₦airaland Forum

The certificate is more for the woman than for the man. She will always need to prove that she changed her name. It was more of her property than his.

I have not seen my own marriage certificate since I got married 29 years ago!!!

Kalatium:
This is one of the most repeated statements out there:

“All men want is sex. Once they get it, they leave.”

It sounds convincing, especially if someone has experienced it multiple times.

But if you look closely, it’s not the full story.

What’s actually happening is more uncomfortable.

Before sex, many men are operating with a goal.
That goal affects their behavior.

They become more patient.
More attentive.
More tolerant.

They overlook things they normally wouldn’t.

Not because they fully accept everything about you,
but because they are focused on getting access.

That’s the part many people misinterpret.

Pre-sex behavior is often influenced by motivation, not pure intention.

So when someone sees consistency, kindness, effort, they assume:

“He likes me for who I am.”

Sometimes, that’s true.

But many times, it’s conditional.

Now, after sex, something changes.

The incentive shifts.

There is no longer a goal to achieve.
So behavior becomes more honest.

Less effort.
Less tolerance.
Less pretending.

And that’s when reality shows up.

So the key question becomes:

Was he genuinely interested in you as a person,
or just committed to the process of getting there?

Now let’s be balanced.

This is not a “women problem” or a “men problem.”

It’s a misalignment problem.

Some men are only there for sex. That’s real.
Some women ignore clear signs because of attention. That’s also real.

Blaming one side completely doesn’t solve anything.

Here’s the part people don’t like to hear:

If a pattern keeps repeating, it’s worth examining the pattern.

Not with shame. With honesty.

• Are you selecting the same type of men?
• Are you ignoring red flags before intimacy?
• Are you mistaking effort for intention?

At the same time, men also need to be called out:

Leading someone on with false signals just to get sex is dishonest.
That behavior is not “nature,” it’s a choice.

So both sides carry responsibility.

Now, one important truth:

Not every woman experiences this repeatedly.
And not every man behaves this way.

There are people who build genuine connections that continue after intimacy.

Why?

Because the foundation was never just physical.

📌 Bottom line:

Sex does not create connection.
It reveals what was already there.

If there was depth, it continues.
If there was only pursuit, it ends.

So instead of reducing everything to “all men,”
it’s smarter to understand behavior, incentives, and patterns.

That’s where better decisions start.


Cc nlfpmod seun Dominique myndd44

For me, companionship and the ability to communicate and be real are important. Sex is secondary

VenExchangee:
Make yourself make sense

You don't understand!
What NGN1000 can get in this country, $1 cannot get in their country.

So it is relative.

The very worstest power minister.

And your bank UBA, is the one that thinks we don't deserve interest on our dollar balances

Certainly, there is a need to move forward. If we can do it the way it is, let us break it up!

If after you have poke fun at your long term friends make jest of them, threaten to seize one their lands and refuse to respect them, but then make overtures to them to help you, they deserve to be left alone.

This is Netanyahu's war!!!

Has the Passport climbed up on the Haley Index now? Even Tinubu holds a Guinean Passport!

You actually don't need to renounce Nigerian citizenship.

Ile ni abo simi oko

nairalanda1:
I work in medicine, and yes, we do CPR on 'dead people'. It's kind of why the whole process of CPR was invented.

First, a patient is certifed dead not when they have stopped breathing, there has to be no detectable cardiac and respiratory activity.

Hence we do CPR.

What happened is that the chap was brought in 'not breathing''and 'no pulse detected' , but when the doc listened to his heart , there was a beat detected (also we feel the neck pulses as well)...and CPR commenced to try to reverse the death process so to speak

Even when there is no pulse or breathing detected, CPR still commences.

Defibrillator comes in to see if the beat or pulse detected is shockable. If it is, then a shock is administered via the defib machine. If it isn't, then CPR continues...until the beat becomes shockable.

Once the heart rate is established, it does not mean the patient may wake up and move around, sometimes additional things need to be done. Even to the point that the patient may have to be placed on a ventilator in ICU , then care continues. Sometimes it ends well, soemtimes it doesn't.

I work in medicine and have taken part CPR for supposedly dead patients over the years. Sometimes we get lucky, sometimes we don't. Looks like they were not lucky this time

Thanks for this so educative post.

Mr. Aliko Dangote
Dangote Group
Lagos, Nigeria

Dear Mr Dangote,

Request for a Reduction in the Price of PMS

I write respectfully to appeal to you to consider reducing the price of Premium Motor Spirit (PMS) for the benefit of ordinary Nigerians.

At a time when millions of citizens are facing severe economic hardship, the cost of fuel continues to have a direct effect on transportation, food prices, business operations, and the general cost of living. A downward review of PMS price would therefore bring significant relief to households, small businesses, workers, and students across the country.

Many Nigerians have followed your journey with admiration and have stood in support of your efforts, especially during the challenges and opposition you encountered in establishing and advancing your refinery project. A good number of citizens saw the refinery as a national asset and a source of hope for energy security, lower fuel costs, and economic relief. It is on this basis that many believe this is a fitting time for that hope to translate into practical relief for the people. This was when one of your own disallowed your refinery to hold sway.

Your refinery represents not only a major private investment but also a symbol of national pride and possibility. A decision to reduce the price of PMS, even modestly, would further strengthen your legacy as an industrialist who responds to the needs of the people and supports national economic stability in a meaningful way.

We respectfully urge you to consider this appeal in the interest of Nigerians who continue to look up to your leadership and capacity to make a positive difference.

Thank you for your time and consideration.

Yours faithfully,
Kaa4

If Motjaba is not active and is not in charge, who is in charge in Iran? Who gave the order and who declared victory in the war?

The war should come to an end, please.

I read the Guardian daily and introduced my late twin brother to read it to pass English Language in WASC in 1986

brain54:
He got older...

and became more brutal. No mre populist intentions and plans. All is for self. From businesses and self preservation for 2027 and beyond

One thing you cannot take away from BAT is his ability to build people, organisations, and processes.

He will never run away!!!

There will still be opposition ot Tinubu in 2027, though that opposition will be so weak that its cries will not be heard.

In Nigeria, the founder and primary mover of a party leaves the party. This shows that everyone is seeking power for its sake, not for the development of the country, because there is no belief in any principle.

Mark my words, when Tinubu is done with APC, the party will implode from within, just like the PDP.

Before then, I dey siddon look.

If the award is true, it adds zero Naira to the ordinary man on the street, nor does it stop the Fulani marauders from further killing Nigerians in Nigeria.

He is not different from his father, impulsive and uncontrollable when angry.

He knew in advance that his father would face these challenges and warned him.

But Nasir is not used to apologising!!!

Obasanjo has arranged him and OBI. So you will soon see OBI/KWAKWASO.

Atiku is already beaten.

I am yet to be convinced of what will make the ordinary Hausa/Fulani vote Obi

So many of his assets may never be recovered since he died with his wife and son.

For aligning with Wike, he is hungry. Any PDP politician aligning with Wike wants relevance where they should expect none.

All who do so are hungry.

Thank you, PM, for this visit.

We shall soon arrive and flood your country to demonstrate our dexterity across all fronts.

Be ready to welcome us then and don't complain o

$13,000,000 dollars story that will quieten down soon. Anyway, we have had more seizures under Olukoyode than all the others put together

Are they so poor that they have never seen someone with $2,800 before? Rules on currencies are made by the owner of the currency: The United States rule is on $10,000 and above, not a mere Uber money somewhere else.

Did the address say Amanator Ebonyi Lagos? Where is that located in Lagos, Nigeria? I am confused

Free the guy and let him go.

The person posting this old video and false narrative should be removed from Nairaland

Tinubu patiently waited for Buhari to die to revoke the understanding and pact they had not ot touch Malami.

Malami had sought protection when he became the in-law to Buhari after marrying Buhari's divosced daughter with six children from a previous husband.

Let Malami pay.

He is the worst of all the AGFs we have had in this country.

Russia is simply taking advantage of the current vulnerabilities of the Iranian people.
But the Iranian people know better.
Abeg let the war come to an end.

The benefits both left and right, back and forth have gone the Russians.

The richest man and the most powerful in Nigeria!

If they mean well for NIgeria that will be fine, but if they push personal angeda, then we are toast.

And you sure this reach 10,000 hectares? or 10,000 plots?

Why is Tinubu doing this? He will be shocked to the marrow when he is out of power.

This guy will flee or be made to flee, such that the contract monies cannot be returned to Tinubu

I am sorry for us.

Subsidy has been well mismanaged and will be further mismanaged under this administration that lacks accountability.

Since all the revenue goes to the governmnet there must be a way that is impactful to the ordinary Nigerian apart from susbsidy

So let us suggest eh best way apart form subsidy to cushion the effect

Openair:
Op, please if you can do for mini-flat too

He didnt do it. Nairametrics did. He only posted it. So ask Nairametrics.

BAT knows more than all you have said. He is devoting all his efforts to winning the 2027 elections. Whatever sacrifices must be made will be made so that he can win.

Thereafter, anything else can happen.