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Banilla:
Mods, take this to the front page. Thank you.

Hi everyone! I have a boyfriend, we've been together for a year. I absolutely love him, he's my whole world! And that's the reason I'm pressuring him to save, if we're going to have a future together. And he's down for it, he makes nothing less than 200k monthly. I'm still a student, searching for a decent job. I can't invest sh** presently but I hope to start soon. Yesterday, I brought it up. I want him to send money monthly to my bank account, no matter how little. I'll save it for him. He's hesitating. He said I should be patient, he'll give me everything I need but he wants more time. I don't want to ruin our relationship but I need his co-operation. I'm scared he might leave me, after I've given him the best years of my life. I subtly threatened him that my family would force me to marry a Nigerian but he made a joke out of it, saying I would never, that I'm his...

What should I do?

NB: I've never taken a dime from him. He drinks often and I don't want him spending 'our future' on alcohol! I'm way better at saving.

I'm worried if I press the subject, he'll get mad at me.

I also told him I want to leave Nigeria, he thinks it's a good idea and I also told him I can't afford it alone. He said he needs time.

Doesn't he love me? Should I let it go? Or insist we resolve this?

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Please have some pity for him. Since he is not living in nigeria and earn 200k equivalent. He is barely surviving. You should consider putting the pressure of yourself Development on your parents not on him. He has his şilent battles please don't add yours to it.since you have plans to live abroad go and be learning some skills like hair braiding it will come handy. His current work money is for his bills and personal upkeep. When is time for marriage don't plan a big ceremony

Jennyclay:
Ehhya.. You're a broke man, you don't have money. Biko, stay away from relationship.
May God Help you.

Why are you sounding this way.