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 Literature › Becuase Porn Is Not Harmless by JoyChinwe22(op): 9:00am On Sep 20, 2016 |
...BECUASE PORN IS NOT HARMLESS (Your Love life and Pornography) Pornography is the portrayal of sexually explicit contents on pictures, magazines, videos and so on for the sole purpose of arousing anyone who views them. Pornography is also called porn. Several years back however, porn was not really accessible to everyone in the form which they are these day. Back then, you had only play boy magazines with pictures of scantily clad models. Things started to get bolder by the day and got even worse with the advent of the internet. In as much as porn is said to have helped couples build and continuously revive their sex life, it also has a few negative effects on one's love life which cannot be over emphasized. Such effects include: Porn gives room for unrealistic expectations: Constant viewing of pornography makes you crave to have sex in ways which ordinarily you would find repulsive. You always want to do something different and insanely wild. I'm totally not against spicing things up in the bedroom; but when you want to do that because you have programmed your brain to believe that, 'the weirder, the sexier', then something is seriously wrong. Porn never satisfies: Porn instils lust and lust is never satisfied. The amazing thing is, lust doesn't crave for more, it craves for something 'different'. This is the reason why someone will have a very wonderful partner and still cheat on them; not because their partner is not attractive. The other person in question may not even be as attractive as their partner, but they just needed something different. To see more, visit http://lovelifelaughs.com/157/because-porn-is-not-harmless-your-love-life-and-pornography |
| Webmasters › Are You In Need Of A Writer? Hire Me!!! by JoyChinwe22(op): 12:31pm On Sep 16, 2016 |
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| Literature › Re: Are You In Need Of A Writer? Hire Me!!! by JoyChinwe22(op): 9:57am On Sep 16, 2016 |
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| Literature › Are You In Need Of A Writer? Hire Me!!! by JoyChinwe22(op): 9:51am On Sep 16, 2016 |
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| Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: What Is Your Date Of Birth? See If U Have A Match by JoyChinwe22(f): 9:20am On Sep 16, 2016 |
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| Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: What Is Your Date Of Birth? See If U Have A Match by JoyChinwe22(f): 9:19am On Sep 16, 2016 |
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| Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: Real Single Guy's Profile For Serious Relationship: by JoyChinwe22(f): 6:08pm On Sep 15, 2016 |
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| Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: Need Friends With Benefit? Join This Whatsapp Group! by JoyChinwe22(f): 5:54pm On Sep 15, 2016*. Modified: 9:14am On Sep 16, 2016 |
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| Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: Loveconnectionz...Meet new people and connect for friendship and relationship by JoyChinwe22(f): 5:38pm On Sep 15, 2016 |
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| Webmasters › Re: Build Your Professional Website Absolutely Free. by JoyChinwe22(f): 5:17pm On Sep 15, 2016 |
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| Webmasters › Re: Build Your Professional Website Absolutely Free. by JoyChinwe22(f): 2:53pm On Sep 15, 2016 |
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| Literature/Writing Ads › Re: Freelance Writer/Editor for Hire by JoyChinwe22(f): 2:30pm On Sep 15, 2016 |
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| Family › Re: How Some Wives Are Continually Raped But Can't Speak Up by JoyChinwe22(op): 1:38pm On Sep 15, 2016 |
sisisioge:I can't believe you are a woman. Please we should learn how to be our sister's keeper. A man can rape his wife and that is a fact. That your bodies belong to each other is a privilege that should not be abused. Saying no to sex at any point does not always mean u are denying your husband sex. You may be emotionally disturbed, or physically down; some men do not care. They must get it when they want it, because according to women like u, 'our bodies belong to each other'. Their are equally frustrated men out there who turn to alcohol and take their anger out on their wives. They forcefully have sex with her, using violence and reeking of alcohol. I guess that is okay too. #smh |
| Family › Re: How Some Wives Are Continually Raped But Can't Speak Up by JoyChinwe22(op): 1:33pm On Sep 15, 2016 |
sisisioge:I can't believe you are a woman. |
| Family › Re: How Some Wives Are Continually Raped But Can't Speak Up by JoyChinwe22(op): 1:29pm On Sep 15, 2016 |
Drdreyy:Sorry if you feel insulted. This issue is quite sensitive and it gets to me, a lot.. I'm not married yet, I'm not a victim of circumcision, neither am I a rape victim of any sort. I get ur point. But I don't understand why u think that people who mostly complain are circumcised women. I have spent barely 2 decades on earth and for the greater part of those years, I have been opportuned to witness first hand what most married women go through; and how they keep it under wraps just to save face. Some even die untimely and leave their children un catered for.. So if u think this is me being pained, then i don't mind. You should try to open your mind a little. And Yea, I won't quote u again. |
| Family › How To Strike A Balance Between Your Love Life And Your Children by JoyChinwe22(op): 12:08pm On Sep 15, 2016 |
SINGLE PARENTING : HOW TO STRIKE A BALANCE BETWEEN YOUR LOVE LIFE AND YOUR CHILDREN Single parents most times, find themselves entangled in a web of loneliness as they are always- either afraid to get out there, having been burned from previous relationships (prominent case with divorced parties) or too scared to hurt their children's feelings (especially because such children must have been quite wounded from the trauma of loosing one parent- to divorce, death or what have you). Sometimes, most single parents convince themselves that they are better off alone instead of going through the rigorous process of finding Love and risk hurting their children in the process. Situations like this is even more prominent in a country like Nigeria, where societal and religious prejudice frown upon divorce and most times expects widowed parents not to remarry, to concentrate solely on raising their children. However, in the event wherein the said single parent is able to convince himself/herself that getting his/her feet wet again (an analogy for trying again) would be in his/her best interest, the problem becomes striking a balance between his/her supposed love life and the children. Some of the ways to do that, without tipping off any of the involved parties would be: UNDERSTAND YOUR CHILDREN Every single parent should make it a point of duty to understand the needs of his/her children at each turn. You have to understand the signals your children (especially young ones who cannot pass their feelings effectively yet, with words) send at every point. Do not assume your child needs a father/mother figure because he/she exhibits a certain characteristic and let that push you into searching for someone to assume such role. Do not assume anything. Find out yourself, look for ways to make your child confide in you. Also, you have to understand how your child exhibits his/her own emotions, so you can clearly create a meaning out of each signal he/she sends across to you, when you finally find the one. This is because most times, the children are always the first to know who would or who would not be good for you but will probably not be bold enough to say it out loud. Some signs like, 'running off whenever your love interest is around, avoiding him/her at all cost and so on, could show that your child is not comfortable with such person present and you have to find out why...and deal with it! To see more, visit http://www.familyflex.net/2016/08/single-parenting-how-to-strike-balance_29.html |
| Dating And Meet-up Zone › How To Strike A Balance Between Your Love Life And Your Children by JoyChinwe22(op): 11:57am On Sep 15, 2016 |
SINGLE PARENTING : HOW TO STRIKE A BALANCE BETWEEN YOUR LOVE LIFE AND YOUR CHILDREN Single parents most times, find themselves entangled in a web of loneliness as they are always- either afraid to get out there, having been burned from previous relationships (prominent case with divorced parties) or too scared to hurt their children's feelings (especially because such children must have been quite wounded from the trauma of loosing one parent- to divorce, death or what have you). Sometimes, most single parents convince themselves that they are better off alone instead of going through the rigorous process of finding Love and risk hurting their children in the process. Situations like this is even more prominent in a country like Nigeria, where societal and religious prejudice frown upon divorce and most times expects widowed parents not to remarry, to concentrate solely on raising their children. However, in the event wherein the said single parent is able to convince himself/herself that getting his/her feet wet again (an analogy for trying again) would be in his/her best interest, the problem becomes striking a balance between his/her supposed love life and the children. Some of the ways to do that, without tipping off any of the involved parties would be: UNDERSTAND YOUR CHILDREN Every single parent should make it a point of duty to understand the needs of his/her children at each turn. You have to understand the signals your children (especially young ones who cannot pass their feelings effectively yet, with words) send at every point. Do not assume your child needs a father/mother figure because he/she exhibits a certain characteristic and let that push you into searching for someone to assume such role. Do not assume anything. Find out yourself, look for ways to make your child confide in you. Also, you have to understand how your child exhibits his/her own emotions, so you can clearly create a meaning out of each signal he/she sends across to you, when you finally find the one. This is because most times, the children are always the first to know who would or who would not be good for you but will probably not be bold enough to say it out loud. Some signs like, 'running off whenever your love interest is around, avoiding him/her at all cost and so on, could show that your child is not comfortable with such person present and you have to find out why...and deal with it! To see more, visit http://www.familyflex.net/2016/08/single-parenting-how-to-strike-balance_29.html |
| Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: Single Mothers Meet Single Fathers Here,don't SHUT UR HEART! by JoyChinwe22(f): 11:54am On Sep 15, 2016 |
luvablesam:SINGLE PARENTING : HOW TO STRIKE A BALANCE BETWEEN YOUR LOVE LIFE AND YOUR CHILDREN Single parents most times, find themselves entangled in a web of loneliness as they are always- either afraid to get out there, having been burned from previous relationships (prominent case with divorced parties) or too scared to hurt their children's feelings (especially because such children must have been quite wounded from the trauma of loosing one parent- to divorce, death or what have you). Sometimes, most single parents convince themselves that they are better off alone instead of going through the rigorous process of finding Love and risk hurting their children in the process. Situations like this is even more prominent in a country like Nigeria, where societal and religious prejudice frown upon divorce and most times expects widowed parents not to remarry, to concentrate solely on raising their children. However, in the event wherein the said single parent is able to convince himself/herself that getting his/her feet wet again (an analogy for trying again) would be in his/her best interest, the problem becomes striking a balance between his/her supposed love life and the children. Some of the ways to do that, without tipping off any of the involved parties would be: UNDERSTAND YOUR CHILDREN Every single parent should make it a point of duty to understand the needs of his/her children at each turn. You have to understand the signals your children (especially young ones who cannot pass their feelings effectively yet, with words) send at every point. Do not assume your child needs a father/mother figure because he/she exhibits a certain characteristic and let that push you into searching for someone to assume such role. Do not assume anything. Find out yourself, look for ways to make your child confide in you. Also, you have to understand how your child exhibits his/her own emotions, so you can clearly create a meaning out of each signal he/she sends across to you, when you finally find the one. This is because most times, the children are always the first to know who would or who would not be good for you but will probably not be bold enough to say it out loud. Some signs like, 'running off whenever your love interest is around, avoiding him/her at all cost and so on, could show that your child is not comfortable with such person present and you have to find out why...and deal with it! To see more, visit http://www.familyflex.net/2016/08/single-parenting-how-to-strike-balance_29.html |
| Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: Single Mothers Meet Single Fathers Here,don't SHUT UR HEART! by JoyChinwe22(f): 11:53am On Sep 15, 2016 |
[font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font] what prompted me to this is the percentage of single parents that have decided to shut their hearts because they believe they can't find love again. |
| Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: It's Offical: "NL 18+" Whatsapp Group by JoyChinwe22(f): 11:47am On Sep 15, 2016*. Modified: 9:22am On Sep 16, 2016 |
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| Family › How Some Wives Are Continually Raped But Can't Speak Up by JoyChinwe22(op): 11:43am On Sep 15, 2016 |
THE ISSUE OF RAPE, WITHIN THE CONFINES OF MARRIAGE (how wives are being raped by husbands) Rape occurs when sexual intercourse or any other sexual activity is forced upon an individual without his/her consent. In marriage however, it is a form of domestic violence and sexual abuse, wherein sex is forced on one spouse by the other. As strange as it sounds, rape also occurs in marriage. Any sexual activity not consented by both parties, is rape. The prominent kind of rape in marriage however is wife rape. Rape generally is perceived not to be present in marriage, being that a woman is supposed to consensually engage in sex with her husband, making rape unnecessary. This is why despite the fact that rape in marriage has become quite rampant, it is given little or no attention from Human right activists', Criminal Justice System and even the society at large. Infact, wife rape remains one of the prevalent, yet under-reported crimes in Nigeria. Two of the best studies so far which have investigated the general existence of wife rape in representative samples of women ( Finkelhor & Yllo, 1985; Russell, 1990) have found that between 10-14% of women who have ever been married have been raped at least once by their partner. For the purpose of this article, we shall examine some of the intriguing issues and questions surrounding wife rape which include : Reasons men rape their wives, Why Victims refuse to report such incidents, The characteristics of wife rapists, The effects of wife rape on the victim( physically and psychologically) & on the home; and finally, What to do in case you experience such. WHY DO MEN RAPE THEIR WIVES? This is one of the nagging questions concerning wife rape which has been given several conflicting answers. However some of the prominent reasons given for wife rape include: To see more, visit: HOW WIFE’S ARE BEING RAPED BY HUSBANDS. http://www.familyflex.net/2016/09/how-wifes-are-being-raped-by-husbands.html |
| Family › Re: How Some Wives Are Continually Raped But Can't Speak Up by JoyChinwe22(op): 11:19am On Sep 15, 2016 |
njiasi30:Thank you, I think you are the only one who understands what this post is about. |
| Family › Re: How Some Wives Are Continually Raped But Can't Speak Up by JoyChinwe22(op): 11:17am On Sep 15, 2016 |
Drdreyy:You think you are so knowledgeable. I weep in English. I won't banter words with you, but I just hope, for the sake of our daughters, that other African men stop reasoning like you. No man should force himself on his wife. It is a crime. You may have paid her bride price but you did not buy her. When she says 'no', find out why and deal with it like a loving husband should; don't exhibit your animalistic tendencies by forcing that 'thing' inside her. Remember, you will have daughters too. |
| Family › Re: How Some Wives Are Continually Raped But Can't Speak Up by JoyChinwe22(op): 10:42pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
Drdreyy:by woman..i mean wife. Wat u said implied that only circumsized women complain....but that's not true |
| Family › Re: How Some Wives Are Continually Raped But Can't Speak Up by JoyChinwe22(op): 10:24pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
Drdreyy:this post isn't just about circumcised women |
| Family › Re: How Some Wives Are Continually Raped But Can't Speak Up by JoyChinwe22(op): 10:15pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
Drdreyy:Wait? Do u know what u are saying? That only circumsized women complain about sex? Are u saying it is ok to force a woman to sleep with u if she is not circumsized and she won't complain? Do u even understand what u are saying?? 4 Likes |
| Family › Re: How Some Wives Are Continually Raped But Can't Speak Up by JoyChinwe22(op): 8:45pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
Drdreyy:Not true, other women complain too, but they can only tell a few people because according to the society, 'there is nothing like rape in marriage', but it's a fat lie. 5 Likes |
| Family › Re: How Some Wives Are Continually Raped But Can't Speak Up by JoyChinwe22(op): 8:36pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
soberdrunk:Everyday wives are raped but they can't complain because majority of the members of the society share your views. There is something like wife rape my dear... and it's staring us in the face. 1 Like |
| Family › Re: How Some Wives Are Continually Raped But Can't Speak Up by JoyChinwe22(op): 7:24pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
soberdrunk:That's not true o. When a woman continually says she's not in the mood, you should learn how to effectively communicate with her to know what the problem is, not rape her. 3 Likes |
.. Wanna join the party? Drop your numbers 
u know most men can't control d urge, so dey will end up forcing demself on dere wife and some will even beat her up/injure her in d process.