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placeofallure:
This is where I don't agree with you dear. In 9 years, you'll be 35 or thereabout. If you are not married by then, then there's a problem. Put your eyes on the ground and see a worthy suitor who fits into your goals in life. You seem to be only after career growth, what about family? The biological clock of a woman ticks nonstop and before you know it, fertility issues will spring up. You see many women running from pillar to post in a bid to have babies but unsuccessful, that will never be your portion in Jesus name. I am up for great strides in one's career, but trust me, you can combine it with raising a family. Many women are doing it successfully, you will not be an exception.

ok

bayulll01:
my own is in next 3years don't run to this same site and complain,in as much as I believe marriage is not for everyone,there is a way u can do it and still be responsible,I don't believe marriage makes anyone to be responsible,all ur parent are saying is put it in ur agenda,in 9years u won't be ready,better tell us what's wrong with u so we talked how u can get out of it

You guys are missing the point here. What you saying is exact same thing people said 4 years ago. 4 years gone I'm still on the same stand not complaining about being single.

Seems no reasonable advice here other than the first two comments.

So topic closed.

firstking01:
Ok, don't you have a boyfriend or something of sort??

I had a boyfriend once it didn't go so well.

Elosky20:
the higher a woman climbs in the society ladder, the more suitors run away

What's your suggestion?

firstking01:
Op, i belive your story but partially sha cos there must be a reason why your families are presurising you to marry...tell us the reason

Unfortunately, I'm not concerned if you believe it partially or in totality.

Besides they are insisting I get married because 'My mates are married'. And I have a life of my own not my mates which no one understands or cares to understand.

Secretario:
1. What are you saying, after BSc you cannot support yourself? Most of us became a independent at ss1,abi you want to hear and read stories.

From this I know already that you are a grown-up baby.

They will not respect you if you don't work for yourself, or can't you see you are already a liability that is why they want you to carry your overload to your husband house.

NO let me vex oh (Bae is on her period today, vals day).

Again read the post. I never mentioned financial assistance. So I cannot ask my family for advice on certain stuff or I cannot seek my family's support on things involving my life? Because I have a B.sc? I think you are the grown baby here.

Pineapp:

At 26 you are not considering marriage
Issorait.

In 9 years time,you'll start jumping from Shiloh to synagogue.
From crusade to mountains and the prayer point will be," father locate the bone of my bone and catapult him to me"

This is not funny.

Besides in 9 years my plan is still not marriage unless the right man comes by.

Secretario:
1.Stop asking your family for any help

2. Well, Go and get married.

1. I shouldn't ask my family for help why then was I born? Why didn't they get rid of me if I'm a stranger? Besides I do not ask for financial help.

2. Read my post.

Happy valentine's day.

Since 3 years I have not had peace in my life. Everyone including my parents and siblings are insisting I bring home a man. It's even worse now because they give me this attitude like I'm a stranger who did something extremely bad.

If I ask any of my brothers for one assistance or the other they will say things like '...I'm not your husband'. They would insult me first then anything else follows.

I am 26 and a graduate in computer engineering. B.sc, M.sc. Marriage is not on my mind now because i am now working on my PhD but nobody understands and they don't even care to understand. Most men who come my way, I don't have any feeling or desire for them how then would I make one my husband?

My work is tedious and time consuming especially now with the challenges the Nigerian economy is facing so all hands on deck. Yet my parents are saying 'Get married!'.

Please Nairaland what do you think I can do? My close assistant is saying I should ignore everyone and continue my life the way I want it and some are saying I should just take any man to satisfy society.

I need your ideas please.