alausaone:
Good morning i read your post, contact me i will help you out......stay cool and remain blessed......... if your brother doesnt help you do not be disappointed, i was once like that but today the rest is history.......i am not writting this to seek attentions but to encourage you, your presennt situation does not determine your tomorrow..............in my only way i will bail u out...

saw your mail...
it has been replied..
Best regards

InvertedHammer:

I just saw it

Good evening sir..
i sent a mail.. Best regards

InvertedHammer:
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It is a deceptive illusion.

Certificate is just a way to thin out the herd.

Education means to acquire knowledge and not to acquire certificate. Wealth is power and the most formally educated are not the most powerful. Bill Gates and Zuckerberg have no formal college certificates but they acquired knowledge.

Some certificates are not worth the papers they are written on. But the illusion must continue.

Millions of Ph.D holders in Nigeria but Buhari is the president. Do I need to say more?

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Good morning dear.

sent you a mail since yesterday..
have a great day..
Regards

mafiaso9:
How much money do you need to compete your studies and what's your full name so I can try and forward some funds for you via western union?

good morning Sir,

in total is 74k... God bless sir..
I can be reached at hopeagganyi@gmail.com..
Regards..

Image123:


You are jealous, don't be. Your brother's wife has been joined to your brother, you are the one actually interfering. No problem asking your brother, but ask wisely too. Stop asking like he owes you, and do not depend on him alone. Ask others too, ultimately as a supposed believer humbled by faith, your help comes from God, not your brother. If God uses your brother, fine. But if not, move on, and do not use it against him.
Joh 3:27 John answered and said, A man can receive nothing, except it be given him from heaven.

No need to cry or curse, no progress there.

good evening dear..

I just saw ur post now,was in school..

well,everyone has freedom of speech, but you shouldn't use unverifiable words as being jealous..
I don't mean to sound rude dear...

I skipped some parts of the story about the I'll treatment given to me by my bro's wife..
well ,let's leave that aside..
hope your day was good

2sexynet:
if someone offer to help you here, do not because of the disgusting comments reject it. It's normal because that is what makes us Nigerians.

You are even lucky that some are willing to help you. Several years ago I needed money for admission and I created a thread here on Nairaland but people made fun of me, some called me scammer, some asked if I do not have family, some said I should go and carry bricks and it went on.

Our perception to life is a resultant of our background and some do not know that some extended family are completely useless because it's devoid of love, support and understanding.

That's life as a Nigerian.

thank you so much sister..
I decided to ignore some comments here that reeked of immaturity..

well I pray they don't experience such things as o have experienced in life...

thanks again..

Curdlebug:
If you have gotten any form of help so far, let us know

hi....happy Sunday...
haven't gotten anything but the advises here have gone a long way in letting me know I'm not alone...
happy Sunday once again..

happy birthday Daniel Ryan.. may love and happiness follow you till eternity.. that is my prayer for you today... celebrate..even if you have nothing

InvertedHammer:

/ How much do you need for your clearance?
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that i shouldn't disclose Thanks for your show of concern... Happy Sunday friend

christisreal:
Dont mind those people that are just adding more salt to injury.The truth is that there is no guarantee that they would have done better if they had the same problem.Ignore the advice of those that are telling you to get married to solve your problems.Never make a parmanent decision over a temporary issue.I have an aunt that had a similar issue and got married to escape it.Now is she regretting the decision.I am not saying that you should not get married o but at least for the right reasons.
Now about your case; I really undetstand and i know its not easy but keep praying and holding unto God.He will surely do it.Remember that when a man's way is pleasing to God even the man's enemy will be at peace with him.Everyone has a trying stage to go through in life and yours seems too challenging but when God gets ready to bless you, you will forget all these troubles and you will narrate them with laughter.The scripture says that eyes has not seen,ears has not heard nor has it entered into the heart of any man what the lord has in stock for them that love him.Just hold on and keep praying.You may be surprised at how their countenace will change and even if it dosen't then help will come from somewhere else.If u attend a good fellowship then you can narrate your ordeal to them.while i was in school such issues were taken care of.
Above surrender your heart to Jesus If you are yet to do so.Its not a promise that once you do so things will change like magic but their are God given potentials which you posses that you may not know about until you become born again.Honestly if I had money I would have loved to help you and I know that there is someone out there like me who will also love to help and who has the resources to do so.May God lead you to such a person.
GOD BLESS YOU.

thanks ma'am.. God will see me and my bro tru..best wishes

I have been severely touched by comments here.. I thank all those who have in one way and another advised me positively..
I can't answer all the mentions I got .. hope you guys are not vexed .
God is with me and will surely be with me..
gracias deo

obyikye:
op, where are u now. show face please. Let me see what can be done for you.

hy dear..

kuchikau:
...

How do I reach you?.

If you stay around portharcourt, come to the teaching hospital,ask of DR. ThankGod.

by dear thanks for your show of concern unfortunately I'm not in port Harcourt '..
thanks all the same..

WHOcarex:
Taar!!! Don't mind that liar. Go through her other topics you will see what I mean. She is just a jealous and lazy being. Bitter wicked thing. "worked in a saloon, I have been paying me and my bro fee" my ass. Her brother is simply tired of her attitude. Mtcheew

hi..
please don't aggravate my already wounded soul..

I haven't really described more horrible details to you to ascertain my stance that I am trying

taryour:



oh my bad. sorry about my previous post. you dint put the part where you funded your fees and for your younger bro. it is well, such is life. God will sure see you thru this trying times. it is only but for a little while.
be strong.

thanks dear.

I feel so down

lalasticlala can you please help me get more helpful advice on how to survive this

keepingmum:
Babe I remember you raising this topic and been advised extensively yet u didn't listen.
You hv shown urself to be somewhat jealous os ur SIL. U didn't want ur brother to progress and marry because u felt his attention and priority will shift and rightly so. You are not a young girl, make use of your time and start earning money for urself and please stop this self entitlement is u hv.

https://www.nairaland.com/3043054/tired-life-need

https://www.nairaland.com/2961350/could-it-brother-bewitched-something

by dear..

it seems everyone doesn't get the real picture..

@taryour..
I virtually paid my school fees since my year 2 up till my finals..

I hustled through hair dressing and all but I have stopped all that now.. as I want to fully concentrate on my final year of study..
mind you,upon inception, I literally take care of my self and my little bro..
my bro treats us with apparent disdain...
whatever the wive have spoken to him I don't know...
I have tried to bring her to my heart as a sister Inlaw but it seems she sees me as a competition for her husband..
well,I leave everything to God Almighty...

thanks dear

crackhaus:

You don't need to leave the house, what I meant by seek your fortunes elsewhere is that you seek other avenues to get the money you need - could be from friends or course mates.

As for your brother, try approaching him again when his wife isn't at home to have a discussion with him regarding the fees you need to pay before the school can let you go.
He is your brother, has always been your brother, and will always be your brother - there's no way he wouldn't want you to go for your NYSC assuming his wife hasn't completely messed up his head.

In the meantime, try as much as possible to avoid anything that will cause direct altercations between you and his wife...do your chores, mind your business, and stay out of her way - you're the one who needs their help and even if you don't like your SIL, false humilty and loyalty always works wonders.

Remember to only have discussions with your brother when you both are alone.

thanks so much for ur matured advice.. my
God surely aint dead!!

Ahmed0336:
i have a friend who happens to be in similar situation. He is the first Son and have 3 younger ones. Him been wan marry i tell am say make him chill first, allow his immediate younger brother grad before getting married to avoid story that touches. And to be honest thats what saved his younger ones, Cos as he married chai!!! Him matter don pass our power cos we no just understand d dude again

Oh God

crackhaus:
I'm not quite sure how any man lets his wife come between him and the family he's known his entire life, to be honest...it's just something I can't fathom.

I'm sorry about your plight but the only solution I can proffer is that you leave your brother and his wife be, seek your fortunes elsewhere.
When a woman has gained that much control over a man enough to turn him against his siblings, there isn't much that can be done without you coming off like the agent sent to break the marriage.
And you really gotta stop eavesdropping on their conversations - mind your business.

You're a woman, your brother's wife is a woman - are you seeing the bigger picture yet?

thanks dear for your homely advice..
as for leaving the house, I have thought of that but sadly have no where to go..
both my maternal and paternal relations have turned their back o. is..our bro is our only hope..sadly enough..

Ahmed0336:
Some Women!!!!! Hian

that is what I have been suffering for 2yrs nw

hi family landers,

I am so depressed as of right now..

I have a bro who recently got married to his fiancée..

we were happy as a family until my bro's wife started interfering in between my bro and I..
it all started when I had an urgent need in school, I approached my bro with the most humble scenery one can ever imagine, his wife just cut me short, and said they was no money, I was shocked as my bro sided with her and said they was no money.
I took it in good faith and went away.
later that day ,when they were back from work,I overhead my bro talking to someone in his bedroom..
I went closer and behold my bro was talking to his wife sis asking her if she had seen the alert of the money he sent to her..immediately I heard that,I just sat on the floor and sobbed loudly..

I wonder why my bro will be treating me and my junior bro like this ,we are orphans (lost dad and mum the same day in a car accident)my bro is in jss3 in a public school(my bro's wife changed him with the pretext that they couldn't afford the private school fee).me,I'm in my final year in the university, just remaining my project and my final year school fees..
I am really depressed as my mates have already gone to nysc..

I can't go to anywhere because of clearance and my bro has turned a deaf ear to my appeal to set me up with something I can do to at least clear my self in school..
I am not a lazy person, God forbid that I be lazy but I don't have the necessary incentive to startup something..

I am just fed up with the whole scenario, I have thought of suicide, but ithat will be foolishness as my junior bro will be left in this world to suffer alone..

If my parents are seeing all that is happening, they should please intervene on our behalf because I'm almost giving up... ;'(

sorry for bothering you all with my trouble

thanks all for your piece of advice...
I appreciate... I'm currently staying at an uncle's place pending what I'll do next... God bless us all... @richiy drmikeadams sparkles003 keepingmum favoured234 cococandy Empero1 and all for their advice

PresVA:
Were you insulting to his wife or not? How have your relationship with his wife been?

insult? I am a very respectful girl..

I have never raised my voice at her b4 but today I just couldn't take it..

HateU2:
Helper from above will find u

I believe so my sister

Chidoks:
Have a chat with him, and whatever be the outcome make a move towards make making money for yourself. I've heard of people that saw themselves through school. Depending on your course of study, you can take up part time jobs or holiday jobs. While in school I walked into an eatry and saw a hot babe I had been admiring serving, story had it that she was self-sponsoring.
Who knows if and when you get something doing, he may feel challenged and take your schooling as a priority
Or he may be going through a tough time.
It may have nothing to do with wifey.

thanks so much my sister....
I will definitely have a chat with him..
Happy sunday

PresVA:
Visit Your brother and have a talk with him.. He maybe facing other challenges unrelated to his wife...

Good luck. .. I hope he continues fending for you. ..

hmmm.. I hope you are right though..

maxti:
.. I think it's too early to conclude. Weddings cost a lot and your bro might also have some other challenges.
Give him some time n never stop praying for him.

i know weddings are costly that is why i gave him a reasonable amount of time frame to rebuild...

Hmmm..

Thanks for your advice though

This headline made my sunday...

Gboliwe:
if you think this would prove him right, then you will be scammed easily. Nothing stops him from borrowing a real student's ID to do as you ask or even ask a real student to do so.

hmmm..
So my dear what should be done to prove this his story..

Happy sunday