₦airaland Forum

Na wa for dis change o! At a point, I thought I was reading a script for a movie. Sai Baba, with all the braggadocios fight against corruption, I hope this one will not be swept with APC broom under the carpet O! APC! CHANGE!!

I'm especially interested in getting the male point of view, but I'd welcome the female opinions, too. How much does a woman's age factor into whether men find her attractive? Probably few heterosexual males don't appreciate an eyeful of a good-looking 20-year-old woman, but at what approximate age, if any, do women stop being ogle worthy?

If it matters, here's my situation: I'm 53 and divorced 2 years after 12 years of marriage to a man with major mental health issues. I stay active--working out, healthy eating, etc.--and am in good shape with a good BMI. I don't know if I'm attractive or not, but I'm not ugly. I take care of my appearance. That should do it, I think.

Are men in general actually attracted to women my age? I ask because the few single men my age I've met/dated have really been looking for women who are substantially younger (say, ten years or more). I get how young = attractive. It just seems like women my age are pretty much ignored by most men unless they're married to them (and sometimes even then they still go out looking for 'fresh fish'). I know there's a lot that goes into the mix--personality, zest for living, confidence, etc., and maybe I'm warped by my few experiences. But given a choice and all else being equal, wouldn't most men over, say, 40, prefer dating women who are substantially younger?

Just trying to put things in perspective.

Thanks!