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xendra:
so you want to dump her because one of your gender lost control and did her wrong

Abi I no understand.

that's more traumatizing, you should be helping her get over it to realising not all men are evil. You talking about what's going through your mind, do you care what's going through her own mind? after going through such experience?

I am helping her go through this together and still do love her but the flashes of that moment still disturbs me. I mean that pity. And the fact that paedophile is still somewhere ruining other girls life us something.I think you don't get to experience what I'm feeling unless you're in those shoes. I saw rale as just a crime until I found myself here. It isn't easy. Although I have to be a man and have to be there for her.

brainbox34:
Lies from the pit of hell. In what circumstance did she tell you she was raped?

She was raped because the guy asked her out and she rejected. All he had to do was monitor her movements and he figured out her guardian wasnt at home, he barged into the house, overpowered her and raped her. You should know it isnt easy to overpower a man who's determined to have his way forcefully.

Amotolongbo:
The trauma of being raped before you got married should he hers and not yours. Yours is to pity her, guild her and stay with her to at least forget the memory of the past. That is if you sincerely love and interested in getting married to her.

I think I understand guys like you, so keen and interested in getting married to a virgin.
The “rape” could have been a sham and ploy by the girl to excuse her of the inordinate past, thinking that you might free her, knowing she already has a ruptured hymen by her ex or fling.

The rape could also be real, cos we now dwell in a pussy gaming world where emotionally and financially broke guys have the only pleasure of sadistically easing out their semen. If you love her, just treat the rape as one of her ugly past you won’t want yourself remembering at all and face the future with her.

Okay, thanks

I just got into a relationship and I really love this lady very much and I very much mean to marry her and spend the rest of my life with her until she told me recently that she was raped when she was still young. I don't know how to handle this because the thoughts and flashes of her getting raped keeps sending fears and sadness into my heart and I don't want a pitiful relationship and never expected this.
Please nairalanders, I need your honest responses regarding this, I'm confused, what should I do?