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Family › Re: My Cousin's Encounter With A Nigerian Single Mother by ibechris(m): 1:36pm On May 08, 2024
Any single man here,hear this and have peace.

Avoid deliberate single mothers not those whose husband died but those who became pregnant by sheer stupidity.

They are simply time bomb waiting to explode.



[quote author=wwwkaycom post=129841348]In 2018, my cousin, who resides in Germany, tragically lost his wife to cancer, leading him to contemplate a new relationship. Encouraged by one of our aunts, he began dating a single mother from Nigeria in 2021, thinking that at 52, all he needed is a mature partner such as a single mother, widow, or a mature and stable single lady.

Unfortunately, this single mother turned out to be overly focused on money and material gain. Her family, especially her mother and younger brother, viewed my cousin as their financial lifeline, demonstrating entitlement and selfishness through constant demands for money and favours. Disheartened by their behaviour, my typically reserved cousin eventually ended the relationship after several warnings.

He then found companionship with a 36-year-old unmarried university lecturer in Ekiti State, Nigeria. They married in March 2023, and he has since relocated her to Germany.

Recently, he confided in me, revealing that contrary to his previous assumptions about many Nigerian women and their families, especially considering his experience with his former single mother acquaintance, his current wife and her family have never pressured him for money. Instead, they express genuine gratitude whenever he helps them, underscoring the toxicity of his past relationship.

Unfortunately, his former partner, the single mother, has been harassing our aunt, who introduced them. She even aggressively confronted me at the front of a bank last week, falsely accusing me and our aunt of advising my cousin against marrying her. I was furious and almost considered involving the police when she threatened me, but my friend and some mature bystanders intervened, and she was eventually escorted off the premises by bank security. It was an embarrassing scene for me.

Reflecting on these events, I can't help but wonder about the audacious and self-centered individuals we encounter in today's world. It felt like something out of a Nollywood film to me. She even had the audacity to claim that we drove her "helper" away.[/quote]
Family › Re: My Fiancée Called Off Our Wedding With Four Days To Go by ibechris(m): 12:20pm On May 08, 2024
Mindlog:
If "I am one of them"....I will not be ashamed because intentional parenting heavily influences better outcomes for children not exclusively the gender of the parent raising the child.

All the copy and paste, you posted up there.....is what I deal with because of my postgraduate specialty... Clinical Child Psychology, so you want you posted is not "breaking news", I deal with them daily.



It is discouraging,not because u are in the picture.
Bye.

A woman can become a single mother by being divorced, widowed or never been married.

Go to Nigerian prisons and do a survey, all the inmates are not there because they were raised by single mothers rather most come from dysfunctional family settings where neglect by parents was central in their upbringing.

Know this that being a single mother or father is not a mental health disorder, it is a social circumstance.
Politics › Re: Cybersecurity Levy: Tinubu Govt Interested In Milking A Dying Economy- Peter Obi by ibechris(m): 10:13am On May 08, 2024
PressMyButton:
Same Bitter Obi increased tuition fees in Anambra and declared that Education is not for the poor. This bitter fraud is the worst lying hypocrite among humans.
U don't use fight to settle fight.

Be calming down.
Family › Re: My Fiancée Called Off Our Wedding With Four Days To Go by ibechris(m): 10:09am On May 08, 2024
If u are one of them I am sorry but that is the honest truth.

Developmental Problems
They tend to get lower grades, and their dropout rate is higher than their counterparts from two-parent families. Single parents are more likely to work more hours to make ends meet. They often don't have enough time to assist the child with their school works.

Financial instability.
One of the biggest challenges of being a single parent is financial instability. Raising a child is expensive, from paying for childcare to buying food and clothing. Doing it alone makes the costs seem overwhelming at times. Unexpected medical bills or car repairs can wipe out
savings quickly.

Effects of boys raised by single mothers:
What are the effects of boys raised by single mothers?
Children raised by single mothers are more likely to fare worse on a number of dimensions, including their school achievement, their social and emotional development, their health and their success in the
labor market

Finally,below are the major disadvantages of single parenting.

Single parenting disadvantages

Having less money. ‌As a single parent, you may be at a financial disadvantage. ...
Spending less quality time. ...
Work overload and multitasking‌ ...
Negative feelings. ...
Disciplining your children. ...
Behavioral problems. ...
Relationship problems. ...
Clinging to your children.
Mindlog:
What do you have to say abou rapists, ritualists, kidnappers, assassins, thugs, prostitutes, arsonists, drug addicts, gamblers etc who grew up into adulthood under the same roof with their fathers and mothers who are/were married to each other?..... Generalization is a dangerous mindset

Maybe those convicted criminals in Nigerian prisons were raised only by their mothers.
Crime › Re: Think Before You Say Anything by ibechris(m): 9:02am On May 08, 2024
I don't know what to say but as a Christian,i know the occupation is evil and there is no one who would be pushed to the wall like Israel has done that wouldn't react violently.

Israel should henceforth,stop the occupation...if they must live in peace,they must stop the apartheid policies.
Family › Re: My Fiancée Called Off Our Wedding With Four Days To Go by ibechris(m): 8:51am On May 08, 2024
The last line says it all.

It will only take a miracle for any child raised by a woman no to boomerang.

Why u come give am belle before wedding now?

Like mother,like daughter nothing changes but age!





PrayWills:
Our court wedding was supposed to be on Friday. I caught her telling a married man I love you and calling each other all sweet names. I confronted her and she said she was telling of proving to me she was faithful that I should draw whatever conclusions I wanted to.


I went to work on Monday and came back and told her I wanted to pause the weeding until we could sort our issues and she said we should call it off totally.


As we speak she has moved back to her mom’s house with the two kids, what do I do?

PS: she was raised by a single mom
Career › Re: Bolt Nigeria Sacks 22 Employees (Out Of 45) by ibechris(m): 8:05am On May 08, 2024
Emekayoung:
You think it's that easy? Do you know what it takes to start up such an app and succeed when there are already existing ones? You never know.
That is why I am different from u. U guys always have limited thinking about everything.

It would not take them more 5million to host their personal app.

If individuals can host loan applications it is this one that would be hard to do?

I once worked in a bank and when I realised how the bank treated her customers,I left and formed a financial cooperative, licenced it and today I know how much I make every month

Many Nigerians have been trained to be employees and that is the mentality that has destroyed the brilliant minds of today.

We can only become successful if we start owing business,become self employed and invest massively and do less with being an employee.
Politics › Re: Obidients Flaunt "Bitter Obi" (Photos) by ibechris(m): 7:56am On May 08, 2024
portplus:
I am not sure you have a fair assessment of Tinubu's days as governor in Lagos State.
That means u don't know him quite well.
Properties › Re: Abuja Is Not For Everybody. FCT Is Designed For Some Set Of People by ibechris(m): 7:15am On May 08, 2024
Keep wailing.

The truth is always bitter like batileria.

Same estates business is dominated by same tribe. The biggest estate developers in Abuja are Nwaora and Cachez and ukachukwu brothers and Engineer Mbaka of platinum mortgage bank.






membranus:
Being there does not mean they are doing building the big mansions dotting Abuja City. They are into their trading which they are known for, and many of them hardly pay taxes.

The real money makers and the payers of big taxes are the big firms and companies like banks, construction companies, law firms, government establishments and big estates from which the FCT generates their revenues.
Politics › Re: Obidients Flaunt "Bitter Obi" (Photos) by ibechris(m): 5:46am On May 08, 2024
U are right,how many of them knew about Operation sweet under Marwa in Lagos?

This new Lagos lovers will never understand That Tinubu hijacked lagos and not the other way round.



PepeXKermit:
They say when a lie is spoken 1000 times and nobody comes out to tell the truth, that lie will suddenly become the truth especially if after a long time, the people who know the truth are no more. This is what I keep saying. I had lived in Lagos my whole life. My father has propertiessss there. I was very shocked to see the narrative that was pushed out that he (Tinubu) is the mastermind behind the success of Lagos and I keep asking myself, no be this Lagos wey i know and grow in? It was a shame tht the thief stole Fashola's glory and has also stole Ambode and Sanwo Olu but more of Fashola's glory. The thing is that nobody challenged this narrative and Fashola did not talk while being Tinubu's boy. Real physical development you see in current Lagos State (Im not even talking about Marwa) started with Fashola and I know this and have always said it. Those people who think otherwise just either came to Lagos in the last 12 years or they are speaking from outside Lagos and have never been there.
Politics › Re: So Many Taxes, To Much Pain. by ibechris(m): 5:41am On May 08, 2024
Thank God u have realised ur mistake and turn a new leaf.
I remembered in 2019 u told us Bola Tinubu and some others were the people that can perform as president in south west.
It takes a healthy man to be a functional president.

U see Joe Biden of America,he has never been in and out of the hospital like Tinubu except when he slipped from his bicycle last time.
A healthy person deserves to lead a nation like Nigeria

All his policies aren't good on the people at all.




mideactive:
A Tinubu government was a dream come true for so many that believed in him. It's hard not to believe or expect something extraordinary, based on his past as the formal Lagos state governor. We know we must make sacrifices, but, how much sacrifice are they making? I don't seams to see a bright future under Tinubu, I have learnt from the past. He thinks only money, not warfare of the people. You don't kill the people you want to feed in the name of building a nation! How much hunger can he and his family endure if they're not in a position of affluence? It's either he can solve the problem or not. For me, a year his all he has to show he can fix things. It's shows he's out to milk, not to grow.
Politics › Re: Obidients Flaunt "Bitter Obi" (Photos) by ibechris(m): 10:28pm On May 07, 2024
Tflex01:
Good to have something to console yourself. I understand it's not a good feeling to realise that your packaged fraud cum god WILL NEVER BE PRESIDENT.

😂
No one has the monopoly to decide the destiny of another fellow...not in even u.

Do sleep well and continue ur necodemos suffering and smiling.

Take away pretence or sentiments,are u living a good life in the administration?

I leave u with ur conscience to judge.
Politics › Re: Obidients Flaunt "Bitter Obi" (Photos) by ibechris(m): 10:22pm On May 07, 2024
Wasky101:
As you witnessed it in Lagos but your father's brother brought you to Lagos to write free waec .
Continue
The true sons and daughters of Lagos aren't abusive but those from interior god forsaking states are the bittered fellows.

U claimed to be Lagosian yet u have no land, no house and no even ancestral trace to Lagos state.

Being a menace is ur only connection to the land.

Shame on u.
Politics › Re: Obidients Flaunt "Bitter Obi" (Photos) by ibechris(m):
Wasky101:
As you witnessed it in Lagos but your father's brother brought you to Lagos to write free waec .
Continue
Criticize the topic okay and quote where I lied and don't come and embarrassed yourself.

I was not taken to Lagos,I was born in Lagos as my grand father had been in lagos and ibadan 50yrs before many of u who migrated to Lagos started the journey.

My mum is a pure Lagosian and she still lives in Lagos till this day.
Politics › Re: Obidients Flaunt "Bitter Obi" (Photos) by ibechris(m): 10:08pm On May 07, 2024
lapintoz:
How come all of una wan die for lagos....including bitter obi....banana island, ikoyi, lekki, ikeja gra.....lagos is working....

If not for Soludo.....gully erosion for finish una 😁
Life is a journey,that was where I was born.

If I had my way,I wouldn't be born in Lagos but America.
Politics › Re: Obidients Flaunt "Bitter Obi" (Photos) by ibechris(m):
Batists don enter one chance finally.

I knew Baba Tinubu with all due respect to him, can never deliver on this mandate.

He was never a performer in Lagos,as I witnessed it first hand.

For those who would come to shout yen yen yen...among the two former governors that preceeded him,it was obvious he failed during his time and he used propaganda that cannot work on a national scale to deceive the people.

Well,I was a secondary student then and i can tell for sure that he was a monumental failure.

Additionally,for the records,OBJ never seized the allocation of Lagos while he was the governor,rather Obj stopped the allocation of local govt in the state just like he did in Katsina,Ebonyi,Nasarawa and Niger states at the same time.

So,it is only idiots who don't verify facts from fictions that allows his propaganda to take over their senses.

In summary, Tinubu is becoming a national embarrassment. As taxing and over-taxing the people will back fire ultimately. In taxation class at the University,we were told that taxes are levied on the people on their ability to pay and not on their inability to pay and this i know for sure and Before I go,tell Yesom Wike that,he should be careful,what I see around him is very bleak. His political future is not rosy at all. He should learn from Amaechi.

Good night all.
Health › Re: Foreigners Now Troop Into Nigeria For Medical Treatment – Health Minister, by ibechris(m): 7:30pm On May 07, 2024
Propaganda and ur president ran to France for medicals.

I pity those wey no know these guys Tinubu appointed.

I remembered when Elrufai once referred to Tunubu as the chief propagandist.
Food › Re: See The Cow We Bought For 450k At Keffi. by ibechris(op): 7:16pm On May 07, 2024
merits:
how will you preserve the cow meat with these epileptic power supply?
We have light since yesterday...and our light here is close 18hours daily.
Computers › Re: Microsoft Africa Development Center In Ikoyi To Shut Down by ibechris(m): 5:50pm On May 07, 2024
After minimum wage,many companies would lay off staff.

Because u can't pay more u earn as a company.
Computers › Re: Microsoft Africa Development Center In Ikoyi To Shut Down by ibechris(m): 5:47pm On May 07, 2024
If u are not working in this country and u are surviving,honestly u are a strong man.
Politics › Re: Cooking Gas Dealers Have Crashed The Price Of The Product by ibechris(m): 5:17pm On May 07, 2024
Lies...I just bought one now and the price for 12.5kg here in Abuja at Nipco gas station kubwa is #13,250 against what I read on the news outlets last week.
Properties › Re: Abuja Is Not For Everybody. FCT Is Designed For Some Set Of People by ibechris(m): 5:04pm On May 07, 2024
triple996:
watch as "some people" will start crying blood grin. They always believe that Abuja is no mans land, but their own land belongs to them grin .........
Those people u refused to call their names are even the reason why Abuja makes alot from taxation.

Wuse market
Utako market
Kubwa village market also known as maitama modern market.
Amac luge
Kaura market
Fish market life camp.
Dei dei building material market.
Banex and emab plaza.
Zuba mechanic market.
Fo1 building material market
Luge building material market.
Area 1 shopping complex.
Apo mechanic.
Duste market.
Karu market just to name a few are predominantly and prominently dominated by the same people u refused to mention their names.

A visit will surprise u and sometimes,keeping quiet is key to avoiding embarrassment.
Career › Re: Bolt Nigeria Sacks 22 Employees (Out Of 45) by ibechris(m): 4:42pm On May 07, 2024
If those employees are experienced then,let them form their own organisation.
Food › Re: See The Cow We Bought For 450k At Keffi. by ibechris(op):
nonxo007:
Bro I stay in Karu and was told a cow of this size is almost 1m, where’d you purchase yours as I’m about purchase one for an occasion coming up soon. Help a brother with your plug.
The market is in Keffi along the road...it opens every Tuesdays and Saturdays.

When going,u can ask people along the road.

But take note,that the market is on ur left side of the road.
Food › Re: See The Cow We Bought For 450k At Keffi. by ibechris(op): 12:55pm On May 07, 2024
I have never seen u happy ever since u joined nairaland...

Always looking for faults here and there.

Na human being born me too.


ElSudani:
Your family can afford to but N450000 cow and you still have the nerve to complain. People like you are probably the folks who drive v6 and v8 suvs and yet complain vociferously about subsidy removal.
Politics › Re: Bandits Enlisting Young People Into Crime For As Low As N500 – Gov Radda by ibechris(m): 3:01pm On May 06, 2024
Consequences of birthing too many children without a means to survive.

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