₦airaland Forum

SenecaTheYonger:
Not only you. In fact I lost my X account because of this app. The wickedness I saw made to look for the CEO’s Twitter page. I rained curses on that man and his family. Before long my X account got permanently terminated.

Till date, if I open a X account, it’ll automatically be banned.

Wow, was it really this terrible? This sounds sad. You must have come under serious strain if it got to the point of lashing out at the man on X.

What really happened, did you put all your money into the app, as at then?

Akalia:
You must be out of your mind and very insensitive to have such an opinion. Everyone is not like you that is always self-centered. People like you don't understand selflessness.

I just looked at his comment and wondered. If he were the one in that lady's situation, facing death, and that stranger took the bullet and died for him then, would he still have called the stranger foolish today, for saving his life?

I just fail to understand how some of us reason sometimes.

promiseblinks:
The economy changes the dynamics of the game. It has to do with profit and loss because of the economy. If I go into this what do I get and where is it leading to

Kindly share more on this at your convenience. For the benefit of those open to learning and gaining knowledge, especially regarding the impact of the economy in the dating landscape of today. Not many are aware of economic influence in dating. That's where your knowledge comes in.

VaginaAcademic:
Written of as how see how much I dey owe o 😭😭

Sorry about this. How much was loaned to you originally, and when?

anonimi:
Of all the things you can say about this situation, why this?

No wonder we have useless leaders looters emerging from our midst to ruin our country such that we are doing japa to beg oyinbo people to recolonise us.

Do you know what agential integrity and personal responsibility means

The state of mind of a lot of folks is just pitiful. It's one among many reasons why the country is where it is, and the people are not taken seriously by those ruling over them.

IbeOkehie:
I've gone over all this in detail over a looong time on Nairaland. My comment record is open.

In summary, I will just say the problem is LOW IQ which is manifested in many ways such as counting REVENUE as profit and voting for Muhammadu Buhari for President, a former Petroleum Minister who campaigned on a LIE that "there's nothing like fuel subsidy, fuel subsidy doesn't exist".

Details from random posts....

Try and read the whole convo I had with some jokers here -
https://www.nairaland.com/8232460/why-floated-naira-cardoso/5#132349413

I know I've made some comments on cocoa...the IGNORANCE among Nigerians on their cocoa industry is amazing, even among Yoruba people...just staggering....

https://www.nairaland.com/7742863/what-nigerias-biggest-agricultural-export/4#124059210

https://www.nairaland.com/post/126799299

https://www.nairaland.com/post/125135296

https://www.nairaland.com/post/124264004

Just do my comment history if you're interested.

Good Luck to Nigerians.

Thanks. Will look into these.

IbeOkehie:
Now this prompts me to bring up more. I met graduates who majored in business related studies, even at top universities like UNN, who didn't know what VAT was.

This was around 2012, we were doing a business transaction, making out a multi-million naira invoice. VAT came up in the calculations and he asked what it was. 🤷

And I met MANY like that.

Top lawyers who didn't know the staus of land ownership in Nigeria...legal questions I had to deal with in the course of business.

By the way, a top banker in Nigeria, who reports directly to the CEO of one of the top 10 banks, told me that he has been in meetings with top politicians....including President Tinubu...and that they simply have NO CLUE about economic principles or budgeting or such.

I remember discussing fuel subsidy with elected Nigerian legislators back in 2011 to 2012. The guys had zero clue.

Peter Obi has no idea what a free market means...I asked him in person. You could just see in his demeanor he was out to sea. In fact his reply to me was...get this...."No o, the Nigerian market is too free".

A country where government controls all three main factors of production and still sets an OFFICIAL rate for the currency....and a major party candidate thinks it's too free a market. It's as bad as Buhari & Tinubu claiming "there's nothing like fuel subsidy, it doesn't exist".

The whole thing is frightening. Such considerations influenced my decision to turn my back on Nigeria. There's no hope.

No surprise Nigeria is the Poverty Capital of the World.

Good Luck to Nigerians

This is a disturbing situation. Not surprising that, aside from the politicians who should be more knowledgeable and informed than the common man, even the top professionals (some) are affected.

In your view, what exactly is the root of this problem, especially as it relates to the overwhelming unproductivity & poverty bedeviling the Nigerian society today?

Does it lie with our educational system? Or our value system? Is it simple failure of public officials in power, or other factors...? Or would you say it is a combination of different factors?

T0BY:
How through is this? Because I find it hard to believe some stories here these days.. nah just to catch cruise.


If it's actually true, you people should surrender him to psychiatric people or white garment church like cherubim(sele) make them chain am there and do the needful.. the madness from the drugs go disembark in no distant time.

Say no to drugs ahbeg. E no dey solve life 's problems or challenges.

How true is it? Let's not cast doubt on the story, I don't see the reason he'd have to lie about this. I doubt he just made up this story.

A lot of stories here are riddled with lies, yes, but the situation described here is very real and is a common occurrence among people with addiction problems, especially looking at it from the angle of their hurt families.

Especially if you've seen it up close and seen families suffer the horror of an addicted relative personally, which I think you haven't.

Meektunz:
I was watching the television on a program about Benue State Governor and his name popped on the screen then i saw this titles before his name. I nearly laughed my life out.

‎I have wondered about that as well, and looked into it.
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‎From my findings, it appears that the over-fixation on titles and honors by Nigerians, in this part of the world, tells a deeper story about the troubled nature of a lot of Nigerians, especially in our present clime.
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‎There are several factors at play here:
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‎Classism
‎Low self-esteem
‎Inferiority complex
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‎These factors bedevil the common man in this country. A lot of people suffer from these underlying problems, deeply repressed within their psyche.
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‎These issues are especially prevalent in deprived and feudal societies which are fraught with poverty and social inequality, marked by injustice, weak institutions and disregard for the rule of law.
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‎We are a deeply classist society, where basic decency, respect, courtesy and regard are given to individuals not because they are human beings that deserve such, but depending on their "class", determined by their bank account, status, material possessions, position or influence.
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‎Poverty and inequality in particular, tends to strip away a person's esteem, dignity and sense of self, resulting in a sense of inferiority compared to others perceived to be of a higher standing; a deep void aching to be filled with worship and adoration, a fervent desire to be extolled and esteemed highly in the eyes of others around them.
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‎The average person who lacks a sense of self due to the listed societal and environmental factors, usually has to contend with a lot of what is perceived to be oppression and injustice arising from the dysfunction of the existing socioeconomic and institutional systems, especially if that person is not in a position of power and authority.
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‎Keep in mind that, power and authority (and money) allow one to get away with almost anything in our society.
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‎In a society with weak institutions & rule of law, you don't just bend the law, you become the law if you are simply rich enough, or highly-placed or well connected. You are worshiped as a god. This is what many with esteem issues crave.
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‎The downtrodden and obscure average Nigerian individual wants respect and admiration, and a lot of respect and admiration, from others. They want to boost their esteem. They desire to project a glorified image of themselves for others to be in awe of, in order to have a sense of self-worth (even if they put no effort into it).
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‎Titles in particular, come with respect; honors and awards induce a feeling of achievement, which boosts the esteem that the individual lacks. That is why you see many tending to virtually chase after different titles and awards, whether or not they actually are deserving of such.
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‎That should answer your question of why Nigerians like titles so much.
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‎For the average Nigerian individual yearning for esteem and recognition, there usually is an overwhelming desire in the mind of such an individual if they somehow rise to prominence, to show that they have arrived and are on a higher level than others, especially when they get into a position of power of authority. Or when they suddenly come into a lot of money. "I better pass my neighbor" also comes into play here.
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‎This desire is almost like a spirit, it can't be contained. Especially when the poor and the downtrodden among us, suddenly go through a "rags to riches" or "grass to grace" experience.
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‎Consider all those stories of "notable" folks in our society being awarded random chieftaincy titles here and there, when they are not even the traditional leader or representative of any community. Those who chase certificates and degrees endlessly. Why do you think that is?
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‎It's not only about the title in itself. it's about the respect that is perceived to come with it.
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‎"Dr."
‎"Prof."
‎"Chief"
‎"Honorable"
‎"His Royal Highness"
‎"His Excellency", etc
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‎In a lot of cases, the fixation on titles, for some, is to show (to public) that "they have arrived". That "levels have changed". That they are "high-class". That they have become something for everyone perceived to be 'beneath" them to bow to.
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‎And, it's not just the politicians. It's a cultural phenomenon here. Prevalent in our institutions, organizations and communities.
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‎Check your professors, can you dare address them without "Prof"? Check the lecturers. The secretaries. The security guards.
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‎Check basically anyone in a position of authority toward others, or who comes into a position of authority. These are the deeper issues behind the fixation on titles by Nigerians.

Nahunger:
1. Not experienced the lagging (Ram is 12gb, ROM is 128,
I only use 65gb, I don't allow the memory get full, I regularly clear cache, delete heavy files I no longer need, use the phone cleaner to clear junk files)

2. Caller information not showing up, I've definitely experienced that.

I simply uninstall the updates on two apps.
1. Phone
2. Contact

Sometimes I have to save numbers all over again.

I get regular Upgrade from xaiomi

Over rall it's the best transsion phone, better that the other 3 popular brands.

Okay. Thanks. Someone else (another Redmi user) has also complained about that issue of caller info not showing.

I thought it was an isolated issue. Very odd.

Nahunger:
Camera is average, though I've not exploited the professional mode... The 48mp is good but not solid good.

Battery, 💯 solid, once xaiomi says it's 5000mah believe it, they have that reputation

Multitasking: is seamless, no lagging, you have an option of extending the ram from internal storage so, a 6gb ram can be extended to 12gb ram

Gaming: it's a snapdragon device so no issue.

Xaiomi phones are durable just make sure you are buying the Note series (variants)

I see. Very helpful.

What about the stories of the phones lagging or freezing after using them for a while, or caller information not showing up when someone calls the phone? Experienced something like these?

Nahunger:
Note 15

Ok

How would rate its performance so far (battery life, speed, camera quality, multi-tasking, browsing, gaming, etc)?

Nahunger:
I've been using mine without screen guard for the past 1 year now

Falls I pick up and keep moving

What model of Redmi is it?

Goo0dHardDick:
Like in the days of Blackberry (BB), why do ladies, especially Nigeria ladies, value or obsessed over iPhone so much? They wouldn't mind giving you their bodies to get it. And if you are a phone seller, these ladies can sleep with you as much as you want just to get an iPhone (only a foolish business man will agree to this).

Imagine a girl instructing her boyfriend to get an iPhone x or XR, or 11, saying she doesn't want her android phone fixed but would rather prefer an iPhone instead meanwhile she didn't contribute a single dime to purchase the iPhone.

Guys hardly show off with their iPhones or expensive gadgets as they do not see it as something worthy to die for, probably because they bought it with their own money.

A girl came over to my house and upon sighting an iPhone on the table, she immediately told me she was using an iPhone 11 but got damaged and someone had to give her the current android phone she was using. I simply told her "ok" and then changed the topic. She again went back to the iPhone topic and kept telling me how she's a huge fan of iPhones and the android phone she's using she's just managing it, bla bla bla..

Why do ladies obsessed over iPhone?

‎The lady in your story that talked about "managing" the phone she's using, being a big fan of iPhones, I wonder what she wanted you to do about that exactly?
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‎Anyway, here's my opinion on this topic you raised. This might be a bit long, kindly bear with me, it is part of observations of the society I've made over the years. To understand the iPhone obsession, we need to look at a variety of wider issues.
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‎Yes, the iPhone is a nice device to have, no doubt, especially in light of features such as its camera quality, security apparatus, etc.
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‎On this matter you raised, of ladies tending to be obsessed with the iPhone, I used to look at it from the angle of the phone, but now, I don't think the phone in itself is the issue.
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‎I recall a time before the advent of the iPhone, the device known as Blackberry used to be in vogue. There was also a level of madness that the desire to own a Blackberrys back then, drove some people to. It was the hottest thing in town at a point in time. But today, it is not, because the iPhone has taken its place.
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‎The apparent iPhone craze, from my view, is not really about the device or its features.
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‎I see it as more of the manifestation of specific underlying problems that has been plaguing a lot of people for a while, especially within the context of our society. I think the issues here, can be classified as follows:
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‎1. Low self-esteem
‎2. The urge to follow trends
‎3. The desire to belong or feel among, "fear of missing out" or being "left out"
‎4. Lack of contentment
‎5. The desire to attain "status" or change "level"; to show off or "oppress" or "pepper" others
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‎I will explain a few of these issues.
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‎- Self-esteem: You see this thing called low self esteem? It's one of the worst things that can ever befall an individual. In deprived societies like Nigeria, I have personally observed this thing to be devastating to the psyche and character of the average Nigerian. It drives the urges toward materialism and quick wealth without enterprise. It also drives the tendency to show off and "oppress" others perceived to be "below" a person's 'level' or 'status', in order to get esteem and validation from others.
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‎A lot of people in this society of ours, tend to lack self-esteem, they are devoid of a sense of self worth. Because they lack esteem from within, it presents a void which they earnestly seek to fill from external sources.
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‎As a consequence, because they have no internal validation mechanism, they look to people (or material things) for validation. In this case, a lot of those who run after the iPhone think owning it will give them that self worth.
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‎In the context of the topic, a good number young ladies in particular, because of the lack of esteem, want it badly from outside, they want to have "status". So they tend to be drawn to those things which are seen as status symbols.
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‎The iPhone is one of those status symbols of today, that, in their mind, would show others that, the lady is not "low-class". Just to be clear, this thing doesn't affect ladies alone; it also affects guys.
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‎- Following trends : I have observed that one of the fundamental problems bedeviling the average Nigerian is the urge to follow trends. Because we mostly don't want to be seen as "carrying last" or being "left behind", we tend to run after something simply because it is trending, not because we looked critically at that trendy thing and formed our own opinion it. The iPhone is one of those trends presently.
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‎For ladies in particular, a good number of ladies tend to form opinions based off of "friends". If all friends of a lady (or guy) are using iPhone, and they don't have one, well, that makes them the odd one out, and they don't want to be the odd one out, or to carry last, or to be "behind". Hence, the desire to have an iPhone by any means they deem necessary, whether it means committing a crime (for some guys; fraud, theft, etc) or (for some ladies), trading their body, just to get it.
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‎We must also take into account, that because of the state of the country we live in, there are a lot of societal ills that shape the mindset of the masses over time.
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‎Poverty is definitely one of these ills, in the sense that, it tends to leave those battling it, with with very high tastes and expectations. Poverty takes away dignity and sense of self to an extent, so it leaves many (not all) seeking for status, seeking for class, for validation, for esteem, by all means. This is where the iPhone, among other things, comes in.
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‎For ladies (or guys) obsessed with owning an iPhone; we must understand that, the device, in their minds, is expected to give them that missing sense of esteem, self worth, high class, status, and social validation, that they may have lacked for so long. Consider the thoughts of "Everyone has an iPhone, why don't I have one?", or " Why am I using Android when my friends are using iPhones?"
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‎On the matter of class, classism is also a big problem. Our society, without a doubt, apart from the obvious tribalism, is also very classist one, where the worth of an individual depends not on their character, values, personality, or traits; but on superficial trappings such as their money, car(s), house, job, etc...
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‎Unfortunately, these things determine what "class" an individual in Nigeria is placed in, and subsequently, the level of respect and esteem to give that individual. The person's character is of no consequence, because having money is seen as sufficient.
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‎In a poor society like Nigeria, wealth, position and status, as a class, are worshipped. The iPhone, as a status symbol, casts its owner in a "high-class" light. Now, this perception of a high-class status is exactly what many ladies desire, that they expect owning the device to give them, not necessarily the device in itself.
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‎In all of this, you know why I don't blame the iPhone in particular, for the obsession? Because, if in the near future, another device comes out that takes the position of the iPhone today, I believe that many iPhone users (guys and ladies like) will drop their iPhones and go after that device (in order to get esteem, achieve social validation and portray themselves as high-class; not to mention demeaning or looking down on others who don't have it). This should explain why some iPhone owners don't think very highly of Android devices and their users.
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‎This thing has already happened with the Blackberrys of yesterday. It's not really about the iPhone in itself, it has never been.
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‎On the last issue of contentment, the truth is that a lot of people today are not really content with what they have at the moment, especially when they see others with things they perceive to be better than their own. Lack of contentment is also another serious problem driving materialism, and other related issues.
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‎OP, I think that's why the lady in your story was demeaning her own phone, especially after seeing the iPhone on your table.
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‎These things I pointed out, should hopefully help you (and all of us) understand why she said she was "managing" her Android device, (which ironically, you say she didn't get the device herself, someone else got for her).

bigpicture001:
I don't support minimum wage increment, I support minimum wage equalization...

U can ask me what the difference is

What's the difference?

Nteogwuija:
You could have just answered the guy's question without making him feel less of a human. This is how you guys discourage genuine learning.

It was disheartening to read. Belittling the guy for no reason. I wonder when it became a crime to seek knowledge, or to address ignorance. Why are some of us like this? Are we all supposed to know it all without ever asking?

ElevationD:
You cannot provide an answer, short and simple. Nothing concerns you with buildings. All your business revolves around omonile, selling your lands to make owambe.

No one should expect less from APC supporters. They are offended when the truth stares them in the face. Where is the crap?

Why is Larfage expensive please?

No be only cocoa, na akara too.

Obviously, he can't provide an answer. If he could, he would have answered and simply moved on. I looked at his response and wondered how it addresses the question posted above.

He might be frustrated about something else. I don't think the issue is the question per se, I think it's anger from a different issue, being vented on the poster.

What is it with some of us and managing emotions? Unprovoked toxicity for no justifiable reason.

As if it's a crime to seek knowledge or try to address ignorance in some areas. Nobody knows it all.

Omalicious1:
Personally I feel its disease that the black race has been infected it...because I don't really see such infection with among the Asians.

It's actually quite disturbing.

Well, I simply do not completely grasp the reasoning behind some of these "pressures," especially if it's not related to survival, or simply having a decent standard of living.

"Pressure" to look rich
"Pressure" to meet up
"Pressure" to "blow" or "make it" or show that one has "arrived"

Under pressure from who or what exactly?


If one simply lives well and has peace of mind, why should one suddenly come under, or subject themselves to, the "pressures" I listed above? To what end? I don't fully understand.

What's your take on how the black race first got in contact with this infection (maintaining unaffordable lifestyles, etc.)? Would you say, there are deeper issues affecting the psyche of the black race that are not being addressed?

SixSeven:
They have their own place in Sycophancy Association of Nigeria, SAN

What's the name of the book where this excerpt you uploaded is from, please?

naturefellow:
parents that aren't qualified to be parents.

Minors that lack guidance and already exposed to social vices.

Use your head abeg! Privacy should be your least concern.

He underestimates the gravity of child pornography and the other serious offenses these children are wilfully committing in this context.

I wonder if he would care so much about privacy, if he had a child or children involved in this. If the boy in this story (with 80 Australian contacts) was his son, or if his daughter was among the minors with naked photos and videos being sold for N500k. With her begging them to do it.

I'm not certain he is a parent yet.

Elusive001:
Really?

A true Christian will never understand the Roman Catholic Church, never.

Bros, please, do not allow me to take you on the Roman Catholic Church.

She is not of CHRIST JESUS. She is christianised paganism.

Place most of their practices and teachings side be side the Bible and see.

Can you kindly share more on the "Christianized paganism" of the Roman catholic church & its dissociation from Christ Jesus, that you speak of? I'm open to learning.

SixSeven:
It's obvious that the people you pray for in Nigeria are the demons themselves that's why you need prayer for them.

Please, what book is this excerpt from? What's the title of the book that contains these pages? I'd like to read it.

Raregem9000:
Shey d weyrey won leave politics for laborer work? We won't take him serious until he carry five bags of cement for head too.
I miss this area sha.

What's the name of the area?

polite2:
Pls get network booster.. and u re good to go

What is this network booster like, please? Is it some sort of device or software, can you kindly share more details about it?

sonssyo:
honestly, things have gone really bad, expenses wan even kill me when I never even born pikin, my niece in the university that went on break, nah so the parents said make she come stay for holidays because money no dey to waste for flight, boom she came, I dey run that expense, just this week, 200k don fly from my hand like breeze,
plaiting of her hair with nails-17k, bought indomie-14k and other things , marriage wey dey this Easter don blow like 40k comot from my hand, colleague wey never born for 20 years, finally born, I fly 20k , nah so my 200k take liquidate from my hand , nah 22k remain like this, between Easter Sunday till Monday this week.

Seriously? 200k vanished just this week...

Did your niece's parents try to send anything or provide some form of assistance, to at least ease your burden of helping them care for her while she stays with you for the time being?

For the other expenses you mentioned, it appears your finances have been left significantly affected.

spiceadole:
So despite all the bragging on social media, men are still planning on getting married.
This one wants to spend 3 million naira for the same marriage that they claim they do not have anything to benefit from.
Unbelievable!

Social media is vastly different from reality. I have observed that the loud opinions of those "braggers on social media" don't tend to reflect the opinions of the vast majority.

A lot of men don't appear to hold that belief of "nothing to benefit" from marriage. Just some misinformed noisemakers who are not or have never been married. That they shout it daily doesn't mean that the tens of millions of men in real life share the same line of thought.

JapaProf:
Writing - If you're really good, you can earn well.

SOP writing and review for aspiring students and travellers can be profitable if you understand what immigration officers, admission and scholarship assessors look for and the information applicants need to get approved. Approval for the people you help means more referrals.

Content creation takes time before it starts paying, so you need something that will bring in money in the short term.

You can also try marketing products or services for others, to get a commission.

Can you kindly shed more light on this (writing and reviews)? I'm interested in writing.

Have you got platforms or or writing/review opportunities which can be explored further, please?

Therokstar:
& You deliberately neglected God's response to these acts & the punishments that follow. You people will cheery pick to suit your narrative. We will all be fine.

I think he knows what he is doing. Better to ignore the post entirely and not bother much about it.

hatchy:
It's our environment that caused it, a result of the SUN. Our brains are already fried. I have done several research and observations about how a typical Nigerian behave and your description is exactly what I got as my results. I attribute it to our environment which makes us behave the way we do, and it's now a cultural thing. It's now a norm to behave very erratic, loud, aggressive, forceful, unstable, unorganised.
Take for example: Keep 12 bottles of coke on a table, then ask 10 Nigerians who are gathered in a place to go and take coke from the table, there will be stampede just to take 1 coke each. Meanwhile the coke will go round, even with 2 extra left if they conduct themselves in an orderly manner, stay in cue and gently move and take the coke one after the other.....but NO!
One person would want to have 4 bottles to himself alone, starving the rest, of which he don't care so far he has more than enough.
This is exactly how our society is. That is our psychic. From the politicians down to the road side corn seller, we are all the same people, taking what we don't need and more than what we actually need, denying others of that same opportunity.

Nyesom Wike's erratic behaviour, his loudness, his land grabbing, his troublesomeness, his looting of state funds, his arrogance. These attributes are one of a typical Nigerian.

@hatchy Can you kindly share posts of your observations and/or links to the research you've conducted, please?

I've also been looking at the character of the average Nigerian for a while. I'd like to read your research, if you don't mind.

Wisewriter:
I am a scholar. Since I graduated from the University, I vowed never to seek employment in government or private establishment.

I engage in writing and I earn comfortably through the comfort of my home.

I just pity our graduates. They supposed to dominate the social media space and earn money through their creativities and not touts who don't know the value of money and education. I pause!

Hi @Wisewriter, I'd like to engage in this. I want to know more about earning through writing.

Can I send you a private message?

EmmyMaestro:
Argument go start on top this one

I think that's the aim.

Posts like this always end in quarrels and heated arguments especially along regional, tribal and ethnic lines; arguments that will go on for days. When the noise over this latest "statistic" is over, another one is swiftly published, and the whole cycle starts again.

The whole thing looks like a devious scheme engineered to cause division, distract people and create an avenue to divert people's attention.

If you look at it that way, then it becomes even harder to take this "research" seriously. I don't see what the point of this is - so that those from the regions with negative indices will start pointing fingers and throwing counterclaims against people from the other regions or...?

Shedrick:
Go to Unique Fertility, I know friends with the same condition, and they are fertilized now. This is not herbal mixture. They will treat you medically and those sperm cells will be revived.

Where is the location exactly, please?