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Yes I am Jamaican, lol. Thank you for the advice ladies!

I'm in need of help. I'm 22 born and raised in america and my boyfriend of only a couple months (like 7) is Nigerian (Igbo) he was born in georgia but goes back to Nigeria often. I'm having problems giving him all of my trust. When we first met I could see that he had an eye for women, he was always flirty and very attentive to a lot of the girls he met when I would invite him to different socials and gatherings. But when we were together he would show much affection and proved to me, to be very in-tune to learning more about what I like. He recently went and got out of jail and started living with me. For the first few months things were great but I started to get suspicious that he was trying to know other women, now before we started spending so much time together (and living together) this didn't phase me much, but now it seems that it bothers me a lot more. I've become insecure, irrational, and erratic. I know he doesn't like this but I can't for the life of me figure out where or why this behavior has come about. He's told me that he loves me and I do believe him but I don't know how to stop this behavior and I fear that if I don't he'll leave me, and this is something I don't want because I have come to know and love just about everything about this man. He's expressed to me several times that this would make him want to leave and right now we are 'taking a break' to give each other space and I fear that this is just leading to us breaking up. What should I do if there's anything I can do at this point to keep him? And what can I do myself to reassure myself that he can be trusted? I pray for both of us everyday, I want to be with this man and its killing me just to be away from him right now but I feel that this time apart will be better for us. Nairaland what should I do?