These conversations have some very specific rules to follow if you want to make space for connection and intimacy. Before talking about the rules, we want to make an important distinction between Hottest Sexual Movies and fantasies.

Your Hottest Sexual Movie consists of the experiences you actually want to have. In addition to this, you may have a set of fantasies that you use to increase your arousal during sex or masturbation but that you don’t actually want to fully enact in the world. For example, you might fantasize about group sex but have no interest in actually experiencing it. These may exist totally outside of your sexual relationship together or you might want to be able to express these fantasies to your partner in a way that brings them into your movie. For example, if you are playing with dominant/submissive dynamics you may want your partner to punish you for having this fantasy. Conversely, you may just want to use it for yourself and never share it in an erotically charged space. We encourage you to share both your movies and your fantasies as part of the conversation and be specific.

Sharing your hottest sexual movie will take self-awareness, conscious communication and non-judgmental acceptance. It will also require the ability to know and share your boundaries, the willingness to learn instead of feeling like you already need to know, and a whole lot of creativity. One word of caution, When it comes to sharing past experiences with other lovers, be aware that this could trigger hurt. Be especially careful not to compare your partner to someone else with whom you’ve had amazing sex. Trust us, they will never forget this.

When you describe your movies, picture the character(s), the action, the setting, and what you feel. While it is a beautiful gift to really dive into the role of guest star in your partner’s movie, you also have a right to decide which parts you are ready to try now, which parts you might want to add later, and which parts you may never do at all. You might have more than one movie or might want to begin in one and move into another one. For example you might find a romantic seduction scenario is what gets you started but when it comes to actually getting you off a more passionate, animalistic sex fits the bill. Sometimes the process of articulating these desires can open up new avenues of play and seduction.

Always remember that none of this is set in stone. This is an ongoing conversation that you and your partner can always revisit and amend. In our book, Making Love Real, we go into greater depth as to how the process of discovering, sharing and finally acting out your hottest sexual movie can change your relationship in lasting and amazing ways.

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These conversations have some very specific rules to follow if you want to make space for connection and intimacy. Before talking about the rules, we want to make an important distinction between Hottest Sexual Movies and fantasies.

Your Hottest Sexual Movie consists of the experiences you actually want to have. In addition to this, you may have a set of fantasies that you use to increase your arousal during sex or masturbation but that you don’t actually want to fully enact in the world. For example, you might fantasize about group sex but have no interest in actually experiencing it. These may exist totally outside of your sexual relationship together or you might want to be able to express these fantasies to your partner in a way that brings them into your movie. For example, if you are playing with dominant/submissive dynamics you may want your partner to punish you for having this fantasy. Conversely, you may just want to use it for yourself and never share it in an erotically charged space. We encourage you to share both your movies and your fantasies as part of the conversation and be specific.

Sharing your hottest sexual movie will take self-awareness, conscious communication and non-judgmental acceptance. It will also require the ability to know and share your boundaries, the willingness to learn instead of feeling like you already need to know, and a whole lot of creativity. One word of caution, When it comes to sharing past experiences with other lovers, be aware that this could trigger hurt. Be especially careful not to compare your partner to someone else with whom you’ve had amazing sex. Trust us, they will never forget this.

When you describe your movies, picture the character(s), the action, the setting, and what you feel. While it is a beautiful gift to really dive into the role of guest star in your partner’s movie, you also have a right to decide which parts you are ready to try now, which parts you might want to add later, and which parts you may never do at all. You might have more than one movie or might want to begin in one and move into another one. For example you might find a romantic seduction scenario is what gets you started but when it comes to actually getting you off a more passionate, animalistic sex fits the bill. Sometimes the process of articulating these desires can open up new avenues of play and seduction.

Always remember that none of this is set in stone. This is an ongoing conversation that you and your partner can always revisit and amend. In our book, Making Love Real, we go into greater depth as to how the process of discovering, sharing and finally acting out your hottest sexual movie can change your relationship in lasting and amazing ways.

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By now you may be wondering: “how on Earth do I get his attention?” don’t worry, I have 6 ways for you to catch his eye and make him wonder why he’s never noticed you before!

1. Firstly, you need to Fall in Love with yourself. Guys will always notice a girl who loves who she is and is proud of herself. If you appear to be happy with yourself and your life, then the guy will want to be part of it. If you look desperate to find a guy to make you feel complete, you will hardly attract any man that comes your way.

Do not to change who you are in order to impress a guy. Find someone who likes you for you, and if he doesn’t then forget him!

2. Pick a Close Location
Let me be honest with you.. Admiring him from afar will not get you anywhere.
Despite the fact that your palms may get sweaty at the idea of sitting next to this guy during your next meeting, it’s definitely worth a try. Chances are you were sitting fairly close when you first spotted him, so moving a few seats over for a better and closer view, wont be a bad idea.

3. Dress to Impress him and also, Look good.
Before he can fall in love with your incredible personality, he is going to notice your appearance. This doesn’t mean you need to spend all your day making up, but a little extra effort can do you a lot of good.
Yes.. One more thing: Don’t keep checking your reflection in a mirror or window whenever you’re out. This will make guys think that you’re very insecure about your looks. So, save the examination for the ladies room.

4. Make Accidental Eye Contacts.
If you’re fortunate to see him at a party, you’re definitely lucky. You may start by making eye contact every once in a while from across the room. If it happens more than once, give an inviting smile. this will make him know you’re approachable, and he will come over to find out who you are!
WARNING: Don’t look desperate for attention. If he doesn’t notice you right away, don’t force it by awkwardly tapping him or winking at him. This will only push him away.

5. Have a relatable body language. Your body should say that you’re confident and ready to talk to the guy. Keep your head raised and don’t cross your arms over your chest. Avoid any distraction, while talking to him. Instead, lean in to hear the guy talk, and even give him a light touch on the arm if things are going well.
Once you’re more comfortable, you can start flirting with the guy. Tease him a little bit, and let him tease you back. To spice things up, you can talk a bit more softly than usual. This will make him lean in to hear what you have to say.

6. Now that the guy has noticed you, you have to make sure that he wants to keep talking to you and appreciates the unique and amazing person that you really are.
Always be yourself, Be engaging, be fun to talk to, Show what makes you special, spend quality time with him.. If everything is going well between you both, then you should go beyond getting the guy to notice you.. get him to ask you out.
You can mention that you want to do something fun over the weekend but don’t know what.. just don’t be too obvious about it.
Now that the guy has noticed you, it’s up to you to keep his attention. If you’re true to yourself and stay fun and positive, he will definitely ask you out sooner than you expect.
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“Practice random beauty and senseless acts of love.” ~Unknown

We can grow comfortable in our romantic relationships.

In the first six months to a year, it’s all excitement and an adrenaline rush at the mere fantasy of skin touching, but after two years you really do have to work to keep the romance.

Life can get a little routine and formulaic. You do certain things on certain nights of the week, together or apart. The love is still there, but the accelerated heart rate, weak-at-knees sensation, and feeling that your heart might explode with passion have noticeably decreased.

I recently detected this happening in my own relationship, but I’ve decided to treat it as a milestone—a positive marker for the point at which we genuinely started to work to make our relationship work.

The moment our relationship developed from a clueless hormone-loaded teenager to a fully grown, responsible adult.

Scientifically speaking, it is supposed to be physically impossible to maintain that first intensity of feeling that is experienced at the beginning of the relationship, and I do agree that it’s not sustainable permanently.

If we spent our whole lives in that state we would probably find we got very little else done, and almost certainly couldn’t survive for the period of a lifetime before we died from an adrenaline overdose.

However, there is a difference between a relationship maturing with two individuals growing comfortable with each other, and no longer making the effort to do things that make your partner’s fingers tingle and heart swell.

Here are a few simple ways to keep that flash of young love in your relationship:

1. Don’t stop listening.

There is a point at the start of a relationship where you hang on to every word they say. You just can’t get enough. You’re desperate to understand their thoughts, feelings, and opinions on even the most mundane things.

Each bit of extra information unravels more of this new person that you are treating like a gift to yourself, giddy with the prospect of more to love and lust after.

I’m not suggesting that you artificially re-enact this experience if you don’t feel like it all the time, but create time for listening.

Make your partner aware of the times that you need to be by yourself or in your own head so that they know when it’s a good time to have that long discussion and get your opinion. Create time to listen to them properly so that you can be attentive and present.

If you need thirty minutes after work to yourself, that’s fine. Maybe your listening time is over dinner, or while you’re doing the dishes, or before you go to bed.

Whatever it is, don’t stop listening. Listening is one of the ways that we show others that we value them and that they are attractive and interesting to us. If we don’t do this, it might send conflicting messages.

2. A little surprise goes a long way.

One of the first things to go in long-term relationships is the element of surprise. You get into a routine, and you no longer arbitrarily decide to take her away for a weekend or buy him a gift just because you felt like it.

Perhaps you do still buy ‘gifts,’ but it’s an extra pair of socks when you were at the supermarket because you noticed all his socks have holes rather than the cute or hilarious trinkets you used to buy at the start of your relationship.

The bouquets of flowers and turning up at lunch breaks with a picnic basket are gone, and you are less willing to make a fool of yourself to make the other person laugh or smile.

Put yourself in your partner’s shoes for a few minutes once a month and ask yourself what would be a lovely surprise for them. It doesn’t have to be anything huge—just something considerate that would be appreciated.

Although it sounds like an oxymoron, planning more surprises can initiate those weak-at-the-knees passionate feelings that you felt in the earlier stage of your relationship.

Plan the surprises that were more spontaneous before and you may re-experience that love rush. You might even develop your ability to be spontaneously romantic again.

3. Do the things that don’t matter to you but matter to them.

At the beginning of a relationship it can seem easy enough to do the dishes straight away after a meal if it buys you brownie points and more affection. But it’s harder when you’re comfortable in the relationship, don’t really feel like it, and can’t understand what all the fuss is about.

Maybe the phobia or habit that was cute and quirky a year ago now seems annoying and irritating when you always have to get rid of the spider/take the trash out. Perhaps you don’t understand why your partner needs some downtime by themselves and wish they were more like you in wanting to share thoughts and feelings as soon as they get home.

If it’s something that doesn’t make sense to you but is important to them and would only take a little bit of time, do it. In a mature relationship, passion can be shown by genuinely understanding and responding to your partner’s needs.

Not responding to these can send the message that you aren’t interested in what’s important to them, and it indirectly suggests you aren’t interested in them.

I have found these points really helpful in my relationship, so I hope they are to you. Having brought up the subject and talked about it with my partner, we are both now trying to surprise each other, listen more, and find ways to be romantic and affection toward each other.

There are many more ways you can re-light the spark in your relationship. I’m still finding more. Look at it as a lifelong adventure!

The most important thing is to give it time in your own head and to prioritize your relationship so that you keep working on it regularly, like you would with any priority in your work life. Then hopefully you can be grow old together but still maintain that flicker of passion in your hearts.

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marked as healthy and others not good for optimal health. When it comes to bedroom affairs, there are some foods that are known to provide energy and positive flow of blood in the body.

You must have read or seen some food, but according to research, here are some food that will help you be better in bed. They’ve been proven to be accurate, reports Nick Dimengo for FHM

Dark Chocolate
This has always been rumored to be good for S#X, this has been safely backed by science to be completely true. What dark chocolate does is to stimulate the arousing senses because it contains amino acid which is a natural S#X enhancer. It will help with the blood flow to the S#Xual organs for better sensation.

Honey
Honey helps improve S#Xual potency especially the one extracted from the aphrodisiac flowers such as orchid and jasmine. It can also help with low libido, it is advised for men to drip some on their food, not only will it make the food tastier but also make you better in bed. It contains boron which helps with testosterone levels, provides the sugar your body needs for high performance.

Veggies
We’ve always been told that veggies are good for overall health, it is also good for men because it is rich in folate and vitamin B6, these guys are known for boosting arousal and org@.$m.

Avocado
Similar to Veggies, it is rich in vitamin B6 and folate. It is guaranteed to plenty of S#Xual energy. Consuming avocado before S#X will give your energy and great S#X drive.

Oyster
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So, it’s now official. Oysters indeed increase your S#X drive. They’re loaded with zinc, which is known to produce testosterone which can help with your S#Xual function and libido as well.

Meat
I know you love meat and if you don’t, here is a reason why you should be chowing it down. Meat has a lot of protein which will elevate your dopamine levels, this will make you stronger and also has zinc which is crucial for testosterone production in the body.

Pumpkin Seed
These seeds have a lot of libido-boosting vitamins that your S#X drive will very much appreciate. It also has lots of zinc that is good for testosterone production.

Strawberry
Here is another reason why you should enjoy eating strawberries. It’s known to boost S#X drive, it also has a lot of antioxidants that help with blood circulation to your S#Xual organs. It will help put you in the mood.

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Some women feel a “Real Man” doesn’t exist—that he is impossible to find. Other women do not want someone like him. On the other hand, some men think they are the very definition of a “Real Man.” Other men feel there is no such thing. One thing is true, though: Those men who think they are the very definition of a “Real Man” and those who think they are not are both very often wrong.
If you want to know if you are a real man or are in a relationship with a real man, watch the actions. A real man behaves so different from the selfish frat boy types you see everywhere that you can’t fail to notice the difference. He is a gentleman—good for more than just the first few months. Importantly, a real man does things so well when he is in a relationship that you just have to love him and his style.
1. THEY SHOULD LOVE AND RESPECT HIS WOMAN.

He might not love her all the time, but he loves her. Not just her body, her possessions and her status, but all of her! He’s aware that as beautiful as her body is now, physical beauty fades. He therefore focuses his love and attention on her true beauty, which is found within her sensibilities and personality. He treats her like a lady, with dignity and respect. He doesn’t mind cooking her favorite meal, taking her out to wine and dine and paying the bills. He also expects love and respect from her.
2. HE SHOULD COMMITS TO THE RELATIONSHIP FULLY.

He doesn’t cheat. He is loyal to his partner and knows that relationships take hard work to keep strong and healthy. His affection to his woman is a full-time commitment. He nourishes and strengthens the relationship through ongoing, honest communication and team work. When you are with a real man, you know you can trust him. He will stay faithful no matter what and expects you to do the same.
3. PROTECT THEIR PARTNER PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY.

Not that a woman can’t protect and defend herself, but he is there for her anyway. He protects her in different ways, including providing financial security and comforting her and making her feel everything will be okay. He is ready to throw a good punch if necessary to defend her from physical aggressors. However, he thinks before he acts. He never makes a move until he is sure all details and specifics are in order. His moves are calculated, deliberate and assured. Abuse of any kind is never an issue when you are with him. He is considerate and treats everyone kindly.
4. HE SHOULD FULFILL HIS PARTNER MENTALLY AND SEXUALLY.

He knows the majority of time in any relationship is spent doing nonphysical, nonsexual things. Besides whispering to her how beautiful she is or how he is going to make hot, passionate love to her when he gets back home in the evening, he also engages her in meaningful discussions about life, plans with her for the future, and cracks jokes to lighten and liven moments together. He displays an awareness, intelligence and sensitivity that makes his actions not only timely, but also genuinely charming.
5. HE SHOULD TAKES THE FIRST INITIATIVE HE LEAD.

That’s because he wears the pants in the relationship. Of course, the pants are picked out by his woman, but he is still the leader. He steps forward and addresses issues in the relationship boldly. He does not wait for the woman to solve problems. If he is not sure how to address an issue, he seeks help or advice. Some men play it safe and avoid taking the lead because they don’t want to be criticized, but not a real man. A real man says, “I’ll handle it,” and takes the initiative to solve the issue in his way.
6. HE SHOULD STAND OFF AND MAKE THE RIGHT DECISION.

He knows real men are decisive and he makes decisions in the relationship. He does not leave every other decision to his partner. When making decisions, he seeks to understand her views (and that of other concerned parties) and is flexible enough to factor in those other views in his decisions. He does not seek to control people, but rather to improve their situation. If you are reluctant to make decisions, you are likely self-conscious and afraid of making mistakes. Women dislike indecisive, cowardly men.
7. HE SHOULD TAKES RESPONSIBILITY FOR HIS ACTION.

He does not shift blame (especially to his partner) or try to defend his mistakes. He simply acknowledges when he has made a mistake, apologizes for it, learns from it and works to make it right. Saying, “I am sorry,” is not a big deal to him. He knows it doesn’t make him any less of a man to say it. In fact, saying he’s sorry makes him more of a man because it demonstrates he has the confidence, courage and integrity to admit his faults and seek to correct them.
8. HE SHOULD SPEAKS HIS MIND ALWAYS.

He is not afraid or timid to say what’s on his mind. He will say no without fear whenever he doesn’t agree with something. He will debate you on topics he is not comfortable with without losing his cool. He will be straightforward and talk to you as an equal, then allow you to make your own conclusions or take whatever action you wish. This does not mean he is indifferent or treats women badly. He just doesn’t agree with her on everything. He knows a “Yes-man” is no man at all.
9. HE SHOULD ALWAYS STAND FOR THE RELATIONSHIP.

Sometimes friends, family and even total strangers ask inappropriate questions or make inappropriate remarks about your relationship, such as saying you are not a “good couple.” In such cases, a real man stands up for himself and defends the legitimacy and integrity of his relationship. Even when he is among his peers, he speaks up and stands his ground in defense of his relationship. This proves he can express himself in the presence others, protect his woman and act like a grown man.
10. HE SHOULD PERSUE OTHER PASSIONS THAT DON'T INVOLVE HIS PARTNER.

He has enough going on in his life to keep him busy. That means he is, at least, passionate about one other thing besides his relationship. The relationship does not define him. He will give you your space and you must give him his. He is a confident, ambitious go-getter. He’s a real man!

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What is love? Love is to love someone for who they are, who they were, and who they will be.” ~Chris Moore
Have you ever been in a relationship where you felt it was the other person’s job to make you happy, to meet all of your needs, to understand you and know what you want without asking?
Or have you been on the other side of this scenario? You were the partner expected to fulfill the other person and manage their happiness.
Either situation is perpetually frustrating. One partner never feels happy and content in the relationship because they are looking to the other person to perform the impossible.
And the other partner feels unappreciated and overwhelmed by the inexhaustible emotional demands and needs of the other.
Sometimes this situation plays out where both partners expect the other to fulfill them and “make” them happy.
They are in a perpetual stand-off of neediness and frustration leading to disengagement in the relationship.
Lasting relationships simply cannot be built upon a partnership in which one or both people are seeking a host organism to provide emotional and psychological nourishment.
Lasting relationships require unconditional love.
The term “unconditional love” might imply that one does attempt to meet all of the needs of the other, to read their minds, to accept and overlook all of the partner’s behaviors and actions no matter how selfish or demanding.
But this is not unconditional love. This is co-dependent love. It’s not grounded in a healthy foundation of self-respect and respect for the unique individual sharing the relationship with you.
WHAT IS UNCONDITIONAL LOVE?

Unconditional love in a relationship begins with oneself. To set the foundation for a lasting, healthy relationship, you must first have a strong sense of self-esteem and self-confidence. This doesn’t mean you never have emotional difficulties or don’t need support and extra attention at times.
But you do need to feel generally good about yourself, to like yourself, and to recognize the positive qualities you bring to a relationship. It also means you can stand on your own two feet as an individual without requiring a romantic partner to define you or complete you. You can be together with someone and still remain fully yourself — as a person you like and respect.
If you need to improve your self-esteem or don’t feel confident in yourself as a capable, valuable person, then your relationship will suffer. Your insecurities will have an impact on your partner and on your mutual happiness. The best thing you can do for your relationship is to learn to love yourself. Offering unconditional love to yourself means you are able to view yourself as lovable and worthy — in spite of any perceived flaws or past mistakes. You can read more about self-love in this post.
Within the relationship itself, unconditional love is the ability to love the other person as they are in their essence. If you have fallen in love with this person and want to build a lasting relationship with them, then you must view them as a unique individual — not as an extension of yourself.
When you find someone who loves you as you are, and you are able to love them as they are, it is an amazing experience. They may be different from you in many ways. They may view the world differently and have habits that you don’t share, but you can embrace these differences because they are part of this unique person you love.
But is love enough to build a lasting relationship? And does unconditional love mean that no matter what your partner does, your feelings don’t change?
The answer is “no” to both.
Unconditional love within the context of a good relationship is a dance in which both partners participate. You begin with the essentials of self-love and mutual love and respect. You see and embrace the core of the other, their innate personality and worldview. You acknowledge the influences of their upbringing, life experiences, and ingrained behaviors.
But . . . unconditional love within the context of a lasting relationship requires lots of wiggle room. As part of self-love, you know your own personal boundaries and the limits of what you find to be acceptable and healthy behaviors and reactions from your beloved.
According to Dr. Jeremy Nicholson, personality psychologist and relationship consultant, it is your job in the relationship to “use your influence in a caring and disciplined manner to create a balanced exchange with your partner. Such skills are not exercised to ‘control’ or ‘manipulate’ for selfish gain, but rather to maintain a mutually-beneficial and satisfying partnership.”
When both partners are aware of their personal boundaries and are committed to communicating them in loving and non-threatening ways, then the relationship can continue to recalibrate and grow ever stronger over the years.
With the ability to communicate openly, negotiate willingly, and compromise and make adjustments, you can build a strong relationship in which unconditional love develops and grows more satisfying over time.
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Men — we love them. Like really, really love them. We can’t live without them and we certainly don’t want to. We enjoy all of the little things they do that make them so much hotter. Here are 12 things men do that women really adore.

1. Planning is amazing:

When a man plans, it’s almost as exciting as him proposing. Whether he organizes a date, a weekend trip, an afternoon walk — really, anything — we’re happy. It shows us that you’re capable of putting effort into us and you like it. Actually, you really, really like it.

2. Being a great liSteiner.

Showing a woman that you’re a great listener is oh, so incredible. Remembering things that we mentioned we like is so cool. Whether it’s flowers, a book, chocolates or jewelry, if you surprise us with it, we feel really special!

3. Show us some vulnerability.

It’s extraordinary when a man can openly and honestly talk about his feelings with you. When he’s comfortable doing so, it’s great. It’s so great it’s like winning the emotional lottery.

4. Please us in the beedroom.

When a man can make it happen for you, how elated are you? It’s so exciting it’s almost like winning a tournament. A man who wants to pleasure you, so you really enjoy yourself, well, now that’s how I define a good man. He gets an extra applause if it’s from something he doesn’t ordinarily like doing.

5. Cook for us.

When a man knows his way around the kitchen and is capable and confident, it’s so cute. I’m a sucker for the look on his face when he means business with those vegetables. Cooking takes patience and shows us that you’re cherish-worthy.

6. Let's go to shopping.

Let’s face it, sports are a popular hobby for most men. Well, shopping is a favorite pastime of many women. Shopping is to women what sports is to men. Shopping may not be good for women’s wallets (or their man’s!), and it certainly isn’t cardio, but it absolutely is fun. When a man can shop with you and give his opinion, he’s golden.

7. it's okay to be nearby.

Am I the only woman who not so secretly thinks it’s really endearing when a man is curled up on his couch with his book? When he gets all geeked out and excited about something he’s reading and he’s not ashamed of it, it’s pretty adorable.

8.compromise is the key.

How many times has your man done something he doesn’t want to because you asked him to? When a man does something for us that he wouldn’t ordinarily want to do, it makes our hearts melt. Being sweet and thoughtful always goes a long way. We so appreciate you doing something you’re not eager to do.

9. Gets all spoty

It’s nice to see men fired up and passionate about sports. In fact, it’s oddly exciting. When you’re roaring at the TV and getting all riled up — it’s almost erotic. When your eyes light up, you become quite desirable.

10. Kiss and carries us

Being affectionate and sweet to us goes a long way. When you’re sweet to us — whether you put your arm around us when we’re not expecting it, hold our hand just because, or give us an excited kiss for no reason — our hearts skip a beat.

11. Love your family.

Some people (me included!) have an unusual family. But, your family is your family and so you love them a lot. When your man gets in close with your family and makes all family members love him, he’s extra fabulous.
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A man who lost his beautiful girlfriend has finally found love after marrying his pet cobra that he claims ‘looks’ like his late girlfriend.

A man has shocked people by marrying a 10 feet pet cobra because he believes his dead girlfriend came back to life as the cobra. The man took the decision after spotting the snake in South East Asia he believes looks like his former lover.

He and the 10ft serpent now spend every day together watching TV, sharing romantic picnics by the lake, playing board games and going to the gym as a couple

The unidentified husband is understood to have taken the Buddhist theory that people are reincarnated as animals. He lost his girlfriend five years ago, but photos have shown he and his new wife (cobra) are very happy together.
Below are the ‘happy family’ pictures of the man and his ‘wife
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A man who lost his beautiful girlfriend has finally found love after marrying his pet cobra that he claims ‘looks’ like his late girlfriend.

A man has shocked people by marrying a 10 feet pet cobra because he believes his dead girlfriend came back to life as the cobra. The man took the decision after spotting the snake in South East Asia he believes looks like his former lover.

He and the 10ft serpent now spend every day together watching TV, sharing romantic picnics by the lake, playing board games and going to the gym as a couple

The unidentified husband is understood to have taken the Buddhist theory that people are reincarnated as animals. He lost his girlfriend five years ago, but photos have shown he and his new wife (cobra) are very happy together.
Below are the ‘happy family’ pictures of the man and his ‘wife
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A woman has seven basic needs that a man must learn to meet if he desires to love her as fully as God intended.
God did not intend for marriage to be painfully endured. He intended it to be wonderfully enjoyed. It was not His plan that it would be a burden. He wants it to be a blessing. In order for us to experience maximum marriage satisfaction, it is essential that we grow to know each other.
Men and women are different in many ways. One area in particular is in the area of needs. Women have needs that are significantly different than those of men. How has God put a woman together? What does she need from a man?
In marriage, a man shows love to his wife by learning to meet seven basic needs that are the essence of who his wife is.
1) She need a spiritual leader: A woman longs to follow a man of courage, conviction, commitment, compassion, and character. She wants a man who can be both steel and velvet. He can be a man’s man, and at the same time he can be gentle, tender, and approachable. Such a man will be a spiritual leader in the home. He will take the initiative in cultivating a spiritual environment for the family. He will be a capable and competent student of the Word of God, and he will live out a life founded on the Word of God. He’ll encourage and enable his wife to become a woman of God, to become more like Jesus, and he will take the lead in training their children in the things of the Lord.
2) She need personal appreciation:. A man who loves a woman will praise her for personal attributes and qualities. He will extol her virtues as a wife, mother, and homemaker. He will also openly commend her in the presence of others as a marvelous mate, friend, lover, and companion. She will feel that to him, no one is more important in this world.
I remember telling men in a conference that one of the ways they show their wife appreciation is by picking up the phone and calling her during the day to see how she is doing. He is not to call to ask what came in the mail or what’s for supper! The following night a sweet young lady came up to me to tell me that her husband had obviously listened to what I had said the night before. She informed me that they had been married for a number of years and that her husband had never called her during the workday until that day. On this day he called her five times!
At first I was proud of the impression I had made on the man, but then a frightening thought entered my mind. I asked the lady, “Well, what did he say in each of those conversations?” She informed me that he said not much at all and that each conversation lasted no more than a minute. I began to apologize to her for the fact that things had not worked out so well. She quickly interrupted me, “Oh no, Dr. Akin, it was wonderful. Just the fact that he thought to call means everything. We can work on the words later! However, if he doesn’t call, we have nothing to work on.”
3) She need personal affection and romance: Romance for a man means sex. He cannot imagine romance without having sex. Romance for a woman can mean lots of things, and sex may or may not be a part of it.
Romance is basically a game. It is a specific game. It is a game of “hide-and-go-seek.” She hides it and you seek it. If you find it, you will indeed agree that it’s good! On the other hand, if you don’t find it, you have one of two options. First, you can get nasty, mean, and bent out of shape and just be a miserable old grouch for the rest of your life. I have met a number of men just like that. Or second, you can remind yourself, it’s a game. Sometimes I win, and sometimes I lose. But that’s the fun of playing the game.
But there’s a second part to this game, and this is not fair. However, we dealt long ago with the fact that some things aren’t fair; it’s just the way they are. Guys, you must understand. What is romantic to your wife, say, on Monday, may not necessarily be romantic on Tuesday. Indeed, women are adept at moving the romance on a regular basis, sometimes even hiding it in places where they can’t even find it. When you go searching for romance in the place where it used to be, but now you discover that it is no longer there, don’t be surprised if looking over your shoulder is the woman that God gave you, and with her eyes she says something like this, “Yes, my darling. I moved the romance. It’s somewhere else now. And I’m going to wait to see if you love me enough to look for it all over again.”
Now again, guys, you can get angry, mean, and bent out of shape, or you can remember, it’s a game. And games can be fun. Sometimes you win, and sometimes you lose. But it’s all a great game. Men, if you will approach romance in this way, not only will you find it fun, but you will also get better at it along the way.
4) She need an intimate conversation: A woman needs a husband who will talk with her at the feeling level (heart to heart). She needs a man who will listen to her thoughts about the events of her day with sensitivity, interest, and concern. Daily conversation with her conveys her husband’s desire to understand her. Wise men learn soon after marriage that women are masters of code language. They say what they mean and expect you to know what they mean, and the particular words really don’t matter. Unfortunately some men are simply ill prepared and a little dense at this point, and it often gets them into serious trouble.
5) She need honesty and openness: A woman needs a man who will look into her eyes and, in love, tell her what he is really thinking. He will explain his plans and actions clearly and completely to her because he regards himself as responsible for her. He wants her to trust him and feel secure. He wants her to know how precious she is to him. Growing openness and honesty will always mark a marriage when a man loves a woman.
6 She needs security and stability: A man who loves a woman will firmly shoulder the responsibilities to house, feed, and clothe the family. He will provide and he will protect. He will never forget that he is the security hub of the family for both his wife and his children. She will be aware of his dependability, and as our text indicates, so will others. There will be no doubt as to where his devotion and commitments lie. They are with his wife and his children.
7) She needs family commiteement:
A woman longs to know that her man puts the family first. Such a man will commit his time and energy to the spiritual, moral, and intellectual development of the entire family, especially the children. For example, he will play with them, he will read the Bible to them, he will engage in sports with them, and he will take them on exciting and fun-filled outings. Such a man will not play the fool’s game of working long hours, trying to get ahead, while his spouse and children languish in neglect. No, a woman needs a man who is committed to the family. She needs a man who puts his wife and children right behind his commitment to the Lord Jesus Christ.
When a man loves a woman, he makes it a life goal to meet seven basic needs of his wife. When a husband is committed in this way, and when a wife has the same commitment, it is not surprising that both husband and wife have a smile on their faces and joy in their hearts. This is the way God intended it from the beginning. As persons committed to God’s plan for marriage, we should settle for and expect nothing less.
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Online dating: can be very overwhelming. Although it’s probably the best place to search for a potential partner, it can also be a very frustrating journey if you don’t put a lot of thinking into it.
You probably wonder why you’re getting few to zero responses or feel like there are no good, high-quality, your-type prospects. If you can’t figure out what you’re doing wrong and you are ready to experience online dating success you’ve come to the right place.
WHAT YOUR STRAGEDY?
Online dating is no longer a numbers game. It’s a strategy. A no-games, smart, efficient, and effective pre-qualifying strategy that includes profile mapping, photo analyzing, and asking specific questions in order to elicit substantive responses. Simultaneously, online dating is your opportunity to Show and Tell who you are and what a life with you would look like.
To improve your online dating success,
follow these 10 strategic steps to find love online:

What are you looking for when it comes to love?

1. What Are You Looking For?
Before you get online, you have to be honest with yourself. What is your dating purpose? What are you looking to find? Is it fun, self-exploration & expansion or a serious relationship?
Perhaps you’ve recently got out of a relationship and really; all you are ready for right now is to see that there really are other pretty great fish in the sea. You’re not actually ready to date, but you are excited to window shop.
With thousands of active dating sites thriving on the internet today, there is absolutely a dating site to fit every agenda. If education is important to you, try Elite single If you are marriage-minded and seeking your better half, most likely eHarmony is the place to go.

2. Write Your Profile Towards That Purpose
You want to reveal something about yourself that comes from your core values, your essence, who you really are. If you have something funny about yourself, share that. The last thing you want to write is a bland, canned, throwaway profile that says nothing. The purpose is to give a few peeks into your life. Exposing a side of you that makes the user feel intrigued, as if they noticed something that might not have come across in your photos. Maybe it’s something that makes them feel like they get you, and definitely something that they can personally relate to.

3. Narrow the Playing Field!
THE most essential, but often ignored strategy when it comes to online dating is ELIMINATION. Yes, one of the benefits of online dating is that you are expanding your reach and jumping into a huge pool of potential partners; still it’s important to narrow down your options.
Take a proactive approach and tell a story about who you are and what describes you best. I’m not talking just about the physical description of your height, age, location, etc., but more about what you like to do in your free time or what core values are important for you in a partner.
An authentic profile is an invitation to attract certain people- the ones you share things in common with, while simultaneously filtering through the wrong matches.

What’s your dating purpose?

4. Match Their Purpose With Yours
As you know your dating purpose, you now want to examine others’ profile to make sure that they match yours. If you don’t, chances are high that it simply won’t be a fit from the get go, as the both of you are looking for different things.

5. Profile Mapping
This is how you set your standards and compare each person using the same strategy, and it’s your first pre-qualifying opportunity. Train your eye to “map" every profile in the same way, scanning for your specific relationship needs based on priority. What are your priorities? Career, kids, religion, health, interests, education? If your main criteria aren’t fulfilled, move on.
NOTICE that I didn't mention “looks." Although extremely tough, you should try and look at the photos LAST. When it comes to lasting love, do looks really rate higher than core values?

6. What Do Their Photos Describe?
Once you start looking at their photos, before you look at their face, examine their environment, what activities they are doing, who are they with and where were the pictures taken. Their photos can reveal a lot on who they are, what their lives look like, and help you determine if you are more interested or less.

7. Are You Attracted?
Once you’ve given an in-depth look into their profile, getting a good enough picture of who they are, you should obviously look more into their profile pictures and see if you feel attracted to their looks. As I mentioned, there are other factors that are just as important, but looks mean so much to us and are usually the initial drive to make that first step, so don’t ignore it, just save it for last.

Get personal with talking online

8. Start Communicating
If they sent the first message- great! If not, send them a short message (not a wink or instant message), referencing something from their profile that you relate to. Make sure to also ask a question, giving them a reason to respond. DO NOT just say “you’re hot, let’s meet!” but be more personal and tell them what you are interested in.

9. Avoid Fraud – Do Your Research
If you start communicating with someone, before you disclose any personal information like your last name, phone number, place of business, or email address, run a little background check to make sure their profile is not a scam. My best advice is that if their profile looks too good to be true, it must be fake. Don’t worry too much, most online dating sites have great security features that provide a safe dating experience overall.

10. Initiate a Call
If after several substantive back and forth email messages you’re still intrigued, schedule a phone date or better yet, a video call. Dating sites like Zoosk provide a built in video call gesture that makes it very simple to connect.
This call should truly be like a date- set a time, then talk for as long as you feel right. Be real and revealing and learn about your dynamics. If, by the end of the call you’re STILL interested, set a date!
THE HARD WORK PAYS OFF
Yes, if you really want to get the best out of online dating you have to put a lot of effort in creating that successful strategy. But once you get the hang of it, you will find that this prequalifying technique actually helps to make your online dating experience more efficient, effective, and fun!
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Try these ways to become better for your partner in bedroom, increase your S3@.x:’ual desires
LIBIDO IS EASILY REFERRED TO AS S3@.X:’ DRIVE, THE PASSION FOR S3@.X:’ WHICH MOST TIMES DETERMINE HOW HEALTHY A S3@.X:’ LIFE CAN BE. S3@.X:’ THERAPIST AND HEALTH CONTRIBUTING EDITOR GAIL SALTZ HAS DECIDED TO GIVE US A COUPLE OF WAYS ON HOW TO BOOST THE LIBIDO, REKINDLE THE FIRE IN THE BEDROOM.

1. Masturbation
You might not like it but its still one of the best ways to start with yourself, pleasuring yourself, its important that you know thyself before taking it to your partner.
2. Take a gynecologist talk
It might just be easier to talk to a professional about increasing your S3@.x:’ drive, maybe there is something about your hormonal situations it could be that you need certain medications.
3. Imagine things
As an adult, we’ve been asked to dismiss things such as imagining or fantasizing especially S3@.x:’ually but this might be one of the ways to help you boost your libido.
4. Talk more
Communication is key, if there are situations, it might be ideal for you to talk to your partner about it. Take about your concerns and carry each other along.
5. Change is constant
To spice things up in a relationship, trying new things might be the way. Talk to your partner to see what new thing they might be up to.
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It’s no secret that it feels like women and men speak different languages sometimes. And, as a relationship therapist, often couples will come in with one goal in mind: FIX HIM! (Or, HER!)
We hardly take a step back to see how to take personal responsibility for our own actions in our marriages. Yet when we do, the outcome is incredibly rewarding.
When each of us, men and women, decide to look beyond our own needs momentarily to see what our spouse needs, the value is almost instantly realized. Sure, taking care of ourselves is paramount, but marriage is a challenge because we have a constant companion by which we interact with more than any other person on the planet (usually).
Now, women take note: what you don’t know about the inner workings of your husband can be hurting your marriage – bigtime! And, as Shaunti Feldhahn shows us in her book, For Women Only, just a few simple strategies can reap great rewards.
1: Respect

Ladies, this may come as a shock: research shows that men would rather be unloved than disrespected. Stop for a moment and think about how it would feel if you felt your spouse didn’t love you. Pretty horrible, right? The same is true for men who feel disrespected!
What to do: In his judgment, abilities, and capabilities and in communication, show your husband you respect him and believe in him as often as you can. The difference in love and respect are slight, and when your husband hears, “I’m proud of you” this is a show of love for him. Believe in the best from your spouse, and chances are, he’ll have more confidence to give you his very best.
2: Security and Supply

Both men and women often feel a deep sense of insecurity. We fear being “found out” or that we’re always just slightly above our optimal working level. Husbands also feel a deep need to provide for his family, both financially and in security. Your husband wants to know he is the “protector,” even if his wife supplies more monetary support to the family.
What to do: The truth is, we all want to be affirmed in our abilities as humans. And, when we don’t get the “at-a-boys” at home, we seek them elsewhere. From working too many hours, to immersing himself in sports and outside activities at the expense of family time, to crossing the boundaries with female coworkers, husbands will figure out a way to feel admired for what he brings to the table. Therefore, our job as wives is to show confidence in our spouse! Affirm him, encourage him, and support him (just as we would want, right?).
3: Sex and Emotions

Sounds like an oxymoron to some women, but despite popular belief, your husband IS an emotional being! And, while it may seem like sex and emotions don’t go hand-in-hand, they do. However, men feel more connected to their wives through the act of sex, and your husband wants to know you want him. He feels loved to his core when you crave him sexually.
What to do: Imagine what it feels like to feel emotionally disconnected from your spouse, as if he doesn’t understand you and you’re on two different planes. That doesn’t feel good at all! That’s exactly how your husband feels when he isn’t sexually connected. The mere act alone helps him feel loved, secure, respected and confident. Women, make sex a priority in your marriage. Instead of seeing the act as a “duty” or a job, see it for what it is: an emotional connection. Just as women want emotional connection, men do as well, and it can often come in the form of sex.
4: Romance

This may come as a shock, but your husband wants romance, too! However, it’s important to note that men not only view romance differently, but they also feel somewhat insecure about romancing you the way you want to be romanced (I mean, it does make a man step out of his comfort zone when he’s doing what YOU want rather than what HE wants, right?)
What to do: Understand that when your husband wants to go to a sporting event with you, “hang out” with you, or have you on his arm in various social situations, this very well could be romance for him. He enjoys being able to show you off and be proud of you with his friends. Also, encourage your husband through the “rough” spots of romance: encourage him when he steps out of his comfort zone, show him you appreciate his efforts, and let him know he’s your number one. And remember this from Key #3 above, for some men, romance may not feel complete without sex. Understanding why is key: men see the act of sex as the connection itself, whereas women see the connection as a stand-alone. When your husband steps out of his comfort zone to romance you the way you want to be romanced (and yes, some even enjoy it!), he may feel discouraged not getting his “connection” (through sex).
5: Appearance

Yes, your spouse cares about your appearance, but perhaps not in the way you think. Your appearance is more about how you take care of and carry yourself, not your size. Yes, size does matter, but it matters less when you are clean, tidy, smelling good, and have confidence to boot! Your husband wants to feel proud of you, because you help him look good.
What to do: Examine all parts of your appearance: size, physical exercise, overall cleanliness and tidiness. If you feel MOSTLY bad about your appearance overall, chances are your husband does, too. He won’t admit it, but he does want you to fix yourself up and show more confidence in the way you look and feel about yourself.
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Every couple experiences disagreements. When handled with care, respect and understanding, couples can resolve their differences in a positive way and learn more about each other. When not resolved properly, couples can quickly become isolated and driven apart.
IDENTIFYING YOUR ARGUMENT STYLE
Working out how you and your partner respond to conflict can help you to understand how arguments develop.
Subtle subversive: tends to avoid confrontation and often hints at problems through silence, nagging or whining. The problem is often the long build-up that develops before an argument breaks out.
High-level attacker: often vocal and dominating during an argument. They may have come from environments where arguments were loud and frequent, and so see this style as normal.
Pre-emptive striker: dislikes blow-ups and try to avoid a full-scale battle by any means. Can be a sensitive and defensive personality.
Shock absorber: afraid of arguments, s/he refuses to engage in a row in any way at all. Beneath the surface can lie unvoiced resentment and bitterness.
Peace-seeking missive: dislikes conflict and seeks to end a row as soon as possible. This can detract from focusing on resolving the cause of the disagreement.
When different styles collide, it can be difficult for a couple to interact effectively during a disagreement. The key thing to focus on is approaching the issue as the enemy, and seeing yourselves as comrades in arms.
Here are some early warning signs that a conflict is brewing:
You avoid eye contact, physical affection and sex.
You contract or question your partner on everything.
You respond to attempts at conversation with short, curt replies.
Your thoughts are focused on your partner’s negative qualities.
HOW TO CONTROL YOUR ANGER
If you display some of these signs you should first acknowledge your feelings and pinpoint the emotions you’re feeling. Then try to identify the trigger and consider whether external circumstances are making you more sensitive.
Decide whether the issue really matters before raising it with your partner. If it’s not important, get back on track by reassuring yourself and using positive self-talk to calm your anger. Aim to reconnect with your partner using either physical touch or words.
MASTER THE ART OF NEGOTIATION TO IMPROVE COMMUNICATION
Conflict is often fuelled by miscommunication. When couples start to argue, there’s often a focus on winning the fight, rather than resolving the issue. You need to listen to each other’s opinions and perspective without judgement. When asking questions, keep your tone and language relaxed and open. When you’ve identified the problem, it becomes easier to agree on a goal. There are a number of ways in which you can resolve your difficulties.
Compromise: Both parties agree to back down a bit. But this can be a limited way of solving a problem, with both partners making sacrifices but possibly without achieving an ultimate solution.
Collaboration: Couples focus on how to reach their goal by working together to find a new way of attaining a solution which works for both sides.
Exchange deal: Oone partner agrees to the other’s wishes, but in turn makes a request which s/he feels is of equal value.

Since the lesbian cex tapes of Miss Chidinma Okeke, the Anambra beauty queen leaked on social media, most Nigerians have developed a bastardized view of the Cucumber fruit due to its usage by some ladies for pleasure acts.

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If you’d like to make your diet healthier by adding more vegetables to your meals, cucumbers are a great choice. Cucumbers are widely used in traditional diets as well as spas across the world for a reason: They are good for health.
It would be recalled that in the last two weeks, some Nigerian ladies and women have shied away from purchasing Cucumbers since the usage by Chidinma Okeke and a ‘lover’ for sxual acts which before then has been ramP@nt on the down-low.
In this post, cucumbers are said to have the following benefits: potential anti diabetic, antioxidant activity, cleansing action of toxins and waste, soothing effect against skin irritation, and prevention of constipation. And here are 10 health benefits of cucumbers in more details.

1. Help you stay hydrated
Cucumbers are 95.2 percent water, which means that a 5-ounce serving contains 4.8 ounces or 150 ml water. That’s already about 26 percent of your daily water intake through food.
2. Support heart health
Cucumbers contain potassium (152mg per cup), which can help lower blood pressure. A review of the best studies conducted on potassium intake showed that a higher intake “is associated with lower rates of stroke and might also reduce the risk of total cardiovascular disease.”
As less than 2 percent of U.S. adults consume the recommended 4,700 mg potassium per day, eating cucumbers is an easy way to start increasing your potassium consumption.
3. Protect your brain from neurological diseases
An anti-inflammatory substance called fisetin is present in cucumbers, as well as strawberries and gR@pes.
It has recently been suggested that fisetin plays an important role in brain health: It would have “the ability to reduce the impact of age-related neurological diseases on brain function,” and it would also help maintain cognitive function in people with Alzheimer’s disease.

4. Protect your skin against the effects of aging
There is a reason why cucumbers are used in skin care: They have been shown to be effective as a potential anti-wrinkle agent in cosmetic products, protecting our skin form the effects of aging.

5. Fight inflammation in the body and reduce the risk of cancer
Cucumbers can help lower the inflammatory response in the body. They contain polyphenols called lignans, which can potentially reduce the risk of certain cancers and cardiovascular diseases.
They also contain plant nutrients called cucurbitacins, which have anti-cancer properties: “Scientists have already determined that several different signaling pathways required for cancer cell development and survival can be blocked by activity of cucurbitacins.”
6. Relieve pain
Flavonoids, which are anti-inflammatory substances, and tannins in cucumbers have both been shown to limit the release of free radicals in the body and to reduce pain.
As explained in the Journal of Young Pharmacists, “traditionally, this plant is used for headaches; the seeds are cooling and diuretic, the fruit juice is used as a nutritive and as a demulcent in anti-acne lotions.”
7. Reduce bad breath
Bad breath is usually caused by bacteria in the mouth. Fiber and water-rich vegetables like cucumbers can boost your mouth’s saliva production, which in turn helps wash away the bacteria that cause the odor in the mouth.

8. Protect your bones
Cucumber are a good source of vitamin K: One cup contains 22 percent of the recommended daily intake of vitamin K. This vitamin is essential for bone health, as low vitamin K intakes have been associated with a higher risk for bone fracture. Vitamin K is also important for improving calcium absorption in the bones.
9. Prevent constipation
Cucumbers are rich in water, and their skin contains insoluble fiber. Both water and fiber help food to move through the digestive tract quicker and more easily, helping prevent constipation.

10. Maintain a healthy weight
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Some people seek therapy not to improve their own unhappiness, but to deal with their unhappy mate. Living with a sad, disgruntled, complaining and sour partner is a frustrating predicament.
Neuroscientists, psychiatrists, psychologists, and economic researchers use the dictionary definition of happiness, “The state or quality of being content”, which is a bi-product of a meaningful, purposeful life. Yet, some people who have productive lives of measurable contributions still have a less than happy disposition.
Part of our proclivity to positive affect is an inborn determinant. Some people have a sunnier disposition from birth and most people are predominantly happy and occasionally unhappy. It is the duration and intensity of emotional malaise that grates on spouses and the family. Most people feel better in the company of contented people.
Recent research by Christakis and Fowler reported in the British Medical Journal found that levels of happiness were impacted by to one’s association with others. A co-resident spouse who is happy increased a mate’s happiness level by 8%, a happy next-door neighbor did even better by improving one’s mood by 34%, happy friends within a mile added 25% and even a happy friend of a friend is credited with 10% elevation in your happiness scale. Happy partners may be concerned when social contagiousness does not increase their mate’s happiness.
Whether or not associating with others can significantly improve your level of happiness, those who cohabite with an unhappy partner can attest to the fact that a sour mood clouds the atmosphere and is most uncomfortable to live with.
Various factors can contribute to one’s unhappiness. Viewing the world as a harsh and unsafe place may be a protective survival attitude, but causes chronic discontent. Unhappiness may be a product of negative self-talk that produces fear, vulnerability and worry. Discontentment may serve to elevate one’s esteem by feeling wronged by others, or be propelled by a need to receive encouragement and reassurance. Some people feel unhappy as a result of being disempowered by life circumstances. Unsatisfactory relationships often do sour one’s mood. These and many other causes are commonly out of the unhappy person’s conscious awareness. None of them are about you.
Caring mates attempt to cheer up their partner. They may try to alter his/her life view, use reassurance, or debate the tenets of the beliefs causing the discontent. Some spouses become more enthusiastic and happier to overshadow their mate’s low mood. Others introduce light-hearted exchanges, use humor and select uplifting movies, books or comedy shows. When these efforts lead to no change, partners often feel defeated and blame themselves for their mate’s grim mood. Ignoring the sad affect, withdrawal or anger are common outcomes of frustrated help attempts. Few are so distressed that they seek professional help in dealing with the grumpy, unchanging mate.
All these and other well-intentioned efforts to alter a loved one’s unhappiness are unlikely succeed because the owner of the difficulty is not the one seeking help.
If your partner is unhappy:
• Abstain from becoming responsible for improving your mate’s unhappiness. It is a personal state and can only be altered by the individual him/herself.
• Explore with your partner whether the unhappiness is intra-psychic (within his/her nature and of long duration), situational, (impacted by life circumstances) or interpersonal, (related to the relationship with you or others).
• If it is an interpersonal cause the involved parties need to seek resolution.
• If the unhappy state is relatively new and longer than three weeks, your partner may be suffering from an acute distress or even depression.
• Inform your mate, without accusation or criticism, of your concern about his/her unhappiness. Detail how it affects you and ask how you may help.
• If your mutual attempts to improve your mate’s mood are unsuccessful, your partner should seek professional help for his/her health and your relationship’s greater well-being.
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Watermelon is 92% by weight, the highest percentage of any fruit. That’s why it’s perfect for natural hydration during the hottest months of the year. One cup of diced watermelon contains only 48 calories. As with many other fruits, it’s an excellent source of vitamins C and A. Watermelon also contains significant amounts of potassium, magnesium and vitamins B6 and B1. It’s low in fat and sodium and provides fiber. Watermelon contains the amino-acid citrulline. The name citrulline is derived from citrullus, the Latin word for watermelon, from which it was first isolated in 1914 by Koga & Odake. Red and pink watermelon pulp contain antioxidants called carotenoids, including lycopene.

Why You Should Eat Watermelon:

1. Whether you’re at the beach or just finishing a long bike ride or run, watermelon provides a good balance of vitamins, minerals, water and quick carbohydrates that often get depleted during a workout or in hot weather.

2. Drinking watermelon juice before you workout may reduce next-day muscle soreness. Watermelon is rich in an amino acid called L-citrulline, which the body converts to L-arginine, an essential amino acid that helps relax blood vessels and improve circulation. Although some studies show that watermelon juice may lessen muscle soreness after exercise, more research is needed. One cup of natural watermelon juice averages 75 calories.

3. Watermelon is good for heart-health (and your sex life) because it may relax and dilate blood vessels, thereby improving circulation. Its natural diuretic effect increases the loss of water and salt from the body, which may alleviate high blood pressure.

4. Watermelon is among the best dietary sources of lycopene, an antioxidant linked to both the prevention and treatment of prostate cancer. However, more studies are needed in this area.

5. Watermelon is low in calories and high in satisfaction—two important reasons to keep it on the seasonal menu. When you crave a sweet summer dessert that’s easy to prepare—cut up a watermelon! Plus watermelons are easy to transport and are always a crowd-pleaser.
Watermelon Tips:
Store in the refrigerator
Cut and eat as soon as possible
Choose local and/or organically-grown melons
One serving is one cup of cubed watermelon
To make juice, place cubed melon in a blender and pulverize—it tastes great with a squeeze of fresh lime juice!
Check out this video on how to slice a watermelon:
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If you or your partner isn’t in the mood tonight, it very well might be because of something you ate.
Have you ever been in a car where the driver keeps hitting the brakes? It can be sheer torture, right? That’s what these foods are to your sex drive, which is typically fueled by testosterone. We often think of it as a hormone than men have zipping through their bodies. Estrogen, on the other hand, we mainly consider to be a female hormone.
The truth is that both testosterone and estrogen play vitally important roles in the bodies of both sexes and—unless we have a good ratio of one to the other—all sorts of things can get wonky. Men can grow breasts; women can sprout excessive facial hair. But in both cases, an imbalance of testosterone and estrogen can increase or decrease libido—and a surprising amount of research has gone into figuring out which foods can increase or decrease our T and E levels.
Below are some of the food items could futz with that delicate balance or be a contributing factor to a sputtering sex drive.
1 PROCESSED FOODS

Processing removes most of the nutrients in whole foods, including ones that are important to your desire for hanky panky. For example: When whole wheat is processed into white flour, it loses about three-quarters of its zinc, a mineral essential to men’s sexuality and reproduction. Eating refined grains can lead to insulin resistance, the last stop before diabetes. Diabetes can in turn can accelerate narrowing of the arteries, increasing your risks of heart disease and ED.
2 DIET SODA

Drinking soda on the reg is a terrible idea and, for a slew of other reasons we touch upon on this website, that goes for diet soda too. Artificial sweeteners, especially aspartame, directly affect your serotonin levels. Serotonin is a vital hormone in fostering a sense of well-being or happiness. Low serotonin, say researchers, is associated with lower libido in both men and women.
3 MICROWAVE POPCORN

Dinner and a movie can be a precursor to sex, but if you like to pair your movies with microwaved popcorn, your main feature could be a flop. See, chemicals like perfluorooctanoic acid found in the bag’s lining can kill your sex drive—and, over the long term, even cause prostate problems.
4 MARIJUANA

Cannabis is already legal in several states and could soon be legal from coast to coast. Many people like to add the drug to food, particularly baked goods. Whether you smoke it or eat it, studies show that in addition to fueling long stories with no ending, marijuana depresses testosterone levels for up to 24 hours.
5 SHRIMP

According to the USDA’s Pesticide Data Program, the average person is exposed to 10 to 13 different pesticides every day. Nine of the 10 most commonly used pesticides are “endocrine disruptors,” meaning they play with our male/female hormones. One of the most estrogenic is 4-hexyl resorcinol, which is applied to shrimp to prevent them from discoloration. Other seafood with high pesticide loads: tilapia, eel, and farmed salmon.
HOL

A glass of wine or a cocktail can get you in the mood, but drink much more than that regularly, and your libido will pay the price. Alcohol is a depressant that can play havoc with a man’s ability to achieve and maintain an erection and dampen libido for both sexes. Slow down when it comes to drinking and you may find that you rediscover your sexual sparkle. To help do this, nutritionist Dana James suggests drinking a 2-to-1 ratio of water to alcoholic beverages.
7 BUT ESPECIALLY BEER

What’s more manly than pounding a couple of frosty brewskis? Actually, quite a lot, once you consider that beer could be to blame for a lack of pep between the sheets. While all alcohol affects the liver’s ability to get rid of excess estrogen, phytoestrogens — plant-derived estrogens that monkey with the fertility of the mammals that consume them — are present in the hops used to make beer. What’s more, severe drinking can cause liver damage, and because the liver is largely responsible for metabolizing hormones, a less-than-efficient one can convert androgens into estrogens, resulting in a diminished sex drive.
AMAME

If date night regularly includes sushi, order your appetizer wisely! Another name for edamame is soybeans. And, well, 91 percent of soybeans are genetically engineered in the US, according to The Center for Food Safety. High levels of soy in a woman’s body can decrease sex hormones and disrupt her ovarian function, said a study in the Journal of Nutrition. And just a half serving of soy per day was enough to slash sperm count by 40 percent in healthy males, the Harvard School of Public Health found!
9 CHEESE

Much of the cheese that Americans consume is derived from cow’s milk is loaded with synthetic hormones. These could potentially mess with your body’s natural production of hormones, including estrogen and testosterone, thereby screwing with your sex drive.
10 SUGAR

This stuff is everywhere, so don’t think that you’re safe just because you don’t spoon it into your coffee. The sweet stuff increases levels of the hormone insulin, which can cause you to store belly fat, lose muscle mass and causing your testosterone levels to drop. In men, belly fat raises estrogen levels, which can result in low libido and erectile dysfunction; one study found that glucose (sugar) significantly reduced total and free testosterone levels. Making an effort to get rid of the sugar you consume—knowingly or otherwise—could be just what the love doctor ordered.
11 CANNED SOUP

Could Spaghetti-O’s could be getting in the way of your O!?! Maybe! Canned soups and meals are notoriously high in dietary sodium (a can of Spaghetti-O’s has 1780 mg—-as much as 10 bags of Doritos!), which can lead to elevated blood pressure and diminished blood flow to certain parts of the body, including the genitals. Reverse the damage with a sexy serving of dark chocolate. Non-alkalized cocoa is rich in flavanols—-sexy compounds that promote the production of nitric oxide in the body, causing blood vessels to open wider. Mee-ow!
12 LICORICE

The main compound in licorice — glycyrrhizic acid, which gives licorice root its distinctive flavor — can suppress testosterone production. In one study, seven healthy male subjects were given 7 grams of licorice each day via commercially available candy tablets (containing 0.5 grams of glycyrrhizic acid). Four days into the study, the subjects’ total testosterone levels had decreased by 35 percent.
13 DELI MEATS

Unlike the plastic wrap you use on your leftovers, the stuff that wraps meat and cheese in the supermarket is usually made from PVC (polyvinyl chloride), which leaches into fatty foods and causes hormonal shifts. Instead, buy your meat right from the butcher, and have it wrapped in brown paper.
14 MINT

Fresh breath is sexy, and mint is the fresh maker. (There are also some great health benefits, too!) But the menthol in mint lowers technically lowers testosterone. The result? Your pleasure and fun are emphatically not doubled.
15 FLAXSEED PRODUCTS

So here’s a crazy story: To control a 31-year old women’s hirsutism by driving down her high T-levels, researchers told her to eat 30 grams of flaxseeds each day for four months. Her total testosterone dropped by 70 percent, and free-testosterone went down by 89 percent. The moral of the story? If you’re a woman with an amount of facial hair you find excessive, try flax seeds. If you’re experiencing low libido, find youromega-3s from other sources until things start looking up.
16 STRAWBERRIES

Conventionally grown produce with edible skins, particularly berries, have among the highest levels of estrogen-mimicking pesticides. Other culprits: peaches, apples, cherries and kale. When choosing produce, look for organic whenever you’re buying food with edible skins.
17 BOTTLED WATER

The water isn’t the culprit here; it’s the plastic bottle. Bisphenol A, commonly referred to as BPA, is a chemical component found in most plastic food containers and cans and is associated with negative impacts on fertility in both men and women. A Slovenian study in the journal Fertility & Sterility found a statistically significant association between urinary BPA concentration in men and lower total sperm count, concentration and vitality. Women with the highest BPA levels in the body produced 27 percent less viable eggs when tested during a study out of Harvard School of Public Health.
18 LOW GRADE MEAT

Poor quality meat could lead to a low wattage sex drive, say experts. That’s because most deli meat, hot dogs, and hamburgers contain added hormones, preservatives, and antibiotics that can bring about cause a hormonal imbalance in your body. Choose leaner and un-processed cuts like chicken or turkey to keep your sex drive revved.
19 SOY

Soy is a plant that contains phytoestrogens. They mimic the same female hormone produced by women to cause the development of secondary sex characteristics. Eating too many of these phytoestrogens could disrupt hormone balance in both men and women, depressing libido across the board. High levels of soy are found in soy milk, edamame, tofu snacks and most vegetarian meat alternatives.
20 SPICED FOODS

According to a study conducted at Oregon State University, strong, heavily scented or spiced foods have the potential to change they way your vagina smells and tastes. These foods and drinks include coffee, onions, garlic and strong spices. Researchers at OSU point out that eliminating these foods and eating more wholegrains, fruits and vegetables might yield a milder scent and engender more mouth to south resuscitation.
21 BEETS

Beets are delicious, nutritious, and just about the sweetest vegetable there is. Like many other root vegetables, they contain compounds to support healthy estrogen levels in your body. That’s great when your testosterone levels aren’t depleted, but if you have an existing hormonal imbalance, you could be exacerbating things by eating too many.
22 TRANS FATS

If your arteries are gummed up, blood flow to your sexual organs will be less than optimal…and that’s a very bad thing for sexual function across the board. Trans fats are well known for their ability to clog arteries, and that’s why many restaurants and food brands are eager to get them out of their products. Not only can they contribute to an early death they can contribute to a lack of “little death,” the charming French term for an orgasm.
23 COFFEE

There’s plenty of evidence to show that drinking coffee is the great way for men to fluff up their erections and even put a little pizazz in your sex game. If you’re someone who gets jittery or anxious from coffee, it may have the exact opposite effect. That’s because increased anxiety can often lower your sex drive. It’s a frequent complaint of people with a sensitivity to caffeine.
24 CRUCIFEROUS VEGETABLES

While there is no evidence to suggest that these kinds of vegetables rob eaters of their desire to have sex, they may dull the sex drive of their partners. Why? Well, broccoli, cabbage, and Brussels sprouts impact secretions including semen, sweat, urine, and breath…leading to unpleasant scents and tastes. Cruciferous veggies also increase the pungency of your flatulence, thanks to the raffinose and sulfate. Raffinose is a sugar found in cruciferous veggies that go undigested until it reaches the large intestine, where it’s then fermented by gas-producing bacteria.
25 ASPARAGUS

You know how eating asparagus can make your pee smell, uh, funny? And you know how our pee parts and our fun parts can serve double duty? I think you know where I’m going with this. Like other cruciferous veggies, healthy, flavorful asparagus can taste a lot worse coming out than it went in. That could lead to partners being less than psyched to get up in your business.
26 CHOCOLATE

Another controversial entry on this list is chocolate, which is also on our list of 50 Best Foods for Your Penis. Dark chocolate is thought of as an aphrodisiac because it stimulates feelings of euphoria and love, but some chocolate also been shown to suppress testosterone levels.
27 YOUR MEDS

Okay, this isn’t technically a food—but it’s still something you consume, so it’s on the list. Antidepressants and other medications like Adderall and birth control (hello, irony) can interrupt how your body produces and manages hormones like serotonin, epinephrine, and dopamine, which all influence your sex drive. Talk to your doctor if you think your pills might be lowering your libido.
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