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Romance › Re: Do Women Really Fall In Love? by isrealoski(op): 9:20am On Oct 01

pocohantas:
Anybody can fall in love.
The presence of love isn't the absence of superficial benefits and qualities.

I don't know why men (especially) keep convincing themselves that they are the true lovers because they don't want finances. Whereas they want youthfulness, submission, babymaking, home management, emotional support...etc.

Love has its driving force. It can be tried and tested, but it always has factors that makes it easier on all the parties involved.

Christianity Etc › Re: Would You Still Be Good If There Was No God? by isrealoski(op): 8:11am On Oct 01

I think there is an important distinction being missed here.

The question isn't whether God exists. As a Christian, I believe He does. The hypothetical is: if you removed God, divine judgment, heaven and hell from the equation, would you still have a reason to treat another human being with compassion, honesty and fairness?

I believe I would.

That doesn't mean I believe morality ultimately comes from human opinion. It simply means I don't want my morality to be based only on fear of punishment or expectation of reward.

At the same time, I agree that society strongly influences our moral ideas. But influence is not necessarily the same thing as determining what is objectively right. If society completely determined morality, then anyone who challenged an unjust social norm would automatically be wrong until society changed its mind.

And regarding Isaiah 45:7, I think we should be careful with the English translation of “evil.” The Hebrew word can refer to calamity or adversity as well as moral evil, so quoting that verse alone doesn't settle the question of whether the Bible teaches that God is the author of moral evil.

For me, the more interesting question is this:

If two people sincerely follow their conscience but their consciences tell them opposite things, what standard do we use to determine which action is actually right?

That's where the discussion about morality gets much deeper than simply asking whether people can behave well without believing in God.

Travel › Re: General UK Visa Enquiries - Part 5 by isrealoski(m): 7:27am On Oct 01

One thing I’ve noticed on these visa threads is that people sometimes focus so much on “how much is in the account” that they forget the ECO is looking at the story behind the money.

A healthy-looking balance can still raise questions if the transactions leading to that balance don’t make sense. And conversely, a modest balance with a clear, traceable source and a credible reason for the trip can be easier to understand.

That ₦1.5m transfer is therefore not necessarily a problem simply because it was transferred. The important question is whether the applicant can clearly establish where it came from, why it was transferred, and how it fits into the overall financial circumstances.

Personally, I’d rather submit a simple application where every major transaction can be explained than 50 documents that leave the ECO playing detective. 😒

Just my 2 kobo.🤗😉

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Christianity Etc › Re: Would You Still Be Good If There Was No God? by isrealoski(op): 6:45pm On Jun 07

RealityKings1:
The idea of good and evil doesn't come from God but a form of Social Order developed over centuries. Social order is how institutions, groups, and cultural values work together to keep a society stable and prevent chaos. It refers to the rules and shared norms that help people live and work together in harmony.

So if a man would still be good if there is no God is majorly dependent on the society he lives in. After all, it's a world where good and evil coexist and God is not bothered.

Your society is a reflection of the kind of predominant behavioral patterns. When a child is born and brought up, it will be almost impossible for him to be a nonconformist to what is observable around him.
He's a blank book and the society starts to write on him unless his thought process breaks free from that chain.

You make a fair point. Environment and society definitely influence people's moral values, and I agree that many people simply conform to what they observe.

However, I also think human beings have the ability to question society and choose differently. Otherwise, harmful traditions would never be challenged.

So perhaps morality is influenced by society, but not completely determined by it.

Thanks for the thoughtful contribution. I stand to be corrected if I'm missing something.

Christianity Etc › Re: Would You Still Be Good If There Was No God? by isrealoski(op): 6:40am On Jun 07

orisa37:
ONLY GOD IS GOOD, JESUS SAID TO NECODEMUS.
AND GOD ASSESSES HUMANS IN HIS RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM.
THERE IS GOD OOO, BY DR. MRS PEACE JONATHAN.
THE GRAND ORDER DOMINION, THE RIGHTEOUS IS KING OF THE UNIVERSE..
HE LIVES IN GOD SPHERE AWAY FROM THE PRYING EYES HIS HUMANS.
JESUS RESURRECTED TO GOD SPHERE.
JESUS IS GOOD TOO.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

I agree that God exists, and I wasn't trying to argue that He doesn't. My question was simply hypothetical: if there were no reward or punishment involved, would people still choose to do good?

Personally, my answer is yes. I believe goodness should come from genuine conviction and not only from fear of consequences.

As a Christian, I believe all goodness ultimately comes from God, but I also believe God desires willing hearts, not people who do right only because they are afraid.

So the purpose of my question is not to deny God, but to encourage self-refamination: why do we choose to do good?

God bless you.

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Christianity Etc › Re: Would You Still Be Good If There Was No God? by isrealoski(op): 5:10am On Jun 07

What’s your take?
Do you believe it’s possible to balance being true to yourself while still meeting others halfway? How do you handle tribalism or pressure to conform in your own life? Let’s discuss in the comments.

Christianity Etc › Re: Would You Still Be Good If There Was No God? by isrealoski(op): 5:10am On Jun 07

Early in life, I made a conscious decision to be different not just to rebel, but because it’s what sits right with me. I don’t do things just because everyone else is doing them. If the crowd is going one way, I often choose my own path because I want to stay true to my own values. I’ve realized that when you live this way, people react differently: about 80% will admire your honesty and consistency, while the remaining 20% — often even those close to you — may feel envy, jealousy, or simply not understand you. But I’ve learned that’s okay. I try to explain myself at first, but I also know there’s a limit I won’t spend forever trying to convince someone who just can’t see things from my perspective.

Boundaries And Balance

Living authentically doesn’t mean I ignore the people I care about. I believe in adjusting where necessary, but never abandoning who I am completely. For example: if something I do hurts someone I love, I will consider it and make changes but not stop entirely if it goes against what I believe is right for me. Like with my wife: if watching adult content bothers her, I respect her feelings and will reduce how often I do it, but I won’t stop completely just to please her. It’s about finding that middle ground — respecting others’ feelings while still holding firm to my own identity.

The Big Question: Would You Still Be Good If There Was No God?

Someone once asked me this question, and my answer is simple: yes, I would still choose to be good but only as long as it keeps my peace of mind. I don’t do good just because I’m afraid of punishment or hoping for a reward. I do it because it’s what feels right to me, and it’s how I prefer to live my life.

Christianity Etc › Re: Would You Still Be Good If There Was No God? by isrealoski(op): 5:09am On Jun 07

I don’t believe in tribalism at all. To me, it’s often just a tool some people use to gain advantage or serve their own selfish interests. Yes, there’s nothing wrong with being around people who share your background — but when it turns into favoritism, looking down on others, or taking advantage just because “you are one of us,” that’s where I draw the line. I choose to treat everyone fairly, regardless of where they come from, which tribe they belong to, or whether they are male or female. I don’t give preferential treatment to anyone just because of who they are or where they are from.

Choosing To Be Different

Christianity Etc › Would You Still Be Good If There Was No God? by isrealoski(op): 5:08am On Jun 07

A lot of people grow up being told to “follow the crowd” or “stick to your own kind,” but my experience has always been different. I grew up in a home where we had people from different backgrounds working and living with us we treated everyone with respect, gave them accommodation, and never looked down on them no matter where they came from. That upbringing shaped how I see the world today.

On Tribalism And “Us Vs Them” Mentality

Romance › Do Men Really Fall In Love? by isrealoski(op): 7:40am On May 18

Before the guys get defensive and start typing furiously, take a deep breath first

This is not a revenge post to balance the scales. This is a cold, mental dissection of male psychology, evolutionary survival, and the hidden transactions men make under the guise of "love."

We are going to look at the patterns nobody likes to admit:

Why men don't look at who a woman is, but what she represents to their ego.
The hidden transaction behind protection and provision.
Why men mistake visual stimulation and possession for deep connection.
The 3 forces that dictate male attraction.

Let’s begin.

The Illusion of the Visual Fantasy

Men like to claim their love is simple, pure, and unconditional compared to women. They say,

Give a man food and peace, and he is yours.

But that is a beautiful lie.

A man’s attraction is heavily dictated by a specific currency:

Visual and Social Status.

Think about a guy who claims he loves his quiet, supportive partner who stayed with him through his darkest times.

Then, the moment his financial status shifts, his tastes suddenly shift too.
He replaces the woman who built the foundation with a woman who matches his new penthouse view.

Did he love the first woman?

Or did he just adapt to her because she was the best he could afford at his lowest value?

The Ego and Possession

Most men do not fall in love with a woman’s soul; they fall in love with how a woman makes them feel about

themselves

A man loves the feeling of being a protector, a provider, or a king.

He loves the envy in his friends' eyes when he walks into a room with a beautiful woman.
He loves the feeling of authority.

When a man says, "I love you," many times he secretly means, "I love that you belong to me. I love that you validate my ego." The moment a woman challenges that authority, displays high intellectual independence, or stops feeding his ego, the "love" suddenly turns into resentment or insecurity.

The Men’s Version of Value Exchange

Men heavily criticize women for wanting stability and cars, but men have their own ruthless checklist of transactions.

Men look for:

Youth and Physical Fitness sad

An evolutionary desire for genetic status).
Peace / Submission: (A psychological desire for control and comfort).
Domestic and Emotional Labor sad

Someone to manage their domestic chaos so they can focus on the world).

If a woman loses her looks due to illness, age, or childbirth, or if she goes through a phase where she cannot provide "peace," watch how quickly some men check out emotionally or start looking outside.

Both genders are trading. Women trade for security; men trade for youth, peace, and ego validation.

The 3 Forces That Dictate Male Relationships

Just like women, men operate on three distinct levels:
The Ego/Possession Relationship:

The man stays because the woman enhances his social standing, cooks for him, serves him, and makes him look good to society. It is completely utilitarian.

The Infatuation/Lust Relationship

Driven purely by physical chemistry. The man is intoxicated by her beauty, but there is zero substance. Once the mystery is gone, he gets bored.

The Intellectual-Spiritual Alignment

The rare zone. Where he respects her mind enough to listen, lets down his ego guard, and views her as a true partner rather than an acquisition or a subordinate.

So, Nairalanders, let's turn the tables honestly:

Do men truly fall in love with a woman for who she is, or do they just fall in love with her youth, her compliance, and how much she validates their ego?

If a man loses his ego-boost, does his love survive?

Romance › One Man One Wife Na Scam To Men Listen To Me by isrealoski(op): 3:41pm On May 13

Why I believe ONE wife isn't enough and why it's actually BETTER for relationships

Before you come for me - YES I'm Nigerian, YES it's legal here, and NO I don't care what the 'modern world' says about monogamy being the 'only way

Hear me out: Multiple partners bring healthy competition that pushes everyone to be their best. Plus, when you're intentional about NEVER showing favoritism and always listening to every single person's needs before finding common ground

it builds a level of commitment you simply can't get from just one relationship.

Some will say it's selfish.

I say it's about embracing what makes us human and trusting the universe to connect us with people who share this vision.

Prove me wrong if you can 🤷‍♂️

#Relationships #Controversial #AlternativeLove #Nigeria"

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Romance › Re: Do Women Really Fall In Love? by isrealoski(op): 9:19pm On May 12

Manculated:

You are most welcome to the REAL WORLD!!!

Another one out of the MATRIX.

Btw, you should be in your late 20's or early 30's Max. I'm absolutely sure.

Meanwhile, kindly do well to visit this beautiful Threads which I'm privileged to be one of the pioneers to sharpen your General Knowledge about LIFE!!!

https://www.nairaland.com/6048178/reality-every-guy-need-know

https://www.nairaland.com/6425951/1-deleted

Best Of Luck...

Bro I was in ss1 when I first came across your thread.

Going back to see it again hmmm

You contributed to my frequency 😌

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Romance › Re: Do Women Really Fall In Love? by isrealoski(op): 9:14pm On May 12

Manculated:

You are most welcome to the REAL WORLD!!!

Another one out of the MATRIX.

Btw, you should be in your late 20's or early 30's Max. I'm absolutely sure.

Meanwhile, kindly do well to visit this beautiful Threads which I'm privileged to be one of the pioneers to sharpen your General Knowledge about LIFE!!!

https://www.nairaland.com/6048178/reality-every-guy-need-know

https://www.nairaland.com/6425951/1-deleted

Best Of Luck...

Age 22

Thanks I'll check them out 😊

Romance › Re: Do Women Really Fall In Love? by isrealoski(op): 9:10pm On May 12

Proserpina:
No we don't, we float over love.

Romance › Re: Do Women Really Fall In Love? by isrealoski(op): 9:10pm On May 12

Segzy19:
Na 5% of them dey love o...
The remaining 95% no dey love, dem be calculators....

Romance › Re: Do Women Really Fall In Love? by isrealoski(op): 9:09pm On May 12

DrAda:
My dear, I reserve the right to read or ignore any piece of write-up on social media. I have chosen to ignore yours. Is there something in the water that I don't know about?

Lol
Not at all

You good ✅💖

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Romance › Re: Do Women Really Fall In Love? by isrealoski(op): 9:07pm On May 12

essentialone:
A vvoman said that men do not value life because they're not created to birth life. Which is why they grape vvomen, leave their çhīldrēñ behind and don't care about their vvomen too.

She went further to say that men can only value the things that they put their sweat, blood and tears into and that's why they don't joke with their possessions; their cars etc Her theory is that men can't safeguard the things that are handed to them.

Well, the last part applies to anyone, man, vvoman and çhīldrēñ. People tend to not properly care for things that were handed to them, or that they never worked hard to achieve.

After watching the video, I immediately checked Google to ask some questions. I asked Google for the estimate of how much the @b0rti0n clinics in Nigeria make annually.

Google didn't provide any number but it pointed that though there isn't an estimated amount of money because it's illegal, however available research indicates that the market for both safe and unsafe @b0rti0n services and post-@b0rti0n care is vast, with an estimated 1.2 to 2.0 million @b0rti0ns occurring annually.

Wait ! Let me repeat it again, the life creators and protectors commit anywhere from 1.2 million to 2.0 million @b0rti0ns, in a year, in Nigeria.

Pulling these numbers is important because it puts things into perspective.

Some vvomen can be so delusional and sentimental because they want to tr@$h men by all means that they make up stuffs.
She has forgotten that some vvomen kpai the lives that they procreated in their own wombs.

The same vvomen that she claimed value çhīldrēñ's lives more than men, that can't leave any çhīld behind because "vvomen create lives" unlike men who take them.....are the ones lining up the pockets of doctors up to 2million times annually.

It's such an absurd and distasteful statement !

At this point, they just open their mouths and say anything.

The idea that only a vvoman can love çhīldrēñ because she birthed them is asinine. That's even why in cases of divorce or separation, vvomen are most likely to be favoured with getting custody of the çhīldrēñ and in most cases, they turn out w0rse.

Why do vvomen believe that we have good vvomen everywhere?
Even the one who spewed this gibberish, low-key positioned herself as a good vvoman too. It's getting cr@zier by the day.

Most of them threatened to kpai their husbands as if they’re not birthed by women.

They are !n$anè.

Aaaaaaa so funny 😂😂😆

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Romance › Re: Do Women Really Fall In Love? by isrealoski(op): 8:56pm On May 12

Kingray10:
Before she invest in you, she already see that you have or can provide what she wants.
But what happened when another comes that can provide twice of that you already had ?

Most will be loyal as long she can see potential in you.

But hay

It comes with condition

It's limited

If it's taking long and expected growth is not happening hmmmm.

Bro you don expire she move 😂

Romance › Re: Do Women Really Fall In Love? by isrealoski(op): 8:50pm On May 12

Truvelisback:
False analysis. Women really fall in love my foot.

Haaaaaa as 😅😂 grin

Romance › Re: Do Women Really Fall In Love? by isrealoski(op): 8:49pm On May 12

Emdi1914:
Wondering if tables could turn around that all women are rich and have more money than all men....Is it by then you would know that women are capable of falling in love?

Nature has rules.Attraction has rules
There are things that triggers love from each person.
Know thyself and lead the life that brings joy to your very essense,true love will find you even if you are running away from it.

Love this ❤️

Romance › Re: Do Women Really Fall In Love? by isrealoski(op): 8:44pm On May 12

Soltix9y:
Have you ever thought that maybe your definition of love is wrong?

Even in a failed country like nigeria

You Are still entitled to your opinion wink

Romance › Re: Do Women Really Fall In Love? by isrealoski(op): 8:35pm On May 12

DrAda:
You had asked and I answered honestly. Why are you then getting annoyed? Also, benefits may mean different things to different women. For some, it could mean financial gains and for others, a high emotional intelligence, kindness and gentility, etc

Saying that you don't like us because of my feedback kinda puts you in a certain box in terms of personality which means that you need to work harder at the alternative which is being a good provider or any other thing that makes your wife tick. It's just the way it is

And please I speak only for myself and would like to plead that you do not extend my opinions to your wife's perceived actions or emotional status. We are all wired differently.

PERIOD!!! 💖

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Romance › Re: Do Women Really Fall In Love? by isrealoski(op): 8:33pm On May 12

LostMyZeal:
The matter of love no really suppose dey concern guys like that.

Any woman you catch, just make sure say she invest for wetin una dey do. It could be attention, small small favors here and there even if na to buy pure water or coke carry come give you make her do it and then reward her beyond her investment afterwards. Let this first reward be the only one that is beyond her input. Subsequent ones should be commensurate with her input. The reason for going beyond is to place it in her subconscious that you can go beyond. That's all.

In anything you do with any woman, whether old or young, make them invest and you will be OK.

Just see anything with them as business and you'll be fine and not get exploited

I love this ❤️

Romance › Re: Do Women Really Fall In Love? by isrealoski(op): 8:18pm On May 12

deebrain:
Yes.

Nairaland. I only wanted to write "Yes" and move on with my life but you people insisted that I must write at least 20 characters if I want my comment to be posted.

You can see that I have done that.

Thanks.

Haaaaaa 😂

So funny grin

Romance › Re: Do Women Really Fall In Love? by isrealoski(op): 8:16pm On May 12

Akalia:
I don't like you women for this admission. Even my own wife could be playing along because of benefits the whole time. Geez!!!

Haaaaaa 😂

They are not bad just more awake

Romance › Re: Do Women Really Fall In Love? by isrealoski(op): 8:11pm On May 12

Joshcoli:
Beautiful... This is indeed beautiful writeup

Thank you 💖

Romance › Re: Do Women Really Fall In Love? by isrealoski(op): 8:10pm On May 12

Votukpa:
Brilliant post.

Much to consider here.

So many ignorant and dismissive people on this thread hating, but they are only reacting (as you pointed out) to what doesn't sit well with their ego and self-concept.

Thank you.

Breath of fresh air grin

I appreciate your thoughts.

But then

I'm used to them 😂

Infact if you don't see such comment,
then you arenot getting right.

The are very important set grin

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Romance › Re: Do Women Really Fall In Love? by isrealoski(op): 8:10pm On May 12

Votukpa:
Brilliant post.

Much to consider here.

So many ignorant and dismissive people on this thread hating, but they are only reacting (as you pointed out) to what doesn't sit well with their ego and self-concept.

Thank you.]

Breath of fresh air

I appreciate your thoughts.

But then

I'm used to them 😂

Infact if you don't see such comment,
then you arenot getting right.

The are very important set

Romance › Re: Do Women Really Fall In Love? by isrealoski(op): 8:09pm On May 12

Votukpa:
Brilliant post.

Much to consider here.

So many ignorant and dismissive people on this thread hating, but they are only reacting (as you pointed out) to what doesn't sit well with their ego and self-concept.

Thank you.

Breath of fresh air

I appreciate your thoughts.

But then

I'm used to them 😂

Infact if you don't see such comment,
then you arenot getting right.

The are very important set

Romance › Re: Do Women Really Fall In Love? by isrealoski(op): 8:03pm On May 11

DrAda:
Didn’t go through the post. I just instinctively know that our emotions are mostly transactional. What you give is what you get.

Normally I no say the hard work I put into this work no concern you and I'm not complaining.

But here is the thing.

I compressed years of experience into this thread.

I knew it was gonna go viral even before posting.

With all said.

I'll suggest you go through it slowly.

The thread as something for everyone even you

Take your time go through it my friend you'll pick 1 or 2

FOR SURE wink

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Romance › Re: Do Women Really Fall In Love? by isrealoski(op): 7:44pm On May 11

Joshcoli:
Beautiful... This is indeed beautiful writeup

Thanks 😊

Romance › Re: Do Women Really Fall In Love? by isrealoski(op): 10:07am On May 11

helinues:
People should try and expand their circle abi na circus.

Falling in love, I mean true love is not different from being stinky rich which only few people will experience through out their life time

Those who have never experienced true live before can never have an idea how it feels like.

I don't know about this current generation which their relationship mostly start invisible, if you have your list of love map with no exaggeration, there are still plenty of ladies that will love you for who you are.

So you saw a beautiful lady and have all this wild thoughts, how do you think ladies feel when they also see handsome guy they like?

@helinues

This is one of the most balanced replies here. You're right people who've never experienced real love can't describe it.

And your point about women feeling the same pull toward handsome men?

Valid. Attraction is universal, not one-sided.

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