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Even the white wedding? In our culture, after the traditional wedding ceremony, the wife gets wedded in the husband’s church. I understand there can be compromises around this. My sister married Yoruba. we never asked him to come wed her in our Church.

jaymichael:
As. For you converting to Redeem, BIG NO. You are 5he husband. If anyone has to even convert, it shouldn't be you.
For the wedding, The woman's family holds the ace. In Yorùbá land, na woman family get the wedding ceremony.

I am considering moving on. I don’t have energy for all these. Beside I see this as a form of manipulation since I have been consistent with my faith with her from day one.

immortalcrown:
You are about to marry a dictator. She is highly sentimental and filled with too much arrogance.

No be only Redeem wedding first, bear her papa name too.

One thing is clear, she doesn't value you as much as a woman should value her husband. That's why she is giving you the conditions. You will be the wife in the marriage because she will never be submissive to you. But why don't you want to leave her and go for someone that accepts your Catholic faith? Let her go for a Redeem brother for a Redeem wedding.

I am a devout Catholic. My partner (Yoruba) knows this from day one. We had known each other for 3 years prior to dating. From the first week we started talking, I mentioned to her that I would be having a Catholic wedding. Last year I was in Vatican as part of my holiday.

We started dating earlier this year and she has been pushing marriage conversations. She is now saying our doctrines are different and she would want a Redeem wedding. That she would want me to convert to Redeem and hope I see the light( this phrase annoys me).

I told her that our family will be a Catholic first family that I don’t have a problem with her going to her church. But she is saying she would want to be taking children to her church and that her church’s doctrine are way different from Catholic and won’t want that kind of confusion.

On the wedding stuff, she later said she had a conversation with her aunt, and she suggested that we first have a Redeem wedding and afterwards we can then have a Catholic wedding with a few friends and family. She even jokingly said that we would take a year break before the white wedding (after traditional and court wedding ) and during that time if she gets pregnant she will use that to get me to wed her in her Church.

Furthermore, she says her marrying an Igbo is already a lot that she is not sure her parents will agree for her not to wed in Redeem.

My annoyance is that she knew about my church from day one. We had discussed about these kind of things several times before we started dating. So why the goal-post shifting now?

Auladimeji:
Bro,the only way you can seal your memory in her is by disflowering her,if another dude do it,as wear to God,she'll forget you.... But wait ooo, you dey this nairanland and you no dey read Ubunja right write,he talked about stuff like this naw

Interesting. Don't be selfish bro.

My girlfriend is 23. We have been dating since she was 19. No sex! She is still a virgin.

My point is simple if you don't love and trust her enough, just focus on yourself and move on. Getting her dis-virgined so that you wouldn't lose is lame!

Besides, at this stage, Alaye be focused!