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My brother I don't really know but I did wrongs everly as a human being nobody is above mistakes. His harshness started when I was a teenager.
i just weak

Ioannes:

You haven't told us exactly what you did for your father to start maltreating you. You said it wasn't always like that. So when and why did he change?

Forget the moniker .....I know for sure, but I'm still a student

Pipedreams:
You love breasts yea? Ur dad will continue to hound u for eternity if u dont rise up financially. My father used to be like that very oppressive till i started making money! I returned his car and bought mine! Moved out of his house and rented a nice pad in town and since then he has been jealous that my mum always has my attention!

Truly Nigerian Fathers dont understand real fatherhood! Guy work hard and be financially upright and watch things change!

Works a little for the first few days... I'm in my 4Th Year

Ioannes:
Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

Do your best and gain admission into a tertiary institution. Make sure your school is located far fr your state of residence. stay in school most of the time and don't go home.

Maybe he'll soften up when he sees you once a year.

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Can I have your contact, I need to talk with you

Restroom:


Your lamentations are normal bro....

Allow me to lay into you abit....

From your comment, it appears that:

you are someone who likes to compare himself with others.

You are not spiritually inclined

You want to show your parents that you are a man, whereas you are just a boy of 21

You want to be spoilt, corrupt or immoral but your parents won't allow it

You want to behave the way you like, forgetting that your parents call the shots.

You watch too much foreign movies and expected to be treated the way white people treat their only children

You think your parents are obstacles somehow in your life

You feel your parents and the world owes you something

Because you are the only child, you feel the world owes you something....

It is YOU versus them.....

You are not happy

You have low self esteem...

I can call you a rich spoilt kid....and I won't be far from the truth.

See, most only children, are always spoilt especially when their parents are rich...

Your parents probably think you are lazy you know ....they may have studied you closely and realized, that, you are too carried away by your parents' wealth

You are probably very selfish in nature.....you think too much of yourself, you think about the things you miss or the things you don't have.

Instead of you to be grateful for what you have.

You want to have girl friends abi at 21?

You want to be able to bleep girls just because other guys your age are doing so?

You want to pose with your parents cars, by cruising with them in town yet you have not shown enough maturity to convince them to allow you to drive or even teach you how to drive ?

You think you can tell your pops the importance of driving, shout or complain or better still , bully your way to the car key? Do you own the cars?

You are thinking about youthful desires and these clearly shows thar, you are still a mere boy...

Your pops want to set you up well in life by allowing you to study pharmacy in university....but you think pursuing a business is better...

Which business can you do from now, that will earn you the kind of money, a pharmacy license can bring you at your age?

What experience in running a business do you have?

An intern pharmacist earns about 80k-120k, working as an intern with government while a pharmacist earns above 150k as monthly salary working for government.And the pay goes up, as the years go by.

In terms of your future, don't worry about it.You will buy cars, build houses and even travel abroad, if you can discipline yourself to just graduate from school as a happy normal young man. As a future pharmacist, you can set up your own pharmacy and a pharmaceutical company that makes drugs and sell nationwide. Drug companies are some of the richest companies on earth.Right now, one of sharpest business you can do to make cool money and even become a billionaire, is drug business.

If you don't finish your school, can you get there?

As per your parents, I have not seen any sin they commited against you.Their parenting method is okay by me Broda, because, they want to the best for you. We are Africans.If that is they grew up, don't blame them for dishing it out on you. Your job is not to repeat it in your own family.

Learn to make the best of your situations.

Many of the things people think are important.....are not important.

What you see on TV and dstv and what happens in real life are not the same things.

Learn to appreciate what you have....and not what you don't have.

I was beaten real bad by my pops when coming up...many times for things I didnt do.I can still remember them. But I don't hold it against him. I was restricted from playing with other children as well, but it was for my good. I wanted to ride the car by force, ended up bashing it into another car. I was a little bit withdrawn, but in time, I realize that, such is life and made the best of me situation. I am married today...

When children misbehave where I am, I play them, especially when they fail to hear my warnings.If your parents beat you in the paste, it is because you did something wrong in their eyes. Anyway....that is past now.

The only advice I have for you bro is this: become a spiritually minded young man. That is an area, that can change you completely and make you a more secure person.

Read 1 cor 15: 33.

Please God.....not your parents.
Honour your father and your mother
Love your neighbor as yourself, including your parents and sister
Do good for others, don't wait for others to do good for you

You appear to be an introvert....well....slowly break down the walls you have built around yourself,using the Bible and learn to show concern in others.

Don't always think about yourself......slowly make yourself a better person

you can change tomorrow
you cannot change yesterday

read your bible every day....

in time, it will help you think and act like a man.

Get the Book,'

Questions Young People Ask' vol 1, 2

it is publish by Jehovah's witnesses

The book will help you a lot....

You will need to do a lot of reading and application, to improve your self esteem and image.

G

You really understand dear... thanks so much for your words .

smart6:


As much as others want to come here and scold you some, i will till you to be strong, don't act you ever read their demoralizing posts.

I feel your pain and understand to an extent how you feel. It's very much normal to feel that way...

First, you have to find a way to love your now kid sis. Then a part of you is damaging (not completely though) that's the fatherly-son connect. I could not ascert the extent of your attraction and affection to/from your mum. Parents are their children's rock, they show be proud of them. In your case you do not seem proud of your dad mainly, due to how he has treated you. I am not a dad yet but i am someone's son. Your dad's action/inactions are be in ignorance of it's impacts on you. Some dad are senselessly strict, sorry for those words.

The deal now is you are a victim or so you feel; i understand. Atleast seeing others ur age or older do better with their own parents.

I want to suggest you draw strength from all this. Make conscious personal effort to not let all your parents do or not do affect you. Many of them are in the past. I feel it is also difficult to seat with your parents to discuss things, which i feel at your age shouldn't be the case. You are an individual despite your parents. So you have to make yourself happy with or without them. Do not make bad choices. Death is not even an option.

most of your assertions are true... ur write up really touched me.
Thanks others for the encouragements...i feel better now because I can't relate this situation to anyone around here.

Restroom:


Your lamentations are normal bro....

Allow me to lay into you abit....

From your comment, it appears that:

you are someone who likes to compare himself with others.

You are not spiritually inclined

You want to show your parents that you are a man, whereas you are just a boy of 21

You want to be spoilt, corrupt or immoral but your parents won't allow it

You want to behave the way you like, forgetting that your parents call the shots.

You watch too much foreign movies and expected to be treated the way white people treat their only children

You think your parents are obstacles somehow in your life

You feel your parents and the world owes you something

Because you are the only child, you feel the world owes you something....

It is YOU versus them.....

You are not happy

You have low self esteem...

I can call you a rich spoilt kid....and I won't be far from the truth.

See, most only children, are always spoilt especially when their parents are rich...

Your parents probably think you are lazy you know ....they may have studied you closely and realized, that, you are too carried away by your parents' wealth

You are probably very selfish in nature.....you think too much of yourself, you think about the things you miss or the things you don't have.

Instead of you to be grateful for what you have.

You want to have girl friends abi at 21?

You want to be able to bleep girls just because other guys your age are doing so?

You want to pose with your parents cars, by cruising with them in town yet you have not shown enough maturity to convince them to allow you to drive or even teach you how to drive ?

You think you can tell your pops the importance of driving, shout or complain or better still , bully your way to the car key? Do you own the cars?

You are thinking about youthful desires and these clearly shows thar, you are still a mere boy...

Your pops want to set you up well in life by allowing you to study pharmacy in university....but you think pursuing a business is better...

Which business can you do from now, that will earn you the kind of money, a pharmacy license can bring you at your age?

What experience in running a business do you have?

An intern pharmacist earns about 80k-120k, working as an intern with government while a pharmacist earns above 150k as monthly salary working for government.And the pay goes up, as the years go by.

In terms of your future, don't worry about it.You will buy cars, build houses and even travel abroad, if you can discipline yourself to just graduate from school as a happy normal young man. As a future pharmacist, you can set up your own pharmacy and a pharmaceutical company that makes drugs and sell nationwide. Drug companies are some of the richest companies on earth.Right now, one of sharpest business you can do to make cool money and even become a billionaire, is drug business.

If you don't finish your school, can you get there?

As per your parents, I have not seen any sin they commited against you.Their parenting method is okay by me Broda, because, they want to the best for you. We are Africans.If that is they grew up, don't blame them for dishing it out on you. Your job is not to repeat it in your own family.

Learn to make the best of your situations.

Many of the things people think are important.....are not important.

What you see on TV and dstv and what happens in real life are not the same things.

Learn to appreciate what you have....and not what you don't have.

I was beaten real bad by my pops when coming up...many times for things I didnt do.I can still remember them. But I don't hold it against him. I was restricted from playing with other children as well, but it was for my good. I wanted to ride the car by force, ended up bashing it into another car. I was a little bit withdrawn, but in time, I realize that, such is life and made the best of me situation. I am married today...

When children misbehave where I am, I play them, especially when they fail to hear my warnings.If your parents beat you in the paste, it is because you did something wrong in their eyes. Anyway....that is past now.

The only advice I have for you bro is this: become a spiritually minded young man. That is an area, that can change you completely and make you a more secure person.

Read 1 cor 15: 33.

Please God.....not your parents.
Honour your father and your mother
Love your neighbor as yourself, including your parents and sister
Do good for others, don't wait for others to do good for you

You appear to be an introvert....well....slowly break down the walls you have built around yourself,using the Bible and learn to show concern in others.

Don't always think about yourself......slowly make yourself a better person

you can change tomorrow
you cannot change yesterday

read your bible every day....

in time, it will help you think and act like a man.

Get the Book,'

Questions Young People Ask' vol 1, 2

it is publish by Jehovah's witnesses

The book will help you a lot....

You will need to do a lot of reading and application, to improve your self esteem and image.

h

Th

hypocrites! What do you benefit from hypocrisy?!!

Op you no get work ohh

I see nothing wrong in these roads

Make I wait make that girl breasts grow because that woman own don too fall for me to press