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jesusjnr2020:
First of all repent of your wicked ways for God doesn't answer the prayer of the wicked except that of repentance.

Minister of Humanitarian Affairs, Disaster Management and Social Development, Sadiya Farouq, is being attacked online after she announced via her Twitter handle that her Ministry will be empowering over 700 women with N20, 000 grant.


''I was in Jos, Plateau State on Thursday to flag off the Federal Government Special Grant project for rural women which will see over 700,000 women receive grants of N20,000 to make them financially empowered members of the society.'' Farouq said

Read the funny twitter replies from the
source: https://henzyword.com/nigerians-react-after-minister-of-humanitarian-affairs-announced-plans-to-empower-700-women-with-n20000-grant/

Pope Francis has appealed for an end to violence in Nigeria following the killings of peaceful #EndSARS protesters at Lekki tollgate.

After reciting the Angelus from a window overlooking St. Peter’s Square on Sunday, October 25, the pontiff said he prayed that peace would be restored “through the promotion of justice and the common good.”

https://henzyword.com/lekki-toll-gate-shooting-dj-switch-is-a-fraud-she-must-be-tried-and-prosecuted-bbc-journalist-gbolahan-macjob/

He said: “I follow with particular concern the news coming from Nigeria about the recent violent clashes between law enforcement agencies and some young protesters.”


Source: https://henzyword.com/pope-francis-prays-for-peace-and-justice-in-nigeria/

President Buhari and his wife, Aisha, on Friday, September 4, gave their daughter, Hanan’s hand in marriage to her fiance, Turad Sha’aban.

Hanan, one of the daughters of President Muhammadu Buhari and Turad, the son of a former lawmaker, Mahmud Sani Sha’aban, tied the knot at the Presidential Villa in Abuja and was attended by various dignitaries.

https://henzyword.com/actress-pamela-anderson-dating-her-bodyguard-of-two-years-following-12-day-marriage-to-jon-peters/

The groom is a special adviser to the minister of works and housing, Babatunde Fashola, while the bride is a fine art photographer.

https://henzyword.com/body-found-in-front-of-prince-williams-and-kate-middleton-kensington-palace/

Hanan is a graduate of photography from Ravensbourne University in England.

The groom , who currently holds the title of Wakilin Tudun Wadan Zazzau, bagged an MBA from Northampton University, United Kingdom.

check out for more lovely photos here
https://henzyword.com/gorgeous-photos-of-hanan-buhari-wedding-to-heartthrob/

Nigerian plus-size model, Monalisa Stephen has revealed plans to enhance her already massive boobs to make them bigger.

The Instagram celebrity made this known during an interview with Inside Nollywood, as she spoke about embracing her body.

but I don’t see it as my unique selling point. I just feel like my boobs are a part of my body and I can’t cut them off.”

“Basically for me, my lips and face are my selling points, especially my lips. I don’t have any regret about my body. People can think of anything. For now, I have not had any breast enhancement surgery.”

“But in future, yes, I may have it because I love big boobs. I want bigger boobs. I love my body. I tell people to embrace themselves and be comfortable in their skin.”

https://henzyword.com/sunmbo-advises-women-not-to-be-concubine-when-they-can-be-a-wife/

“I don’t see any reason why I should do any butt enlargement, mine is perfect for my shape and size. But you know, women and vanity, maybe later. But for now, no. I am not doing any butt enlargement.”

source: https://henzyword.com/monaliisa-reveals-plans-to-enhance-her-already-massive-boobs/

*TO THOSE WHO ARE MARRIED AND/OR ARE PREPARING TO GET MARRIED SOON*

1. *EVERYONE YOU MARRY HAS A WEAKNESS*
Only God has no weakness. Every rose flower has its own thorn. If you focus too much on your spouse’s weakness, you can’t get the best out of his/her strength.

2. *EVERYONE YOU MARRY HAS A DARK HISTORY*
No one is an Angel, therefore, avoid digging one’s past. What matters is the present life of your partner. Old things are passed away. Try to forgive and forget. The past can’t be change. So Focus on the present and the future!

https://www.henzyword.com/10-golden-secret-of-marriage-you-must-know/

3. *EVERY MARRIAGE HAS IT’S OWN CHALLENGES*
Marriage is not bed of roses. Every shinning marriage has gone through its own test of hot and excruciating fire. True love is proved in time of challenge. Fight for your marriage! Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in time of needs. Remember this is the vow you made on your wedding day!

4. *EVERY MARRIAGE HAS DIFFERENT LEVELS OF SUCCESS*
Don’t compare your marriage with anyone! We can never be equal, some will be far in front and others far behind. To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time, your marriage dreams shall come true.

https://www.henzyword.com/randy-evangelist-who-sleeps-with-married-women-exposed-by-hacker-on-his-facebook-account/

5. *TO MARRY IS TO DECLARE A WAR*
When you marry, you must declare a war against enemies of marriage. Some of the enemies of marriage are: Ignorance, Prayerlessness, Unforgiveness, Adultery, Third Party Influence, Stinginess, Stubbornness, Lack Of Love, Rudeness, Wife battery, Laziness, Divorce etc. Be ready to fight to maintain your marriage zone.

6. *THERE IS NO PERFECT MARRIAGE*
There is no ready made marriage anywhere. Marriage is hard work, volunteer yourself and perfect it daily. Marriage is like a CAR with Gear oil, gear box, back hassles and If this parts are not properly maintained, the car will brake down somewhere along the road and exposing the occupant to unhealthy circumstances. – Many of us are careless about our marriage… Are you? If you are, please pay attention to your marriage.

7. *GOD CANNOT GIVE YOU THE COMPLETE PERSON YOU DESIRE*
He (God) gives you, him or her in the form of raw materials in order for you to mould what you desire. You may desire a woman who can pray for 1 hours but your wife can only pray for 30 minutes. With your love, prayer and encouragement, she can improve.

https://www.henzyword.com/11-common-problems-that-plague-every-marriage/

8. *TO MARRY IS TO TAKE A RISK*
You cannot predict what will happen after marriage, as situation may change, so, leave a room for adjustment. Pregnancy may not come in the next 4 years. You may get married to her because she’s slim but she becomes 100% fatter after a child.

He may lose his beautiful job for years that you have to take the financial responsibility of the family until he gets a new job. But with God by your side, you will smile at last.

9. *MARRIAGE IS NOT A CONTRACT, IT IS PERMANENT*
Marriage needs total commitment, love is the glue that makes a couple stick together. Divorce starts in the mind. Never think of divorce! Never threaten your spouse with divorce. Choose to remain married! God hates divorce

10. *EVERY MARRIAGE HAS A PRICE TO PAY*
Marriage is like a bank account. It is the money you deposit into your bank account that you can withdrawn. If you don’t deposit love, peace and care into your marriage, you are not a candidate of a blissful home. There is no free love in marriage, You cannot love without giving and sacrificing.

May The Lord Give You The Grace And Wisdom To Build A Heaven On Earth Marriage In Jesus Name

Source: https://www.henzyword.com/10-golden-secret-of-marriage-you-must-know/

HUSBANDS AND WIVES, DON’T PROLONG YOUR QUARRELS.
Yesterday, I went to visit a preacher. He came three hours late to his church, venue of our meeting and I was a bit angry. But when he explained what kept him, not only did I forgive him quickly and learned some lessons, but I decided to share this with you so that some of us could learn.

Husbands and wives should learn how to settle their quarrels without delay. I have seen situations where couples allow a simple disagreement to fester for days. “Avoid Prolong Quarrel” Husband is silently hurting, expecting the wife to speak to him first.

https://www.henzyword.com/time-test-friendship-uncovers-valuable-friends/

Same for the wife, hurting and expecting the husband to play the man. The waiting game leads from one thing to the other. If you are at this level of matrimony, please read this. You might have a reason to call your spouse and together take an oath that “OUR QUARREL WOULD NOT LAST BEYOND THAT MOMENT.”

The story was told by a man of God: Husband and his wife had a domestic disagreement one morning. The man said he was so bitter about it, claiming his wife knew she was wrong but refused to apologize. She felt it was a non issue that the husband should overlook easily.

https://www.henzyword.com/12-signs-that-show-you-are-falling-for-true-love/

To say “I am sorry, darling”, to her husband was difficult for her. So many people are like that. So many wives take their husbands for granted too much. We are humans o. Blood flows in our veins. Make una hear well well. Three days on, malice reigned in d house. The husband said he must get that “I am sorry.” Wife cooked, husband refused to eat.

Everyday he came home with food from Tantalizer. He boycotted matrimonial bed. Husband found new friends in the children. Same with wife. By the way, the children were too small to break the ice.

https://www.henzyword.com/4-severe-reasons-why-some-men-cheat/

On Sunday, last Sunday, they went to church in their different cars but sat side by side during service, pretending to be jolly good husband and wife. Fraud in the house of God!! May God forgive some husbands and wives. But after service, husband went home with the children while she waited for women’s meeting.

That day, Satan decided to enter the crevice they allowed in their home. The husband was home already. When he perfunctorily checked his phone, his wife had called him thrice. He disregarded calling her back. Malice. The wife drove in some forty minutes later.

https://www.henzyword.com/demoralizing-life-of-a-woman-in-the-society/

He saw Usman opening the gate for her as his phone went on ringing. He checked it. It was his wife. She was in her car at the garage already. What is she calling me for? Foolish and stubborn wife! He said and ignored her calls. The call went on for a while. He ignored it as he sat with the TV. Thirty minutes later, she did not come in. Something told him to go and check.

Is she still in the car? Yes she must be there. He called Usman, Is madam in the car? Few minutes later, Usman rushed in. Madam dey sleep inside the car o. That was when he woke up and rushed downstairs. Asthma! Could she be having her usual attack? Could she have forgotten her inhaler? He quickly took the inhaler and rushed downstairs.

When he got there, she was almost breathless. Usman and husband quickly carried her to the back seat and off, he sped like a bat out of hell, to the clinic nearby. Madam was confirmed dead! If he had picked her call early enough, probably she could have been saved. When you leave domestic disagreement to fester for too long, it leads to greater evil.

https://www.henzyword.com/time-test-friendship-uncovers-valuable-friends/

The preacher said husband is weeping mad, blaming himself…i killed my wife! Only God knows how many wives, husbands, children have died such a needless death. Couples must cultivate one another. No matter how angry i am with my wife, I, in my office, she, in her shop, i call her at least three times during the day. I call even when i have no reason to call. All i could say is “Where are you?”

https://www.henzyword.com/randy-evangelist-ositadinma-sleeping-with-married-women-exposed-by-hacker-on-his-facebook-photos/

“Wetin dey?” “Anything for your boyfriend or girlfriend?” I am not saying this to impress anybody, but because it is true. Couples must learn to respect each other. Prolonged quarrel can lead to an undesirable result. I pray that anyone reading this, will not die prematurely in Jesus name.

Source: https://www.henzyword.com/learn-to-avoid-prolonged-quarrel-in-marriage/

True love ! We meet, we connect, we fall in love. But is it real?

1. Romantic love.
We all know the feeling. We meet, we connect, we fall in love. When we’re in it, our world is
turned upside down. We’d rather be with our beloved than eat, sleep or work. We feel on top
of the world when our love is returned and crash to the depths if it looks like our love is
threatened.

https://www.henzyword.com/devastating-things-that-happen-when-you-commit-suicide/

2. The desire to merge.
Lust is connected with romance. We want to merge our bodies, minds and spirits. Orgasmic
intensity isn’t just about pleasure. It’s about wanting to share our hearts, souls, atoms and
electrons. We want to lose ourselves and find the divine.

3. It’s us against the world.
We no longer feel alone. We are now part of a pair. We feel the power of two and joy of being
us. We’re still in the world, but the world seems like the background. We two are the center, and
the world is there to support and embrace us.

https://www.henzyword.com/13-signs-to-know-that-your-man-is-madly-in-love/

4. Longing to create.
The primal creation, the reason we are each here, is that a man and a woman came together,an intrepid sperm was welcomed by a wondrous egg, and we were launched into life. But in a world with too many people, we also create art, music, home, healing and other gifts for humankind.

5. Disillusionment.
The honeymoon time comes to an end. Disillusionment sets in. Our partner seems to change. They are not who we thought they were, and they aren’t giving us what we longed to have. We wonder if we’ve made a mistake and begin turning away and looking for what is missing.

https://www.henzyword.com/sensational-message-husband-told-his-wife-on-the-night-of-their-wedding/

6. Incompatibility.
Incompatibility is grounds for true love. When we become disillusioned with our partner, we often feel we’ve become incompatible. But when we recognize that disillusionment can mean letting go of illusions, we can also let go of believing that incompatibility is a bad thing. It actually allows us to learn where our wounds have been hiding.

7. Discovering our wounded selves.
In looking away from our partner, we are forced to look within. We feel the pain of the trauma we all experience growing up in families that didn’t adequately meet our needs. We recognize that we were hoping that our partner would make us whole. We were looking for love in all the wrong places.

8. Embracing Illness.
Everyone gets sick, but that’s not a bad thing. Sickness can be our greatest teacher, our greatest guide. I got depressed. My wife got breast cancer. We both developed heart arrhythmia. We learned the lessons of illness and healed.

https://www.henzyword.com/great-therapy-for-married-men-against-side-chic/

9. Learning the mathematics of true love and addictive love.
When we look for a partner to make us whole, we experience addictive love: “I’ve got to have him/her or I’ll die.” The math is ½ x ½ = ¼. The longer we’re together, the smaller we become.
When we look to our partner to help us heal and grow, we are on the path of true love. The math is 1 + 1 = Infinity.

https://www.henzyword.com/14-most-common-cause-of-regret-at-old-age/

10. Turning back towards our lover and committing to being real.
Being real is not sweetness and light. It is passionate, painful and creative—much like making a baby and giving birth. Being real requires being part of a pair. Self-actualization is not something we do by ourselves.

11.True Love is letting go of fear.
All our unhappiness and illnesses are fear- based. We’re afraid of losing what we have or not getting what we need. We always have two choices. Do we feed the fear or do we feed the love? Whichever one we feed gets stronger.

https://www.henzyword.com/13-signs-to-know-that-your-man-is-madly-in-love/

12. Accepting that real, lasting love is a journey, not a destination.
Real, lasting love is something we create every minute of every day. It’s the most difficult thing we do in our lives. It is also the simplest. But simple isn’t always easy. Learning to love is the graduate school of life. Admission is free, but will cost you everything you have. Are you ready for the journey?

I Am Ready, what about you?

Source: https://www.henzyword.com/12-signs-that-show-you-are-falling-for-true-love/

Marriage: I have this neighbor, he’s a househusband while his wife is the bread winner. He’s the one that cooks, cleans, washes etc while the wife makes all the money. He’s not ashamed to ask her “sweetheart what will you have for dinner when you return.

We often see him run out of his house to open the gate for his sweetheart and carry her handbag when she returns. The woman in return will “sweetheart him this and that” They have been married for over 15 years and just like most couples they are relatively happy. They are also very good Christians, the man will soon be a pastor in his church.. A popular church in Nigeria …….

https://www.henzyword.com/12-signs-that-show-you-are-falling-for-true-love/

When it comes to Marriage, do what works for you………………………………………………

Years ago, I accompanied a colleague to meet an intending client. She has already told me the woman in question is a true African woman, patriarchal and totally submissive .. She told me how this woman still kneels before her husband and wouldn’t stand until he tells her to do so.

On that day we went to visit, her husband was home. She came to inquire what he would eat and like my colleague had already told me, she knelt before him. Just immediately, his phone rang and he was on the phone for over 20 minutes and this lady knelt there until the man came to ask her to stand.

https://www.henzyword.com/devastating-things-that-happen-when-you-commit-suicide/

I later found out, she has the best things money can buy, rides the best cars, tours all over the world courtesy of her husband…. She still brags how her total submission is a means to her luxuriant lifestyle . Her husband is always bragging about how God blessed him with the bone of his bones and he will do everything to make her happy…….

When it comes to Marriage, do what works for you ……………………………………………………

I once lived with a sister before I got married, she’s been married for over 20 years and in all these years she’s has never washed her own panties let alone her husband’s clothes, she has never cleaned her house, she has never driven herself. She doesn’t cook. If she ever cooks, it’s always small chops and finger foods for her hubby alone. She has over 25 domestic staff serving she, her hubby and kids.

https://www.henzyword.com/great-therapy-for-married-men-against-side-chic/

Her husband is a multi billionaire who can afford the multitude of domestic staffs in their home.
Her husband has continued to thank our family for giving him such a wife. She is his eyes and makes sure nothing goes wrong in his business empire and home…. She is the best wife for him and the man can’t stop singing it. Both of them have continued to live happily ever after in their castle

When it comes to Marriage, do what works for you …………………………………………………………

https://www.henzyword.com/sensational-message-husband-told-his-wife-on-the-night-of-their-wedding/

There is this man, a family friend who will openly tell people “I will discuss with my wife” I can’t take any decisions without her… Whatever both of us agree then I will abide by it” Both of them must agree on a property to buy before he pays for it. They must agree on a vacation destination, on a car to buy etc before anything…
Even though the wife contributes little or nothing to most of this stuffs they still abide by mutual decision taking…….. Mutual decision taking is the bed rock of their successful marriage of 13 years and both of them are not ashamed to tell it……

https://www.henzyword.com/13-signs-to-know-that-your-man-is-madly-in-love/

When it comes to Marriage do what works for you ……………………………………………………

I have seen different kinds of UNILATERAL ADVICE dished out to people on how to run their marriages especially on social media…

“A woman must do this and that for her marriage to work”. A man must do this and that

Personally, I don’t think there is anything wrong with seeking for advice but while at it… make sure you look inwards first and ask yourself ” is this advice good for me and can it work for me in my home . Then you can make your decision

As far as I’m concerned, the golden rule of any marriage is that which the couples have agreed.

Source: https://www.henzyword.com/when-it-comes-to-marriage-do-what-works-for-you/

Yes ooo

majamajic:
Grooming center

If one marries the right one and be sincere in the relationship

playapayaski:
Some women are ungroomable and men unbrideable no matter what. Try ur best as much as you can and if it don't work, peace out. Marriage shouldn't be a life sentence you can't come out from

A friend of mine got tired of his wife just about six months after wedding. He complained bitterly to me about her and told me that he has concluded to break up with her; he went on to say that he was sure that he made a mistake. I did not respond immediately because I knew I must tell him the right thing. Why is the newly wedded man called groom and the woman called bride?

Many men have broken up with their wives because they end up not being the wife that they have dreamt of. But they have forgotten that on their wedding day, it was when the man was commissioned for the new task.

https://www.henzyword.com/great-therapy-for-married-men-against-side-chic/

Nobody calls the woman wife on her wedding day but bride, because it is the man that will groom his bride to become the wife.

That is why the man is called ‘bridegroom or groom’ and the word grooming has to do with patiently nurturing, teaching, tending and helping someone to become what he or she should be.

It is therefore believed that a man that takes a woman to the altar of marriage is matured enough to patiently groom his bride to become the wife. The man is not supposed to just expect the bride to automatically become the wife, she must be groomed.

https://www.henzyword.com/sensational-message-husband-told-his-wife-on-the-night-of-their-wedding/

It is clear that many of us men have unnecessary expectations when we were getting married, we want some magic to happen to our wives, we want them to become what we have had in mind about who we want our wives to be; not considering the fact that the woman does not know what is on your mind except you teach her.

Our expectations are often too unrealistic, because we don’t remember that change takes time and we can only expect something from someone that knows what we want.

https://www.henzyword.com/13-signs-to-know-that-your-man-is-madly-in-love/

So before you think of breaking up, have you groomed her? Have you given her time to understand you? Hope you realize that a turtle will never become a hawk? God often brings people that are opposites of each other together in marriage so that they can help each other in their place of weaknesses.

If your wife is weak where you are weak, then where will you get the strength that is needed? The problem with many of us is that we don’t accept people before attempting to change them. Of course, our wives are not from our backgrounds, so it will take time for them to adjust.

https://www.henzyword.com/lesson-on-character-that-will-shape-your-destiny/

Stop trying to change her, accept her, love her, teach her and be patient with her; that is what grooming is all about. She is going to be your wife but she is your bride now, so groom her. Stop complaining about her, she may be a turtle and you a hawk, she cannot fly so be patient with her.

I don’t believe that your marriage can’t work, be patient and allow God to help you.

Source: https://www.henzyword.com/reason-why-men-are-called-groom-the-woman-the-bride-on-wedding-day/

Yea

EminentSon:
This just goes a long way to cement the fact that you make your own destiny.

'Destiny is actually Character.'

Develop your character and sharpen your work ethic in this season. You cannot get by prayer what you should get by character and obedience because a man’s character is his fate. Your ability to diligently execute and the development of your character is in your hands.
Whether you’re in business, or in government, media, education or in any other arena, God wants to give you the promise but it’s up to you to steward the character of your heart and the diligent work of your hands.

https://www.henzyword.com/depression-remedy-among-our-youth/

Heraclitus Thomas Jefferson, the third President of the United States (US), said: “Nothing can stop the man with the *right mental attitude* from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the *wrong mental attitude.”
People self-sabotage themselves by seeking spiritual solutions to character-deficit issues. They look around at everybody as suspects for their predicaments when their greatest demons lurks within them – their character.
What we often call our destiny is truly our character, and since that character can change, then destiny can be altered.

https://www.henzyword.com/the-basic-power-of-the-mind-you-need-to-know/

Character is destiny
Most people believe that we can pray ourselves to success and get away with virtually anything if we stick to some prayer routines. There is no amount of spiritual penance that can substitute for character. Sometimes, you need character, not prayer.
Dutch Sheets said: *“Prayer is not a check request asking for things from God; it is a deposit slip- a way of depositing God’s character into our bankrupt souls.”*
What would ultimately destroy a man going to high places in life is not really the enemies that are waiting for him there, but the character that followed him there.
I want to emphatically underline the fact that this write-up is not meant to trivialise prayers in any way. I have observed that many people take character for granted, while overzealously tuning on into their spiritual mode.
We have become so spiritually in tune through prayers that we neglect the place of character and our relationship with people. Many are actually ‘heavenly’ bound, but with no earthly relevance.
You can speak with spiritual eloquence, pray in public and maintain a holy appearance, but it is your behavior and character that will actually trigger the manifestation of all that God has for you.
*You must learn to treat people with courtesy* .
The Shunammite woman must have been praying for a child all through her life. By being hospitable to a man of God, she eventually got her much-awaited miracle. *It wasn’t prayer that opened the door for her; it was her character.* Assuming she wasn’t hospitable, she would have missed a critical miracle.
Many times, we pray, fast and bind demons that don’t exist when our real demons are just our greatly flawed character. Many have insulted people that were divinely placed and orchestrated to help them fulfill their destiny. Some people are keeping malice with their destiny helpers.
Treat people with respect.
Treat strangers with courtesy.
Never look down on anybody. God can use anyone to change your story.

https://www.henzyword.com/great-therapy-for-married-men-against-side-chic/

Abigail Van Buren said: “The best index to a person’s character is how he treats people who can’t do him any good, and how he treats people who can’t fight back.”
You can easily judge the character of a man by how he treats those who can do nothing for him. The way we treat people we can’t help or hurt us, like housekeepers, waiters, and secretaries, tells more about our character than how we treat people we think are important. How do you treat people?
The Chinese realised much later that the best defence against the enemy is not a fortified wall, but a fortified character. Thus, the building of human character comes before building of anything else.
*Prayer is not everything.* Build relationships, and don’t ever forget that God will always use man. Be mindful of your words and how you speak to people. Work seriously on your character and attitude towards life.
I want to say emphatically that *character is not optional;* it is sacrosanct to the future that God has planned for you. No matter where you place prayers, character matters. *The greatest fraud in life is religion without character.* A man without character is recklessly alive.
William Shakespeare captured it succinctly when he said: *“The fault is not in our stars, but in ourselves* .”
Each gives what he has. You can only give what you have. What do you have inside of you?
Is it *hate* or *love* ? *Violence* or *peace* ? *Death* or *life* ? *Capacity to build* or *capacity to destroy* ?
What have you acquired over the years? *Team spirit or pull down spirit*
Please give out the good in you always. *Don’t treat people as bad as they are but treat them as good as you are*. Mother Theresa.
*PRAYER*
Everlasting Father, give us the grace to amend our character deficits to enable us give out the good in us always in Jesus name.

Source: https://www.henzyword.com/lesson-on-character-that-will-shape-your-destiny/

Confession:
I need your help, please don’t judge me.

I school in one of the higher institutions in Nigeria which name I don’t want to mention. I am a 27 years old and I live with my boyfriend off campus we’ve been living together for close to three years now he loves me so much that he can do anything for me, the apartment I stay with my boyfriend is a two bedroom apartment I and my boyfriend stay in one room while his two brothers stay in the other room, we live happily even his brothers likes me too.

https://www.henzyword.com/comparative-analysis-between-today-wives-and-those-of-yesterday/

It all started last March when I asked him for money for my tuition fee,he told me to hold on that he needed to fix part of his business that the money will be giving to me ASAP although he has always assisted me even though my parents still gives me money for my school fees and every other thing, but that period I needed money since he told me to hold on I couldn’t do anything but to obey him.

While I was dressing up for school, in his wardrobe I saw two bundle of money in #1000 Denomination to be precise, then I said to myself but he said he has no money could it be he just don’t want to give me this money, that day I was so tempted that I had to remove two piece from each bundle, that was how my problem started,from then on and on I started stealing money from him and when I do because he so much loves me he never accused me of that rather he accuses his brothers and oftentimes they fight over it, this even gave me the go ahead to steal more because I know he will never accuse me of stealing from him, in short he won’t even imagine it.

https://www.henzyword.com/14-common-money-mistakes-to-avoid/

Just last month I took money worth #150000 he hid somewhere in the room, just to be free from suspicion I told him I won’t be coming home till next week that I have to stay over at the campus to prepare for a test which he agreed later that day I sneaked into the house since I had an extra key and took the money, when I came back the following week I couldn’t find his brother and I asked of their where about he told me that the police have arrested them and I was like for what he said the stole his #150000 and they have been in detention for three days now he threatened that until they confess where the money is he won’t let them go,I quickly went to see them at the station my God this guys have been tortured I felt the guilt within me.

https://www.henzyword.com/5-common-identity-crisis-most-ladies-suffer/

Am tempted to confess so that at least his brothers will be left off the hook but am just so afraid if I do my boyfriend might chase me away and his brother will just hate me forever, his family will see me as a thief please is there any way I can go about this without losing my boyfriend? I love him so much am just confused I want his brothers out and the only way to get them out fast is to confess I stole the money put yourself in my shoes and see how hard it is to make such confession. I will be reading your comments.

Source: https://www.henzyword.com/confession-of-a-lady-who-stole-her-boyfriend-money/

You are welcome

dawnomike:
@Op thanks for this...I learnt a whole lot from it

Thank you

wildcatter23:





This is really sweet. It's a interesting piece.

He had a deadline to beat. So he came home late when his family was asleep. He went into the kitchen, warmed up his dinner that the wife had cooked. Matoke with beef stew. In a few minutes he was done and went to sleep, exhausted.

In the morning, him and his wife got up. After the shower, wearing robes, it was time to prepare for the day.

“You think I am your house help? What is this? How many times must I tell you to never leave utensils unwashed? I wake up to an unwashed plate in the kitchen sink. Can’t you even wash after yourself? Must I always clean up after you? Are you a baby? And you used my favourite plate that I keep for visitors, can’t you even use the many other plates I bought? Agrrrr you’ve ruined my morning. I am so sick of being married to a man who can’t even follow simple instructions” his wife shouted at him.

https://www.henzyword.com/a-brief-detail-about-the-angels-we-may-not-know-about/

“What is this all about?” He asked looking at her surprised.

“What is this all about?” She ridiculed him. “Stop acting like you don’t know. This is about the mess you left in the kitchen last night”

“Is this really about the dishes? Are you seriously talking to your husband like this because of a plate?” He asked shocked.

Their six year old child walked in on them in the kitchen.

His wife looked at the child then sneered at him and said, “We’re getting late. The kids are getting late for school”

He gently grabbed her hand to lead her to the bedroom.

“My love, we need to talk” he told her.

“We don’t have time! You have a deadline, I have an early morning meeting at work. The kids need to get to work. Stop rushing me” she reluctantly said.

“Kids, prepare for school. Mommy and I will have a chat, join you, have breakfast then we’ll leave” he told their three children.

“But dad we’ll get late for school” said their first born.

“You’ve never been late. But today, there will be no harm getting to school slightly late. Don’t worry, I will personally talk to your teachers” he said.

“Woop woop! You are the coolest dad” cheered their naughty second born jumping on to the sofa turning on the TV.

The couple walked inside their bedroom. Closed the door.

He got her to sit on their bed and he knelt next to her, placing his hand on her lap.

“We’re getting late” she said with a cold tone.

https://www.henzyword.com/14-most-common-cause-of-regret-at-old-age/

He rubbed her waist and said, “Shh, it doesn’t matter, this is important. I don’t want us to get caught up living life that we fail to address issues”

“So there is an issue?” She asked.

“Yes, my dirty plate on the sink” he said.

“Don’t worry, I will wash it” she said trying to get up out of the bed.

He pressed her down to make her remain seated.

He looked deep into her eyes as if searching for her soul. She felt naked before him.

“My wife, who hurt you in your past?” He asked.

“What do you mean?” She questioned.

“For the years I have married you, I notice you are easily irritable, you have this temper, this bitterness, this fear that erupts out of petty things” he spoke.

“Oh, so you’re saying I am petty? You think my reaction over what you did last night is petty? You think I am petty?” She erupted, sneering at him.

“See what I mean?” He said.

Silence.

“I am not saying you are petty, I am saying you are easily angered. I am saying that your response to my dirty plate was cold and harsh, all you could have done is correct me with love, but instead, you attacked me, you crushed me over a dirty plate, you fought me over a thing. Why are you this angry?” He continued.

Silence.

“No one is born angry and irritable. Anger, a hot temper is something we acquire as we live. It is our reaction to the circumstances that push us to fear, defensiveness and confusion. We acquire an angry temperament from our upbringing and the pain we collect along the way. So I want you to look inside you, your past and tell me, when did you start being so angry?”

Silence.

“My wife, open up to me. Let me in to the darkest corners of your past. Show me your scars. Who did this to you? Who introduced you to bitterness? When you open up, you release the pain and healing will start; but when you hide, when you pretend, when you act like you are OK, when you wear a fake smile; healing will evade you and you will take it out on your loved ones. You will find yourself shouting at me and the kids, taking out your frustration on us”

Silence.

“Racism, fear, tribalism, fear, anger; all those are taught. All of us are born in the image of God and then the darkness of life creeps in through events and we become fearful and angry. Who did this to you? Who taught you how to be angry? Who made you feel like you have to fight alone, like no one is on your side?”

https://www.henzyword.com/reason-why-men-are-called-groom-the-woman-the-bride-on-wedding-day/

She began to cry.

She broke down in tears.

He hugged her. She broke down even more.

“I was raped. I was raped by my cousins. I was just a young girl” she opened up.

She let him inside her darkest thoughts. Told him of how she was raped, her abortion when she was seventeen that she did because she couldn’t face her parents, her questions about her father who was largely absent when she needed a father figure, how she was sexually harassed at work by her boss and no one believed her.

She opened up about her fake friends, who were there only to use her until the day she chose to ride solo. She opened up about how she gave her body to a man who claimed to love her, only for the man to end up cheating on her and making her feel unworthy and not beautiful enough.

She opened up about her struggle with self esteem, the nights she cried to sleep. She opened up about how she made mistakes that ended up costing her time, money and peace of mind, her struggle with porn and alcohol while she tried to project an image of a Godly woman yet she felt God was angry with her.

She opened up about the nights she’d wake up naked in bed with a man she didn’t love and how that made her angry with herself. She opened up about the five relationships she got into thinking they would last. The first one she was used, the second one she was physically abused, the third she was rejected because the man’s parents didn’t approve of her tribe, the fourth she was cheated on, the fifth she was dumped the night before her wedding. She opened up about all her baggage”

He listened to his wife.

He wiped her tears.

“My love, that is alot for one person to go through. Thank you for opening up to me. It will help me to love you better. When you open up, you release the burden. I now know better about where you are coming from” he told her.

https://www.henzyword.com/comparative-analysis-between-today-wives-and-those-of-yesterday/

“I have never told a soul all these things” she said clinging on to him.

“If you don’t tell me, who will you tell? Darling, this is what love is about. Taking your past, walking with you today and building with you our tomorrow. Many people think marriage changes things but actually marriage reveals things.

In marriage that is when issues become unearthed. People use marriage as a cover up thinking it is a magic wand that will change lives. But when marriage is done in honesty, marriage become a place of healing because where there is love there is healing.

With the help of God, my love will silence your fear, my love will redeem back your view of sex, my love will tell you the men you were with before me were wrong. I will show you that you are a Queen deserving of the best of love. Love will heal you. Instead of taking things out on me, let me be love to you. My love, stop fighting alone, stop fighting your inner wars alone. That was then, this is now. You have me. You are married to a man who has your best interest at heart. No more fear, no more anger. OK?” said he.

She looked at his eyes and said, “I love you. I cannot believe after all the pain I went through, finally God brought me something good and I allow the hangover of my past to make me live with anger in my present”

He kissed her and said, “Healing takes time but it will happen. It happens when you stop covering up your pain but become intentional about it”

“I love you. I love you so much” she said.

“I love you too my wife. We are in this together” he told her.

“Kiss me” she requested.

They kissed. The healing kiss.

They prayed. The healing prayer.

He then helped her to dress up and she helped him to dress up. They exchanged some laughs, joined their children, had breakfast as a family and drove to school and their respective places of work playing some cheerful music in the car and having family fun.

Did you get married without addressing the issues you went through in the past?

Are you an angry person?

Don’t take your anger in to your marriage, it will tarnish the relationship between you and your spouse and your children.

https://www.henzyword.com/a-brief-detail-about-the-angels-we-may-not-know-about/

May you heal from all the damage you went through along your path.

May your marriage be peaceful and your wife be your friend

Source: henzyword.com

The idea behind this psychology is that every partner has a different way that they give and receive love.

The number one New York Times Bestseller, Dr. Gary Chapman; The Five Love Languages for singles argues that these ways can be divided up into 5 simple categories:

Words of affirmation, physical touch, acts of service, receiving gifts, and quality time.

We all can have selfish tendencies. It’s so easy to expect others to show love and affection the same way that we do. When we find ourselves in relationships, success often comes with actively tending to the wants and needs of the other person.

https://www.henzyword.com/effect-of-breaking-a-ladys-hymen-in-a-premarital-relationship/

Understanding your partner’s love language can be an important tool to enhance the long-term health and happiness of your relationship.

When you’re in a relationship, understanding your partner’s love language can make you seem like an all-star.

When couples understand and tend to their partner’s love language it can help with problem-solving and harmony within the relationship.

Words of Affirmation
If your partner values this love language, then they will feel loved when you verbally express yourself. Tell them they look nice or just tell them “I love you”. Heartfelt expressions of appreciation will go a long way with someone who likes words of affirmation.

https://www.henzyword.com/i-want-a-divorce-a-marital-issue-which-ended-up-ugly/

Hearing “I love you” on a regular basis is important to them, and helps them to believe they are loved. Hearing the reasons behind why they are loved is icing on the happy-relationship cake.

Insults are not easily forgotten and not hearing enough words of affirmation will make them feel unloved.

Physical Touch
This touch with someone you’re attracted to releases endorphins in all of us- holding hands, hugging, or pats on the back make you feel loved and cared for.

Physical closeness is directly related to emotional closeness for you, and neglect can be destructive to the relationship.

A hug can lift your mood or take away your insecurities. This person will need to literally feel your presence and will feel unloved if they don’t.

Quality Time
Quality time is pretty straight forward. The more time you spend with someone the more they feel loved. Having your partner’s undivided attention is the time when you feel most appreciated.

https://www.henzyword.com/the-moment-you-agree-to-date-a-married-man/

Distractions during quality time or postponing dates can make you feel like you aren’t important to your partner. Scheduling the time to be together is crucial to the success of your relationship.

Time is something we can never get back, and the person who values quality time most will want to spend it wisely.

Receiving Gifts
Receiving gifts is a love language that can be looked down upon if you don’t fully understand it. It’s not about just getting a gift, it’s about the thought behind it.

This person will really appreciate things that come from the heart. So if you’re catering to this person, think a little out of the box. Don’t get them a gift card for their birthday, give them something that sparks a memory or means something.

All gifts, whether small and daily or big and grand, remind them how much they matter to their partner and how much thoughtfulness and effort they think they are worth.

While the person with this primary love language enjoys receiving gifts, they will also equally enjoy giving gifts. They will be thoughtful in their gift-giving, always trying to give you something that you need or will really enjoy!

https://www.henzyword.com/marriage-counsel-before-calling-the-wedding-planner/

Missed birthdays or thoughtless gifts are their relationship nightmare because it makes them feel like their partner doesn’t care about them.

Acts of Service
If you feel most loved and appreciated when your partner thinks about what they can do to ease the responsibilities that are weighing on you. Hearing “let me help you with that” or “I already took care of it” is more exciting to you than being involve in the responsibility.

Laziness, failure to perform their share of chores, or being unthoughtful with how they can help you are all easy ways for you to feel unappreciated and unloved.

Someone who values this love language will appreciate it when you take over things that need to get done.

https://www.henzyword.com/reasons-why-most-single-are-not-yet-married/

So why is knowing your partner’s love language so crucial to the success of your relationship?
It’s so common for people to feel neglected by their partners. They may think that they aren’t loved and that their partner doesn’t care. In a lot of situations, this can be due to miscommunication. One partner doesn’t show/receive love in the same way that the other does.

It’s very common for two people to have a different primary love language. Understanding your partner’s love language and actively working to show love in their specific way can speak much louder than words.

It will help you and your partner feel more appreciated.
Think about it: if you’re an “Acts of Service” person dating a “Words of Affirmation” person, your partner might shower you with compliments and “I love you”s every day, but you would spend the relationship not feeling truly appreciated because they never offer to run errands or do the dishes.

Understanding your partner’s love language will help you discern how they show their love, so that you do feel loved and appreciated, knowing the way in which they give their love is different than yours.

It will allow you to communicate your needs more.
We’ve all had those little things we wish our partner would just do without us asking; complimenting us when we dress up, bringing home flowers, planning a date night. When they don’t do these things, it can be hurtful because in our minds, those things equate to their appreciation.

We also might worry they’d just be doing those things because they feel forced to if we ask them to, not out of appreciation or love.

https://www.henzyword.com/the-moment-you-agree-to-date-a-married-man/

Understanding that they do other things out of love, and that they just have a different love language, will help you to communicate, “it makes me feel appreciated when you clean the kitchen,” or “I feel loved when you hold my hand.”

It will show you and your partner what you both should do without being asked.
Knowing your partner is a “Physical Touch” person will make you more thoughtful about holding their hand in public or hugging them when they’re down, and you will be able to understand the meaning and importance behind these little acts that, for you, would otherwise be insignificant.

Your partner will be more conscious about what they can do to show you how much they appreciate and love you.

When you and your partner both know how the other gives appreciation and wants to receive appreciation, it makes for more thoughtful decisions and efforts that make you and your partner both feel loved and valued.

You and your partner should take a love language test. It will help you identify the ways that you can better make each other feel loved. It’s something you should talk about and help each other work though.

Be honest about what you like and what you don’t like. At the end of the day, relationships work best when there is open communication. When you can be open about the things you need. it’s much more likely to yield a positive outcome in your relationship.


Source: Henzyword.com
https://www.henzyword.com/