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Raine80:
You are wasting your time , not sure you will accept this though. You are another source of income for her. You are not based in Nigeria are you? If not it's best if you accept this is not going to be as both of you have to want the same thing. Otherwise you will be disappointed.

Thank you! Though am sad knowing this, at least I know it will never be, since her dream is to become a celebrity by all means and I don't want to have anything to do with celebrity lifestyle.

As for the other source of income, I have promise to open any business of her choice for her, when i come to Nigeria again in 4 months, and see her people but despite all these, she still not willing to stop, cos she claims she enjoys acting.

Raine80:
So which part do you need clarification with? The part that clearly shows this is a one sided relationship or the part that dwells on the fact that you are trying to change someone who clearly does not want to be changed? Some women enjoy this lifestyle , swapping the " celebrity scene" for one of a housewife might not be on her horizon. Unfortunately love makes you blind.

I just want to know if I am not wasting my time on this girl, If these girls doing Vixen are worth the hassle cos I see them as cheap hoes.

I am based in Canada, and not been in Nigeria for a long time. So, when i visited Nigeria last year, I meant this lady, she is good looking and I liked her and on my staying, we clicked really good and i fell in love on the process. At first I didn't know she was a video vixen, cos if I knew i will never had allowed myself fall in love. So, 2 days before I left back to Canada she was telling me that she does video shoot sometimes, but since I am well into Nigeria music and I have never seen her in any video, I didn't take it serious.

Right now the problem is that I don't like the job of a Video Vixen, as to me they are selling their dignity and are seem as cheap whores. I tried talking to her to stop cos I don't like the job, cos I have plans of getting Married to this girl and bringing her to Canada where I live. I have made my intentions clear to her, but she is insisting that she cannot stop, cos that is what she want to do, which to me I don't understand, as I give this girl practically anything she asked for. In less than 5 months I have known this girl I have spent over 7 digit worth of naira on her(don't wanna be specific with the amount). I didn't put her on salary but I just give her some few things I know she lacks and I know women need, cos I always think of her and I want her to be comfortable. Still despite all these, she gives me attitude, she don't show me enough love(but she claim she loves me so much), and she is claiming that, I can't just come and change her, cos she want to be in music videos, which they don't even pay more than 30k per shot.

I feel these girls doing this video vixen are cheap and I don't want my Wife to be in every music video Naked, with just pant and Bikini(She done a video now and that is what she was wearing on it). So my problem now I really don't know what to do, cos I really loved this girl and I had genuine intentions of marrying her and I have proven to her that, I will take care of her and she knows that fully well. I don't know what is going on, in those music shoot that is making her not wanna leave it.

She is saying is just an art and nothing happens between them and the artist. So am i being paranoid or something. Is it just an art like she said?

Should I just leave now and stop wasting my time, or I should give her time to change?

P.S: I will never get married to a celebrity, cos their marriage to me, never last and I don't want to start something I know fully well won't be for a lifetime.