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Hi Nairalander,

I sincerely require your mature view on this.

I am 28 years old handsome looking and employed young man. But i have this contention about relationship for a while now and i need your comment. I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for almost 18months. She is a virgin and she loved to remain like that until she gets married, i agreed with her decision even though i am not one. All along she has been a friend, sister and mother to me. She loves me so much and sometimes i get scared and wonder why i have deserved such love from her. She works too (a banker). Our relationship is so deep that both parent likes us and appreciate us. She is homely and a description of what men calls complete 6yards (good girl). I intend to propose to her when am ready. But something happened, she just came to me someday she think its time she get married. She want us to get married within the next 6months unless i am gonna loss her. Ofcuz, she has other men that likes her and ready just to marry her almost immediately. She is 27yrs old and the plan i have for her is still not yet time. I planned about a year and a half time we gonna get married. It has been on for a while and has been affecting the attachment gradually knowing am not ready. Now my question is Do men just decide to get married because a girl is in love with you and you just don't want to loose her? Most people she talks to feels am not serious but i explained to her am trying to fix things that will make the marriage convenient for her and also till am ready to handle the responsibility of marriage. Do i let her go because she cannot wait or just rush into it?

Please i only need matured views. Not your sympathy or abuse.