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I am not particular about myself. I was speaking generally about the just graduating. Everyone knows that it is not exactly fun looking for job. But definitely there is a way some people get jobs without sweating. What are those ways? And as you said, this forum is also a way of getting info. So, what exactly do you think?

Honestly, I don't know what got into me to want to discuss this openly but I'm doing it anyway.
I was seated at my laptop desk and I was wondering what my lot would be after school. People keep complaining that the Nigeria of today is no longer dependable and it would only take the dumbest person just 5 minutes to figure that out if they were in my shoes, I mean, considering my background environment and those who surround me. I definitely have plans and I know exactly what I want from my life but exactly how do I get there from here? I'm just in my finals and very soon, I'd also be saying goodbye to University undergraduate education. Well, for that, I am very grateful.
But at a time like this, when there's no hope anywhere and elite connection seems to be everything that opens doors, or when you have to do something absurd, that no one else must know about, in order to get a placement somewhere comfortable for a while, what can the uncompromising do? Where can they get funds to manage their own business when the chips are down? And every company I know now seems to be asking for some kind of experience from someone who is leaving University at age 22 and their age limit starts from 22.
At a time such as this, what is the fate of the just graduating...?

Well, I may agree with on some level but really, don't you think at some point, someone needs to grow up and stop playing around. one can't be young forever. Another reason why it should bother me why graduates would rather stay in school to get by while wasting away precious time they could as well spend thinking through what they want from life. It doesn't matter how many years old someone might be, at a particular point in one's life, one would ask themselves why they still got to live the life they are use to, why they couldn't just leave their comfort zone for a change and get a life. Some times, it could be pathetic but, really, can I blame them in our country where no one can boast of social security, economic stability nor political stability. I was just wondering what we can do for graduates in our country to make them glad they went to school. What do you think?

This could be for a number of reasons. First, they might want to study more and require a study environment to motivate them.. Though that is usually not the case because even before they got to their final year session, they are already anticipating when they would graduate. The second reason might be because they dread their going home without a good result to boast of. Also, this is not really a sufficient reason to hide behind.
If you ask me, I will tell you that graduates do not want to leave school because they do not want their allowances to cease just yet until they have enough to go by on their own. They do not even call their parents for their convocation ceremony because that would announce to the world that eventually, they have finished their Never ending quest for qualifications. Well, that would be believed by the unlearned because most people now know that going to the university is no longer enough to secure a job. Although it is necessary for those who would like to work in government offices and not to serve as messengers, to hold on to a reputable job, one needs more than a university degree.
So, what do you think? Why would I finish University education in Nigeria after a 4 (+ X) years and not happy to go home?

I'd rather stay single. I guess my health is much more important. I would not like to wake up to meet my husband lying at the front door, drunk and smelling, neither would I sentence myself to a life of daily heart attacks.

i really do not see any big deal in ironing your wife's clothe for her. She's your wife. if she does not mind helping you with your responsibilities and makes it easier on you, she needs some encouragement too. be nice to her once in a while. even if you can't do it, say it nicely and give reasonable reasons for not doing it.