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Family / Fat & Ugly by Imogenn(f): 3:07pm On Jun 23, 2020
Hi guys

I’m 3 months post part, meaning I just gave birth 3 Nearly 4 months ago. My child is fine, taken care of and I’m coping very well with motherhood.

My problem now is I added 25 kg during this pregnancy. I’ve lost some but I’m honestly still very fat. On top of that I have this dirty looking black skin in result of this pregnancy. I’m just feeling so ugly I want to know how I can lose this weight and lighten up my skin tone. Let it not be that my husband will start looking outside ahbeg lol. Not just that but generally I look disgusting. I am not happy with myself.

Mothers in the house how long did it take to lose your baby weight? And please I need advice on how to get back to my normal self. And also tips to get rid of this dirty black looking skin that I have. I want to glow.
Family / Re: Married Men by Imogenn(f): 4:34pm On Apr 03, 2020
I’m asking because my friends wife doesn’t like me at all, I have Been friends with her husband, he is like my brother I can never ever see him in that way. But it’s like I’m just crossing the boundaries being friends with him. Is this not insecurity or does she have a reason to be this possessive?

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Family / Married Men by Imogenn(f): 11:13am On Apr 03, 2020
I’m wondering if a married man can keep a close female friend, who is single with nothing attached. They were friends before the man got married. They talk and gist, advice themselves, but they are strictly friends. Is this possible?
Family / Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Imogenn(f): 12:12pm On Jun 15, 2019
Thank you so much. I will screenshot this and read this to help me. Thank you smiley
pryme:


then you have to switch your attention to some things then.
Am sure its not all that bad, all you need is a spark in this dark place your mind is to set a fire that will burn bright in you, no matter how dark your mind is.
To get this spark is just to find the good qualities you have in you no matter how little (remember all we need is a spark), surely you have them.

What you need to do is grow the best in you, this is something you have to do yourself. No one will do this for you, you have to take the bull by the horns and take responsibility of making you self who you want to be.

You have to try, what leads to depression is not even trying, trust me you will get some satisfaction just trying.
Even if you fail its alright, show me a successful person that never failed and i will show you a lair.

What you should do now is find a starting point and incorporate it into your every day life.
Family / Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Imogenn(f): 10:47am On Jun 15, 2019
I really don’t know where all this stems from. I’ve always been that shy quiet kid from childhood. But it’s just gotten worse as I’ve transformed into adulthood.
Sometimes I feel I’m not adequate enough because I’m so quiet in a world full of confident people. I’m very conscious about my looks, as I’ve been told I’m ugly more than beautiful in my lifetime, that could be another reason. I feel everywhere I go, people must always have one negative/weird thing to say about me, so it’s just strange. I’m troubled.
pryme:


So from the look of it, its like your worried about how you appear to people,

why would you think you not adequate?

the thing about solving a problem is getting a very clear understanding of the problem.

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Family / Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Imogenn(f): 10:15am On Jun 15, 2019
I really don’t know
I just over think about everything, I’m afraid of appearing socially awkward, which makes my social anxiety worse. And I can’t help but think about how I appear everywhere I go. I just can’t help it.
pryme:


What are you really afraid of?
Family / Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Imogenn(f): 10:04am On Jun 15, 2019
My social anxiety over the years has become worse and worse I feel like it’s ruining my life. Yesterday I decided to challenge myself as my friend invited me to a church gathering. Most days I just go to work and go straight back to my room. Even at work I find it difficult to relate to my coworkers outside work related issues because I can’t hold a conversation without fidgeting and feeling uneasy. I have only two friends. Two, no more no less.

So I went to this church gathering and I felt like I was having a panic attack. My heart was beating super fast I just felt extremely uncomfortable. In the past I tried to drink alcohol anytime I go to social gatherings to suppress my anxiety, but I just hate how it makes me feel. So my friend is introducing me to people at the gathering, and I’m trembling on my words, my heart is beating super fast, I feel uncomfortable, I can’t look people in the eye, and I can’t hold a conversation without feeling like the world is going to swallow me up. I had to leave the event early, because I couldn’t take the shame. I saw how people were looking at me like there was something seriously wrong with me, I felt so stupid. I got home and starting crying, this anxiety is taking over my life, it’s ruining my life. I can’t do anything without overthinking and panicking. My friend called me and told me that I was just over reacting but I know she was just saying that to make me feel better. I’m 25 now and I just feel like it’s getting worse and worse as the years go by. All I do is lock myself up in my room, for how long am I going to continue like this? I just feel like my life is ruined.

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Family / I Have Serious Social Anxiety Guys by Imogenn(f): 9:33am On Jun 15, 2019
My social anxiety over the years has become worse and worse I feel like it’s ruining my life. Yesterday I decided to challenge myself as my friend invited me to a church gathering. Most days I just go to work and go straight back to my room. Even at work I find it difficult to relate to my coworkers outside work related issues because I can’t hold a conversation without fidgeting and feeling uneasy. I have only two friends. Two, no more no less.

So I went to this church gathering and I felt like I was having a panic attack. My heart was beating super fast I just felt extremely uncomfortable. In the past I tried to drink alcohol anytime I go to social gatherings to suppress my anxiety, but I just hate how it makes me feel. So my friend is introducing me to people at the gathering, and I’m trembling on my words, my heart is beating super fast, I feel uncomfortable, I can’t look people in the eye, and I can’t hold a conversation without feeling like the world is going to swallow me up. I had to leave the event early, because I couldn’t take the shame. I saw how people were looking at me like there was something seriously wrong with me, I felt so stupid. I got home and starting crying, this anxiety is taking over my life, it’s ruining my life. I can’t do anything without overthinking and panicking. My friend called me and told me that I was just over reacting but I know she was just saying that to make me feel better. I’m 25 now and I just feel like it’s getting worse and worse as the years go by. All I do is lock myself up in my room, for how long am I going to continue like this? I just feel like my life is ruined.
Family / Re: I Feel Like I Will Be Single Forever. by Imogenn(f): 10:41am On Jun 10, 2019
Thank you and God bless you.
Richy4:


I got you dear.. That's why I am sounding like a broken record for you to work on that... No one is perfect I know.. even me that is typing this nonsense.. but I know one thing about myself that i am a go getter and when i want something I put in an effort to get it... that's how it works

You wanted a relationship that could end up in Marriage, Try and make an effort without getting yourself embarrassed... . Come out of your comfort zone a little it might help.. Start up like a crazy lady and enroll as an usher in your church.. if u welcome 5 or 6 people, assign seat or talk to them, u might look back after service and think aloud.... was it really me that did this? Just given u a life experience..
Family / Re: I Feel Like I Will Be Single Forever. by Imogenn(f): 8:09am On Jun 10, 2019
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Family / Re: I Feel Like I Will Be Single Forever. by Imogenn(f): 8:09am On Jun 10, 2019
Thank you. I’m that kind of person that hates crowds, If i have to interact with more than 2 people at once that I’m not familiar with, I get very paranoid and I start feeling very uncomfortable, that’s why I just avoid birthdays, or church events. I stay at home a lot. I know that’s one of my problems. I also think I’m very insecure, but nobody is perfect and I still have v good qualities about myself. I just don’t want to wait until I’m 30 then I’m running around looking for my husband, you get? I want to start now that I’m still in my 20s.
Richy4:


Being abroad got nothing to do with her situation. In the so called abroad there are lots of activities that are always going on... A potential suitor or husband cannot find her at the comfort of her bedroom.. if she continues to lock herself up every time.. If she wants something she should get up and get what she wanted.. husband is not a pizza that u stay at home and order online...

Based on your argument, independence day is always celebrated outside Nigeria.. Which one does she identify herself with..

Nigerians celebrate end of year party all over the world where they were formed.. Does she attend?..

OK let us say she doesn't like to mingle with Nigerian activities abroad, What about church activities.. where lots of people from different background were invited..does she attend?.... if she is working, At least some colleagues must have invited her for a birthday party and other work related function, does she attend?

U made your argument sound like living abroad as a single man or woman was boring.. it is not.. Infact it's the most liberating.. She should work on herself first.. her insecurity and self esteem is pretty bad... Even going back to Nigeria to hunt for a husband will not solve it...
Family / Re: I Feel Like I Will Be Single Forever. by Imogenn(f): 10:31pm On Jun 09, 2019
I am working atm, in a nursing home. I am a graduate But that’s about it.
bukatyne:


Relationship aside, what else do you have working for you?

What are your aspirations in life?
Family / I Feel Like I Will Be Single Forever. by Imogenn(f): 8:16pm On Jun 09, 2019
I wrote this thread last year about a guy that I had met who was into all kinds of rubbish
https://www.nairaland.com/4861952/god-showing-me-signs
Well after deceiving myself and going back and forth with him, I finally said enough is enough. I broke up with him early last month after i went through pictures on his phone through his email, and I saw that he had taken a picture of my bank card details to possibly steal from me. I also saw screenshots of him having friendly conversations with another girl in his church. Although there was nothing to serious in their chats, I just felt it wasn’t appropriate to have friendly conversations like that. So it’s done and it’s over.

Now I recently just turned 25. I feel like I’m getting to that undesirable age and I just feel that I will never find a serious guy. I feel like I’m never going to find someone, I’m so lonely all the time I’m just fed up. I’m that anti social type that hates being in crowds so it’s sooo difficult to meet people. I’m just fed up of everything. I just feel damaged and I feel like I can’t trust anyone and i don’t want to waste my time with unserious men.

I need help.

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Family / Re: Is God Showing Me Signs? by Imogenn(f): 12:40pm On Jun 03, 2019
I am so thankful guys. !!

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