.. A word is enough for the wise!!! I drop my pen

Another food for thought here.
Thank you harlayoh

Ajusshi:
Dude u guffed big time.
You shouldn't have ever ask her anything thing.

Just carry on like nothing happened
See no evil hear no evil....

Tell your friend you haven't have the time to see his bea, and make excuses for your failing to meet with her.
Whenever you and your friend meet, you can discuss with him.

To be sincere, I wanted to confirm if she was the babe in question. He is coming around tomorrow. I seriously don't want him to loose his girlfriend. I would talk to her and see if she can turn a new leaf.

henryhemon:
Bro code over any code.

Coded

asodane:
Campus girl I no trust, it's a normal thing for both girls and boys when they gain admission newly. That one day guy wetin you go gain by telling your friend, just advice the girl to leave the new guy, because telling your friend mmmmmmmm you go feel console him

My thought exactly. I would gain nothing by exposing her to my friend rather I would scatter a four years relationship at first contact. I would go look for her tomorrow and try to talk sense into her skull. if she doesn't bulge, I will have no choice than to spill the beans.

Thank you Boss.

lieutenantHaven:
I kno dat girl...I kno d girl in question... She s the assistant class rep. I wish I kno dat her bf sef. The day she went out with us at nite..that her bf kept calling but she refused to pick. I kn d girl

Are you for real? I only know her as the course rep not an assistant class rep.

collitexnaira:
Baba since no one will tell u this, i must tell u, you re a big FOOL, man u fvck up big time,
Why reveal ur identity the babe, you shouldn't hv shown her ur frnd pix, she wouldn't have begged you nd you wouldn't be confused, it would hv been easier for you to tell ur frnd.

You still gat to tell ur frnd whether she begs u or not, no allow her turn ur frnd to monkey wey dey work nd baboon dey chop her for school,, i know say ur frnd go dey send her small change, so no allow her turn ur frnd to Maga while she is cheating on him

Must you insult me to prove your point?

If I no reveal my identity how i go confirm say na the babe I dey follow talk? Remember say I never see her before. i just wan confirm say na she

Greenbullet:
guy u dey vex me,if na d gal friend catch the guy with anoda gal within half of a second she don hear now since how many days u Neva fit update or guy.u dey f.up

Chai. I dey reason the implications. If the Bae go turn new leaf, I fit no tell my guy.

Chicent:
i quoted you so that u will listen to what i have to tell u.
Your friend has been dating this said girl for 4-5yrs now. Yes! Its very difficult for gals to be faithful while in school and away from their bf's, but how well did u play ur game while at it is all that matters.But i bet you for a gal who havent even settled down and has hooked up already kw nothing or less of what she wants or she is doing.
So this is the in thing, call her and tell her to choose btw ur frnd and her new found lover because its very certain ur frnd will be spending alot on her to keep the relationship going. So safe ur frnd now or never.

NB- if u didnt kw about her affairs its a different thing, but since u kw and u have confirmed, pls do the needful and do it fast.
Dont break the Bro Code...... Peace!

Thank you sir. I really appreciate your advise.

Heavance:
See, just scope your friend to get his mind off this girl as the environment is bound to change her personality. If some girls can't be faithful to their boyfriends who are in the uni with them, how will they be to a guy who isn't?
Just tell your friend not to invest his emotions at all, If he no fit buy her Gucci how she wan take loyal? (even those wey them buy Gucci & Chanel for never loyal o)

Noted.

Thanks for dropping bye.

CioAngels:
What level was she as at the time you spoke with her?

She was and still a fresher

7Randall:
The story is a true test of your loyalty. I pray I don't find myself in the kinda situation you are in now but if I do, I'll do either of the two things I'll mention below:
1. Your guy is your childhood friend so you should probably know him well. You should know if he cheats on the girl or not. If he has cheated or is cheating on her, just keep your mouth shut about the matter.
2. If you are sure he hasn't cheated on the girl before, then he probably doesn't deserve such treatment so you tell him about it.

I would stick with the latter...

Thank you Boss

swimcash:
atleast u go knw say u do d ryt tin n ur frnd go always appreciate u. oya Mk we look am at dis other perspective, u no tell ur frnd, d girl come decide to end d relationship wit ur frnd she cum even go ahead to tell you frnd say her recent bf even introduce her 2 u. Ow u go look in front of ur frnd

Nawa o. This matter don pass me.

swimcash:
guy, if u no tell your frnd, Na u b d worst frnd ever.....#fact

I be wan give the girl second chance maybe she fit change.

let's look at it this way, if I decide to tell my friend and the two decide to make thing up between themselves, which eye you wan make the babe take look me? I go be her worse enemy.

Greenbullet:
bro,this is the time to prove your loyalty,tell your friend everything and I tell u he will always trust you.if you don't tell your friend you have indirectly helped in facilitating his death.

I'm seriously confused on what o do. The worse part of it is that I chat with my friend on daily basis. I just dey shake my head in self pity for him any time he uses her picture on his dp.

ThinkingOutLoud:
so this is your idea of "i'll try to make this very snappy"

I'll be right back

Lol. Chai. Brother abeg forgive me. I couldn't help but let all out.

chocolateme:
Ok.. is it that she begged you not to tell your friend with promises to break out the relationship she just started with the guy or not to tell your friend while she continues to enjoy the new guy?which one? Because ndi igbo si na "ekwue anughi na egbu umuazi but na ahu ekwughi na egbu okenye"
Call her to attention, give her options to either forget your friend now and continue with the campus guy before things gets messier or forget about campus live, focus on her studies and retain her man..
Let her know that you are not a fool too. Then let your friend know before he spends his life savings on someone that is not worth it. Thsts if he is truly your friend. We all know that predators will continue coming for her while in school but she should read a lot about how such relationships ended.

NNE, she didn't say anything reasonable, all she was saying is that I shouldn't tell my friend and that she was sorry.. blah blah blah.. I left her presence without saying a word

I will try to make this very snappy.

I have a childhood friend who is so very much in love with his girlfriend of 4-5years. (Whom I have never met) Fortunately, the girl in question got admission to the school I currently am and she was offered the course I am also studying.

My friend called me and told that his Bae was given admission to study the same course I am studying, and he begged me to keep tabs on her. I assured him that I would try. (me wey no get time)

He sent me her pictures and told me to look for her at her where she receive lectures and get to know her better. I assured him that would i will of which I never did due to the distance of her lecture hall. I was optimistic that I would eventually see her one of these days.

Two weeks ago, my friend called me, after exchanging pleasantries he gave the phone to his Bae. I greeted her and congratulated her on getting admission to study the best course on campus. She begged me for past exam questions and handouts, I promised to give her the ones I would lay my hands on. I also advised her not be carried away with guys on campus, she thanked me and promised not to disappoint my friend.

I got to meet another girlfriend of my friend Bola (not her real name) who happened to be the same class she was. I asked her if she knows Joy (my friend's girl friend..not her real name too) I showed her the pictures my friend sent to me on my phone for easy identification. She immediately told me that she was their course rep and the most popular figure in her class.

Fast forward that same night in my course mate birthday party, Bola came to where i sat and told me that Joy was dancing with a guy in the middle of the hall. (It was quite dark and I couldn't really notice the faces of the people dancing)

I stood up and wanted of meet her for the first time, I got a shocker when the guy she was dancing with (I know the guy very well, he is my senior and I was one of his main man in his electioneering campaign team) sighted me and hugged me, he introduced her to me as his girlfriend and shook hands with her I was dumfounded and returned to my seat.

A girl I spoke with two weeks ago.. having a boyfriend already. I was perplexed. I wanted to confirm if she was truly the person, she went outside and I followed her. I stopped her and she responded with a smile. I asked her if they guy was truly her boyfriend, she said yes and confirmed my my fears. I asked her how long they were dating , she said she met him when she was doing her registeration. She asked why I was asking, I told her that I was feeling for my friend. She asked what i meant by that. I brought out my phone and showed her my friend picture. she started begging me and I pleaded that I should not tell my friend nothing.

I avoided her like a plague till the party ended.

This incident happened on Sunday night and I have been thinking on what to do.

should I tell my friend?

I wish them the very best in what ever they do.

Ymodulus:
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faithfancy
check your account.

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Boss, should I send mine too? help a brother.