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Please, What can she do?

I have this female friend currently undergoing a serious emotional trauma. She started dating this man early 2016 and everything was okay until early this year when she got to find out that he has been keeping a big secret from her.

As narrated by her; this man is very nice, caring, they were both in love with each other and their relationship was heading towards marriage as always emphasized by this man. Her nightmare started early this year 2018 when she stumbled upon a lady on her Facebook timeline bearing her man's name as her surname and out of curiosity, she browsed through the lady's profile and found many uploaded pictures of her man and this lady with two beautiful kids (boy and girl).

My friend confronted her man about what she saw on her Facebook wall and he admitted knowing them, but told her that they were no more together, as she is just his "babies mama", that the said lady was in Lagos taking care of his kids and he was planning to tell my friend after her NYSC.

My friend broke down in tears and knew that this man has been playing her all this while (2years). They had an heated and intensed discussion. And after she thought everything through, she told him, she was no more interested in the relationship, that they should go their separate ways.

But this man has refused to let her be till now. He even went as far as blackmailing and threatening her that he is madly in love with her and that she can date anyone she feel like, but anytime he wants anything intimate such as sex, she should be ready to give it to him. And if she resist his demands, he would release her nudes online. Also that if she missed his calls, there will be consequences and this same man has also been begging her and also making promises of getting married to her at the time.

She is so confused, and don't know what to do. She contacted me if I knew any lawyer who could take up this issue, but I made her understand to thread carefully because this man is seriously obsessed and in lust with her and may do something irrational and may even release her nudes. I asked her if there was an elder in the man's family who she can reached out to so as to caution their son, but she said, he told her early in their relationship that his parents were late and the only family member he has left was his aunt who resides in Lagos.

More revelations are still coming up about his baby mama, as she updated her Facebook timeline recently of a new car this said man bought for her 3 weeks ago.

So my dear fellow Nairalanders, I have exhausted all possible advices to tell her. "She needs help on how she can leave this man or how this man can leave her without complications". She is so distressed and a solution to this situation may be very helpful to her.

Ps; Insults are allowed but please be objective and mature advices are welcome. Thanks.


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