JONNYSPUTE:
Pls don't mind my typo errors Nd long epistle. Am happily married with a lovely wife Nd a handsome son. CEO of a company Nd by the grace of God a bit comfortable. There's this young girl I knew in a joint where I normally hangout with friends after the days job. She always serve us drinks Nd any other things we requested. So one day as I Nd my friends were about going home after our usual outings that night,she stopped me and said she had something to tell me,I said OK fine but that she should wait till tomorrow when I come again. So I drove off(my wife Nd kid travelled out of the country with her dad)so the next day I was there with other of my friend that is also the CEO of his company at that same joint drinking Nd discussing issues when she came.I asked to sit Nd talk to me in the presence of my friend. She told she is a student on her I And that she needed a place she can do the stuff.I now told her I don't have vacancy in my firm for now Nd I even asked my friend if he had Nd he said no. She started pleading that if she does not fill Nd sign her log book that she will be in problem that I should pls help her out. I told her to go that I will think about it. She left. That day I gave her my number Nd left. So I later travelled out of Enugu for a business in calabar for a week,she was calling all this while Nd I told her to wait when I come bk I will help her. I finally came bk Nd was having a meeting with the sector commander of FRSC Enugu when she called,I told her to meet me at a restaurant later in the evening when she closes from work that day Nd she agreed.That evening I Nd my friends about 4guys were eaten when she came with her friend. They ate Nd drank with us Nd I asked y driver to drop them off Nd also ask them to come along with the log book so I can sign it for her which I later did. Now the problem is that this girl has bn calls ng me that she is sick Nd I don't want to help her. Just yesterday I met with a friend Nd he was telling ng he saw the girl Nd she was telling her that am a bad man that I refused to give her money to treat her self because I ve the intention of sleeping with her Nd she found out Nd has been avoiding. I did not say anything Nd I did not call CU's I didnt even save her Num in my phone. This morning I received a text from her that God will punish me. Pls help me out. If am wrong tell me.I swear I Neva had any intentions over her Nd before she came asking me to help employ her,I ve Neva talked to her.

. I've gone through your post Sir, and i'm yet to see the bad thing you did. This is one of the reasons why people hardly render help. Instead of showing gratitude, she tends to be ungrateful. Sir, please i've gone everywhere in search of employment, but luck hasn't found me. You know, securing employment nowadays requires recommendation (who u know?), irrespective of your qualification. I'm willing and ready to do any kind of job, even if it's "Security" or "househelp." God bless ur endeavours sir..08149720594

Prevho:
First, dating a broke guy is your own perogative but at least, date one with potentials and big dreams.
“If you want to eat frog, eat the one with eggs”.

Second, if you cannot stay, do not stay. Some broke guys are very analytical, they know when you are not for real and when chips are down, they drop you like a bag of potatoes.

Now this is coming on the back of Kondomatic comment on this thread: https://www.nairaland.com/3944387/staying-him-when-he-broke
I feel it is imperative we trash this once and for all. I keep hearing ladies talking about how a guy they stood with when he was broke ditched them when he made it.

No logical and smart man will ever leave a lady who stood with him in this life, especially during his trying period.
The problem we have here though is in how you interpret the word “STAND”.

Most girls think standing with a broke guy means not asking him for money, giving him sex as he wants, cooking for me perpetually, not nagging and generally docile.

Most girls are actually STANDING without any verbal and active efort and they watch the guy do all the heavy lifiting, now when it is time to reap they say they were with you, REAAAAALLLLYYY!

The real idea here is the value of your worth in his eyes and how he rates you, there is a way you place yourself and you just become a time machine to him and he rides till he can get a better one.

You don’t pamper such guy or what other challenge is there for him to see (when in the real sense, you should be the challenge), instead you need to change your role.

So what does STANDING” with a broke guy means…

Most of the girls who claim guys leave them are mostly docile and when they act, they make it seem like they are doing you a great favor, broke guys can smell that from afar.

It simply refers to the level of influence you had in his life to achieving or actualizing his future ambition or getting better in life.
Are you the cornerstone or the pavement stone?


How much of your imprint and name will be mentioned when he tells that story?

ASK YOURSELF: If that guy was a company, what percentage will be your own share?

In this context, things like food, sex and even little financial push does not really count, there is a lot that matters more
The following are some of what you should aim to be and he also has to see you in the same light:

You have to become his -
Motivator everyday
Catalyst for success
A reason to be a success etc.

You may not help him financially, but once he can tie you in with his grass to grace story, my sister, you are going nowhere!
Some guys can be ruled out though, but it is only a negligible percentage.

Disclaimer: This is my own opinion

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FLAWLES:
Hmm;dearie just click on QUOTE and mk sure u put a full stop at the end of the person u wanto quote and write wah eva u want

. Tanx! Got same issues

Caringguy:
I thank God for the banana that have been falling on me, it's time to share the blessing among you Nairalanders.

Free airtime worth 50k..

On the 24th is the date...

So get ready!!!

Bro, i'm more than happy that u made it to this day. Congratz as u begin another 365days. Ur acct shall never run dry coz God gat ur back. 08149720594