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Growing up in Lagos during the early 2000s, the pre-social media era was a completely different world. Back then, the lack of digital record-keeping and public dialogue created a massive accountability vacuum, and nowhere was this more obvious than in how young men approached dating, sex, and consent.

Let’s be honest about what was normalized:

The "Refill the Cup" Strategy: Young men explicitly planned to get their crushes or love interests as drunk as possible. The goal was to lower a woman's inhibitions until she couldn't say no, and it was openly celebrated as game or "being a man."

Entitlement Over Consent: Real consent wasn't even part of the conversation. Coercion and opportunistic behavior were rebranded as smooth talking or persistence.

Double Standards: After predatory behavior, these same men had the audacity to label those women as "loose" or add them to a body count list to show off to their peers.

Fast forward to today: social media, public conversations around consent, and women speaking out have completely disrupted that old playbook. Now that accountability is finally catching up with some of these men, their default defense is to play the victim and claim women are "trying to bring them down." It's laughable, but it's also a stark display of denial.

Can we actually talk about this? For the men who grew up in that era: search your soul did you participate in or normalize this culture? And how do we ensure the next generation completely unlearns it?

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LogoDWhiz:
Don't get u.

What are u driving at?

. When you meet and like a girl, go on few dates and eventually are in a serious relationship, what is the aim? Do you see a future with her or its just a relationship - go with the flow till you meet another?

Great write up

Jokes all made up. Gimme one million for my masters & you'd have your babe back.

People meet there is an attraction (tiwnkle) they explore this attraction, find common ground, differences, secrets, friendship which can lead to a long term relationship or marriage. What use is it when we date without a purpose? There is no specified duration within which a twinkle can turn into a sparkle. There are so many factors that controls that in today's world (financial stability, mindset, family background, age etc). Dating for fun or to fill a void (momentarily) should be a crime punishable by karma

Why?