This is what I get anytime money comes up

It wasn’t arranged oooh... in fact I have known him since my university days

Mariangeles:

The Lord is your strength.
I can't even imagine myself in your situation
The marriage was arranged yes?

How can my husabnd write such a story and said he didn’t write it to make me a bad person

Remove this thing pls... now see what my brother sent to me ..

You know me now , I have already snapped this one . It’s not fair you still came here to say I asked you to call my dad or you told my mum you were going to call him and all of a sudden you have refused to call

Martins231:
Please I need advice on how to handle this, I gave my wife the sum of 400k for her and my 2 years old daughter around November and this January she’s already calling to tell me that she’s out of cash and I got worried and started questioning her how she spent such amount on feeding within such a short period of time ,that made us got into serious arguments which lasted for 2 days then I have to ask few married friends if is ok to exhaust such amount of money on feeding within 3 months and they gave me their answers which I sent to my wife too ...Now my wife immediately forwarded same messages to his brother living abroad too and also along with some conversations we had long time ago where she got me angry and insulted her by calling her idiot and stupid ...... His brother got angry and ask her to divorce me and immediately she started packing her belongings,I saw so surprised when she called me that she’s leaving my house ....I also learnt that his brother called his friend living in Abuja too to go and drag her out of my house if she doesn’t want to go ...... So I was so surprised when she asked me where to drop my keys I have to start begging her to calm down but she insisted that his family wants her to go ,then I have to call her mother and explained my own part of the story but the mother said there is nothing she can do since her siblings wants her to go . Now the problem is that my wife doesn’t want to go anymore but she doesn’t have the courage to tell her family that we have settled our misunderstand and doesn’t want to go anymore . She wants me to start calling every member of her family including her father to apologize and reassure them my love towards her again but to me I don’t know how to start the conversation with the father more especially because i believe having issues in marriage is normal and everyone understands that fact and since I have made up with her is their any need calling her family again

NB: They brother in abroad gave me the insult of life by sending a message to my wife which she also forwarded to me by calling me all sorts of names like immature and childish husband, and this same guy is of the same age bracket with me. Plz I need ur candid advice don’t mind my English and typos.

Meanwhile I didn’t ask him to call my father, he was the one that told my mum he was going to call my dad yesterday evening..... today is sunday and since my dad heard he was going to call he hasn’t said anything yet, all you could do is to come here and tell lies, me asked you to call?! All I said is since you said you were going to call please call . I am angry and very angry now ....

Imagine at this young age I put all my expenses down in a book because my husband will always come to say I spent money carelessly, I carefully wrote down how I spent this particular money because I know him... tomorrow i will show a picture of my expenditures because I carefully write them down so I won’t forget

Should I continue to let the cat out of the bag?? It’s really not nice when you come here to make other people look bad .... since your pride won’t let you call my dad. Well Tuesday I am leaving.... how will you marry a woman just for one year and leave without even calling and speaking to them, are you just satisfied with seeing pictures of your baby?? Just picture..... well it’s so sad since we have started this remember my brothers too are on nairaland I will tell them to come and read as well .. you have come to seek 3rd party opinion.... in all these mess I never told my people or involved anybody but you keep telling people is this how you want to handle your family.... I am really really angry imagine him seeking 3rd party opinion from him divorced friend whose marriage didn’t last up to a year...: be there and watch me go, in all honesty I have tried as a woman and you won’t find any woman like me

Not my brother I said my daughter our baby

2kaybiel:
Martins231 can you confirm to this ijeoma1187?

And ijeoma1187 if indeed you are the wife, then why would you use the money your husband gave you to foot the hospital bill of your brother?

Is your husband the father to your brother?

A lot of things are wrong with you lady.

So now the thing is my people are angry with me especially my mum because on one particular occasion this my said husband showed me my account balance and how is spend money while he is away oooh, I was like how did you get my account balance he monitors my account what goes in and what goes out and money is always the issue... everything money money money money, I do a little business which is still picking up and I don’t even bother to ask for money for this and that , I use to work before I resigned and relocated, now is the whole of last year I didn’t bother him I made my hair as a woman just two times, I don’t bother I use normal transport to go around while we have a Mercedes Benz parked and battery removed. My brothers are now angry they said I have become a shadow of myself and I have lost confidence as a woman because my husband keeps talking down on me, and whenever we have issues he is quick to tell his friends, this is the 3rd time now he has involved his friends, now I have been begging him just call my dad and hear what he has to say because he already knows my brothers are angry because they are far and can’t do much but to make sure I come home and at least restore my self esteem..:: my husband has refused and said I should call my people and tell them we have settled, what excerpt have we settled ?? My daughters hospital appointment is tomorrow and after that I am leaving... and we all know that verbal abuse comes with physical abuse.:: he sent me a message last week that I should watch he won’t abuse me physically again. He is so particular about money it’s all about money and money and money and money.. my brothers are angry I can’t do much but to go with my family, if I don’t next time who knows nobody will help me and when he starts to misbehave again

Mean while his friends kept telling him to caution his wife and some even abused me . So I got angry and said since we are seeking 3rd party opinions maybe I should ask some people as well too, so I asked my brother and forwarded the reply of his friends to him, my brother was like I should tell my husband this is marriage and he should man up and stop seeking 3rd party opinion, that real men don’t discuss their wife’s with their friends and what excatly is he trying to do ?? Make me a bad person before his friends or what , and my brother said real men protect their wife’s and not expose them ... Meanwhile he has been away since July 20th and we don’t have a date he will be back to Nigeria while I am here alone with my baby and not help just me and my daughter, and they started asking me how often do we talk? I said in a month my husband does not even do a video call or voice call with us we just chat and chat and chat and I send. Pictures of our daughter to him that’s all..: so my people became skeptical especially my brother because a particular voice note his friend sent to him about me telling my husband that he should caution me. That was my brothers reply to my husband and her replied my brother to tell him that he is foolish and he has lost his respect for him. Things got out of hand and since I am the last my people asked me to come back home and arrangements are being made to resettle me. So the problem now is my family is angry because my husband abuse me verbally a lot, any small thing he will reign abuses on me that is unspeakable, no family will want this kind of situation for their daughter and my dad also heard and he asked me to come home to meet with their family because the mum has been nice to me and the father and it won’t be nice if I pick my things and go just like that

Well my husband didn’t complete this story and he still brought it here ... ok this is my own side of the story. He gave me some amout of money more than 450k ... during November and asked me to do some certain things with it... even our transport to the east and all. Even his brothers transport was part of that money. My baby was sick last year and we kept going to the hospital with this same money, this January too the sickness came back and I was referred to gariki specialist hospital to meet with a dermatologist and all .. we have hospital card all over abuja seeking for solution to this illness.. so the dermatologist asked me to go to a pharmacy to buy some medication which cost 60,150 and I have been on hospital appointment since then and it takes 7,500 to meet with a dermatologist for 2 weeks ... I told my darling husband oh that I am a little bit low on cash. Hiss normal him him with abuses like you are foolish you are mad you are an ingrate you think I pluck money on trees, I said no problem we will be fine , but he kept on dragging it and dragging it and started telling his friends oh that his wife used money for 3 months and I asked him pls did you tell your friends you went to ask what we have been through and why on earth will you seek 3rd part opinion in our marriage