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"Am a young lady ,engaged, still an undergraduate started working sometimes last year. there this guy in my company bt nt in same office different branches.bt they come around once a while or meeting days.i dont notice him anyway wen they come around bt sometimes same last year wen they came around for a meeting he walked up to me, i can say that was the first time i really noticed him he demanded me to help him out on somethings which i agreed.after then we av been communicating almost everyday he wooed me which i knw definetly he will do one day bt i told him i am engaged.

He cooked up different stories that his G/F jst dump him normal guys lie LOL.,bt i never dance to his tone.bt we still communicate on phone almost every,chat online.evrything started at DEC. wen i was suppose to go 4 a program and i invited him which he agreed to go wit me and the program was all nite, lol and behold we were at the program together bt it started rainin around 1am till day break we were together cos evry where was crowdy and it was an open feild program i had no choice than to be in his arms till morning cos it was very cold.

Ever since the friendship grew stronger each day even wen we dont see each other bt talk on phone evryday, any day i didnt talk to him it look like my day as nt been complete like wise him any day we did nt talk maybe cos of busy schedule he call the nxt day to accuse me of nt calling even to find out wat was wrong that he didnt call .any way i do most of the calling cos he claimed he's too busy sometimes to call which i agreed cos i knw the nature of his job.after the christmas break in office he invited me to his house which i did.

Even b4 then av spoken to the sister on phone,on getting there thinking i will get bck that same day bt he confused me to stay i must confess i reallly enjoyed him all nite,ever since then we av been having dates, my fiancee is nt away of this nt even anyone. bt am afraid will this still continue cos my introduction is jst few weeks to this time and am planning 4 my wedding.

I knw I cant marry him and i knw he cant also cos he confessed lately he has a 11yrs relationship bt he has nt promise marriage cos he was considering.. CONTINUE...

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For the umpteenth time she called me to make peace between her and her husband.

These two.

Passionately in love and in hate.

Two faces of the same coin.

Destined to be together as much as to be apart.

Accusations, dissatisfactions, condemnations and protestations.

To make up to break up and break up to make up.

While never leaving the confines of their marital home and the shared responsibilities of their three children.

Two teens and a seven-years old.

I managed to quiet them down.

And I spoke to the husband separately.

He looked at me with tears in his eyes.

His pain was deep.

Then he said.

"Jude, I hear you, but you cannot understand."

"What can't I understand?"

He sighed.

Then spoke.

"There is something that happens to a guy when he gets married or he makes a lot of money that hinges on the kind of woman he has in his life."

"What happens?"

"If she supports him without making him feel that she has abandoned her own life to support him, if she celebrates him by focusing mostly on the good in him without making him feel that he no longer has a right to welcoming celebration from others, if she accepts him and makes no attempt to change him into who she wants him to be without making him feel that what she has done is unnatural and actually a favour she is doing him, he becomes an even better man, lover and husband because he sees her first and foremost as his best friend, fan, confidante and lover but if she makes him feel that he is never good enough for anything and that she is giving up a better life or passing on better opportunities in order to stay with him, then he will see her as his enemy and in the course of time will lash out in anyway possible to simply survive."

His voice was choked with unshed tears.

And he was gripping his right knee so tightly it looked as though he was going to.. CONTINUE..