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Kalulu44:
And is there a way you can dodge from catering for a woman? I'm asking

I could have asked you "Cater for a Woman? as her father? "
But you won't still get it .

Relationship, especially marriage is not a welfare program. Both parties have to contribute to make it work.

"Money for hand, back for ground" relationships and marriages Nigerians tedious chase is because most men have nothing to offer except "paying" and the woman have been told by society to offer nothing except her bumbom .

So the man is indirectly paying for Bumbom. She knows, we know, but he delude himself that she loves him.
If He stops paying/catering, the relationship ends.

To answer your question:
My Son cater for yourself, be better, be well dressed, speak well. Women of value will seek your relationship.
Also, don't delude yourself by dating a coded Ol0sho, request for "pay as you go" service.
And Don't date a POS girl or jobless girl and say it's love. Have some sympathy on yourself.

JoeEeL:
I stopped reading after the bolded. You can already judge the level of the poster's IQ.

His goal in life is to 'cater for a woman '.

Good luck to him.

prinsam30:
Black Africans playing with white Africans

You meant Black Europeans playing with White Africans

SixSeven:
That English is called AAVE


https://www.tiktok.com/video/7626184201443872014

The history behind it is white man control to the black in America. That's their pidgin


https://www.tiktok.com/video/7102272736457739566

AAVE is just trying to justify low I Q in English.

See we have our own Vernacular, Pidgin, which we proud of. Most countries, even francophones have their own French vernacular But No professor can come and justify as structured or make seem as something standard. It's not.

African American should learn to speak and write properly and not put themselves down and try to justify it as Black liberation.

Kalatium:
Bro, i think you are the one that don't know anything about social interaction. I didn’t ask of her number because i don't have any interest. She asked for my number and said hi, i replied hello. It left for her to reply or not. Not every man is like you that is always after sex.

Wait, take a deep breath.

Imagine you are pretty single lady in genuine and inevitable distress because you come from an humble home and your salary is 50,000 (receptionist job).

And this handsome young man came to your rescue.
Gave you 3k, did not ask for Number.
So you shoot your shot.
Ask him for his number, followed up because he might like you too.
He said hello and that was it.

Its one thing to say, she shot her shot but I was not interested: Fair.

But to accuse her of not following you up, be your acquittance, that she is a begger. No na.

Think about it

You owe that girl a serious apology.

Kalatium:
Choi, this life will humble you.

On Saturday , I saw a random lady who needed help with food. Feeling generous, I sent her ₦3,000. She thanked me and then politely asked for my WhatsApp number.

I thought, "Aww, maybe she just wants to appreciate me properly." I gave her my number.

She sent:

"Hi."

I replied:

"Hello."

Silence eas what later followed.

No conversation.No friendship vibes.No getting to know each other. No "How was your day?" Nothing.

Yesterday being Tuesday, she suddenly reappeared from the land of the living.

I thought maybe she wanted to continue the conversation.

My sister came straight to the point:

"Please help me with ₦6,000 to fill my gas."

At that moment, I realized that I was not a friend. I was not a brother. I was not a potential acquaintance. I was simply a government intervention programme.

Apparently, the first ₦3,000 qualified me for automatic enrollment into the next phase of assistance.

This life you different lessons. Sometimes, the moment you help someone once, they don't see it as kindness. They see it as capacity to bill you continuously.

OP you are not actually social smart. You might be smart in other aspect but when it comes to social interaction as pertain to women, you don't get it.

When she collected your number and said hi, she has done 80% of the job for you as a sign of appreciation, all you need to do is ask her out and close the deal.

You see, Women know for a certain that men that give them actually want something in return else why not give your family members or friends. Why give to a full stranger?
So either the man is bold and skilled to ask the thing they want or timid and fraudulent to ask and pretends.
They avoid pretenders and Bill them more.

This girl in particular, assumed you were timid to ask for number and decided to help you, and also helped you start the conversation and you failed to continue and still blame her.

What??

Were you waiting for her to chat you up, ask you "how was your day?"

You need to man up and do the need full.

If you need advice on how to go about it, I can help with approach such issue.

Which kind of Men are we breeding nowadays.

I have 2 questions for the OP @ Goodmarlian

You helped the girl because you like the girl, Fine. What were expecting from the the whole helping, did you convey your expectations to her and she agreed or you ASSUMED that because you were "helping" she should just be your girlfriend and show gratitude?

2. You started with you providing help and she receiving help, It's a known fact that how you start a relationship is the way you will sustain it. That is you have to be the odogwu spender and she will aways the receiver. Do you understand?

You work in a campus of a prestigious university and you couldn't look for a decent relationship, you went and hoodwink and
innocent girl, an orphan with false promises of supply and now the bill is coming, you came to Nairaland for moral support.

Bro, if you knew you can't carry her burden (which your are not supposed to, because you are not her father), you should have let her be. Instead of going in and now trying to emotionally blackmail her.

Sadly, you are not planing to leave her, because if you are, you won't monitor how she is reacting to your manipulation and you won't come to Nairaland to seek justification.

You are slowly trying to sell your peace for unnecessary drama but soon you will learn what we all learnt.

Catch which thief?

But come to think of it, the level of Burglary/Burglars in Lagos is astronomically high.

1 in 3 Lagos Street boy is likely a burglar or pick pocket.

Government have to look into it because it's has gotten out of hand.

madridguy:
I am happy with this development. Maybe this will make the FG to step up their game in the fight against terrorism.

It won't. US will use it as an excuse to invade Nigeria.
And just as libyans welcome the US as their savior, Nigeria will welcome the invasion.

But they at the end, Libya was destroyed and the "saviors" ended up being thieves.

Mark my post.

Nigerians are very naive.

US is cooking their population to declare "Humanitarian war" on Nigeria and we are supporting them.

It's all about Oil and Gas. The US don't care about any thing besides money

izzou:
[color=royalblue] Anyone who has worked in a corporate environment will know that your employer cannot love you more than your Union.

The Nigerian law clearly stipulates workers to have a Union when their strength exceeds a minimum number

But because Dangote is the first man, and first oil company to exist on earth, we should burn the Nigerian constitution.

No wonder Chinese and Indian firms don't take us seriously. Anything goes in Nigeria.[/color]

Resign from your employer that hate you and work for the union that love you.

Infact, go to CAC, get certificate and employ the Union that love you.

My friend, Nobody love you more or less, Union activity is not benefiting 230 million Nigerians, it's benefiting a few

If I was an exco in NUPENG or NLC, I will fully support PENGASSON because their activity benefits our hustle.

Nigerians need to fight for their interest

Wallade:
Do you know the number of non Nigerian companies in the oil and gas sector and several other sectors of the economy?

How many of them had issues with the labor unions that translated to industrial strikes?

The government owned refineries are not functional so how do they direct strike at them?

The unions are for protection of rights of staff, welfare and working conditions of staff, primarily.

Can you people just stop to think?

Let's assuming Union are fighting for their members (which in practice it's not true).

Dangote is fighting to sell it's product locally practically against entrenched oil and gas cabal that wants fuel importation because they are heavily invested and will lose billions if we stop importing.

Millions of Nigerians interest aligns more with Dangote, not with the Union nor the cabal.

The are few people whose interest aligns with the Union.

Union and the cabals are fighting against Nigerians interest.

If they can reduce imported fuel to N300, Nigerians will support them immediately but this Mofos are selling at N900 and still want subsidy from Dangote (Not the government, they want subsidy from Dangote)

ogascomax:
I think the ignorant person here is you because Dangote is manipulating you to think that PENGASSAN is the problem where as they are the problem. Dangote and PENGASSAN may have other problems which is not my business but as far as unionism is concerned he cannot stop Dangote workers to be in Union except he wants to take his refinery to the moon.

Without doubt he can not stop them and he did not stop them from joining union. If you do not know this basic fact you are braindead .
The question is does he as private business have the right to sack anyone?
If he sack them due to their affiliation, the staff reserved the right to sue for unlawful termination not PENGASSON looking for excuse to shut down Dangote. As who? Government.

PENGASSON is actually playing with fire. Nigerians with transfer their anger to them soon.

ogascomax:
Good you can't deny that their is Union everywhere. But you brought China up. China is a Communist country and not a democratic system. They are not different from country that practice military system. The difference is that they are excelling in what they do and they are advancing every day. So the government controls everything and citizens right is being suppress in China. Freedom there is not same we have here either.
If we most draw a comparison we should compare with places that democracy is working otherwise you may also look at what is been done in North Korea as an example of what should be done here.

Do you know why I quote China, that his the HQ of labor. Every body works and produce for the world.

Almost every finish goods imported globally is made in China.

And like I said "Freedom", "Democracy", "Capitalism", "Communism", "Independence", "debt " etc are just tools use by the elite to manipulate ignorant folks like you.

Government can five

ogascomax:
Before I engage in any further talk with you. Do you work In any government, private or self employed.
Because when I read some certain comment I ask is this person is educated or not? Because they are things educated people don't say.
Is the same thing you saying that lecturers, teachers, doctors, nurses, bankers, etc should resigned because it's a sin to fight for misconduct by employers or poor staffing, salaries and welfare of workers.
Do you think there is no Union in Europe, USA etc.
Without unions CEO's of businesses will do whatever they wants to do since nobody will fight for them.
You think you are wiser than the government that has allowed Unions even when Union can affect government. We saw when Union was very strong under Oshiomhole then and what they achieved.
I wonder how you guys really season out things sha. To me it's extremely absurd.

Here is a quote about China way of running Union: Source - Gemini

China operate Union under the umbrella of the All-China Federation of Trade Unions (ACFTU), which is the country's sole national union. However, these unions are not independent worker organizations but are controlled by the Chinese Communist Party (CCP) and function to ensure stability and alignment with government policy, rather than primarily advocating for workers' rights in an independent manner.

Union should be an extension of Government not a parallel unelected government of its own.

And on the sides, this issue is not about Workers, it's the Oil Cabal vs Dangote war continuation.

PENGASSON and NUPENG are just tools that are been used to control Dangote and the FG is fully aware of it and not sure if to side Dangote or The cabal.

The full country bar some ignoramus is fully behind Dangote not because he is a saint but because the cabal have been extremely wicked against Nigerians.

Also, the reason why politicians and cabals ignore and oppressed the masses because the masses are too naive, They think it's all about justice, democracy, freedom etc...
No it's all about the Power and control. Nothing more nothing less.

Emeskhalifa:
Seems you are so happy all these are happening.

My question is, are you a foe of this country? Coz I don't seem to understand the excitement

Those people are sadistic foes of their own self.

Them, their uncle, their village people are not related to or connected to Pengasson but they just want Nigeria to be under the water.

They are for Anything or Anyone anti Nigeria because that who they are.

And they are many.... Very many.

ogascomax:
All of you commenting do not know anything that is going on in Dangote regarding Nigerians workers there. Their welfare is extremely poor. While you guys a jumping and clapping for Dangote, the staffs are very happy. You won't write all these if you were working there. Dangote sacked all 85 staffs that helped Dangote during the start up. After a successful start up the rewards for all of them was sacking them then replacing all of them with Indians. He under pays his workers. Now he has sacked over 800 staffs for joining Union. Where is there no Union in the world. Lack of knowledge and information make you guys speak this way.
Union is what check the excesses of employers otherwise they will pay workers peanut, with disregard to safety and terrible working conditions.
If Dangote staffs or any other company subject their staffs to extremely bad working conditions based on risk assessment. It's Union that can intervene otherwise terrible CEO's will take advantage of such loopholes to stifle workers and they won't have a say.

They should resign. In fact let the union open their own refinery and practice the "Utopia" working condition.

Dangote is private company, Imagine a private University joining ASUU for strike after paying 2.1 million Naira for your ward school fees.

The government need to make creation of More refinery and jobs feasible... That is when labor will have bargaining power. Eg. If Dangote refinery is not treating you well you go to Laporte Refinery... Your skill and experience become an asset.

Not this rubbish they are doing.

jaxxy:
Her husband will also want her to get a DNA test. After the DNA test she can move on.

Husband that was jobless for 5 years out of 10 years marriage and was just employed before his sad and unfortunate demise.

Let's say she is not the daughter after DNA, what now happened?

Men do DNA to avoid training someone else's child... The young man have passed away, if he is not the father, let the real father take responsibility.


See, this issue is simple. The sister don't want to let go of her brother memory and she feels the daughter and wife can remain and carry on his legacy but that is just fallacy.... Women can leave a man just because he is not rich enough (he is not broke, just not rich enough) and move to another man while the man is still full of Life... Now imagine a woman leaving a literally dead man.... That is normal Monday.

Men, take care of yourself, don't die because, don't even be broke because the world we abandon you instantly.

Miss Second in command. Why not go and marry and mind your home instead of tying your destiny to your mother and father home.

Every tribe have standard period to mourn and after that they have right to move on..

Taking "... Her knowing How her dead husband loved her" as your concern for her moving on is a not healthy.. if indeed her husband loved her, he would want to her to move on.

This is an imported story from Facebook and probably fake.

Now, let's say its real.

The Mother In-law would sense many red flags, spoke with her son that "this your wife to be is not it at all" and just look for excuse to cut her off and she fell for it.

Also she gave some hints. Being the eldest in her father House: Most first son or daughter in homes where a parent is missing tend to grow up fast and take charge. They usually struggle to submit to authority... The are like mothers to their siblings and tend to marry late.

The guy actually dodged a bullet. The lady is broken. The niece-aunty is just an excuse and with all "Master Degree" she could not see it.

Neoteny:
Ever heard of Terms of Service? No one bothers to read the small print of the agreement, else you'll see all kinds of crazy provisions as conditions for taking the loan.

Once you opt in, shouldn't complain. Otherwise stay away.

Very soon they shutdown those online lending frauds like Fairmoney and co. And people will be jobless

What about their robo calls and marketing calls? Is their any fine and compensation for their SPAMMING victims?

lexy2014:
since you know Lagos and have been to Lagos, I am surprised that you could not answer my questions.

1. So in Lagos, when everybody goes to school, everywhere will still be noisy?

2. Who and who will be making everywhere noisy after everyone has gone to school?

3. Does you mean that no Nigerian is smart and alert except they grew up in Lagos?

4. That means Nigerian who has gone abroad will not be able to navigate their way because they did not grow up in Lagos.

5. What exactly are you always on guard for?

Let me donate a response.
1 &2. In Lagos, Business, vehicle and Economics activity generated 90% of the noise, not students. Like he said, students (both secondary and university) are not even measured in the Lagos noise mix.

3. Every Nigeria is smart but Lagos is something else. The economy activity is super fast and you need a different mindset to keep up.

4. Not a relevant argument.

5. Lagos have the good the Bad and the ugly. It's not a "community" environment, where you know everybody and everyone knows you in the community and if someone default on his arrangement, you will report to the elder. Lagos is all man for himself. So you have to be on guard and protect your interest and avoid doing business with anyone without a verifiable address.


Lastly, Lagos is not the best place to live, just that most lagosian are born and brought up in the system.

The EU or US has one option: whoever abandons Ukraine first can turn a looming loss into a win.

Ukraine is already lost. The US can cut them loose, strike a rare-earth deal with Russia, and watch Ukraine bleed out — or stand “honorably” with them to a bitter defeat.

Sanctions and ultimatums are useless against Russia. The US won’t fight Russia for the EU, let alone Ukraine.

The EU may want war but needs US backing. They can’t accept a Russian win because their struggling economy banked on victory — and a loss would be crushing.

Tailorcaesar:
So you think 🤔 everybody knows all this things you are saying. To the ordinary man out there na Dangote get am

I pray Nigeria never happens to either you or me

Thanks for the earlier insult for calling me mischievous instead of going straight to answering my question

I never insulted you, You saying "what if it was his sister...".
To link him emotionally is actually wrong and in case you don't know that psychological technique is frowned upon today.

The "Nigeria Never Happened to You" is another red flag that means nothing in reality. it's just another tool of manipulation.

3rd, Phyna is not an "Ordinary Man" on the street.

Reason why I am taking my time to respond to you is to help you.
Those manipulative talking arc you keep throwing and acting humble is not been frowned upon in today discuss.

Every one is entitled to his opinion, if you believe Phyna is right by tagging Aliko, good, you are entitled to have such opinion.

If he believes Phyna is just chasing clout, Which I believe also, he has the right to believe that.
Both of you can be both right and both wrong... Either way it doesn't matter to the scheme things.

Don't involve his sister, don't involve Nigeria happening to anybody... Air your opinion and add full stop

Tailorcaesar:
I believe you have issues with Phyna's personality (character)
Please be sincere how would you feel if your younger sister gets crushed by Dangotes trucks 🚛 let's be human,
I will count it as a privilege if you take out your time to answer me. Remember the victims legs were crushed one of the legs has been amputated and the next leg 🦵 may go soon

First you are really mischievous. His sister will have accident. It's not even related to the topic.

Dangote Cement is a Public traded company, She can sue them, infact she should sue them. Calling out Aliko Dangote online because she is a BBN celeb is folly in the highest order.

Dangote cement truck have insurance and the truck driver are actually semi-independent and have a degree responsible for their dealing.

You are likely, very likely from Anambra state.

Igbo women have these very terrible and evil behavior of mistreating to a point of demonic beatings like using Iron on a 10 years old

It's a cultural issue.

@immortalcrown you just spoke my mind 100%.

For the op @drehdinho you have to come down from your high horse and develop yourself socially.

Learn how to "attract" quality people, both male and female to you.

And, let me add, most intelligent people struggle socially but just like any skill, it can be learnt and it's very rewarding.

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A number of African leaders have congratulated Russian President Vladimir Putin on his reelection for a fifth term, expressing confidence that the outcome of last week’s vote will help to further strengthen ties between Moscow and the continent.

Putin won a landslide victory with 87.28% of the vote, equating to more than 75 million people, according to official results published by Russia’s Central Election Commission (CEC) on Monday. That placed him far ahead of Communist Party candidate Nikolay Kharitonov, Vladislav Davankov of the New People Party, and Leonid Slutsky of the Liberal Democrats, who secured 4.31%, 3.85%, and 3.20%, respectively.

Hopefully the Nigerian govt is among those that are wise enough to do the needful.

Which one is "Oppressors'" and "Oppressed". Oga if you don't want to work for someone, become self employed. Its a free world.
Those Communist terms has long been debunk as being invalid.

True, most Nigeria employers don't do well wish to me is an opportunity for employers doing well because they get to attract and retain the best staff.

Also most employees are dangerous, its human nature.

OP if your company is delaying your salary, take your time, send out applications, if you get a new opening, tell him you are relocating to the village, next Monday move to your new job.

Wetin bring oppression for the matter.