Thank you to all of you who have replied to my post!

Even the guy with the negative comment:

semid4lyfe:

Peeps into the thread and leaves humming _{maga don pay, shout hallelluyah}

Yes I am American but I have tons of Nigerian friends and I dont appriciate your negative hinting at our relationship with reference to this song! Its a disgrace and gives an already tarnished image of Nigerians, even more negativity. Our relationship is genuine and real! This is no green card or scam thing, we are truly in love! As I stated, he prefers to stay in Nigeria as he loves his country and is very well off! It was my idea for us to live in the US. And another thing, I am an african american woman, not white, lol and he is the one who sends me money so I can buy something nice for myself and sends me gifts! Know what your talking about next time before you decide to "peep in" and leave a rude comment.

To everyone else, thank you so much for your comments, I will definitley take what all of you had to say into consideration!

I am very aware of all the scam marriages and 419 scams going on and was honestly hesitant to start talking to him until his cousin (my best friend) ensured me that he was not like that!

I will be in Lagos.

Ok, lol thanks! So how much money should I bring for 3 weeks?

Would he have a better chance on coming to the US if we get married in Naja or engaged? I dont thing I could bare not seeing him for that long. We figured getting engaged in his country so his family could be apart of it then getting married here so may family can be apart! Im really worried and confused now. PLEASE HELP!

So what do I need to do to ensure he can come here? We really want to be together!

Hi all,

Im new to this forum but have gotten a lot of advice in the recent past. Now I have a question to ask.

A Nigerian friend of mine introduced me to his cousin (who lives in Naja) on facebook and we have really hit it off. We facebook, email, bbm and talk on the phone everyday for about 3 months and have fallen in love with eachother. My friend is traveling to Nigeria next month (November) and asked me to come with him since I have always loved the culture, so of course I said yes! We will be there for 3 weeks and I finally get to meet this amazing man that I fell in love with. They both have said that I will be taken care of and wont have to worry about anything.

My boyfriend and I have talked about marriage and are planning on getting engaged while I'm there and as I live in the US, naturally i want him to come live in my country. He has no problem with us living in Nigeria, but him moving to the US was my idea. So when I get back I will file for him to get a fiancee visa! Please dont get me wrong, I have heard of the horror stories and am well aware but it is NOT like that with us. I am 32 and he is 30.

I have a few questions:

1. How much money will be enough to have a good time (even though he said he will take care of me, I believe in having my own money) and buy enough things to bring back to my family and friends?
2. Is it better to get engaged or married while I am there?
3. What are some good places to see? I know wwe will be going to Victoria Island, but what else is there to see?

Thank you in advance!

Listen to your instincs, they will never steer you wrong! Pay attention to what your mate says and does. Usually actions speak louder than words and if it is true love he/she will show you with their ways as well as their actions! Ive heard this saying many times and dont know exactly where it came from but here it is anyway, "trust none of what you hear and half of what you see". If you follw the above advice you will know for sure if it is a true and genuine love.