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howardhooks:
Please don't abort the baby. There has to be a way to fix your situation, maybe get a relative from here to join you and take care of the kids while you both work. I remember an uncle brought the mother inlaw who babysat his four kids for many years.

Kemetals:
My Brother don't get tired! as far as there is life there is always a way out. Kids are blessing. Don't regret a bit. A lot are praying to be on your condition. I understood the problem involves especially in abroad. I'd been in your shoe. I lived in abroad for almost 11 years i.e. both in Sweden and Scotland. In Sweden and Norway and most of the European countries your wife is entitled for a minimum of up to 6 months maternity leave with pay. as a husband you are entitle for paternity leave too. if this leave not enough then consider either you or your wife quitting from your job for a while to take care of the kids.. You can as well invite your mum or relative to come over to assist since paying for a nanny in abroad involves a lot of money. Thank God there are some stipends been paid for kids in most of the developed nation as far as you are staying legally.
i hope this advise could help

funshint:
Be thankful, she's very fertile

ofuonyebi:
Abeg carry go nau..afterall God is doing you a favour that others are crying for everyday!
learn to be grateful to him alone that giveth such a free gift

Rugaria:
How do you guys manage to mount a lady that just gave birth sef? I mean how do you do it!? I can't imagine going back there for a long time after she must have given birth.. Not like it's going to be as "sweet" like before, so why are you desperately climbing up there so quickly after the whole "violence" of giving birth!?!?

eaglebeliever:
My wife had our kids through CS and we live in US. There was really no help and she feels really tired. We took almost 2 years before trying to conceive again and it was condom throughout. We had our second kid and she's not even seeing her period yet but she's so scared of getting pregnant again so its condom again until we start trying for our last kid. I'm a man who has seen her cut open twice to bring out our daughters and I feel the least I can do is to standby her and make the sacrifice. It has nothing to do with being weak, having waited to conceive for 4 years, I just dread the day when she will be pregnant and regret it and blame me for it. That will be stupid, especially thinking about the prayers we made to have our first child. I feel your pain bro, my daughters are 3 years apart and I know what I go through here in America. But again, the deed is done. God will see you through. Your pain can never be compared to the pain of waiting. Let that be your consolation.

Doubleoh7:
Baby shift my womb, baby shift my womb. U Don go shift IUD commot. Congrats bro, in few years time the pressure will reduce on you guys

bummyla:
My Sister inlaw is as smooth as the devil itself, but I always beat her to her game! Like you said, she says something evil with I smile, Me I no dey smile, I dey give her back to back. After sometime, since she couldn't face me, she started calling my parents to insult them, till my elder sister put a stop to that rubbish!

Recently, I gave her a trailer load of my sharp venomous mouth, she started gathering people to beat me up, but you know, once you are BIGGER, you are BIGGER!

I bought them over!

I told her I will put an end to her rubbish, even though her sister has gone back to her, which has always been her plan, because she kept tell me "Why will her sister be married when nobody in her family is married?"

And I will put a stop to her wickedness! And evil!

jesmond3945:
is not your fault brother. Misery loves company. Do the much you can, they dont owe you and you dont owe them. Learn to appear poor and learn tact and wisdom to follow them. Dont appear weak and vulnerable.

frozen70:
Who do we blame if not you

Since you don't want condoms then be ready to have unplanned pregnancy's

You are lucky that you are abroad

Continue

frozen70:
Who do we blame if not you

Since you don't want condoms then be ready to have unplanned pregnancy's

You are lucky that you are abroad

Continue

okoroemeka:
seems they nacked out the IUD, implant is better ,women stop seeing their periods during pregnancy and to some women it will continue after childbirth and until after a month or two after stopping breastfeeding it will come again,that is natural child spacing of at least two years of safe nacking,but some women see their periods and are fertile immediately after childbirth,now that's very tricky,and it demands serious family planning to prevent accidental overload,because man must nack

TeeGentle:
I guess you are Igbo

basty:
You are weak and your penis dey raise to sex.

Please do not disturb people on Nairaland o. You no dey shame, no self control.

Nonsense.

Ezemarcel:
The reason I prefer implanon....it's more effective

But wait so even with IUD your wife is pregnant

That means you guys are knacking with reckless abandone

shilenji:
Aunties in law always doing the most, Them no fit even tell me nonsense.

chatinent:
Shebi you called her a sister in law?

Eh hen naw, it's her sister you are married to. Maybe they were talk mates aforenow and all that because nothing in your write-up shows she hates you.

Of course, it's normal! There are things sisters only want to discuss with their sisters alone when the husband is at a distance! You may be their hero in good discussion...but here you are in reality being paranoid with your four-corner head!


Bring your overseas ego down...na Naija you come. We wey don sabi all these things no bi goat. You are feeling over-security conscious when you never jam the wahala.

Rostikol:
Many of you vilifying Russia and 'praying for Ukraine' don't even know the long and short of what you're supporting.

CNN has manipulated your heads. Your beloved ''west'' is responsible for thousands of invasions of regions, countries, and territories, across the world, killing billions of people including your own ancestors. Russia has never tried to enslave or colonise you or connive with your leaders to steal your resources. Instead, they funded liberation movements across Africa in the 1960s right up to the 80s. When the west dismissed Mandela and the ANC as 'terrorists', Russia did the opposite and funded them.

But no, They are your problem today because they reacted to the west's NATO adventurism, as that group continues to build military bases surrounding Russia.

Ukraine was the final straw. Russia will NOT accept NATO and US military bases on their doorstep, at their borders, just as the USA threatened nuclear war after President Khruschev of the Soviet Union tried to build a military alliance with Cuba, next door to Florida, making Khrushev withdraw.

Oh but now Putin is the 'evil monster' for doing the exact same thing the US would have done.

The Ukrainians you are crying about are racist to the core, and would throw you off the train if you tried to flee with them, like they did to black students there.

Russia is a superpower. She cannot allow sentiments to prevent her from protecting her strategic interests.

Africans should adopt a NEUTRAL position like the Chinese and Indians are doing, instead of playing happy slave to the west as usual, led by the nose by CNN and BBC.

Tmberwolf1:
For nigeria to be great, it would take a lot of brain power and willingness from both the leaders and citizens. Security, education and a healthy economy are key.

Rostikol:
YOU are dead, you mean.

Nigeria is well and truly alive, and doesn't notice your existence, thankfully.

Rostikol:
What country are YOU from? Australia?

What is your business with Nigeria, or you don't have enough problems in your own country, with China breathing down your neck?

Where will YOUR country be in 2050?

Have you stopped oppressing and victimising the Aborigines and other racial minorities there?

DrGoodman:
Nigeria will be 5 countries before 2045

DrGoodman:
Which dubai?

After the division of Nigeria, the Northern half together with their possible partners in the west will be dragging bottom place with Yemen.

AoifeNightfall:
Okay, Chukwudi. Quit pretending now

michael77777:
Follow That straight line that divides your nyash to Ogun State ....thankmelater


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WowSweetGuy:
Calabash pot, egg, cowries, red piece of cloth e.t.c