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Family / Re: Help Me... My Mum Is Making Me Depressed. by interleukin(f): 8:55am On Dec 11, 2015 |
Dirkcoyt: Lol... . Me too. |
Family / Re: Help Me... My Mum Is Making Me Depressed. by interleukin(f): 8:44am On Dec 11, 2015 |
Dirkcoyt: God bless you for this. |
Family / Re: Help Me... My Mum Is Making Me Depressed. by interleukin(f): 8:25am On Dec 11, 2015 |
Apreel: Lmao but so true. |
Family / Re: Help Me... My Mum Is Making Me Depressed. by interleukin(f): 8:23am On Dec 11, 2015 |
smada13: What is this one saying? So you were born to live for your parents? I won't be surprised if you grow up and raise kids in a completely selfish manner , giving birth to kids into a full time/lifetime job of protecting your reputation at the expense of their own life and happiness. What a depressed and unhappy lineage that will be.SMH. You probably don't have an issue with the way your deeper life parents raise you, but this Op does. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: Help Me... My Mum Is Making Me Depressed. by interleukin(f): 7:54am On Dec 11, 2015 |
latitidejavu: 100 likes for this. Most sensible thing I'v read so far on this thread. The thing is, most of the people commenting here have no idea what it feels like to be in the OPs shoes. Op, you didn't say whether or not you school in the same town where your parents live. If you don't, then these steps might be helpful. That's how I went about it when I was in school. Pick a good day, call your mum, tell her how much you appreciate how sge raised you, and that you are a better person as a result, then go ahead to explain how you feel to her, dont raise your voice, be calm and respectful, and emphasize the fact that you'd very much like to attend another church. Of course she'll not support you. This step no just formality. Choose a church you are comfortable with in school and start attending. Of course they'll hear and call with all manner of threats, pick the call, hear them out, even if they talk for 2days, stay on the phone. Don't say anything other than "I'm hearing you",and yes ma/sir ( why I said you shouldn't say anything is because such parents have their principles set in stone. Whatever you have to say doesn't change anything or how you feel will never change their perspective. So no point talking too much). After the call, keep going to your chosen church. And try to be happy. Mind you, no need saying sorry. Cos you will do it again. Don't be wasteful o. You know your parents now! Manage the hell out of whatever they give you. Cos they will want to punish you for the above step by freezing your finances. It'll help if you have friends to leech on for a while. If not, be ready to go hungry for a long time and be doing " I waka well" to your classmates house. Truth is you'll have to endure a whole lot of other issues. That's life. Our problems don't just disappear. They're often replaced. Despite all this, don't joke with your studies. Cos excelling in school or whatever your doing is the only way to ensure that this freedom you're fighting to get remains. Harness the good side of your parents strictness. Plan, plan plan ahead. One thing I benefitted from being raised by such parents is that I always always have a plan to escape being chained down and dictated to. I don't argue with them too much. What are you studying in school? When you're not having lectures, go and volunteer in the kind of industry you'd like to work when you graduate. Learn a skill. Start planning to be free from them not only when you're schooling but even after. Cos if you don't have a plan, and you graduate and are jobless, you'd have no choice than to go back and stay with them as a graduate which is a worse feeling than what you're feeling now. They will use you do yeye. Don't look compare yourself to other students o. Dont be Feeling big boy up and down. Your life dynamics are very different from theirs. Face your life, your future.Learn anything. You can learn aluminum work. Windows, show glass and all that. Its the kind of work you can do as a graduate and still feel proud. It doesn't dirty you like mechanic work. Plus you'll have change in your pocket to pay your bill and even choose not to go back home after graduating. However, when you're at home, play completely by their rules. As a student, you're at home for less than 2 months in ayear if you plan well. You have endured all this for years. What is two months compared to what you've been through. So you have 10 months to yourself to do the things that make you happy, discover yourself and walk out of your parents shadows. (I am not bothered/scared that doing thus will make you go completely wayward. There's too much of your upbringing in you already). I don't argue with such parents, I simply do what I feel is right, and when I make mistakes, I take full responsibility for it and can live with my mistakes. You'll also make mistakes, but you'll learn from them and find your true self. All the best. This advice don too long sef 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Phones / Re: Infinix HOT 2 (x510) Official Thread by interleukin(f): 2:53am On Nov 17, 2015 |
Please I need help. Since the last update of my infinix, the settings for sim cards keeps changing on it own. My sim 2, MTN is for calls, but it automatically keeps shuttling between MTN and Airtel even when I try I change it. To make a call, I have to try 2-3 times before the Sim card I want to use appears. Its frustrating especially in emergencies. |
Family / Re: No Sex Before Marriage!!! Is It Advisable? by interleukin(f): 6:03pm On Oct 05, 2015 |
IMO, Its not advisable. |
Family / Re: No Sex Before Marriage!!! Is It Advisable? by interleukin(f): 6:02pm On Oct 05, 2015 |
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Family / Re: My Wife Shows No Affection by interleukin(f): 10:17pm On Jul 05, 2015 |
what was that : Demons for sex **Lmao....... Lord have mercy!!!!! I have died of laughter. |
Family / Re: Never Miss A Girl With The Following Qualities by interleukin(f): 8:53pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
What a mumu girl!!!! |
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