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inspirenet: Tlk 2 ur mum

Talking to her is not really my main concern here, i want to know, is white wedding very very important? will our traditional and court be considered as incomplete without doing a white wedding? so that if it means looking for where to borrow funds to carry out the white aswell we will begin to work out plans for that. although theres a pending debt of 200k on our hands right now that we havent cleared but its not that pressing. we can take care of that anytime. i just need advices on that, should we go ahead and look for where to borrow to do both white and trad or just carry on with d low key trad and court as our money fit reach us?

Hello all, im 30 and my fiance is 32. we have been dating for over 5yrs now, to get a job was so difficult for both of us if not we would have been married by now with one or two kids. i got a job early last year which earns me 75k per month and i have responsibilities too as im currently undergoing my masters program and im sponsoring myself through school and i still assist at home sometimes. my fiance just got a job early this year and hes pay is 55k. i just found out that im 1 month pregnant and im not thinking of abortion at all. the problem is; we dont have up to 200,000naira in savings but we were planning on working on making it up to 400k between now and two months time to carry out a low key traditional and court wedding only. i will feel terrible moving around with a big tummy and no sign of wedlock, at work, church, anywhere i go,etc. i dont like d idea and so does my fiance. we cant afford a church wedding now as it will be too costly considering d time frame. my mum has said that none of her kids will marry without doing a church wedding as it makes d marriage look incomplete though i haven't told her about the pregnancy yet. is it really true that if one weds without doing church wedding it doesn't make it complete? though am a christain but how important is really a church wedding?