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ijogbon:
@Jesqueen
Dont mean to be a smartass but your profile puts your local time similar to mine in London or President Yaradua's in NIGERIA ?

Which is it? And please have the good nature to tell us the truth please !!!
I just loved the thought that I solved a mystery !!!! Dont you dare lie

Ok.i think i understand what u mean.
im wondering why some ppl think what i post here is a lie?

akinwunmi:
1. Strictly Nigeria's aiight
2. You definetly knw da meaning of mii
3. How come you knw who an AKATA?

Am still wating for your answer*****Can we speak a little Chinese?

2.i really DONT know the meaning,if i do,for what that i ask u again
3.AKATA used to describe a japanese.
well sure we can speak chinese if u insist

akinwunmi:
If everyone is not readin between da lines, well i am.

@Jes
Your English is too pure for a Chinese lady and moreover how come you're on Nairaland n not Chinaland or Chinatown.Are you sure its not d other way round uh!!!!!!!!!!!.

why cant i come here?is that a problem for a chinese to post a topic here?


Posted by: Jesqueen
it's kind of weird here,it seems that nigerian ladies don't like their [b]country men to date a foreign girl,thatz really, well, how to put it---funny i think [/b]
u speak more like an Igbo girl to mii.

[/quote]What does "mii" mean?

U BERRA LEAVE THT AKATA (CHINESE MAN) AND FIND BETTER 9JA GUY
[quote]

My bf is a 9JA guy,not a chinese man,besides,AKATA is a japanese.

davidylan:
ah then things are not as complicated as ii thought then. Give it a shot, i guess you love him eh. Talk to him and let him know you're not pushing hi, but just want to know where you stand in his scheme of things.
Give him time to think things over BUT make sure you get a definite answer. Women can be easily sweet talked and decieved  

Wish you all the best and hopefully things work out between you and your fella. Good luck.

Now go do some good old thinking and talking before scammers start badgering you, i guess they've been doing so already. u're cute though.

You are kind david,i will try to talk to him sooner,maybe tomorrow~thax a looootttttttt  
    im going to bed now, almost 2am up here~~
    i will write it down here when there is any progress between us
   Thax again

On this,he's not a tradional igbo guy,he travelled to many countries to do his family business since he was my age

davidylan:
hmmmm get to talk to him soonest. He's a businessman and he's igbo. most igbo's i know wont marry foreigners, my igbo side of the family are very serious about that except for the few who are ambivalent having been exposed to a lot of western influence.
On this,he's not a traditional igbo guy,he travelled to many countries to do his family business since he was my age.

Get your life together, at 20 you shouldnt have been living with a man in the first place but things happen.

Nah im not living with him~we dont live together

Thax 4reminding me David
ok if u guys wanna share ur opinions .plz go to "Romance",u can find the same topic there~
Thax again

davidylan:
spoken to your boyfriend yet? What does he do? Is he open to you as regards his family, business, friends?

hmmmm not yet, he's been busy today,
he's a business man for trading , yea he told me abt his family n business,n sure he took me to his frnds' house n introduced me to his frnds~
thax 4caring lol i appreciate that

keep on posting plzzzz

davidylan:
if she's good in bed, does everything he wants and he still needs her around to have sex with and as a domestic housewife then sure he'll have her back. Such a guy will never make a long term commitment to you.

haha dont get me wrong, the question i just posted abt "the bf take his gf back"wasnt abt me~for a gf of mine
thax 4ur opinion

adeboo:
Well girl, there are up and down sides to all relationships. I am sure i have heard some bad things about Chinese guys too. Sit down and think about the relationship , does he treat you right?

Is he good to you?
Whether he is Black, White, checked or grey - if he is going to be bad, he will be.

So think about how he treats ya - we can't comment on him, you should know him better after being with him in the same house for like two years.
So girl, just live each day as it comes, pray that God's will be done in your lives and let the future decide itself.

Thax for sharing~
i wanna kn sth,,if a guy take his gf back after the girl cheated on him 2 or three times,,,,what would be the reason that the man take her back?

it's kinda weird here,it seems that nigerian ladies dont like their country men to date a foreign girl,thatz really, well, how to put it---funny i think

sisimose:
. are you planning to marry him? i bet you won't marry him

why r u so sure that i won't marry him?

Cyclone5:
.They need to be slapped upside their heads.

Hell yea
actually what do the nigerian guys want from their ladies?

Cyclone5:
Not at all. Each person is different and unique. There are always some who want to hark back to olden times values but that is not the majority. There are plenty of capable and successful Nigerian women who are very much in demand.

Respect is what we place a premium on, not submissiveness.

yea i understand what u mean by that, but as far as i kn,the nigerian frnds i have are all like that~
they always think women n men should not stand in the same line,that really pissed me off

is it true that nigerian guys want their gfs completely submissive to them?

well,u two have to know each other for a while,and to see whether u two can get along with each other or not, u see,if it meant to be her,it will be,u dont need to confuse urself,the time will come~one day,im sure u will know who is the girl u wanna spent ur life with~

promise72:
@ jas,

u there?

yup im here.whatz up?

BabyCakes:
Hi Jesqueen,
I am going to be straight with you, take everything this man says to you at face value, tread lightly! if you were my sister, i would ask you to leave him because i can see some signs of a man who doesnt want to commit. "Dont rush me", "wait and see", I don't know about anyone else, but when a man starts saying these words, Nigerian or not, it is clear this man is not ready to commit. The ball is in your court, if you are moving to canada like you said, then enjoy the relationship while it lasts and be on your merry way. I know a lot of people are being careful about saying the wrong thing, but i will tell you straight, He wont marry you! Igbo men like to marry Igbo women! end of story!

u r really straight, those words are , but i will still appreciate u for giving me ur opinion~
so thank you

acidrop:
igbos are hot, and u just lucky 2 have one, y u want info on igbo guys 4, well, we don't go about looking for infos about chinese peeps before we go out with them

ah ah u dont wanna go out with chinese guy(sorry to say it),
just tell me sth abt igbos plzzzzzzzzzzzzz, wanna kn more abt them

[/quote][quote author=acidrop link=topic=56081.msg1150471#msg1150471 date=1180326224]no there is no problem, y are u scared anyway, u keep repeating it as if there is a problem? what makes u think u can't go on in d affair

oh hell no im not scared in anyway,i just worry abt it,
he's a igbo guy,so any info abt igbo guy?

wales:
Men, i find it hard to take, may be that is why the guy is finding hard to move on with you hope you understand what i mean by MOVE UP.

why it's hard to take??just speak it up plzzzzzzzzzzz

acidrop:
u chinese dating a nigerian, hmmmmmmmmm, so hw old is the nigerian?

any problem that a chinese is dating a nigerian
he's 32~

wales:
I mean are you a China girl or what

yea im a chinese girl, why?

ghettochyk:
in that case, i'd forget his azz. and with the way his words sound coming from you, he don't seem too serious and the relationship wouldn't have made it to 2 years if it was me.

yea i feel you sis,but he always says that he 's too old to play a game n i think too much

cute-ass:
@ Jesqueen

I'm sorry to say this, but seems you guys have been moving on the wrong grounds
Like David said, Two years is a long time to be in an adult relationship (teenage relationships are different), and yet not know what direction you're heading. Like i said, love has a boundary, you can't wait up feet and hands only to wake up one "very late" morning to realize it was all a fling (an "x" years fling??).

Haven't you heard that you should make hay while the sun shines??

You're convinced he's moving back to his country for good sooner or later (something you should have laid fingers on for the two whole years you've been dating), I don't generalize, but i find it difficuilt to think/believe he has any plans of taking you along, and even if he was to suggest that, are you willing to go down to Nigeria with him??
You have some "thinking" to do too, young lady (if you aren't young, I'm sorry for assuming)

I don't agree with "waiting and seeing" in a case like this ooh, take a last step and ask him again. This time do it like you mean it, and pour out your heart to him like you just did to us, tell him "you're not pushing him, you just want to know where you guys are headed to" short and simple. If he can't answer that, then he def. has something up his sleeves. And you said you're leaving for Canada sometime soon, what happens then??

Hmmm, the decision of whether to stay or walk, i'll leave in your hands, but before that you have your love-puzzle to fill in the gaps, until then , you don't have a foundation for any decision. Good luck sha, it shall be well

well he never say that he must go back to his country,not exactly the words,but he did say that nigeria is his home,so i guess he may go back.
you see,he's the one who doesnt wanna talk abt this,not me,
im 22,i think im young hun

ghettochyk:
since he keeps telling you not to push and two-years is mos def not two weeks, girl, you're definitely going to have to sit his behind down and talk about the future of your relationship from there, you may know what to do. but really, that kind of statement seems like it would come from someone that may already know which road y'all are heading.
two years is a long time, but either way, no one can predict the future. so like every other situation, y'all are going to have to wait it out. whatever happens happens. if it was meant to be, it will be. you or he may end up with a broken heart in the end, but that is part of the risks of entering a relationship. no use trying to figure out if it will last especially if you two aint married to each other yet.

sure i want to talk ,but he doesnt want to. he said that i have to make a decision by my own without his opinion

wales:
Hey, you will need to tell us if the guy is a yoruba guy or igbo guy, for you can not just say the guy is from Nigeria which with this we may be able to tell you or two things about the kind of person he may be.

As for you are you sure you are a chico girl

he is a igbo guy
P.S what is a chico girl?

davidylan:
ask him if he has any long term plans for your future and then make your decisions from his reply. I find it hard though to figure how u can live 2 years with a man and not know whether your relationship is feasible in the long term. Is he merely using you as a stop gap for when he goes back home? you have to find out. What are his plans? those should not be difficult questions to ask.

If he claims you're pushing him it may be because he doesnt see much promise in your relationship and will dump u eventually.

i asked him abt his plan,but he said he never made any plan for anythin,wait n see is the only thing he always does

ghettochyk:
well, i aint no Dr. Phil but all i can say is just wait and see. that is , take everything slow so that if anything goes wrong, you will not be left feeling used or with a broken heart. it will also depend on how long you two have been dating and how on which level you two are currently on.

well we have been stayed together over 2yrs now, another is i may move to canada next yr,i dont kn whether i should leave the relationship or keep it on

ghettochyk:
i don't know what kind of help your seeking from us. do you want us to tell you whether you should leave him or stay with him?

if you think or know he's going back to his country, then don't expect the relationship to last if he doesn't plan on ever coming back to your region or taking you with him. in the end, it's not what we say that matters, it's up to the both of you

ps: u got this thread like three times? wtf?

Here's the thing.i talked abt this issue several times with him,but he asked me not to push him,the fact is im not pushing him,i just wanna know his mind.The help i want from u guys/sis is to know how to talk with my bf abt this issue and make him not to think that im pushing him

Dating A Nigerian Guy: Should I Keep It On? Help Me Please

Hey y'all, I'm a Chinese girl,and i'm dating a Nigerian guy, he came to china for his family business and we stayed together over 2yrs,but i don't know whether there is any good future in the relationship or not,see he's a foreigner to me,so he sure will go back to his country someday.Actually i heard lot bad things about Nigerian guys who have business in china(Sorry to say it),either they dump their girls when they go back to Nigeria or play with them, So please, help me, I'm so confused about the relationship, what can I do?