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Dear lady,
Let me ask you this: are you hiding his behavior from your father and mother?
If you are, then yes, then you are not in a good place.

I speak from personal experience. I "overlooked" some of these evils before marriage; I suffered for it greatly afterwards.
Verbal abuse is a sign of what is inside him; it is dark. Irrespective of his "nice side".

WORSE still he may have a PERSONALITY DISORDER in what is called a "cluster B" personality disorder. Please search for it on google.

He might not really love you. He might just be at the age where marriage is doing him.

Also, if he is nice to outsiders and bad to you who should be the apple of his eye, run. Many spouse abusers don't maltreat outsiders, but it is their spouses that they attack.

Yes the date is next month, but lean on your father and mother for strength to do what is right.

You are not like that, so why accept it from anybody? He should be the one honoring you the most.

If you leave don't go back; you don't want to go to someone who pretends to be ok. If by now he doesn't realize he has a serious problem, don't let him pretend to be cured and come and take you back. Go and read that cluster B thing well.

SAFETY: If you drop the guy, make sure you don't go there alone to tell him. This kind of anger...hmm..we don't want you to be a victim.

My dear, you are somebody's daughter still.
Best wishes.