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9JAFULLBREED:
It's normal for women to have lower sex drive after giving birth but your work as a man nah to think of what to do to spice things up.

Smh your wife gave birth through CS and u don dey disturb her for knack after 4months?


If you're seriously can't control the urge for knacking then Go and carry olosho to calm yourself down and chill. Yes I repeat am Carry Olosho if you can but don't get stucked

Things should be back normal gradually with your wife within 2years but u have to put in the work cuz she can't do it alone.

I have been doing same research boss. You can also check further, It says some bodies takes six weeks, some 2 months and some 3 months. I understood it's a process. 4 months no b joke now . But mind you it's not even 4 months again, the pikin is over a year now and nothing has changed.

Bobodee09:
Only men there wife know aren't bad guys they can try this shit with.

Give her something to worry about.....start going home late and going out to make calls.
Start doing some bad guys things trust me it will reset her brain.

Why will you be begging your wife for sex
No woman like a sissy man......they love hard men who are hard to predict.

You are too predictable for her.

I've tried this once though, didn't sleep at home, though she wasn't moved, but i think I need to do this often.

AngelicBeing:
Sex, Sex, sex , Hian, like seriously, una no dey Taya with sex matter, look at the kind of topics popping up recently>>>my wife deny me of sex, my girlfriend deny me of sex , l am not having regular sex , since my wife got a new job, we only have sex 4 times in a month, nawao, like seriously, sex, sex, sex matter

Hmm, i don't know if you are married and if you are married and your sexual life is the way you want it, then congratulations to you.
But if a man comes out and tell you his challenge in his home for almost 2 years, you should know this is a serious matter. Sleeping on same bed everyday for two years and can't even make attempt because it will be a failed one.

For God sake, this is my wife and not my girlfriend, and I am not demanding for sex daily.
I beg you, don't judge please, sex is an integral part of marriage.

madone:
and if you get sidechick now she will come here to open her own thread ooo. Na postpartum wahala she will come off it. As long as she is not cheating.
Just allow her abit dont force it on her. Rather start taking her out on dates. You may just get a maid or baby sitter. If you need your wife back you have to spend money. Take her outing, get her involved in marriage seminars on marriage it nice if both of you can attend .

With time She will start seeing it and learning se...x as her responsibilities then she will get used to it.

But the dates you go with her will be the rekindle her romantic passion with you. Note when you come back from the dates you may not gave s..x just light kiss, peek, learn to smoo...ch and leave her alone with a peek most times , dont forget to touch her head and shoulders no matter how expensive the hair do is. and just allow her lay on your chest make una gist while you stroke her hair, random kisss and kind words should follow do these from time to time. I tell you within weeks you should have your wife back depending on the severity of her case and no turn this matter to vex vex you will cause more harm. If i see you one on one i for tell you other things. But try these and other as your head and heart will guide you.

I love your take on this, though I do some of this and I got Frustrated. I'll like to discuss more with you privately.

Please guys, I need your help, I am really going nut and I am loosing my mind, got married February 2023, and our sex lives was very great, we had fun almost on daily bases. She took in that same month of our marriage, but since then, having sex with my wife has been a huge task, through out the 9 months pregnancy I only had sex with her twice. Which I tried to understand with her, because some women's body react differently.
She gave birth November 2023 though through C.S, i gave her enough time like 4 months before I started making attempt again, and I felt everything will return back to normal, but it was as if the child birth aggravated the whole thing, she turns down every attempt with almost no excuse. She just gives flimsy excuses that she's not in the mood. I have had series of discussions with her on how I have been frustrated and she down plays all my serious feelings. I even jokingly threaten to get it from outside, yet she still doesn't take me seriously.

Sincerely, I have suffered emotionally and mentally.

Mind you, I provide for the family to my very best and i am very sure she doesn't cheat on me. Please guys I need help on this, I am really loosing my mind.