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bukatyne:
I was doing comparison dude

Sure, you were.

SirShymex:
Er, let me just say: I don't like advising folks on what to do in their relationships/marriages because every relationship is unique, and people are different. However, I'll just say what I'll do if I were in his shoes.

Since your friend is "self-employed" - he's definitely going to have time on his hands to help out. And there's no harm in helping a bit. However, when she now makes it his duty, sitting her lazy ar.se down, and expecting the man to do her own duty for her - then it's problematic. You just can't give women that luxury and put them in a space where they can make it a necessity for you to perpetually perform their natural roles for them, all in the name of being romantic. With women, once you lose that respect, it's always difficult to get it back, unless you put your feet down.

I'd say he can't earn his respect anymore - he has to command it. The first step would be to stop the cooking nonsense altogether and, start buying his own food from restaurants. When she starts starving, she'll get her lazy ar.se in the kitchen and start cooking again. You just have to draw a line and dare the consequences...since this madness has gone beyond what they can sit down and talk about.

Yeah, I talked to him about buying his own food from restaurants but he's trying to pick up fully in that aspect.

However, its obvious the matter can't be settled amicably without inciting troubles. So for being initially dumb he has to take risks and face the consequences.
Though as Camerounian-Dutch, he's trying to avoid making troubles with the wife.

But I can say that the wife doesn't see the "romantic" job she has given the hubby as weird or bad, she sees it as a romantic role. You should know chics.

Sagamite:
Fuuktard, are you not the one that just revealed to us how you and your friends are loafers while his wife is working?

You sell your but to men to get paid?

Masokz:
Leave saga alone. I love him

Sagamite:
You are a homoerotic fuuktard!

What does he do when she goes to work apart from him cooking and cleaning?

Tell us, fuuktard!

Is he running Volkswagen or Deutsche Bank?

Coming from a low-brained, buck-toothed fagggot biatch that practically thinks being self-employed is all about being a petty businessman or perhaps an importer.

Your incestuous momma with gorilla brains should be slaughtered for producing a walking corpse.

Sagamite:
Like you, he was not serious in school and ended up a failure in life?

Loafers calling themselves business men.

Importing 2 tokunbo cars a year from Germany to sell in Nigeria does not make you a business man. It just means you are a jobless hustler.

Fagggot biatch, you must think everybody is a London cleaner like you or perhaps everybody is from Nigeria.

bukatyne:
That's better than saying he is her slave

Imagine a woman saying that she is tired of handling the bills because she is not his slave?

Choice of words

Your comparison has nothing to do with this matter.

The wife is not the breadwinner of the family, so she absolutely has no reason to consider herself a slave.

Sagamite:
Homofuuktard, is that not one of your boyfriends?

Masokz:
Leave saga alone. I love him

Sagamite:
Tell us the fcking truth:

He is loafing she is the breadwinner?

Homo coward, this is the truth from Masokz.

Masokz:
Leave saga alone. I love him

DukeNija:
There's really nothing your friend can do, he has already stamped his own certificate of role swap and has chosen to be the wife. If I were his husband I swear I won't even listen to him, afterall cooking is her role as my wife.

From the look of things, dude hasn't really showed any seriousness in convincing his wife.

DukeNija:
No offence but I think I'm with sagamite on this one. Lol! Your friend must be a huge joke of a man.

Lmao!

Yeah, could be love after all.

Sagamite:
Homofuuktard, you have already admitted to us that you are a homosexual and part of the homosexual community.

Now confess that your "business man" friend is basically another fuuktard like you that is unemployable.

Do you cook for your boyfriends too?

Homo fagggot, you've been whipped and outshined severally by your God, Iconize.

The last time you got severely beaten, you had to invite your fagggot biatch, Masonkz to plead on your behalf.

Masokz:
Leave saga alone. I love him

Now you tryna troll on my thread to restore your self-esteem
like a boy who got beaten by a girl., but nah!

bukatyne:
SO he wants the wife to be a slave to him?

Some husbands sef

Not really. He wants the wife to take full responsibility.

Sagamite:
Cretinous homofucktard, are you smoking weed this early in the day?

Or the bastardisation of your arsse by masonkz, all4naija, adamskutty and johnpaul88 is affecting your mental health?

Masonkz, save your fagggot biatch before he gets pummeled like a Zulu talking-drum.

Homo fagggot, you must kneel and worship me, your God, you incestuous drunken thief with a diaper padded assss.

Masokz:
Leave saga alone. I love him

SirShymex:
So, this nyggah's self-esteem is back to life like Lazarus after being shot dead last week, no? Went on hiatus for five days and it is back to trolling. But this time trolling a next troll - FML.

Anyway, your friend has lost his balls and he is now the wife. Just tell him to accept his new position and be happy with it. He is in too deep.

That is why I keep telling you youngins to learn the game and stop selling ya birthrights for porridge like Esau, all in the name of being romantic.

At least a fella with a brain is here, not those asking dumb and irrelevant question(s) over and over again, even after getting a matured answer.

However, the dude is in dire need of advice(s) on how to convince the wife to start making him meals without sounding "unromantic" and probably inciting troubles.

Having played this "wicked romantic" role for long - happily and in good faith, passing through the needle's eye might be easier than convincing his wife.

Sagamite:
I am saying you know you and your friend were conceived your brothers fcking his mother and you are a homofucktard.

Homo-mo'ron, you sure know I'm your nemesis.

So fagggot biatch with a leaking rectum, trolling on my thread won't do you any good.

I'll bring you down on your knees like I've always done if you don't take your diaper padded asss off my thread.

Sagamite:
So you are confessing to us that you and your friend were conceived your brothers fcking his mother?

What's this homo fagggot saying?

freecocoa:
My friend, just tell us how your wife is the breadwinner(which is ok btw) and that you are tired of being a houseband, instead of 'rigmaroling'

What's the "your" and "you"?

Is this how you force peeps on something?

However, the wife is not the breadwinner. I don't know why you're trying to hold on to a particular irrelevant question. If you really have any advice to give on this issue, I believe you'll do so without asking the same irrelevant question that has been answered maturely and basically.

If the husband was financially broke, I'd have included it in my initial comment.

Sagamite:
You are a cretinous homofuuktard, CONFESS!

Tell us what "business" your friend does.

This same "business" your incestuous momma did with her son to conceive a malnourished drunken thief like you.

freecocoa:
Thats not what I asked, what does he do to keep himself self employed?

See how you stylishly evaded the issue I raised with your 'lol"

Ngwanu, LOL back at ya.

Lmao!

He's financially man enough and can take care of his responsibilities without drop a sweat.

I believe with this you can concrete and facilitate your thoughts on this matter.

Thanks!

Sagamite:
Homofuuktard, you are here to defend another of your biatches?

Tell us why your biatch, Masok was beaten to pulp for defending his homo community members.

Pure homomo-oron!

Sagamite:
Cretinous homofucktard, confess your friend is a loser like you.

You too would come here claiming "business man".

not on my thread, homo fagggot!

freecocoa:
Why is he talking to you and not the wife? Btw when you say 'self employed' tell us what he does exactly.

Isn't it sad that he calls cooking for himself and wife slaving? It's even annoying that you or he uses the phrase 'slave to his wife' and more annoying that either of you think the reverse should be the case, like really? You can't be a 'slave' to your wife but believes she should be one to you? Oh please get out of your cave and come smell some civilization, mschew.

Lol!
Hey, calm down.

Your thoughts concerning his "pocket" status are wrong. He's actually good to go.

Sagamite:
Cretinous fuuktard, confess!

Homo fagggot, don't pollute my thread with your dumbness, else you'll get pummeled and slayed for vultures like always.

aisha2:
Wicked Sagamite, lmao, self employed na business man jare he may even be bringing in much more than her.

Op, what does your friend want? Has he spoken with her and shared his discomfort with the situatuon? Let them talk about it and agree on what will work for them. I believe in sharing but not to the point one partner starts feeling used and taken for granted it builds resentment

Yeah, he has discussed with his wife though with no seriousness. But the wife still channeled everything to romance.

Sagamite:
Fuuktard, you think your homosexual life has that much significance in my life?

Homo, just stay in the closet.

This fagggot biatch is in every homosexual thread defending his homo community.

How's your biatch Masokz?

Sagamite:
You are a cretinous homofuuktard!

Confess!

Your friend is unemployed, his wife brings home the bacon and she is using him as househusband who does the cooking.

Fuuktards of the same feather, flock .........

You're a pure m-oron!

Sagamite:
You are reciting your life history on the net again, fuuktard?

Coming from an incestuous fagggot biatch, that calls his brother - daddy.

I've got this friend of mine, a self-employed dude that has been married for two years.

His marital ordeal is what some would "wicked romance". In his two years of marriage, he has been the chief cook of the home.

His wife wants him to cook and serve her because she finds it romantic.

After he spoke to me about this, I chirped him that the romantic nonsense might just be a decoy she's using to sugar coat her laziness or perhaps her inability to make good meals.

But he made it clear that the wife is not the lazy type, and just for the record, she does the home chores even as a working class chic.

According to him, she could pass for the epitome of a good wife if "cooking" would be excluded as a yardstick to determine a good African wife.

When I tried inquiring about the wife's cooking prowess, he told me that the wife sometimes used to make him good meals during their dating days.

With one year and some months gone, he's beginning to feel he's not getting the real man/husband treatment completely from the wife.

Though he's not really complaining, he now sees himself as a slave to the wife, who cooks and serves the wife on daily a basis - when reserve should be the case.

As an African man, he believes cooking should be the wife's job not the husband's job.

Now, this one strange perpetual romantic work for my bruv.

Friends, y'all have got to help this "male cook" with advice(s).